Boobs, I mean, Bras, and the eternal frustration

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yeah wtf i need to go bra shopping but i have in fact tried to do this several times in the past couple of months and every time i do, all i find is stupid ugly padded bras and nothing that i would wear as a person who is medium endowed and does not want stupid padding and the weird fake-boob look.

at the same time, it wld appear that the other option is v minor support, which can work if you are an a-cup, obv, and look pretty and everything, but on me, these bras look kind of hilarious.

i am sad b/c the two bras i like the most right now are dying and even worse their underwire tends to squeak, which is both lol and laaame and not-hot. i don't want to buy bras online, i just want to go somewhere and buy a non-stupid bra i mean geez.

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:42 (ten years ago) Permalink

friends and i were talking abt this on sunday at the lake and how we all preferred the look of the "70s boob" but how very few bras these days shared our aesthetic interest

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:43 (ten years ago) Permalink

70s boob?

horseshoe, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:43 (ten years ago) Permalink

pre-wonderbra, with a tiniest bit of droop?

Jaq, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:45 (ten years ago) Permalink

yknow not pointing straight out but curving naturally, sometimes up, but obv that has to do maybe more with one's anatomy than with bras. but it's possible for certain bras to help facilitate this
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yeah i think sorta like that

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:45 (ten years ago) Permalink

i need to go bra shopping too. i am all paranoid that i'm wearing the wrong size and want to get measured by a professional!

bell_labs, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:45 (ten years ago) Permalink

Sad state of bra merchandisers aside, I have to say that as a Canadian, I loved my one single visit to Victoria's Secret and my uber-padded water bra!

Finefinemusic, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:46 (ten years ago) Permalink

I would like 50s' cone bras to kick back into style and give us girly torpedo boobs!

Finefinemusic, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:46 (ten years ago) Permalink

i totally know what rrrobyn is talking about; think 1970s playboy and oui magazine

elmo argonaut, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:48 (ten years ago) Permalink

Wacoal is my favorite bra brand...they definitely make unpadded bras--in every size, i think.

horseshoe, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:48 (ten years ago) Permalink

my favorite bras are from bhs in the uk. they're pretty basic-looking, but they wear like iron and give a modified (ie, not ridiculous and pointy) torpedo silhouette with a ton of support.

lauren, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:48 (ten years ago) Permalink

my friend catherine has those 70s breasts, colloquially referred to as "swoop titties" because of the upward-turned nipple. maybe "pouting" is a good descriptor?

elmo argonaut, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:50 (ten years ago) Permalink

wasn't the 70's look totally braless?

bell_labs, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:51 (ten years ago) Permalink

my favorite bras are from bhs in the uk. they're pretty basic-looking, but they wear like iron and give a modified (ie, not ridiculous and pointy) torpedo silhouette with a ton of support.

Really? Hmmmm. What's the name of the bra? Might have to check it out next time am in Engerland.

ENBB, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:52 (ten years ago) Permalink

q.v. shadow weaver, from she-ra:

http://www.premiereprops.com/images/images_big/product_cel5004.jpg

elmo argonaut, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:52 (ten years ago) Permalink

lol

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:53 (ten years ago) Permalink

oooh yes i need like 10 new bras right now. one i am currently wearing is not *quite* supportive enough and i am afraid it lets the girls hang a bit too much (thinking of the future here).

hmm how do i justfiy a trip to england for bra shopping?

tehresa, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:54 (ten years ago) Permalink

i'm not sure, e. i got them so long ago that i can't remember what the box said. m&s bras are really good, too. one of the only things i miss about the uk.

lauren, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:54 (ten years ago) Permalink

i can't even imagine wearing a water bra

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:55 (ten years ago) Permalink

this is the basic Wacoal bra:

http://www.wacoal-america.com/catalogimages/85121.jpg

not the prettiest bra, but not ugly. it definitely doesn't create an unnatural shape. and it's supportive.

horseshoe, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:56 (ten years ago) Permalink

10 bras!
i only own like 3 bras. i think the last one i bought over was over 2 years ago. i am a dirtbag heeh

bell_labs, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:56 (ten years ago) Permalink

"water" "bra"? huh?

elmo argonaut, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:57 (ten years ago) Permalink

I have some m&s underwear but no bras. I need new bras too but don't even know where to start looking. I hate victoria's secret bras. They've never fit me right.

Tza don't worry - I have 4 bras and they're all the same make in either black or nude and def at least two years old. I have a couple lace ones that I haven't worn in years so they don't count.

ENBB, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 20:57 (ten years ago) Permalink

10 may have been an exaggeration, bell. actually i have very, very few right now... i feel like i need to make up for a deficit.

tehresa, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:01 (ten years ago) Permalink

Also can I just say how much I hate bras? The first thing I do when I get home is take mine off. If it weren't for erm possible nipple prominence and shape enhancement I'd never wear them. OK, I'm gonna go home now and take off my bra.

ENBB, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:02 (ten years ago) Permalink

yeah i've heard good things about walcoal but yknow fuckit i'm just gonna have to come down to the states and do some shopping re: bras & shoes b/c canada is just not cutting it right now it wld seem. then again, i haven't been trying too hard. but like, why should bra shopping be some elite shopping activity where you have to know the secret spots to shop or soemthing? but i guess also that going to a specialty bra boutique run by an older french lady might be teh way to go (tho the $$ way...)

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:02 (ten years ago) Permalink

oops - I guess my other post was to Bell not Tza. That's what I get for speed reading.

ENBB, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:03 (ten years ago) Permalink

I. Hate. Padding.

Hate it. Will not buy it. AND DO YOU KNOW HOW HARD IT IS TO FIND UNPADDED BRAS RIGHT NOW??? DO YOU?? Bras I don't hate start around $80 and go up.

All the companies that serve the department store market (in the $25-40 range) have to minimize their production expenses by following whatever is most popular, so right now they're all making padded and/or push-up bras. (Calvin Klein, DKNY, and others used to be great for basic underwire w/o padding but now they're harder to find and less likely to survive to get to the sale rack, which is where I look).

I'm sort of at a standstill -- I check to see what's on sale at figleaves.com very couple of months. Difficult, though.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:03 (ten years ago) Permalink

that is exactly why i'm so frustrated!

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:07 (ten years ago) Permalink

it is so hard to find non padded bras for my size (little). everyone thinks i want to be bigger.

bell_labs, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:07 (ten years ago) Permalink

and often ones without padding look good on the rack (lol) but not on the/my body

i am kind of partial to those tank tops/undershirts with the built in the shelf support but srsly now they don't offer a lot of support even tho they are fairly comfortable

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:08 (ten years ago) Permalink

I like Chantelle, I like the Elle McPherson line (the unpadded ones, anyway). I just looked up Calvin Klein on figleaves and out of 25 results only one had no padding. Fuckers.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:10 (ten years ago) Permalink

Chantelle makes beautiful stuff.

horseshoe, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:11 (ten years ago) Permalink

There is this Eberjey "bralet" I guess but I don't know how much support it has, and it's $50 which is affordable, I guess, but kind of steep for one item of underwear.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:13 (ten years ago) Permalink

I REALLY like Chantelle but no way can I afford it. Well I mean I could stop drinking or smoking and save money that way, but it's a sad world in which I have to choose between bras and beer.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:15 (ten years ago) Permalink

yeah, no, Chantelle is the aspirational bra brand i look at but don't buy.

horseshoe, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:17 (ten years ago) Permalink

Elmo, I think a water bra is a bra with little pouches of water inside to make the breasts appear larger w/o a stiff padded look. Correct me if I'm wrong, ladies.

libcrypt, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:18 (ten years ago) Permalink

oh i like that bralet, but yeah, $50.

bell_labs, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:18 (ten years ago) Permalink

at this point i will pay $50

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:19 (ten years ago) Permalink

i love this thread title, btw, it sounds like part of a mystery series.

horseshoe, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:21 (ten years ago) Permalink

I am all about the online shopping and found these excellent underwires at Title Nine when I was looking for a workout bra that had a back closure. They fit great, lots of stretchy, firm support, comfiest underwire I've worn in awhile, no padding, and the straps are inset at the back so they don't slip down. Not too dear either. Much more serviceable than cute though.

Jaq, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:22 (ten years ago) Permalink

The only unpadded CK bra on figleaves.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:23 (ten years ago) Permalink

I support Title 9 but I don't need anywhere near that level of support, is the thing. I could wear a scrap of lace as long as it had an underwire and straps that would stay the fuck up. AND NO PADDING. They're just much less common these days.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:27 (ten years ago) Permalink

that is pretty
don't really like the title nine bra tho as i am v v picky when it comes to lace and usually don't want it anywhere on the bra. for everyday wear, i just want smooth, seamless bras. hell, they can be hot pink, i don't care, as long as they fit, have support (i like underwire when it's done well), don't have seams, and don't cover half my freakin chest and torso (unless they are tank top style, obv)

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:28 (ten years ago) Permalink

Rrrob, Victoria's Secret does make a cotton jersey bra w/ wires and no padding, and it's v affordable at for $40.

Trying to link to it just now didn't work, though.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:30 (ten years ago) Permalink

Yeah, it's weird, even in my no-way-do-you-need-padding-out size, most of them have some. And so much, uh - forward thrust? Fie on fashion.

Jaq, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:31 (ten years ago) Permalink

Sorry, TWO for $40. It's the unlined demi-bra in cotton. They also make an unlined racer-back, apparently.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:31 (ten years ago) Permalink

this one's ugly, but it has no lace and is supposed to be as supportive as one with underwire:

http://images.figleaves.com/product/220x308/r282300-p282301-front.jpg

horseshoe, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:34 (ten years ago) Permalink

Here's a DKNY mesh lace for only $30 -- I know you don't like lace but this would give you the shape you want, I think...?

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:39 (ten years ago) Permalink

Hanro makes a couple of plain unpadded bras in microfiber and fabrics that I'm sure feel 100% amazing on your skin but also start around $80.

Laurel, Tuesday, 12 August 2008 21:40 (ten years ago) Permalink

do any of you have recs for a strapless bra that's actually comfortable?

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 28 June 2016 14:13 (two years ago) Permalink

i have small tits

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 28 June 2016 14:13 (two years ago) Permalink

well not tiny but i'm don't need something that can hold up really big ones or anything. just one that feels like it's going to stay put

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, 28 June 2016 14:14 (two years ago) Permalink

one month passes...

i purchased a playtex front closure bra

it's p comfortable to wear once i get it on but holy jesus trying to put it on is like wrestling with a cop-movie shoulder-holster crossed with a lifevest

Flamenco Drop (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 15 August 2016 23:31 (two years ago) Permalink

Hahahaa
This is bringing back vivid memories that have forever informed my decision to never buy another front closure bra

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 16 August 2016 00:38 (two years ago) Permalink

I do not trust front closure bras, bc they always seem to be plastic and flimsy

Fayreform is my new favorite bra brand.

just1n3, Tuesday, 16 August 2016 02:36 (two years ago) Permalink

this one has an interlocking metal closure, very sturdy, safe as houses lemme tell ya

Flamenco Drop (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 16 August 2016 02:44 (two years ago) Permalink

I had some unfortunate experiences with front closures in high school. But maybe bra technology has improved in the past 25 years.

tokyo rosemary, Monday, 22 August 2016 15:28 (two years ago) Permalink

I wish there were regular improvements in bra technology, but I haven't noticed any in the last 20 years, unless making 95% of bras those thick rigid ones constitutes some kind of super advancement which I'm missing out on because I hate the feel of them

Impossible future bra technology wishlist:
- underwiring that does not snap, burst free of its tunnel and stab me, wear through the fabric and chafe my flesh, etc.
- bras that do not, after approx 6 months of light-to-moderate wear, suddenly give up on offering any support whatsoever

...not in my lifetime, I guess. I have a nice bra which did the underwire eruption thing after not very many wears at all - the end tip got all bent out of shape so I can't put it back in - and I haven't brought myself to throw the thing out yet because I miss you, bra.

a passing spacecadet, Monday, 22 August 2016 15:45 (two years ago) Permalink

ten months pass...

update on the front closing 'safe as houses' bra -- those shits lasted 2 months tops and then the closures started twisting around and digging into me and I ditched those things right quick

i have now ventured into the world of wire-free bras ... got 2 playtex 18-hour jobs for $40 at the outlet store so we'll see. I have had so many wires go bung lately I'm willing to dance with the devil.

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 30 June 2017 20:41 (one year ago) Permalink

but it is still eternally infuriating that almost every new brand of bra is a different size for me. I've got everything from c to dd in my drawer at home, it's nonsensical

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 30 June 2017 20:42 (one year ago) Permalink

I've got everything from c to dd in my drawer at home, it's nonsensical

omg, same here - seriously, wtf is wrong with these bra people!

sarahell, Friday, 30 June 2017 20:49 (one year ago) Permalink

por exemplar: the one I bought today is a B cup!
I haven't had a b since high school

it's insane that you basically need to have a fitting any time you need to buy ~a~ bra that's not the same as the one you wear

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 30 June 2017 20:55 (one year ago) Permalink

I had some B cups I'd wear in my 20s, because I read somewhere that if you wear a one-smaller cup size, it can give you this sexy overflowing cleavage look, also push boobs closer together.

sarahell, Friday, 30 June 2017 20:58 (one year ago) Permalink

lol #protip

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 30 June 2017 21:02 (one year ago) Permalink

also they have a wider variety of cute patterns and decoration -- I guess I'm glad I'm no longer a B cup, and in the white/beige/black size range -- otherwise I'd buy more bras because they were cute.

sarahell, Friday, 30 June 2017 21:06 (one year ago) Permalink

truth

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 30 June 2017 21:11 (one year ago) Permalink

I guess the industry thinks that women our size are all dowdy moms that have no desire for bras with colorful polka dots or red lacy skulls embroidered on the cups.

sarahell, Friday, 30 June 2017 21:38 (one year ago) Permalink

even just a few bright jewel colors would be cool

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 30 June 2017 21:48 (one year ago) Permalink

this whole thing -- esp the sizing stupidity -- makes me think this would not happen if it was a product for men

sarahell, Friday, 30 June 2017 22:13 (one year ago) Permalink

def

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 30 June 2017 22:21 (one year ago) Permalink

Lol when I saw this thread was updated it reminded me I wanted to post about those playtex bras! Look on Amazon - I've gotten 3 for about 15$ each. They're not great for shape but they're comfy and I like them for summer.

I want to try ThirdLove bras but they're pricey.

just1n3, Friday, 30 June 2017 22:47 (one year ago) Permalink

I keep getting ads for ThirdLove bras, and was wondering if anyone else had tried them and what they thought!

sarahell, Friday, 30 June 2017 22:57 (one year ago) Permalink

yeah i was going to try but cost dissuaded me

if these playtex work out i'll def reup on Amazon, thanks for the tip J

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 30 June 2017 23:07 (one year ago) Permalink

One of the ads said "save $22" and I was thinking, wow what a deal! And I just now looked at the price after the discount, and I'm like ... :( ____ :( (sad boobs)

sarahell, Friday, 30 June 2017 23:26 (one year ago) Permalink

Ok let me try to be a little of an intersectional MRA here

Briefs, boxer shorts and chinos all suck too. Just saying. Men get to pick between about 4 colors of pants most of the time and unless you have constantly flaccid, below-average tackle, your underwear & pants situation becomes uncomfortable to the point of distraction at least twice a day. This is why guys have "comfortable pants" at home.

We don't have wires though, and anybody who suggested wearing undersized banana hammocks to show off would be shouted down in most contexts.

El Tomboto, Friday, 30 June 2017 23:39 (one year ago) Permalink

but they tend to at least sort of fit

getting a bra that fits is the exception!

it doesn't fit ~right~ you will probably be adjusting or hitching at your bra 20 times a day and for some reason the entire race of women has somehow absorbed into our psyche that this is just what happens

like sometimes you just can't be fucked getting fitted for a bra AGAIN so you say meh this one's okay and it doesn't fit right but you pass/agg wear it for a year just to prove a point til you throw it away

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 1 July 2017 00:00 (one year ago) Permalink

So true!!!! It's also really hard to tell if a bra is truly comfortable just trying it on once in a fitting room - lots of shit goes wrong when you're stuck in an ill fitting bra for 12 or more hours.

ThirdLove has a thing where you pay for shipping for the first bra you order, wear and wash for a month, and then either return it or pay for it (65$? I think?). They've gotten tons of great press AND they have lots of cute colors for big boobs. I don't know why I don't just splurge - it wouldn't be the most expensive bra I own.

just1n3, Saturday, 1 July 2017 01:11 (one year ago) Permalink

Men get to pick between about 4 colors of pants most of the time and unless you have constantly flaccid, below-average tackle, your underwear & pants situation becomes uncomfortable to the point of distraction at least twice a day.

look dude, if men had to adjust their junk as often as women have to adjust their bras, there would 1) be massive industry disruption, like there'd be an iphone of men's underwear, with regular upgrades and 2) those comfortable pants you wear at home would be allowed as appropriate workwear.

sarahell, Saturday, 1 July 2017 12:12 (one year ago) Permalink

I will not disagree with you. My grass is greener.

El Tomboto, Saturday, 1 July 2017 13:43 (one year ago) Permalink

Pants/briefs comparison also doesn't hold up bc women's underwear is mostly uncomfortable if you've got a big bootie. Same thing for pants - trying to find pants or jeans that work for your butt, hips, stomach and thighs is a bit of an adventure.

just1n3, Sunday, 2 July 2017 05:15 (one year ago) Permalink

update

playtex bra is v comfortable! uniboob look is kinda eh, but god it's nice not having any wire constriction

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 2 July 2017 05:20 (one year ago) Permalink

that's the kind i wear now -- no wires, no padding, no frills just a lil bra because i have to wear one if i am going to be acceptable to society

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Sunday, 2 July 2017 13:33 (one year ago) Permalink

Same thing for pants - trying to find pants or jeans that work for your butt, hips, stomach and thighs is a bit of an adventure.

Lord, yes. I pretty much just wear dresses and skirts unless I have to wear pants. I have these two pairs of Venezia (lol lane bryant) jeans that actually fit well -- I treasure them more than many more expensive things I own

sarahell, Sunday, 2 July 2017 19:52 (one year ago) Permalink

four months pass...

3rd Love bras are on sale now. I ordered one for $40, which is kinda the highest in $ I'm willing to go for an untested bra.

Also the Torrid Push up/plunge bras have yielded pretty impressive boob results

sarahell, Sunday, 12 November 2017 20:52 (one year ago) Permalink

i am still p happy with the Playtex 18hr no wire bras.
I mean, no great shape for normal day but not thinking abt how my bra feels or hitching anything is kind of great

Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 12 November 2017 20:54 (one year ago) Permalink

help me understand the bralette

sarahell, Sunday, 12 November 2017 21:05 (one year ago) Permalink

those i dont get. they look like fairy bras! i’d feel more supported wearing a bra made of kleenex

Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 12 November 2017 21:13 (one year ago) Permalink

are they just for small boobs, or for wearing around the house if you don't want to be completely bra-free, or ...

also, boob trend: the weird cage bras that look Mad Max costumes

sarahell, Sunday, 12 November 2017 21:18 (one year ago) Permalink

i don’t know who they are for tbh

and yeah idg the cage bras either... in my head i call them broad city bras bcz ilana wears them sometimes

but i have never really been a “showing my bra” fashion warrior tho

Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 12 November 2017 22:16 (one year ago) Permalink

they are for people with small boobs
i have some strappy bralettes and some very utilitarian hanes everyday bras that are basically adult-styled training bras
my boobs are very small and they are sufficient for my needs. i've been wearing the hanes ones for a few years (and through a few summers) and i still have no complaints
i don't worry about my boobs anymore

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Sunday, 12 November 2017 22:41 (one year ago) Permalink

my boobs are very small and they are sufficient for my needs
they = bras with very little structure, not my boobs in this context, although my boobs are also sufficient/good enough :)

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Sunday, 12 November 2017 22:42 (one year ago) Permalink

we should all feel that our boobs are sufficient/good enough! Boob positivity only ITT.

sarahell, Sunday, 12 November 2017 23:51 (one year ago) Permalink

The cage bra things are really attractive to me as objects -- like high heels are -- but once I think about wearing them, I get twinges of pain. Maybe the cage bra things are comfy? They look uncomfortable though.

sarahell, Sunday, 12 November 2017 23:53 (one year ago) Permalink

hooray for sufficient boobage <3

Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 12 November 2017 23:59 (one year ago) Permalink

i had no idea they were called cage bras -- that's gross :( i just think of them as decorative straps -- dnw to be caged! i have one and it's as comfortable as any other bra. way more comf than underwire.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 13 November 2017 00:54 (one year ago) Permalink

it's like the pressure is distributed differently and also looks decorative
i would recommend them but we need to do something about the name

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 13 November 2017 00:56 (one year ago) Permalink

lattice bra?

Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 13 November 2017 01:42 (one year ago) Permalink

i've also seen them advertised as "strappy"

sarahell, Monday, 13 November 2017 02:55 (one year ago) Permalink

strappy is descriptive and not confusing -- that's what i would have called them. they have extra straps. they are strappy.
also, i may add, i feel good when i wear it. i would recommend to anyone wishing to give one a try in an warmer climate than the one I live in. They are mostly useful for summer around here.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 13 November 2017 03:05 (one year ago) Permalink


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