Innocuous things that make you irrationally embarrassed

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because, for me, embarrassment is a much more common reaction than anger

congratulations (n/a), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:24 (seven years ago) link

e.g. when people respond to comedians' tweets or (especially) instagrams with "funny" comments

congratulations (n/a), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:25 (seven years ago) link

any type of performance that requires being HAPPY! in a really showy way (which means i can't watch any singing/dancing-based reality show)

congratulations (n/a), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:33 (seven years ago) link

eating in public

Shane Breen is a gigantic tool (Noodle Vague), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:35 (seven years ago) link

trying on clothes in department stores

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:44 (seven years ago) link

being introduced to new people

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:44 (seven years ago) link

"mingling" at parties

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:45 (seven years ago) link

every single episode of breaking bad

ledge, Monday, 26 November 2012 16:45 (seven years ago) link

taking cyrus in to school in the morning. and its not just me, half the people in there could teach a master class on avoiding eye contact.

scott seward, Monday, 26 November 2012 16:47 (seven years ago) link

god yeah, i frantically hunt the playground for the 2 or 3 people i can talk to

Shane Breen is a gigantic tool (Noodle Vague), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:48 (seven years ago) link

being around my dad when he talks to anybody in a shop, pub etc

Shane Breen is a gigantic tool (Noodle Vague), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:49 (seven years ago) link

i could list these things all day but i am too embarrassed

passion it person (La Lechera), Monday, 26 November 2012 16:53 (seven years ago) link

i used to get embarrassed when my dad would ramble on and never listen to the person trying to talk to him but now i don't care. i'm just glad he's still alive so i just watch him and smile. its like watching a big demented baby talk to people. who is hard of hearing. and who listens to jazz all day long and reads the wall street journal. okay, that's a really weird baby...

scott seward, Monday, 26 November 2012 16:59 (seven years ago) link

guys trying to flirt on facebook, publicly

I have done bad. I love my pj's. (zachlyon), Monday, 26 November 2012 18:05 (seven years ago) link

People who comment on the food I am eating, or have just ordered. A truly irrational pet peeve.

One Way Ticket on the 1277 Express (Bill Magill), Monday, 26 November 2012 18:31 (seven years ago) link

People trying to impress their favourite musicians on facebook by posting fawning comments. It's even worse in real life. Note : I have done both of these things myself.

it's all fuck what sit says, we'll do our own thing (Matt #2), Monday, 26 November 2012 18:34 (seven years ago) link

i told kim gordon that i really liked the harry crews album when i was drunk years ago. #bigfatliar

scott seward, Monday, 26 November 2012 18:41 (seven years ago) link

eating chobani yogurt fills me with disgust and self hatred, but i like this one flavor so much that i will suffer through the shame to eat it.

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:41 (seven years ago) link

why does it make you feel that way? also, which flavor?

xanthanguar (cwkiii), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:44 (seven years ago) link

passion fruit

1) the name is so focus grouped that it makes me ashamed to say it, or even think about it
2) yogurt is for woman, and i am a woman
3) stirring up the fruit from the bottom is the worst sound on earth
4) i have long had an aversion to watching people eat yogurt, it's at least 20 years old
5) do i need another reason?

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:48 (seven years ago) link

all completely valid reasons! especially #1; that's one of those words i do anything to avoid saying, and if i absolutely must say it, i involuntarily shudder.
passion fruit is one of the best flavors, though. recently i've been buying cabot greek yogurt which is cheaper and way better, but doesn't come in the individual sized cups so i can't bring it to work.

xanthanguar (cwkiii), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:51 (seven years ago) link

i hate this brand of yogurt so much that i have thought about ways to create my own passion fruit yogurt by making the pulp myself and freezing it in little individual tubes so that it defrosts by lunchtime and i can enjoy my yogurt with peace of mind.

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:55 (seven years ago) link

empty shops/restaurants that are clearly struggling for business

Ward Fowler, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 15:55 (seven years ago) link

people baby-talking to their kids, especially if it's about their faeces.

people pronouncing things wrong. my favourite is when people ask for the beer "bombardier" (pronounced in the ww2 spiffing way) and say "bombard-e-ay" in the french way, just a perfect failure. (i definitely pronounce things wrong myself, obv, sometimes, and then get even more embarrassed)

Heterocyclic ring ring (LocalGarda), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:47 (seven years ago) link

i heard a mom at the grocery store ask her toddler "do you wanna do oj or peach mango?"
kid in the cart: "let's do oj"

me: shame at having overheard that, it was just too personal and also since when did little kids say "let's do _____" when they want something?!?!

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:54 (seven years ago) link

live theatre :-/

Still S.M.D.H. ft. (will), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:54 (seven years ago) link

i think you mean bad live theatre

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:58 (seven years ago) link

there is *a lot* of bad live theatre though, so yeah

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:58 (seven years ago) link

Cartoon characters on generic products.

xanthanguar (cwkiii), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:59 (seven years ago) link

hockey players in advertisements

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 16:59 (seven years ago) link

overheard conversations

Heterocyclic ring ring (LocalGarda), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:01 (seven years ago) link

generally

Heterocyclic ring ring (LocalGarda), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:01 (seven years ago) link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOrvdvczpEA

mookieproof, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:02 (seven years ago) link

improv

congratulations (n/a), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:03 (seven years ago) link

People who comment on the food I am eating, or have just ordered. microwaving.. A truly irrational pet peeve.

"ooh, that smells nice..."

DO YOU WANT SOME?????

Mark G, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:05 (seven years ago) link

there is *a lot* of bad live theatre though, so yeah

painfully true. but i do tend to be irrationally embarrassed by people ~acting~ in a live setting, regardless of the quality of performance/ production. the closer they are to me physically, the more embarrassed i get.

Still S.M.D.H. ft. (will), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:05 (seven years ago) link

improv comedy or improv anything?

passion it person (La Lechera), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:05 (seven years ago) link

comedy i guess? i'm not sure what other kinds of improv i'd run into

congratulations (n/a), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:06 (seven years ago) link

omg hahaaaa, mooks knows what i'm talking about
that clip is practically canadian
xps

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:06 (seven years ago) link

http://youtu.be/vDggoBZ2A48

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:17 (seven years ago) link

though the wayne gretzky ones of the 80s/90s were prob worse and more ubiquitous...

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:18 (seven years ago) link

Everything I say and everything I do.

Just noise and screaming and no musical value at all. (Colonel Poo), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:31 (seven years ago) link

irish politics

bill paxman (darraghmac), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:41 (seven years ago) link

Oh man. When I correct someone, or answer a question earnestly, and then immediately realise they were only joking. I guess it's rational to feel some embarrassment about that, but probably not rational to feel so much shame I just want to leave work straight away, get the train home, run upstairs to a cupboard, turn out the light and hide under every bit of linen I can find.

Ismael Klata, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 17:58 (seven years ago) link

stop correcting ppl, it's ama awful habit, even when they're wrong. get home.

bill paxman (darraghmac), Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:00 (seven years ago) link

*points out typo*

*kills self*

Ismael Klata, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:12 (seven years ago) link

witnessing people bragging

homosexual II, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:42 (seven years ago) link

good one

mookieproof, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:43 (seven years ago) link

I probably embarrass people when I temporarily bond with sales people (usually at the cosmetics counter).

homosexual II, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:45 (seven years ago) link

empty shops/restaurants that are clearly struggling for business

I end up never even going into these places since I know that if I go in and start browsing I will feel obligated to buy something because I feel bad about their business not doing well.

I don't really feel embarrassed or anything though, this is just expensive sympathy.

silverfish, Wednesday, 5 December 2012 18:48 (seven years ago) link

^^^ I have done this. Ironically the guy *was* an uber driver, but was not actually working then, just waiting to pick his wife up.

I was not his wife.

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:01 (eight months ago) link

The new black cabs in London have a clearer rooftop sign that in bright sunny weather can look on when it isn't (as the orange LEDs reflect sunlight better than previous design) so a few months back I asked a driver in traffic if he could take me somewhere only for it to be pointed out there was indeed already a passenger in the back. I can just about tell the difference now.

nashwan, Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:04 (eight months ago) link

How about trying to get into what you think is your Lyft/Uber car but it's just someone's regular car

A co-worker of mine did this in Dallas a few years ago.

We were all, "Chris, our driver is over here." He hopped out, saw what was up, and said to the civilian driver "I swear it was because you both have blue Toyota Camrys!"

And then, turning an awkward situation into something even more cringey, "...not because both of you are black!"

pplains, Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:39 (eight months ago) link

i was waiting to meet someone in the detroit airport rideshare pickup area a few months ago and it was just chaos -- riders getting into the wrong cars, drivers blocking traffic to bellow peoples' names, etc. i was embarrassed for our culture

mookieproof, Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:39 (eight months ago) link

there are just too many Toyota Camrys on the road, how am I supposed to know which is which

Josefa, Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:44 (eight months ago) link

when my rail ticket fails to work the turnstyle barrier at height of rush hour

In space, pizza sends out for YOU (Ste), Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:45 (eight months ago) link

er, turn STILE

In space, pizza sends out for YOU (Ste), Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:46 (eight months ago) link

When I try to use my public transit card to access my work premises

calstars, Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:47 (eight months ago) link

Is there a Rideshare pickup that truly works well? I haven't had issues at airports, but arenas/stadiums, experienced exactly what you described. Nobody able to find each other, thirty minute queues, pedestrians milling about aimlessly trying to find their driver, drivers giving up.

Took me 30 mins to find my driver after a friendly soccer match at Hard Rock Stadium. And after seeing Iron Maiden, had two drivers cancel on me, and as I started to get anxious about not getting back to my hotel, the third actually showed up (saw his license plate number matched). Put my hand on the door, and yet he sped away without letting me get in.

Drunkenly wrote an email to Uber saying OMG FUCK THIS MOTHERFUCKING DRIVER and finally got a driver to show up on 4th try

Jordan Pickford LOLverdrive (Neanderthal), Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:48 (eight months ago) link

I always check the license plate against what Uber says it is as I'm afraid of accidentally car-jacking an innocent motorist

Jordan Pickford LOLverdrive (Neanderthal), Tuesday, 3 December 2019 15:48 (eight months ago) link

Double posting.

Bidh boladh a' mhairbh de 'n láimh fhalaimh (dowd), Wednesday, 11 December 2019 18:47 (seven months ago) link

one month passes...

When I’m waiting at a stoplight, ready to go straight, and the green arrow comes on and I jump the gun, mistaking it for the green light, and let off the brake for a split second, and then have to quickly stop and sit there like a schnook.

omar little, Friday, 24 January 2020 05:10 (six months ago) link

Is there a Rideshare pickup that truly works well?


HAIL A CAB

El Tomboto, Friday, 24 January 2020 05:18 (six months ago) link

That's cool if you live somewhere where that's easy.

Here, you usually have to call, they don't always show up, and they're mad expensive compared to rideshare

... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Friday, 24 January 2020 05:20 (six months ago) link

Also i was referring to the designated rideshare areas at stadiums/arenas, which are usually terrible

... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Friday, 24 January 2020 05:22 (six months ago) link

I used one at LaGuardia and they built a whole plaza with numbered spots and you get assigned a spot by the rideshare app. It worked great. It may be part of the new construction there?

There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Friday, 24 January 2020 14:55 (six months ago) link

We have something similar at Orlando International that is fairly effective, though we only have a few numbered areas. But it works!

The scariest version of this was the Ninoy Aquino airport in Manila, Philippines. It's a free for all, a giant mass of people moving about, and locating vehicles often requires several phone calls

... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Friday, 24 January 2020 14:58 (six months ago) link

After being banished to a circle of hell for a couple of years, Lyft and Uber are now allowed once again to pick up directly at the terminal at Cleveland Hopkins. In the apps, there's a menu where you just put in what level and door you're at, and they pull right to the curb.

Pete Swine Cave (Eliza D.), Friday, 24 January 2020 15:03 (six months ago) link

Yeah i like airports with that kind of setup. Orlando also used to prohibit pickups from the airport, until people screamed about it, as the rates for the cabs at the taxi stand are insane (unless you're going to one of the areas with a flat rate)

The last time I was in San Juan, I learned that Uber is legally allowed to transport both ways from the airport there, but it is advised against and many drivers refuse the fare. Was told the reason is cab drivers hate ride share for hurting their earnings and will physically attack the Uber drivers.

One business trip, I had to head back 30 minutes to the airport, and the cabs had just gone on strike an hour ago. The receptionist heard I was trying Uber and he told me to abort and he gave me a ride himself. Mega sweet man.

I can understand the cab drivers' anger given the current economic climate there.

... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Friday, 24 January 2020 15:11 (six months ago) link

When I’m waiting at a stoplight, ready to go straight, and the green arrow comes on and I jump the gun, mistaking it for the green light, and let off the brake for a split second, and then have to quickly stop and sit there like a schnook.

I do this almost every Saturday when I'm at a light that turns green first for the straight-ahead drivers and then for the left-turners like me. Usually it's the other way around.

pplains, Friday, 24 January 2020 18:44 (six months ago) link

At least y'all realize it. I've been near t-boned by folks who did that,then keep going

... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Friday, 24 January 2020 19:11 (six months ago) link

Billie Eilish thread

circa1916, Thursday, 30 January 2020 05:44 (six months ago) link

one month passes...

I'm not sure exactly how to describe it, but that thing when someone gets on the train or bus wearing some costume or otherwise ridiculous outfit during an unexpected time of the year (i.e. not Halloween or something) and makes smirking eye contact with everyone else, individually in the hopes of getting some sort of reaction. I nearly die of second-hand embarrassment whenever I see this.

soaring skrrrtpeggios (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Monday, 9 March 2020 21:45 (four months ago) link

I saw a guy in a thrift store last week in full elf regalia. I didn't say anything.

nickn, Monday, 9 March 2020 21:49 (four months ago) link

I usually just scream HEY YO LOOK AT THE COSTUME MAN THAT'S QUITE THE COSTUME, A STRANGE AND UNUSUAL COSTUME, WELL DONE

until they feel uncomfortable and leave

sorry for butt rockin (Neanderthal), Monday, 9 March 2020 21:51 (four months ago) link

haha

soaring skrrrtpeggios (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Monday, 9 March 2020 21:52 (four months ago) link

I figured he's harmless, and probably happier than I am, so why piss on his fun.

nickn, Monday, 9 March 2020 21:52 (four months ago) link

my job in life is to remove all happiness

sorry for butt rockin (Neanderthal), Monday, 9 March 2020 21:53 (four months ago) link

starting w/ my own

sorry for butt rockin (Neanderthal), Monday, 9 March 2020 21:53 (four months ago) link

It's not as much about pissing on their fun, more just the people that do it in such a performative, "look at me, NO, LOOK AT ME" way make me cringe.

xpost

soaring skrrrtpeggios (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Monday, 9 March 2020 21:54 (four months ago) link

Yeah, this guy was different though, he seemed like someone who dresses for himself, in exactly the way he wants to.

nickn, Monday, 9 March 2020 21:59 (four months ago) link

But I get what you're saying, I've seen those types too.

nickn, Monday, 9 March 2020 22:00 (four months ago) link

two months pass...

https://i.imgur.com/TN07oNK.jpg

pplains, Monday, 18 May 2020 16:31 (two months ago) link

lol

i actually bought some passion fruit chobani a week or so ago and realized something about it. two things actually

1) it doesn't embarrass me anymore, it's just yogurt
2) chobani yogurt has a smell so strong that i can smell it before i turn the corner into the room where someone is eating it

with the lifting of the chobani-schmerz, i think i am incapable of being irrationally embarrassed.
i only get embarrassed when it's inevitable & justified. otherwise, zero tolerance for self-shaming. life's too short.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 18 May 2020 16:36 (two months ago) link

It probably doesn't, but I still imagine the creamer spilling out in yogurty chunks.

"Has It Expired? No! It's CHOBANI®"

pplains, Monday, 18 May 2020 17:38 (two months ago) link

ah the rich taste and surprising mouthfeel of CHOBANI

dip to dup (rob), Monday, 18 May 2020 17:42 (two months ago) link

one month passes...

Chitchat between sportscasters or weatherpeople and newsreaders after the former have finished their segment

vanjie wail (qiqing), Sunday, 21 June 2020 06:53 (one month ago) link

Unless it's "Then i won't have to wear my jacket?"

pplains, Sunday, 21 June 2020 17:41 (one month ago) link

two weeks pass...

I thought I was over it! But no — there’s a guy here working on our hvac system and I’m eating breakfast. I ran out of things I actually wanted to eat so I decided on yogurt (not chobani, different brand but still in a cup.)

I was swept away in a wave of irrational embarrassment from the moment I started eating it. I stood there w my spoon & my cup like a total boob. What’s my problem with yogurt??!!

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 6 July 2020 14:14 (one month ago) link

Tbh I think part of it is internalized ageism — that it feels like food for people without teeth aka babies or the very elderly. Eating it makes me feel feeble and powerless (irrationally).

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 6 July 2020 14:19 (one month ago) link

I've just eaten some yogurt because of this thread.

The Fields o' Fat Henry (Tom D.), Monday, 6 July 2020 14:26 (one month ago) link

is it also somewhat gendered? like "woman laughing alone with salad"? "elderly woman without teeth sitting alone with yogurt?"

sarahell, Wednesday, 8 July 2020 21:56 (four weeks ago) link

Liking yogurt is gendered in the US?

pomenitul, Wednesday, 8 July 2020 21:59 (four weeks ago) link

She’s not alone if she’s with the yogurt. You’ve got eight million friends in each cup.

rb (soda), Wednesday, 8 July 2020 22:00 (four weeks ago) link

growing up in the US in the 70s/80s -- yogurt was definitely marketed towards women esp. for weight loss

sarahell, Wednesday, 8 July 2020 22:01 (four weeks ago) link

Wolf erotica.

The Fields o' Fat Henry (Tom D.), Wednesday, 8 July 2020 22:02 (four weeks ago) link

cannae beat some classic ilx patter my man

Temporary Erogenous Zone (jim in vancouver), Wednesday, 8 July 2020 23:00 (four weeks ago) link

For I don’t think it’s gendered — I remember in college (way back in the 90s) being at the caf and a male friend of mine was eating yogurt. I could barely look at him! The way he was spooning it, the lack of need to chew. Ugh no.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 9 July 2020 02:22 (four weeks ago) link

two weeks pass...

Getting congratulated on my work anniversary by my Linkedin connections.

pplains, Wednesday, 29 July 2020 12:35 (one week ago) link


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