30-Day Abstinence

xp It goes back much, much farther than the 19th century, actually. And I have a strong dislike for science used long past its sell-by date, particularly psychiatric science. (Pop Freudism, esp.) But this is my problem to deal with, so ignore me if you wish.

Victorian mores? What about Chinese chi energy concepts? Surely this goes back to that more than anything.

dont know about the linkage btwn victorian mores/feminism, but I can maybe see where successfully imposing some self-discipline over compulsive urges might have positive side-effects for someone feeling in a rut or w/e without it necessarily emanating from 'sex/women are stealing my natural POWER'

Not rly convinced by 'rechannelling of energies' but yknow go for it

Whatever your take on the mechanics of it (I, as a good Freudian, feel like that energy has gotta go somewhere; whether you have any control of where it goes and how it manifests itself, though, is another issue), I think you do notice some kind of qualitative change that, if nothing else, is interesting to play out in order to get some sort of articulation of how you relate to your sexual desire in certain circumstances. And it seems like that's the reason you're doing this, rather than to summon the energy to write the great American novel, or whatever.

Your spell will be broken when I make my marathon erotic spectacular* titled 30-Day Asstinence.

*porn

if I have to go more than three hours without very emotionally intense sex I become irritable & grouchy

damn you gotta have sex every two hours and fifty five minutes owned

owned meaning you got owned not owned as in me directing my post at your username

wait no does that post I owned you with even make sense

for some reason that is making me lol really hard

xpost more lol

underrated aerosmith bootlegs I have o-faced

honestly thinking about it you got owned anyway but yeah my post doesnt make sense

http://www.energyfiend.com/wp-content/steven-tyler-210x300.jpg

uh-owned I'm having a fantasy

owned face

i think the other reason i wouldn't try this is i worry it would end up in

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lepp9a5ZYz1qexswno1_400.gif

wtf is that

cough

if I go more than two days without jerking off or being pleasured i instantly get a boner whenever i see anything spherical in shape

^^^ this.

No orgasms for more than 48 hours starts to feel (physically) like nicotine withdrawal to me - which isn't energy, exactly, but a kind of muscle tension.

I count JO as abstinence, btw

i've been doing two to three day stints without jerking it recently, and the result has been that having sex is infinitely more pleasurable and i am much more active in my choices of partners, positions, etc.

Its been well over 30 days for me already, since I ditched my last partner late last year and don't find it's worth the bother to go it alone.

I'm never in the mood anymore it seems. In large part because of a prescription med I need to take that's a complete libido killer. I actually *iiked* that side effect at first because it made it easy to resist the late-night booty texts I was until then too tempted to take her up on, from someone whom I was finding increasingly disrespectful and annoying.

my meds are supposed to squash my libido, but they don't. although it takes me forever to bust a nut.

Woops, gotta start over u_u

hahaha "accident"

It just kinda happened :(

but hey, the upside is I don't think I've ever gone four days without jacking it

Since admitting to being a good Freudian, I heard an anecdote where Freud, in a lecture, admitted that sublimation doesn't really work. Heh.

Also, the other thing that's been sort of gotten at is that, after holding it in for like 8 or so days, jerking off is a completely different experience. Way more intense.

there is no question in my mind that shagging is wayyyy better when there is no intersample fapping

x2. Not only will it be way better, but i'll be way more in the mood in the first place

i do this all the time!

my meds are supposed to squash my libido, but they don't. although it takes me forever to bust a nut.

Yeah that happened to me when I tried Paxil years ago. Switched that shit up asap iirc.

Literally like 45 minutes. My back can't take that, my wife usually leaves and manually whack it until I'm done

Her first orgasm, about a week after changing meds, was a thing of beauty.

i did this in high school once

was dying after two weeks tbh

I did this in high school, too, over and over again. In fact, you could say that my high school years was one long involuntary abstinence ordeal.

An ex was on an anti-depressant that didn't diminish her libido at all, but she could not reach orgasm. Oral, penetration, vibrators without me present, nada.
I think that side effect made her depression worse.

― boots get knocked from here to czechoslovakier (milo z), Thursday, March 10, 2011 7:12 PM (5 days ago)

has opposite effect on me

You have orgasms all the time but don't want to?

Or gets depressed by every orgasm she has?

only orgasms while depressed

anytime ive sworn off jerking off i've gotten so much play

funny, yeah, i've found that true, too.

admittedly, though, given my line of work a lot of times, i tend not to go too many days without having an orgasm. (i actually signed a contract stating that i don't get paid if i don't come).

anytime ive sworn off jerking off i've gotten so much play

― plax (ico), Tuesday, March 15, 2011 8:15 PM (2 days ago) Bookmark

ha, ditto

never really understood that comic trope of "jerk off before you go out on a date" a la something about mary---feel like doing that would actually diminish the chances of gettin laid just because you'd be all "welp i came two hours ago so w/e"

I thought that was so you wouldn't come too quickly if you did get laid.

for me "not too quickly" usu becomes "not at all" if there was intermediate manual handling

My husband does best if we get him off quickly in the beginning before the slow, loving foreplay starts. He's the type that can't come after long periods of stimulation.

Even if you're a woman?

I dunno maybe swallowing cum gives you cancer who knows.

Oh wait.

I don't think that it works that way SS.

why risk it imo

Would like to see how the Daily Mail handles this: "Abstinence Causes Cancer! So have lots of sex. Er, no wait... That doesn't fit in with out right wing agenda... FREE pr0n DVD for every reader!!!"

I meant prostate cancer and yeah that is kind of how it works

isn't that only if you're older?

Prostate problems mostly show up in older men, but he's right: The common American sex pattern of not touching your dick or letting anyone else touch your dick until you find True Love, having hot monkey sex lots and lots of times for several years, breaking up, and then letting your dick rot for a few more years until you find True Love again is not good for the prostate at all. Your body is set up for regular ejaculations, and yes, masturbation counts. (No, I don't have a recommended ejaculation frequency.)

The common American sex pattern of not touching your dick or letting anyone else touch your dick until you find True Love, having hot monkey sex lots and lots of times for several years, breaking up, and then letting your dick rot for a few more years until you find True Love

I don't know if this is accurate...

I should have said "traditional", not "common." That's really what I meant.

ah, that makes sense

I'm really glad that the stigma against masturbation is much, much less than it once was.

well, once the priests started offering it instead of penance instead of three hail mary's.......

...offering to give all the little boys personal private lessons in how to do it?