changing up yr style and/or new look 4 u in 2012

^^^

lol

Cup sizes vary w/ band size, so a 34 DD is a smaller cup than a 40 DD. So there's not really an objective C cup.

it's relative, right? like cup size is determined by how many inches larger the biggest boob part is vs the bust measurement

Aye.

You could totally be a DD and have been wearing the wrong size this entire time. A friend of mine just recently got measured at Nordstrom and should be wearing a 32DD when she's been wearing a 34C for years.

Oh, and I wear 38G so I HAVE to buy expensive bras.

i guess i really have no idea what bra size i am

have been thinking of going to nordstroms and getting properly measured since i followed the instructions on a link someone posted here that told me i was a 40DD, and i was like ???!?

Amanda, go to Nordstrom and get a free bra measurement

And get a bra there, and don't bother with Victoria's Secret or whatever. Because Wacoal and Chantelle are the best brands imo.

Victoria's secret sucks imo.

Yup they're awful!

They don't even make my size, though, so it's not like I've worn one anytime in the recent past.

I am only a B so they def make my size and I did wear them when I was younger before I realized that I hated all of them.

Hey, homo, we wear the same bra size!

Amanda there is a good place called Isabella on Armitage right off the Brown Line that is all about personalized fittings. I'll go with you some time. My bras are wearing out.

i was wondering recently what a "bralette" is

also, OK!

xp is that an item of clothing or a snooki-like female?

i guess they're like soft cup bras? basically stretch bras?

for natural 70s boob

what is natural 70s boob?

Not pointy like 50s boobs or high and tight like contemporary boobs.

Just kind of hanging out, being cool and not worrying too much boob. Or maybe disco boob.

lol yes

it's all of those, I think

a natural boob that moves

these are all such great phrases

I read in a snooty book once that the pleasure of truly great bras is that they make the breasts look SMALLER, thereby making the wearer more demure on the outside but revealing a more generous physique to the intimate acquaintance. Snooty book might be full of shit, I haven't decided.

Well I guess surprise big boobs like that are better than finding out someone was wearing a padded gel number and is much smaller in reality. Idk though, it probably is full of shit.

Snooty book is full of shit even if just for the reason that for some folks, making our boobs look smaller would still result in giant looking boobs. Also subtext of stifling sexuality. It's like keeping your hair covered so you can surprise your man with its exotic beauty when you finally take off your bonnet.

But I cam here to post this important piece of information: http://inkdot.tumblr.com/post/7243925631/no-shit

Like if I could somehow manage to squash my boobs into a bra two cups smaller, I would still have 38E cups boobs.

It kind of ties in with the whole "lose 10% of your body weight to be healthy!" trope. 10% less of me would still be a Whole Lotta Jenny. And if I weighed 10% less and went to a doc, that doc would tell me "lose 10% of your body weight to be healthy!"

Basically the message is that whatever you are, it's not right, and there's no way to get to a place where it will be right, because "right" is always one cup smaller or 10% less.

Yeah that's the icky subtext, the stifling/concealment thing and the withholding-from-self-to-give-to-partner thing.

Also that small boobs are demure, so letting your tig ole bitties out into the world makes you a slut. Which is a pretty common narrative (see networks objecting to Lane Bryant lingerie commercial w/ plus size model, networks being just fine with that hideous Victoria's Secret runway model special).

I hear a lot of criticisms of women with big tits out in the real world - specifically from other women. "Oh my god, look at her jugs. Would she put those away?" It makes me sad. Of course dudes love em. But that's beside the point.

ALL BODIES ARE BEAUTIFUL
I LOVE THIS BODY ACCEPTANCE ERA

<3

Yeah, I self-police way too much on that stuff b/c of first my mother's voice in my head for so many years, and then the fact that my boss criticizes me (and anyone else) for having more than a bare arm showing.*

Sorry if I have been this way to ilx. :(

* The other day I went into her office and she said, abruptly, "This is good, I like this outfit. I didn't like what you wore yesterday AT ALL." (Voice curling into a whipcrack on last two words.) Because I wore a miniskirt with leggings underneath and a long sweater. In 2012 I would like to turn over a new leaf of pissing her off more often.

A lot of people a lot, lot thinner than myself: "I wish I could pull that off" re: my fashion/style/etc

It, too, makes me sad. People should wear what they want. Even if they have big boobs, small boobs, a big belly, cellulite, or their arms jiggle. Whatever. I am not perfect at this yet, either - but for years I just hid away in jeans and t-shirts and crap from Old Navy because I always had plans to lose weight and I was either on the losing track of gaining track and nothing ever fit.

That's especially poignant because you're so stylish and inspired by a look or a fabric or a color and just running with it, and obviously enjoying it. I'm glad you decided to change that.

I just yelled at my family for policing a family friend's weight at the dinner table (not in that person's presence). Made me very angry and sad. How did they get so thoughtless and gross?? They are not unkind or gross people (okay my youngest brother sort of is) but they think this is acceptable behavior even toward someone they like/care about.

I want to rep harder for body acceptance in 2012.

One of my very good friends is about 6 years older than me, and kinda old school in her body image... aka she was in her early 20's when heroin chic was in in the 90's, and was constantly berated by her mother for her weight (and she was 120 pounds as a young adult). She's about 5'6", weighs 150 pounds, has had two kids, and has a great figure. But she's constantly asking me if her ass looks big, that she has a double chin, that she "looks fat", etc, and after two years of yelling at her about this I am kinda over it... I'm flat out mean about it. I told her last time if she wanted to know what fat felt like, she would feel it... as I smothered her with my body.

She's also said several times that she wants to have a tummy tuck and a boob job.

Mandee I get why that's annoying but you also don't know what issues she's had or experiences she's gone through.

To make her that way, I mean. This stuff can be really really tough to get over. It's awesome that you're so accepting of yourself but for some people it's a life long struggle. You know?

I understand that, but for two years I've told her I find her comments offensive and she still continues.

She's admitted she has body dysmorphia but won't do anything about it, except only to make offensive comments aloud to her closest friend - who happens to outweigh her by 70 pounds. I'm just tired of trying to lift her up and make her feel better about herself.

Basically minus the having had kids thing I am probably very similar to your friend but I've battled eating disorders most of my life and am still working through a lot of these issues. There is not a day that goes by that I don't worry about my weight or feel unhappy with myself and while I'm trying to deal with that it's a very real part of who I am and who I have been for my entire adult life. It's shitty and it's awful but it's how it is. I'm just saying that while I really admire your attitude and understand that your friend can probably get really irritating your post sounded a little harsh to me.

except only to make offensive comments aloud to her closest friend - who happens to outweigh her by 70 pounds

Yeah well that's bullshit imo and pretty strange tbh.

Yeah it probably does so my apologies if it sounds harsh, but she's frustrating to me in other areas besides this so it's probably coloring my attitude... I am totally sensitive to other people having body image issues, I guess its the constant logorrea that really gets to me

Yeah, that's understandable. It's obviously an issue that hits home with me because I know I am and have been that person even though it's something I try not to do.

It's not just body image, though. I mean, more people should think more about the criticisms they give themselves outloud.

For instance, one day I was whining about my "horrible skin" aloud in front of someone who had cystic acne. She called me out on that.

Yeah, I totally agree. I've done similar before myself.

Ugh I have an awful big boob meanness story to relate, will do so when not on my ph

jenny, that tumblr post is a delight! or at least i am delighted with what i've taken away from it, which is: let's totally get our clothes tailored and feel fantastic.

Also: let's not feel bad when clothes don't fit us the way it fits ppl on TV/magazines.