i love style needs to get their hair did

I'M ONLY TALKING ABOUT THIS BCAUSE WE HAVEN'T SEEN YOUR HAIR YET. To occupy our curious minds.

It's a not great photobooth picture, but you get the idea probably:

http://farm8.staticflickr.com/7306/10236813033_985b789eab.jpg

whoa SWEET

that is a great haircut. i love asymmetrical cuts with cool bangs

I love the shorter bangs, they make your eyes pop!

dang you look beautiful, carl

^^

wow. great haircut.

love!!!

Ooooh get YOU! You're such a cool lawyer.

i saw the new hairs yesterday irl and carl's head looks great! and i didn't mention this at the time, but it's true about your eyes -- having the short bangs pointing directly at them makes them really visually prominent. and they're distractingly pretty.

Aw you guys thanks!!! I was a little iffy on it the first day but I do like it now. And the ease of short hair is so delightful.

OH I LOVE IT

You look stunning, Carl <3!

I think that's such a great cut too, it really makes your eyes stand out!

Blue eyes/dark hair is a dream combo IMO.

I like it, too. The blue eyes are mine by rights but the dark hair is provided by the miracle of modern hair color.

When I go on (unpaid) maternity leave and can't afford salon hair color*, I figured it will take one, maybe two, hair cuts to get the color out now that my hair's short and I'm very interested to see what color my hair actually is these days.

*I'm not very skilled at home coloring and the last time I tried, I had tons of gray hair shining through after I finished. My stylist has said that I have strangely color resistant hair so that's a fun fact about me.

Sorry I'm still back on where you said "unpaid." What the fuck is that?

The United States of America?

ugh

But you're a lawyer with a big office...I know unconcern for employees happens at all levels, I guess I'm just surprised.

It's a long terrible story but the short version is I was hired for a project that was predicted to work a specific way with a compensation package that matched what they predicted. It didn't work that way at all, but instead worked like a regular old lawyer job. Although we were told in May (right about when I first learned I was pregnant) our compensation package would be updated to reflect the work we were actually doing, that hasn't happened yet nor is it likely to happen until sometime next year. Maybe. So basically everybody on my team is being exploited terribly and my relief at learning I would get sweet paid maternity leave was unfounded. But I couldn't really go to another job because then I wouldn't have worked there long enough to even qualify for FMLA (you have to have worked about 12 months at least part time to qualify).

Anyway, I will be taking some time to look for another job during my time off because I'm pretty annoyed.

Fucking fuck that shit!!!!! I am so fucking mad on your behalf!!! This shit really really drives me crazy about living in the US.

I have tossed this factoid around here before, but there are three countries in this world with no federal paid parental leave: USA, Swaziland, and Papa New Guinea.

Also, if those bozos hadn't delayed implementation of the employer compliance provisions of the ACA by a year, my employer would have had to change our compensation/benefits package since we all work more than 30 hours/week (by quite a bit sometimes). But noooooooooooooooo bunch of whiny babies couldn't cope so now I don't have paid maternity leave.

I don't get paid sick leave, or paid vacation, and def no paid maternity leave. But earn so little that if I had kids I'd have to quit and stay home because I probably earn about the same, give or take, as day care costs.

I guess lucky for me, getting a dog totally pushed me off the fence about having kids and now I def don't want them.

getting a dog totally pushed me off the fence about having kids

OK for a few seconds I thought you'd had some terrible accident that was stopping you from having kids idk

I don't know how you USAians stand it!! It all makes me so angry and simultaneously thankful for some sense in the UK :(

I figure the 18 weeks of unpaid maternity leave starts to seem like a pretty good deal when you get into 4-5 years of daycare costs. We pay about $140 a week here in the USA whereas that figure is closer to per day in Australia. I'm fact every friend of mine in Australian put their careers on hold for 4 years because daycare was costing near or as much as they were earning.

That seems really cheap to me? I think it's a ton more expensive here. I know several women who had to quit because what they were paying in daycare meant that it just wasn't worth it for them to continue working.

oh "At the top of the scale, parents around Boston can shell out as much as $2,500 a month on one infant’s care – more than a month’s worth of food, sometimes even more than rent or a mortgage payment. Over 12 months, they’ll spend more than the cost of a school year at a state college."

DAMMIT WHY IS EVERYTHING IN THIS STUPID STATE SO EXPENSIVE?

There were some places in Chicago that I called that charged that much. The cheapest place I found was about $820/month.

To be fair to Boston, my BU tuition is less than my U of MD would have been by about 20k. This is what happens when you live less than three miles from an actual state, and when your own non-state does not offer your program at their barely-accredited non-state school.

So thanking BU, sorry for expensive :(

You're doing a distance learning thing through BU? Neat! I didn't know that.

Yes! All my classes are online (with weekly simultaneous sessions with my section) and then I do my field internships in DC. I've been really pleased with the program so far, definitely rigorous. I'll come up to visit campus one of these days, and what the hell maybe I should actually go to graduation, unlike with grad degree #1.

But anyway back to hair; I am starting to think I should stay long for as long as possible. As long as possible I think means that at some point--but maybe not for a couple of years--I'll have to deal with the going gray transition. Or maybe the ombre look will be a thing again by that time? I'm pretty committed to not dyeing.

i am wearing my hair down (not clipped up) for the first time at work since i can remember and it feels really weird. my secret is out and everyone knows i have stringy 70s man hair.

^^^this is me, too! It has been so so so hot (still is) and I cannot BEAR to have it touching my neck and shoulders and back, ick. On the rare occasion it is down, it kinda freaks both me and spouse out!

I just got mine all chopped off! It's tiny at the back and there's a little bit of graduated bob at the front.

Mine's nearly the same way now. It's 'growing out', but I really like it the way it is at the moment! Maybe I'll hit the pause button. If I do, then I need to get the stylist to neaten up the front a bit next time - that bit is a bit too growy-outy.

I want to ask you for a pic, kinder, but can't remember the last time I saw a pic of yours and so am not sure whether you are a pic person....

not really! I tried to take a pic and it was hard to get a good idea of what it actually looks like :|
I think I asked for something similar to what you went for i.e. what it looks like tied back but with some front bits..

I've been delaying and delaying a haircut to save $$ but enough is enough--I've hit my personal wall and can go no further. Calling tomorrow.

Yes! 'What it looks like tied back but with some front bits' is still my goal. I almost have it right now.

in orbit, you are too damn stylish not to have nice hair. I was just thinking about you today and wishing you would take me shopping, not that I need to be spending $ on clothes.

lol I am so not stylish in my daily life tho. Esp in summer when it's too hot for clothes because I'm not a "less is more" person when it comes to body coverage, I just desperately wear whatever covers me and isn't stifling. I need my hair to do a lot of heavy lifting, style-wise, because I'm not doing it any other way. Okay, hair and nails. But that's it.

Ah, choosing not to style for practical reasons is one thing, but having it going on whenever you wanna is another. I seen your pics, lady. Anyway, you deserve a haircut!

dying my hair black for halloween tomorrow night - kind of excited, haven't had black hair since college :D

Yes! All my classes are online (with weekly simultaneous sessions with my section) and then I do my field internships in DC. I've been really pleased with the program so far, definitely rigorous. I'll come up to visit campus one of these days, and what the hell maybe I should actually go to graduation, unlike with grad degree #1.

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That's awesome and yes definitely visit. :) I didn't go to graduation for my MA and and sometimes I wish I did considering I was so hungover that I fell asleep during commencement for my undergrad degree.

My hair is really dark and long right now. Well, for me. I want to get it cut and colored before I start new job but I also want to get a new tattoo and now I'm trying to figure out which I want more because I don't think I can afford all three.

Ooooooh, Veg, I dyed my hair black once! It looked surprisingly good but IT DID NOT WASH OUT so. Uh. Beware.

cf http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e66/LimitedLiabilityGirl/ModestMakeout.jpg