Sex Droughts

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at what point when someone has repeatedly said they like you but "aren't sure what they want right now" do we say "do you mean 'ever', or just now"?

normally i'd just give up but like....I can't with this one.

the first time anyone says it should really suffice, ime.

OTM

Newsflash: Girls like it when guys want them even (or especially) when they have no intention of hooking up with them.

Dudes have been known to exhibit that behavior as well.

well forget this, i don't know why i bothered. fucking tired of being taken for a ride but it appears that has happened again......I seriously just don't know anymore.

That sucks, and I hope you can find happiness soon. You deserve it.

thx Christine.

I'm not gonna front and act like I am completely faultless. My anxiety tends to go out of whack whenever I am trying to enter a relationship and despite my best efforts, frequent solicitations of advice, and every kind of meditation possible, the only solution that ever works for me is having one solitary beer, which isn't very practical in most situations.

it's just that, when I first asked her out and realized she wasn't interested, I backed off, cuz I know how annoying it is when someone can't hear 'no'. When she began flirting w/ me, I recognized it, but didn't assume anything. When I flirted back, she didn't duck it, didn't sidestep it, she accepted it and returned it, and even admitted she liked me. But when it came time for us to say what's what, all of a sudden she 'doesn't know what she wants', but won't even like be up for a simple innocent date.

I just kinda feel like she was flirting way too heavy to just pull out the "ehh I dunno" card, I mean if I had been the one that initiated it, that might be a different story. I grew to really really like her and now she's kind of cold and sidestepping invites or finding excuses not to accept them.

So I'm just gonna disappear for a while, and take my own advice and not base my own happiness on this one success/failure......or try, at least.

'disappear' from her that is

disappearing on this chick is probably your best chance of getting her tbh. it'll be short term though.

yeah, definitely. and it will prob be shit, ime.

yea at this stage i'd rather have nothing than something pointless. if i want a meaningless fling, i can look elsewhere.

i'm having a guys night tonight and at the very least that'll get my mind on other stuff, and alcohol....

she probably has a hog.

lol. well anyway, after a few days of self-deprecating, I decided to just speak up...ask this person to define what's what, and if anything is ever possible, whether the flirting was making her uncomfortable (as it seemed it was), and she did acknowledge the latter. so I agreed to pull back, and we're just gonna be friends...I'll look elsewhere.

I'm ok with it, but I think lack of clear communication had us both on different pages. feeling better now.

well that was shortlived. so during our talk she cheered me up about things and we agreed to be friends, and she asked me to sit with her for one of the shows we and a group of friends went to tonight at the play festival. they were all going to a show after that but I told them I couldn't because I had work...so after the show ended I went to give her a hug and thank her for everything, except...her and another friend of mine tore off after the show, completely blew me off and left me behind, rushing to the next show which they had THIRTY MINUTES to catch and it only involved them walking across the grass to get to. I was stuck behind slow moving people so because of that I got ditched.

another person I can cross out of my life.

Ugh. Closing in a year again. Feeling very unsatisfied. I wish I could learn to be more proactive about pursuing a love/sex life.

recently ended a sex drought w/ bad sex :/

drought continuation preferable

totally

Yeah, I did that once. It sucked. In fact it was so bad it put me off the whole idea for a quite a while.

i've not had sex for a while, but not long enough to call it a drought by my standards. been a long time since i had really good sex though. also been really humid and i've been drinking a lot lately, these conditions put me at fuckwant 9 on the jagger-poppage scale.

xmas opportunity fell through, not been anywhere close to a chance since then, so my streak from Feb 2010 continues.

flopsac

two wisks

*comforts everyone*

It's been several weeks here, too.

"weeks"

*snort*

yeah, you've just ran out of gatorade and the gas station is still in sight. some of us have been digging under a shrub in the Sahara for a long time.

Weeks shmeeks. Glad you got some Christine, but lol. I'm counting in years over here.

Getting to that point where every woman I see looks very good.

been there for years. doesn't really help tho.

I'm a creepy creeper lately when it comes to viewing men as sex objects. Anyway, I am insanely excited because I will in all most likelihood have sex tomorrow and it couldn't come soon enough.

*cheers*

Really good sex with an ex last Sunday night from which I was as detached as Annie Hall. It's over.

Annie Hall's not that detached--she just needs a little weed to get her in the mood.

don't know how a double whammy of sex + life epiphany qualifies you for this thread tbh

j/k obv

Been since January prob but it doesn't feel like a drought because my last rel'shp put me right off the thought. I like the flirting and the making out, but the anxiety I now associate with the real thing is making me never want to take my clothes off again. I mean I'm sure I'll get over it...right?

and it couldn't come soon enough

*snicker*

I mean I'm sure I'll get over it...right?

With the right person, of course you will

Thank you, that was the correct answer.

It's true, too, ime

yeh it's been a few months but it was not the best experience the last time

hot friendly women interested in casual hookups are around the corner as soon as I get rid of this obnoxious sinus cold, I know it

in the meantime, I'm so damn tired and coughing all the time

what l. said. flirting, making out is great, easy. but...i've always had trouble sleeping w/people that i haven't known for very long...even if i'm drunk or whatever it's still sort of scary for me. which i guess is why i end up doing things like sleeping with ex-'s.

Oh god, flirting doesn't even come easy to me. :(

Flirting always caused bad things to happen to me, so I guess I was doing it wrong. I don't do it anymore anyways.

I must officially be old now, because I experienced everything but the actual act on Friday night even though I could've. All the foreplay made me too tired.

My husband can't deal with extended foreplay--he can't get it up after too much stimulation. We deal with this by getting him off quickly and then going on with the other stuff. (He's OK with extended foreplay after the first orgasm.)

Well, to clarify the circumstances, this was about 4am and I was sleepy anyway.

Note to self: start the sexytimes before midnight.

two wisks

one of these days i'm *actually* going to visit dc

and then i'm gonna punch u