Boobs, I mean, Bras, and the eternal frustration

I LOVE Elomi bras (also wear a 40G). All my bras are Elomi and probably will continue to be unless they change their sizing. Also mad jealous of your Nordstroms with 40G bras right there in stock.

i checked out the elomi bras at nordstrom but their smallest size is like an f or something. but the sales lady pointed me to fantasie bras, which i ended up buying - super comfy, the one i got has a really full/high-cut cup, which i like for an everyday bra. their sizes go pretty high, too

carl I am sad we do not live in the same city because it sounds like we could share clothes. not like I want to borrow your bras or anything. But OTHER things.

I would share clothes with you in one heartbeat. You have great style!

I just bought this sports bra in red and it looks kind of awesome and I'm excited about it - http://www.herroom.com/freya-aa4391-active-soft-cup-sports-bra.shtml

Also how cool is it that Herroom have "bounce test" videos? I actually decided against a couple other bras I was considering because of them.

I'm down to two bras that fit and aren't in embarrassing disrepair (I have two more that can pinch-hit but they're ugly/ratty) and I was feeling like I was failing as a modern woman at caring about the right things until my friend made a joke that since she never pulls the shades on her windows, her neighbors are probably gossiping about her right now, "I can't believe that girl across the street only has two bras!" and I knew that all was well. Ilu, Amy.

I mean I was sleeping w someone for a second there and when he had seen both of my presentable bras a bunch of times, I was wondering if I was supposed to have...a greater variety? In order to be good/normal/not raise questions about my suitability. It is amazing what dumb shit I will fuck with if no one stops me.

i'd like to think that my ex is fairly typical as far as straight dudes go, and he viewed bras like gift wrap on a present. He doesn't notice if you wrap all your gifts with the same wrapping paper, but first and foremost, it should be easy to remove.

That has been my experience as well.

that is an excellent analogy

Yeah tbh I think the whole ” men love sexy lingerie” isn't anywhere near a Thing as magazines like cosmo et al would have you believe

Hello, ladies. This is not a fair generalization! I have been in a relationship with a fancy lingerie wearer for almost two decades; however, if memory serves, I liked fancy bras in my single days as well. There are dudes and there are dudes.

I wasn't thinking about sexy lingerie as much as, an adult woman who isn't in dire financial straits or a college student should have a varied and interesting wardrobe of lingerie because that is a thing she should care about blah blah blah. The insecurity was about my being a disgusting savage who wears the same two black bras all the time under everything. Anyway, over it!

haha I have three bras of the exact same type: one beige, two black and a pile of black cotton underpants. There's nothing wrong with being into lingerie and I could see it being really fun but my view is utility uber alles for that kind of stuff. So if a varied and interesting wardrobe of lingerie is key to financially stable adult success, I am with you on the wrong side of that line.

Working for Betsey Johnson for a few months really upped my tarty lingerie game. I went from owning three bras to living on Bra Mountain.

In order to be good/normal/not raise questions about my suitability.

this? still? cmon girl.

if i sat around trying to turn myself into lana turner, i would have wasted a LOT of time and energy. this is the only way i can be and i can only hope that my partner likes it. he seems to.

just be the person you are

carl's underwear drawer sounds much like mine, except I also have a white bra of the same type which I never wear, mainly because all my tops are dark colours but also because some kind of laundry accident turned one cup only a pale mint colour. And a purple one which came with the black one and I cursed a bit because I did not see myself ever wearing a purple bra but actually I have two purple shirts so it kinda works.

All my exes have been more into plain, smooth underwear than frilly lacy things, but then I guess a dude who is into sexy feminine things is not a dude who is into me, so.

lol bra mountain!

I've known guys who were totally into fancy/sexy lingerie and were all like omg, but I've also known guys who seem to hardly notice. Dif people are into dif things yeah of course, but tbh I greatly appreciate/find sexy in itself the noticing, but that's me.

I bought a polka dot and lace bra recently. It's fun! The rest are all either cream or black.

i mean just sayin - i have gone through phases of outlandish lingerie and others of pure utility -- i feel like when inspiration strikes, listen to it and always have something on hand to wear just in case it strikes.

i have honestly never heard a man say "i don't like your bra" and if he had i would have been unlikely to ever let him see it again.

This is my partner's everyday brand at the moment, which she finds comfortable and I find hubba hubba: http://www.bluelemon.ch/e/web_shop.htm

1 white sportsbra
1 beige everyday
1 black everyday
1 "fancy" push-uppy thing
1 embroidered one that I hate bcz it makes my boobs pointy like torpedoes and pushes them way wide under my armpits >:(

xxp Yeah, I have two skirt things with attached garters and a dozen pairs of actual stockings that I never wear because a couple of years ago I decided life was too short for pencil skirts, and assorted other weird stuff. I just can't be bothered anymore.

I like animal prints and lacy stuff and fun designs. I had a bra (in a size that is now too small) that was black with red skulls on it, purchased partially for the appreciation of said ex. His response, "Ha! Skulls! Nice!" and then went straight for removal.

I also have one drawer for all undergarments (so the aforementioned bras and underpants, plus a small selection of workhorse slips (black and beige) and Spanx Power Panties* (black)) so there's not a lot of room for superfluous fanciness even if I were so inclined.

*the ones that quincie recommended. They are hardly shapewear since they are not tight at all, just more like smooth, lightweight bike shorts.

Plus two sports bras (soon to be replaced, thankfully), two house bras, and handkerchiefs. Also as noted before, I have huge boobs so my bras take up a lot of space.

i want to talk about lingerie more on the internet but i just can't bring myself to do it.

Oh yeah, I have like 4 pairs of those shorts things, wore them every single day all summer. When I ran out/forgot to do laundry, I cut up pairs of tights from the previous winter. Now it's just all tights, all the time.

I also only have one drawer but I'm against padded bras so mine don't take up much room since they're just lace (and there are only 4 of them). Also I shove the 4 sports bras and all my dance wear in the same drawer, so it's a mess.

xp Hahahaha posts vmic

well! i have a lot to say but

I know. Privacy!

xxp - you go commando, iirc?

Having things around my waist makes me rly uncomfortable b/c it's in a very different place depending on whether I'm standing or sitting, and things move all around when I'm walking. I try to avoid waist layers.

Were it just me I would have my two black and three beigeish bras that, after a major bra size revelation documented itt, fit well and are comfortable under everything I own.

I happened upon a spouse who really likes lingerie. I hate shopping for it, but he digs that shopping (in a non crepey way). Secrets and Lace has become a favorite. The deal is that he can order whatever he likes (he knows my size and preferences), and I will give it a go. Seven out of ten times, I like what he picks; the rest he returns. It has saved me a) having to shop for lingerie myself and b) something that he gets a kick out of that I am happy to oblige. The key is that if I don't like or feel comfy in something, I feel free to tell him and it gets returned.

This sounds like I am lucky, but I think a lot of women like to shop for their own underthings, and I do not. So it is convenient to have someone who will shop for me based on my actual size/preferences/needs and handle returns if it ain't working for me. I think a lot of dudes may be willing to do this if approached???

By dudes I mean dudes/partners-of-any-gender

I bought a shapewear half slip because hey $6 but now I see it has one of those eye and hook attached panty things. How do you wear tights with this? Can I just remove it?

Mr. Jaq read this article yesterday about True&co, all about their bra quiz to figure out your perfect fit etc. So I went to take their stupid quiz. Ladies, don't bother if you are larger than a size 16. Also, if you define your shape as well-rounded, they imply you've got implants. Way to piss off a potential customer, thx for that.

Yeah, the largest size you can wear is a large??

true&co website has some poorly-thought-out user interface issues going on, keeps making you step through the stupid quiz (is this a cross-browser issue in which it doesn't always work on google chrome? can't they test for it & resolve it?)

then it only lets you see the selection the quiz determines you should see, doesn't show the brand name of anything unless you click on it, apparently doesn't let you buy matching stuff on the same site? i would rather just see all the options and decide for myself, i'm sure most people would. also why assume everyone doesn't wear the right size anyway? i have the right size already thanks ILS

so i could buy stuff there but don't want to & then kept looking around like so much of this is what *not* to do for usability reasons, how can this be good for a new business.
/nerd

^^^I totally refuse to buy from sites with poorly done UAs, even if I think I may like the merch and/or prices are good. It shouldn't be hard for me to give you my money!

um UIs, not UAs

after a long underwire-free comfortable 12 months or so, today i found myself post-laundry without a bra to wear so i had to dig out my old one with underwire. seriously cannot believe i used to wear this goddamn thing every day. wtf.

Well, shit: http://shine.yahoo.com/healthy-living/braless-best-study-says-bras-breasts-saggier-161300096.html

That's it, I'm not wearing a bra to work on Monday.

eyes rolled here: WOMEN: How many bras do you have?

no I don't know why I have all the bra threads bookmarked

Because you wear them every day and they pretty much define love/hate and necessary evil? That's why I have them all bookmarked, anyway.

thought to myself oh I'll go out and get myself a new bra to wear to this wedding coming up. ffffffffffuuuu. here's what I hate: every single style of bra, even within the same BRAND has a completely different size. so even if I know my fucking size and I don't need a fitting, I still have to try on 900 goddamn bras to find one that fits. and inevitably I settle for one that fits okay and storm out of the store only to be back in 2 days because in the cold light of day it just. does. not. fit.

i hate them i hate them I hate them.

and much as I like lane bryant's bras, they fuck with their sizing even more than normal brands. yes it's nice to make large ladies feel smaller by changing up the sizing but I HATE CHANGING ROOMS AND I HATE TRYING ON BRAS AND YOU ARE TRYING TO MAKE ME CRAZY grrr

sorry venting

however it is kinda cool when you find one that fits AND lifts and you're like oh hey I haven't seen you ladies in a while wassup

Oh that is so true. I experimented at Christmas, went down a band size and up a cup size...and viola! Much better. At least in this particular model, which I have now owned 3 of (2 are in wild colors seriously--fuchsia with red embroidery).

i have come around to being super into the Playtex sports bra