Sex Droughts

12 months TO THE DAY

I had a series of relationships that started on October 10th or thereabouts for a few years. Kind of a weird routine.

It's fall and love is in the air.

god these revelations about my ex girlfriend having slept with ALL OF MY BEST FRIENDS (not that i have many, and all in completely legitimate ways, so i can't even let anger be my release) is a good way to amplify my loneliness and desire for intimacy.

cf the compilation "drunken posts you'll later regret".

It's taken me about 10 years, but I think I've gotten to a point where I'm pretty much bored with porn. Consequently, I really want to fuck.

My husband went to the doctor to try to get his blood pressure prescription changed so that we can start fucking again, but he was told that all of them have that effect. Bummer.

jeez merdeyeux i can't think of too many ways in which my friends would 'legitimately' get to sleep with one of my exes tbph

oh ya forgot i posted that. odd bit of emo-drunk hyperbole, ALL OF MY BEST FRIENDS is actually two of em (although my category of 'best friends' has only three or four people), and the legit circumstances are that there were ~feelings~ involved (and they were a year apart), albeit ones that didn't really work out in the end for various reasons. tbh lots of things (and i'll quote myself cuz actually typing it out when sober is a bit on the embarrassing side) "amplify my loneliness and desire for intimacy" and in the cold rational light of day i recognise that i just gotta get laid and remember that sex isn't actually that big a deal and then see how the ball continues to roll.

(i wonder if i've ever posted in this thread sober before.)

nice goal from nzogbia

haha wtf sorry

when Torres scores you can post here

'score before Nando' sounds like a productive target for the Sex Droughts Crew to take on.

scored before nando /braggin

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/b/b6/Nando%27s_logo2.jpg/250px-Nando%27s_logo2.jpg
'choked the chicken' joke in 5... 4... 3...

cannot guarantee no bones

Try our special sauce...

Finger-lickin' good!

For those who want extra stuffing...

you bastard Fernando.

forgot to bump this a while back, so

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7I555U5wGns

omg u haven't had sex since 1977

tho tbf a prius might help you break that loong wait

ridin' high

Um. So. A month in with an awesome guy and we still havent uh, you know. I mean, we've done lots of entertaining things but not the obvious. Because... um..

this is awkward. Cos he cant get it up. Guys what do I do here? I know this is Horrible thing #1 for a guy and this hasnt happened to me before ugh. I'm not taking it personally, I know he must be mortified. ARGH.

*cough*gay*cough*

Yeah that has crossed my mind :/ I dont think its the case. But ugh.

is his prob in any way booze or other substance related?

Hahah shit no he's straightedge :) If anything it seems to be a condom thing?

Ugh i feel so weird talking about this

ha yo sometimes that can be a thing ime but then as we know i drink too much. isn't viagra cheap and readily available or wd it interfere with that whole xedgex thing?

Wait so he can get hard but then loses it when he puts on the condom or can't get hard at all period.

The former E. :(

have u tried putting it on for him?

Guys is this thread deindexed :/

That's possible--my husband's had the same problems fucking with a condom during his life. Could it be some medications he's taking? Blood pressure, antidepressants?

lol no ive never done that for anyone hahah Im a klutz xpost

OK the former's a lot better of the two imo. I'd be worried if it was the later but I think that the condom issue is def a thing for some guys. Unfortunately I don't really have much advice. Errr Noodle could be onto something though I guess. Make it part of the whole thing and all sexylike?

You've never put a condom on anyone?! Wow. Now might be a good time to start esp if it helps him? Sorry Trayce that must be tough.

sexylike sexing, yes that is a plan

Hard to explain w/out getting tmi, we have a ton of fun, he's enjoying it, but then when we try to something something it all falls apart, I accepted "its cos yr new" for 2 weeks but its been a month now and I dunno how to roll with this anymore. I feel like I'm the lame fish.

argh I am so fucking embarrased talking about this haha erk

Given some of the things Trayce has told us about him, I'm wondering if this is a madonna/whore complex coming out.

Uh. What?

Sorry that was rude. No no. Things are fine mostly! Its just this one oh god why did I bring this up.

Try putting it on with your mouth. That's fun.

bringing it up would've been a good idea [/spinaltap]

soz.

Like he says, he may just be nervous with new partners, so time may be on your side here. Oh, and another thing: Has he had an orgasm yet with you?

don't be embarrassed Trayce! I would think that if the sensation of the condom is causing loss of boom-chkka-wow feelings they would have to be compensated for by something else like verbal maybe? or w/e but I am just guessing, I didn't get busy w/o a condom until I'd been DOIN IT for a couple of years so it always sort of seemed like the "this is how you have sex" way to me

The standard Dan Savage line is, "if erections are the problem, stick with stuff that doesn't require them." When his dick gets jealous of all the play that his tongue and hands are getting, his dick will get over its pout, get up off the bench and say "put me in, coach." In the meantime, take the focus off the dick, pretend it's not there.

^ good advice. it could also maybe be the condom. are they a brand he has used before? it could be too tight/constricting for him or something.