Sex Droughts

HAY GUYYYYYYYS I'M I'M GETTING LAAAAAAAAYED

kind of inevitable itt

except for me. any clouds on the horizon have evaporated. i am now more than a year deprived.

:(

Date girl was PSYCHO.
My romantic life is in shambles.
Thinking celibacy til I complete my MLS.

^^I don't recommend that tack.
Aren't there any cute gals in your program?
How was she psycho?

She sent me many (many MANY) text messages of exorbitant length communicating ideas that would be better discussed in person, or even in a telephone call, but not in a five part text message.
There's more, of course, but it's stuff I don't even want to reveal on TMI.

There are cute girls in my program, but I am older than all of them (not by much, but it makes a big difference). I've had more romantic flare-ups and fizzle-outs in the last two years than in the previous 30. It's taking a toll on me. I'm the "relationship" guy, almost all of mine have lasted between one and three years. I was a latebloomer (lol), too.

I ended a long-distance relationship (1000+ mile difference) with a woman who I felt serious "soul-mate" vibes from in order to start dating locally because I'm tired of being lonely. Now that has kind of backfired and I'm just kicking myself.

Hang in there...all of these misstarts may be leading you to somewhere you're meant to be, although it doesn't feel like it at the time. Everyone in my MLS program was married...so don't gainsay available younger ladies.

Think I need to get out of the small pond I've been occupying for far too long.

where are you living, TM?

Middle o Missourah, home of the Tigers.

SEC! SEC! SEC!

secs droughts?

I think I'm going to try to not have any sex at all during the month of November.

Maybe restrict yourself to "meaningful" sex.

there is always next year.

Maybe restrict yourself to "meaningful" sex.

Or this. I mean this was already a goal of mine once I stopped hopping from city to city for 3 months.

I've accepted my insecurities and their subsequent defense mechanisms as part of my general character now. This isn't a drought, I just live in a desert.

I think I'm going to try to not have any sex at all during the month of November.

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fuck off

I had to turn down an opportunity last night :/

But it was my fricking ex bf, it was just too bloody weird. :/

Yeah, usually that is less of an opportunity and more of a poisoned chalice.

i am the chalice

Not exactly a sex drought, but what do you do with someone who rarely comes, yet wants to have sex all the time? Tips/suggestions?

"meaningful" sex.

Even w/ the quotes, lol

xpost - do they prefer that or would they prefer to get there but can't?

I'm not sure...whenever I ask he turns it around and asks what he can do for me...

I'd say 'I asked you a fucking question and you're not getting any more until you answer it.'

Yeah, gentle but firm insistence that this be at least briefly discussed is required here, I think. I've experienced the former and it was an impressive feat of stamina but kind of exhausting!

that is, experienced a partner who actively didn't want to.

Hmm...it's not really a problem for me, but I feel like there should be more (or at least some) equity. Also, it's a bit puzzling: men are usually more simple (in my experience).

men are usually more simple (in my experience).

generally useful guiding principle

i have no advice, i find any inequity w/that v frustrating also, like i think i start subconsciously keeping a scorecard & feel bad

Is the guy on anti-depressants?

I don't know about the guy, but I am.

It's the sort of thing I thought making an issue of might lead to more pressure, but I dunno.

Maybe orgasms just aren't that important for him re: sex?

Yeah if he's happy and initiating it a lot, I don't see what the big deal is?

I mean you might want to have a conversation to make sure the "he's happy" part is accurate but otherwise why worry imo.

yeah maybe just find out if it's a prescription-related or physical problem OR if he can only come certain ways (e.g. a guy who is used to coming with a handjob because he hasn't had sex in a really really long time will have trouble coming during sex.

He's initiating all the time, but maybe that's because he's never satisfied... :)

Thanks all for the advice.

Could be relationship nervousness, too. For some people, anxiety kind of keeps things from happening and things work differently once they're more comfortable with the other person in sexual situations.

It may be something he's always had, and this is how he's gotten around it. And maybe you're the first to notice. I would say don't make an accusatory question out of it, just frame it more like "what can I do in return" thing. There's always a chance that he has more specific needs, maybe a fetish that he takes care of himself. He could be embarrassed about that.

(Totally running with the scenario, may not be that at all)

Maybe he's a big Dr. Strangelove fan

Does he drink only rainwater and pure grain alcohol?

did he ever play bass for the Police?

in a big drought at the moment, i suppose i could end it if i tried hard but meaningless sex doesn't appeal to me much....or at least i don't feel i need it.

wrong thread imo, think you're looking for braggin/first world problems or some hybrid

no definitely feel at home in "Sex Droughts"

np not gonna threadpolice it

I have had a good time without the big O.

(on occasion, I mean)

I have had many good times without it as well, but I am a lady. That seems more common.

It's not a relationship I'm dealing with here, more of an occasional hook-up. Which is part of the reason I'm not exactly bending over backwards (ahem) to find out what he needs.