"I'll Post Here When I'm Over You": Thread to Be Over A Breakup

I've had at least one ex get married..... and divorced.

My first gf, from my second year in high school, I hadn't seen since my first year in college. When my 10 year high school reunion was approaching, I started thinking about her a lot, wondered if we should have stayed together, wondered if she missed me, hoped she still thought of me as much as I'd though of her in the interim, spent months before the event fretting about what I'd say to her and how she'd react to being together for the first time in 9 years. Instead, when I first saw her again, all I could think was "WTF did you do to your hair?" It was in this crazy bouffant-like style, don't even know how to describe it. She looked out of shape, not at all attractive. We talked for about two minutes, caught up on the mundanities of our lives, before moving on to talk with others. She seemed really off-putting. I worked myself into a tizzy for this? I am so over her now....

Wish I could say the same about someone else from a few years ago.

If only she had been not-fat and not-unattractive, you wouldn't have wasted those months of juvenile obsession. Instead they would have been put to good use feeding your totally justified neuroses.

To clarify: she wasn't fat, just looked liked she hadn't exercised for 5 years, and her disinterested conversation (and choices in style) were more off-putting than her innate appearance. I've known several women who managed to look more attractive over the years despite gaining weight.