Right; first one to get to first base or beyond. This shit is so awkward after being together for 10+ years. I always want to say like you that I'm the only initiator but if I'm being honest I know that's bullshit for us. Basically I think if I want her to initiate things in the moment I need to "plant the seed" verbally earlier that day or the day before, like, "btw DMSR tonight; sound good?" & it's invariably yes, and then it's way less awkward to get things in motion & she takes the lead as often as I do. Getting her to bring it up verbally is really hard, but I can live with the balance this way; it's the awkwardness of turning petting into fucking that I find a strain.
― Euler, Friday, 19 November 2010 18:25 (thirteen years ago) link