oh god, that is awful. :(
― tehresa, Saturday, 13 August 2011 16:56 (twelve years ago) link
Oh, fuck that, seriously.
― ljubljana, Saturday, 13 August 2011 17:26 (twelve years ago) link
Oh dude :(
― Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 13 August 2011 18:12 (twelve years ago) link
That really sucks, dude.
Turns out I need a tiny bit of this thread, if there is some to spare. thx
― Upt0eleven, Saturday, 13 August 2011 19:02 (twelve years ago) link
oh no :(
― tehresa, Saturday, 13 August 2011 19:04 (twelve years ago) link
my situation is as nothing compared to chris's. just feeling it a bit at the moment.
― Upt0eleven, Saturday, 13 August 2011 20:29 (twelve years ago) link
sorry guys.
― 10/11 of a dead jesus (darraghmac), Saturday, 13 August 2011 20:31 (twelve years ago) link
Plenty of room here, grab a cushion or whatever.
I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit.
― Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Saturday, 13 August 2011 23:27 (twelve years ago) link
How much info do they give you?
― ljubljana, Sunday, 14 August 2011 01:52 (twelve years ago) link
It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good.
I'm sorry about everything, man, but since this is where you are now: this is exactly what my divorced female friend says about being with her kids, too. They split custody 50/50 and the 3.5 days when she doesn't have her sons, she has a whole other independent life, and when she DOES have them, she has ONLY them, and not a spouse she also has to take care of.
― it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Monday, 15 August 2011 02:33 (twelve years ago) link
I hope the situation continues to be rewarding for you. Your little guy will surely appreciate your improved friendship w your wife! And probably so will you.
― it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Monday, 15 August 2011 02:39 (twelve years ago) link
Ljubljana, it depends. They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.
I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.
― Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Monday, 15 August 2011 07:40 (twelve years ago) link
Ah, got it - of course, I was being obtuse, sorry. I hope there are at least some good people there who keep the whole experience positive, and good friends around to mull over the whole experience with. I'd be interested to read that other thread.
― ljubljana, Monday, 15 August 2011 11:35 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah i had a great weekend with my son. Honestly, the hardest part is not seeing him daily. Her, i could really care two shits less about at this point. Yes I was with her 16 years and there are some great times in there, but man the last two have been hell. Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction. what a manipulative bitch. just need to keep my head up and be friendly because i dont want this to get ugly for my son.
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Monday, 15 August 2011 13:04 (twelve years ago) link
I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit. ..... They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.
This must be excruciating....
― Lee626, Monday, 15 August 2011 14:21 (twelve years ago) link
Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction.
holy fuck
what a manipulative bitch.
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Monday, 15 August 2011 15:17 (twelve years ago) link
I am so relieved to be out of that toxic woman's reach. I can finally be myself.
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Monday, 15 August 2011 15:57 (twelve years ago) link
Do you ever get in the car, turn up your music and just drive around going "WOOOOO!" and launching down the entrance ramp to the freeway? I think I spent a while doing that after getting out of a shitastic relationship. Recommend it.
― mh, Monday, 15 August 2011 16:23 (twelve years ago) link
YES
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Monday, 15 August 2011 16:28 (twelve years ago) link
xxposts: Chris, dude...that whole text thing. WTF. I hope you're not getting tired of me saying "I'm sorry" :/
― Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 15 August 2011 16:31 (twelve years ago) link
nah im cool with the sorrys. She is nuts. I just finally started to listen to some music again today, i made a "I gave her my heart, she gave me a pen" spotify playlist and its helping. Im also glad that her and I are back at our respective jobs. stops her from pestering me.
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Monday, 15 August 2011 16:40 (twelve years ago) link
I'm sorry Chris. I'm glad you've got that practical / distance thing going on. It does sound like it had gotten toxic. Here's to a happy future for you and your kid.
― Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Monday, 15 August 2011 22:11 (twelve years ago) link
I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.― Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Sunday, August 14, 2011 9:40 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark
― Also unknown as Zora (Surfing At Work), Sunday, August 14, 2011 9:40 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark
would bookmark
― (gr8080), Monday, 15 August 2011 23:39 (twelve years ago) link
vaguely considered (not really) a poll of potential ilx0r donors
but is the world ready for a pi-reciting small child?
― mookieproof, Monday, 15 August 2011 23:49 (twelve years ago) link
pi-reviewing more likely tbh
― 10/11 of a dead jesus (darraghmac), Monday, 15 August 2011 23:53 (twelve years ago) link
And pie-bringing.
― it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Monday, 15 August 2011 23:53 (twelve years ago) link
^^^i am the world is def. ready for this
― mookieproof, Monday, 15 August 2011 23:57 (twelve years ago) link
This still sounds like backpedalling to me, tbh (as in, yr initial reading was the correct one). Either way, yuck.
― Rameses Street (Trayce), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 00:00 (twelve years ago) link
Yeah neither option really restores yr faith in humanity. Bummertown usa.
― Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 02:39 (twelve years ago) link
Single friend from work just told me she is getting her eggs harvested this week. In the US the process seems to be faster than in the UK. Her chances are slim due to some physical problems, but she's giving it a go.
― ljubljana, Tuesday, 16 August 2011 02:43 (twelve years ago) link
well i got word from a friend of hers that she did send that text to me to gauge a reaction from me in order to have something to use against me in court in case it got ugly. since i have some crap on her....she is crazy
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:21 (twelve years ago) link
what drama! is this a lifetime movie? who does stuff like that?!
― it was pleasant and delightful, just like (La Lechera), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:23 (twelve years ago) link
someone who is fucking nuts.
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:32 (twelve years ago) link
Im also concerned she is mentally ill again.
^^^
I'm sorry you are met with such insane and hurtful actions, bingo. All the best.
xp
― I for one am (Le Bateau Ivre), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:33 (twelve years ago) link
Oh, sorry for using the word "insane" in that context :-/ It was an x-post.
its ok! three years ago her doctor told her she is possibly bi-polar....i think she is in a manic phase right now.
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Tuesday, 16 August 2011 13:34 (twelve years ago) link
Oh jeez. I mean, the context at least helps it make a *little* more sense but using it against you in court, and she's maybe bipolar? Unf. Holy shit dude. More hugs. And sorrys. And <3
― Janet Snakehole (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 06:42 (twelve years ago) link
Ach, Chris :( I really hope you guys dont end up in a mess *hugs*
― Rameses Street (Trayce), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 06:47 (twelve years ago) link
hi guys i just broke up with someone :-\
― (gr8080), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 08:40 (twelve years ago) link
bingo, my wife's certifiably bipolar* and those manic phases are real doozies and she loves me to death. The thought of having to go through that with someone who actively wished you ill...well, it's frightening the amount of harm I imagine she'd be capable of. I'm sorry. Hang in there.
You hang in there too, gr8080.
― kkvgz, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 08:50 (twelve years ago) link
It's ok, gr80. There are many fish in the sea, perhaps some on ilx!
* adds gr8080 and "tuomas tuomas" to possible love connections list
― mh, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 13:39 (twelve years ago) link
<3 <3 <3 gr880
― through being dave cool (markers), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 16:27 (twelve years ago) link
gr8080, rather
― through being dave cool (markers), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 16:28 (twelve years ago) link
broke up with someone i wasn't in a relationship with. that is always fun.
― jeff, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 16:57 (twelve years ago) link
feeling u, sir. <3
― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 17:56 (twelve years ago) link
so i had to have her section 12 yesterday afternoon, she left work and was waiting in front of a church (it was her b-day) for Jake Ryan. I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS. Called the police and they went and transported her to the hospital. Needless to say, i dont need this right now and her parents are dealing with her. I have my son and we are doing great. I searched high and low last night to find a reason to get back with her and i found none. But i will give her all the time she needs to get well and then move on with our mess. But for now, im staying out of it.
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 19:56 (twelve years ago) link
kkvgz, she has done enough harm to me over the past three years like i said, i am through.
― Cindy Mancini can ride my lawnmower anytime (thebingo), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 19:58 (twelve years ago) link
she left work and was waiting in front of a church (it was her b-day) for Jake Ryan. I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS
O_O
Was she wearing a bridesmaid's dress? Wait - she really thought he was coming?
― ladies love draculas like children love stray dogs (ENBB), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 20:05 (twelve years ago) link
good god.
Yeah, uh, stay away if you can and give her some time to get mentally on-track and then cordially deal with it the best you can.
― mh, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 20:07 (twelve years ago) link