Sex Droughts

One of my favorite girlfriends kind of started out that way. I spent the night on our first date, which was a completely new and foreign idea to me. She said before we went to bed "I don't fuck on the first date," to which I was like WHAT!? (because I didn't even know I was being invited to sleep over at that point). Weirder still, she broke her own rule and we fucked for an hour in the middle of the night after having slept for a little bit.

that sounds awesome

I mentioned her in another thread somewhere on this board. A few weeks later, I found out she did a little professional dominatrix work on the side. HUGE SURPRISE! Ahhh...summer of 2006, how I miss thee.

omg

i don't whip on the first date

you'll do what you're told on the first date maggot

My birth--first fuck drought was 22 years. The first 9 years were a cinch, though. :-) No playing doctor with the other kids (relatives or not), I was an amazingly prudish little girl. First sexual contact with somebody other than myself (which started at 7) was at 14 with an acquaintance. My one and only sexual contact with a relative was with one who was the best friend I've ever had, and it ruined our relationship. (We were in our late teens when it happened.) The most time I've gone without sex as a non-virgin was a year, which was the amount of time between my deflowering and when I started going out with the man I later married. (Yes, we did fuck on the first date.) We have gone a month or two without sex on occasion, mostly due to depression.

xp No, it wasn't like that at all you guys. That's why I surprised to find out she was a dom for money. Especially when she invited me along on an appointment (her client was cool with it). She became a totally different person!

dominactrix

also stop spoiling my fever dreams, it was totally like that

The modern term is domme, actually.

lol

She called herself a dominatrix, so who was I to argue semantics?

domme pass- no i'm not going there

Anyway, I hadn't had sex for two years before I met her and I didn't have sex again for a year and a half after we broke up. Par for the course, really.

Oh shit, I forgot someone. It had only been a year of no sex before I met her. I feel like an ass for completely forgetting someone, because there have only been six women in total (not counting my aunt, which I don't because A she's my aunt and B we never had sex sex).

i have also never had sex sex with any of my aunts hi 5!

Hooray!

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I really haven't ever told a lot of people about that, btw. ILTMI is really only one of very few "people" who know about it. My family doesn't know, that's for sure.

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tell us more pls

cut or uncut?

Venomous?

thank you very much!

i didn't even know that ~sleeping over~ without sex was a thing people did until recently

it's still something so foreign to me that i'm pretty sure i missed an offer to do so the other night

:/

i must have 'slept over' without sex for jeez i dunno 6 weeks for the lovely ms dmac. no big deal, movies and couches still existed.

You may as well find out from the get go whether or not you can share a bed with somebody. But yeah, it was a surprising early development for sure.

for the first three weeks i even got kicked off the couch, actually

Although, my very first serious girlfriend got locked out of her house after our first date and I snuck her into my dorm to stay the night...where she proceeded to take MY bed and throw up on the floor (where I ended up sleeping all night). I should've taken that as an omen of the next five years to come.

haha

in retrospect i'm thinking that first-date omens can prove extremely telling

btw I can't help but sing 'sex beat' in my head but with SEX DROUGHT instead

SEX DROUGHT SEX DROUGHT

YOU'RE MY SEX DROUGHT

YOU NEVER GIVE IT TO ME SO I HAVE TO DO WITHOUT

Aw yeah, I am winning this thread

lol

Eternal "what counts as sex?" question.

Not anything I'm doing, that's for goddamn sure

I think it means p-in-v. Which is a very hetronormative way to see it, but whatever.

eh - i'd say for the purposes of this thread it would be something with a partner capable of producing orgasm

That's a good way of putting it, imo

OK, then I was having sex since I was 7, because I was certainly a partner capable of giving myself an orgasm. (Actually, my first one wasn't until I was about 10 or so*. I remember hating them at first because all of the wonderful tension I was creating would go away afterwards. But I digress.)

*Is it even possible to have one before puberty? I have no idea.

uh - partner = a person other than yourself?

Sorry, I was trying to make a funny and it mutated.

ha, that sentence could be a metaphor for puberty/first orgasm

I'm at a year now. I have this big problem that I don't really do "hookups" and I don't really do "relationships" either, so I don't really get "laid". It's really sad that I'm 24 and I know for a fact that I am A+ attractive, yet I can count the number of times I've had sex on one hand. That said, sex and relationships are a very low priority for me.

Like, I spend very little time pursuing either.

I've kind of come to thinking that my real problem is that when I get horny, my thoughts go to "I want to masturbate" rather than "I want to have sex".