Ever been with, or been, a prostitute?

Question answer: no, not even tempted. I'd just be embarrassed.

Just dropped in to say that this thread is really, really skeezing me out.

(Reason I'm on this thread = I dare myself to read all sorts of things these days.)

gotta be more to that story, like how did you find out? Did she tell you before or after? What was your reaction? Inquiring minds wanna know, etc., etc.

Revive! There's got to be at least one ILXer who'll admit to hiring a real prostitute for real sex. None of this, "I gave a prostitute a cupcake" or "I dated an ex-prostitute" stuff.

Why don't you start a poll?

ILX0r you think is most likely to have been to a prostitute?

;-)

Which ILXor is most likely to have offered another money for sex?

As per usual, Gear always delivers.

the guy who filmed his friend throwing up crack rocks?

(3yr xpost)

When was the turning point where visiting a prostitute became socially unacceptable and embarrassing even 'among the boys'?

Former boss of mine once told me he had slept with several hundred prostitutes while in the Far East. He was proud of this as, in his mind, it didn't count as cheating on his wife while he was away from her.

The shitty thing about this thread is that it wd be one thing if we were likely to put our money where our collective mouth is and be like "HAY SEX WORKERS DESRVE RESPECT TOO, THAT'S COOL, SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE" and let it go, but the not-at-all disguised prurience I get from thread/revive sez to me that any admission here is going to be a downward spiral w/ sniggering and judgements made. So fuk all that.

XPOSTwas it ever that acceptable? There is some reference in an ancient Greek text to meeting a friend as you come out of a brothel being one of the most embarrassing things that could ever happen to you, and this in a society where prostitution was a very accepted part of social life.

I have oddly started wondering whether it might just be possible for a prostitute-client relationship not to be hideously exploitative and depressing, in the way that it is possible to have polite relationships with service industry people generally, but I kind of doubt it.

He was proud of this as, in his mind, it didn't count as cheating on his wife while he was away from her.

proud of paying for it (regardless of the being married thing)? whatta freak

I've been sniggered at by a prostitute.
xxpost

"trading places" could never happen ;_;

reminds me of a song

SHE WAS A PROSTITUTE
PROSTITUTE

When was the turning point where visiting a prostitute became socially unacceptable and embarrassing even 'among the boys'?

You mean what century?

When was the turning point where visiting a prostitute became socially unacceptable and embarrassing even 'among the boys'?

You mean what century?

No, I think this happened in the 20th Century.

There used to be (well, still is, in some quarters) the idea that nice girls *don't* have sex at all. Therefore visiting prostitutes was an item for manliness, showing that you were having sex. I think that it's much more acceptible these days, the idea that even nice girls can and do have sex - with the advent of free love, as it were, the idea of having to *pay* for sex became more demeaning than the cache of having sex.

Someone who used to be a prostitute in Coventry wrote me a bunch of letters when I was 18 and in university, basically saying she'd fallen in love with me. This would be one thing but we'd been in each other's company once, for about three hours, with several other people, loading stuff out of a removal van. I politely brushed her off and then she got married via a lonely hearts ad I think

Perhaps even on ILX there is too much public shame in admitting this.

I think this depends on what you mean by "among the boys". I think in some circles it still isn't exactly socially unacceptable - cf Wayne Rooney and friends, or some groups of City boys.

No, I think this happened in the 20th Century.

Yes, but hardly recently

i was propositioned, not once but twice, standing outside of one of my college dorms (yes, indcidently, on the corner. it was apparently a high-traffic area for that kind of thing.) so while i've never been a whore, i've at least looked like one.

Andi isn't a she, he's a goth-boy.

i know a girl who appeared on an episode of real sex. she was my roomate for about a year and...definitely had some sex addiction issues, would go to those types of parties and troll craigslist casual encounters, and be fine and not feel any guilt and be confident that she was having fun. i never judged her for this, even though it would make me really squeemish if i thought about it to much.

to my knowledge, she only had sex for money a few times, and after each one got extremely depressed and violent towards friends. even though she chose to do it and had so much sex that she "might as well get paid for it" it still made her feel x330243 worse about herself than a casual encounter/one night stand where no money was exchanged.

i know that doesn't apply to everyone, but i think there are usually awful consequences to your psyche/idea of self when you receive money for sex, and the whole idea of getting off on that is a bit creepy to me. i think maybe there should be shame involved for men who pay for sex, cos there definitely is shame, publicly and privately, for the women.

ILX loves you, never fear, whether you dress up in little costumes or not.

(xpost) I think it's the whole "getting used" bit; I know singers who are violently opposed to getting paid to sing because they feel it would ruin their enjoyment of their art.

Are there two Andis? Because those WDYLL photos were...kind of clearly a girl, I thought?

Are you thinking andi mags, Laurel?

(xpost) Haven't you seen "Silence of the Lambs"?

Not a troll. And I don't know what nude spock means. I don't really think I have anything to "confess".

x-posts

I think that for the most part, we can agree that adults should be allowed to engage in consensual sex acts for money given certain protections and restrictions.

But agreeing to that isn't the same thing as agreeing that prostitution, the way it's put into practice right now, (certainly in the US) is O.K. I think most of us can agree that current (mostly illegal and "underground" prostitution) is far too exploitative, abusive and/or physically and emotionally harmful to the prostitutes to be "O.K." for people to visit.

In fact, those two positions (in theory, prostitution is O.K.; the way is it currently practiced, it is not) in a lot of ways lead into one another, i.e., prostitution is crepey the way it is now (illegal), so maybe we should legalize it.

bill "nude spock" means, do you like to have sex with prostitutes while you wear vulcan ears, y/n?

Hey, I'm not stupid or insane (much), I know that pet names and fantasies are harmless. I know that fulfilling fantasies through role-playing is harmless. But still, when fantasy role-playing gets into simulations of pedophilia and incest I get squicked, and I said so. I'm pretty sure I didn't say anyone should be shamed by their fantasies, or go to jail for them, or even care what I think. So, if this is a big problem for you, please give me your arguments in favor of pedophilia and incest. Or climb a tree. Whatevs.

http://www.the-spine.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/10/tcspock.jpg

BAN MR. QUE

whuh? why? did i post tubgirl accidentally again?

hahahaha no but that was awesome

I think I might be, JMC.

On all other points, you are all fucking nutters (except max and bell b/c I love her). Oily, wtf are you even TALKING ABOUT?? If I cared to deal with your post srsly, I would be giving you my arguments in favor of FULFILLING FANTASIES, as you yourself just allowed for, not arguing for real-life rape/pedo/incest. Everyone is getting all emo'ed up here and being retarded.

on every ilx thread: someone accused of being nude spock not knowing who nude spock is

Que, you're getting banned because those are obviously FERENGI ears, not VULCAN.

(ps ban me)

Also Laurel, you know that max restated exactly what I said to libcrypt, which, when I said it, made you go "UGH YOU PEOPLE ARE SO BORING", right?

hahaha i had to google FERENGI, a good time though

PROSTITUTES

http://www.threatlab.com/albums/Defcon-X/ferengi_jpg.jpg

fantasies are one thing, putting them to the woman you just hired to blow you in those terms is another

Oh, Dan, you're not crazy. The economics convo at least made sense.

prostitution is like the drug war: it should be legal but that doesn't mean it's 'good,' just that it's hugely more damaging and expensive to police than any real utility we get back by doing so, to no real effect.

http://onewholeclove.typepad.com/one_whole_clove/images/palmier

i would eat that

rub-n-tug's = crazy prevalent in this town, and socially acceptable in a lot of circles.

i was apparently living right next to one of those places and didn't even know it until they got raided

prostitution is like the drug war: it should be legal but that doesn't mean it's 'good,' just that it's hugely more damaging and expensive to police than any real utility we get back by doing so, to no real effect.

I don't really buy this. Unlike prostitution, drugs are G*R*A*T*E.

Can you get the clap from doing drugs?

if you know a way to get a coronary embolism or grievous brain damage from paid sex, i'd like to subscribe to your newsletter

besides, that's not the point. spending tons of public $$$ and ruining lives to clamp down on supply when there's really no way to alter constant insatiable demand, is the problem. with both.

I grew up a block from a place that got raided for rub'n'tugs and was only shut down about a year after I moved away. Dude had a good thing going for 10 years.

the space is now a wedding chapel/reception place

same diff

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/0671021311.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg

Those women aren't being "exploited", they're raking in the dough, and seem to love what they do.

Uh-huh. Just keep telling yourself that, big boy.

They're also hideous looking. If that's the most attractive woman you can get, I don't blame you for having to buy "it", buddy.

'can get' is really not fitting in with that sentiment.

I was with a gorgeous black woman prostitute in D.C. once, yes. Big knockers as I recall.

Did I mention I have a weakness for black women with big knockers?

don't think so - thanks

I just started to like ILX a little less, so I guess you did

Did I mention I have a weakness for black women with big knockers?

YOU ARE TRENT REZNOR AND I CLAIM MY FIVE POUNDS.

Honestly, you really can't tell anything about a woman's wealth from the sound of her door chime.

lol bimble

Like I said upthread, I don't have too many hang-ups about sex. I never bought into a lot of the puritan bullshit they feed you in this country about sex between consenting adults.

― Bill Magill, Tuesday, September 4, 2007 3:37 PM (6 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Stand by that 7 years later. 110%

Unrelated, but how did Amsterdam get the hooker capital of the world reputation in the US when prostitution is essentially (or explicitly) legal in much of Europe and other cities have comparable red light districts?

Better Chamber of Commerce.

My best friend and I were only in college a few weeks when we got curious, bored and bored enough to call those numbers on the back page. We thought it could be cool having that gorgeous hunk of man pictured in the ad come to our dorm as we had no male visitors and every one else was hooking up with orgies (it seemed). So we called this male escort and his voice didn't quite match up with the photo but we kept talking, asking stupid questions like,"If you come to our dorm, what will you do?" UGH, 18! Finally asked him how much just to come and walk down the hall to our room (with the plan we'd leave the door open so everyone could see what a "great" time we were having with this stud. $100 and that was our art supply allowance. Turned into phone sex, giggling, a frustrated escort who became irate and finally told us to fuck off. Later, we were a bit depressed, so we made a bunch of prank calls to bars around town and that saved the night? Yes. Geeeeeez

This thread is interesting to read, but to get a wide array of straight answers it is better approached as poll material. btw, I have never been a prostitute or been with a prostitute, mainly because I find either possibility impossible to imagine myself doing, which tends to strangle the possibility before it ever could take on a tinge of reality.