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ok, here goes.
after a long long day i have had a few glasses of red wine, so please bear with me.
on april 6th 2011 my wife was told "in error" that she had stomach cancer.
[long story - but this should have happened in my presence at some later pre-arranged time, but the fact was dropped while i was on childcare duties 30 miles away .. ]
given that my wife had previously been to see her GP for 2 years re ongoing stomach issues this came as no real surprise, but still, 2 years is quite a long time to have such concerns.
[turned out to be a stomach ulcer that had been left untreated .. resulting in the cancerous growth, but still the advise is that it has not spread beyond the stomach]
so after a 3 month stretch of radical chemo, to isolate and focus the growth, the surgeon today removed my wifes stomach, meaning that today is the beginning of a whole new life for us all.
so, the question is : are there ILX'r who have been through this process, as i have no idea as to what happens next !
how will she be able to digest food etc ?
and far more importantly, will red wine be no longer suitable as a method for her to deal with the daily demands of modern life ?
oh, and in the spirit of the original thread (i hate cancer) : fuck cancer.

mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:25 (six years ago) Permalink

as far as i could tell (i looked - honest !) , ile needed a proper 'fuck cancer' thread.

mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:26 (six years ago) Permalink

=( Best of luck to both of you

Elderflower Gimcrax Flores (admrl), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:26 (six years ago) Permalink

Oh fuck, I'm so very sorry to hear that. btw there is a 'curse cancer' thread but fuck anyone who holds this thread against you.

ceci n'est pas une witty dn (Schlafsack), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:27 (six years ago) Permalink

mark e, I am so sorry you and your wife are facing this. I know a few people who have had some or all of their stomach removed, for various reasons - each has certain foods that aren't processed well and so those are avoided, but digestion starts with chewing and nutrients are absorbed in the small intestine. One friend takes an additional enzyme with each meal, but the others eat smaller meals more frequently. They all are able to still enjoy alcohol, though I'm sure that can vary. See if you can find a support group locally or on-line that can help with the questions/concerns you will both be confronting. I wish your wife a rapid return to health and strength.

Jaq, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:52 (six years ago) Permalink

while i understand and appreciate the concerns, can i just state the following : today is a great great] day.
the surgery went well, my wife is ok (as far as i know), and that is a massive, repeat massive thrill-buzz.
oh, and while red wine is not the answer to most of our daily stresses it can form part of our occasional parental release ..
(i would prefer a very loud listen-n-dance session to kylie, but hey, cant have everythintg ! )

mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:59 (six years ago) Permalink

others eat smaller meals more frequently. They all are able to still enjoy alcohol, though I'm sure that can vary.

have heard this from others.
only time will tell.


mark e, Thursday, 11 August 2011 00:28 (six years ago) Permalink

Fuck cancer indeed, so many of my relatives are dead from or are have contracted some form of cancer.

Super Villains With Drum Machines (MintIce), Thursday, 11 August 2011 13:39 (six years ago) Permalink

My paternal grandmother had her stomach removed for the same reason back in the 1960s. Although her meal size was reduced, she still very much enjoyed food and drink; one of the first things she taught my brother and me when we used to go and visit as wee lads was how to make a "proper" gin and tonic for her. She lived until she was 90.

I really hope your wife can continue to enjoy life in a similar spirit, and that she's making a fast and full recovery from the op.

that mustardless plate (Bill A), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 12:01 (six years ago) Permalink

cheers bill.
cant believe that its only 7 days since surgery given that yesterday she was looking so good, and up and walking (aka "thank f*ck for the nhs").
and yes, the advise seems to be that she can eat-n-drink whatever.
there may be some food types that may cause issue, but hopefully, the main impact will be that meal times will be a lot more relaxed as opposed to gobble-and-go.

mark e, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 12:06 (six years ago) Permalink

I guess it must not be too major to have your stomach removed since lots of people get their stomach removed who have a gastric bypass. I mean not too major compared to having your pancreas removed or your colon and getting an ostomy or something. I hope it goes well, I'm sure you will adapt in time and you will be just fine. SOrry to hear it

I love obscure members of the Athrotheiria mammal genus and... (Latham Green), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 13:34 (six years ago) Permalink

four months pass...

My grandfather is in the last stage of leukemia. I am trying to keep in mind he had a long and healthy life so far. But given that his life wasn't too great, it's difficult...

nathom, Friday, 13 January 2012 13:51 (six years ago) Permalink

two months pass...

exactly one year on and shit gets raised to a new level of emotional chaos.

we weren't even able to get away for 7 days for some well deserved family time without a mad midnight 250 mile dash to a&e.

oh, and all the positivity and hope i displayed earlier in this thread proved to be fucking worthless.

outcome post chemo/surgery : stage 4. terminal. no more treatment.

we currently live in waiting rooms dreading the test results.

fuck cancer.

mark e, Friday, 6 April 2012 20:47 (five years ago) Permalink

i'm really sorry, mark. my best wishes and support to you and your loved ones. and fuck cancer.

dayo, Friday, 6 April 2012 21:13 (five years ago) Permalink

mark, I'm so sorry. fuck cancer.

that mustardless plate (Bill A), Friday, 6 April 2012 22:29 (five years ago) Permalink

I am at a loss for words. I... I wish I could take some of the pain away. Fuck FUCK FUCK cancer. I am so so sorry.

Nathalie (stevienixed), Saturday, 7 April 2012 13:51 (five years ago) Permalink

How terrible. I wish you love. Fuck cancer.

World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:07 (five years ago) Permalink

Mark, I'm really, really sorry. My best wishes to you and your family.

God, Music and Romeo and Juliet (DJP), Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:17 (five years ago) Permalink

Echoing the above. Utterly terrible news.

Ned Raggett, Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:18 (five years ago) Permalink

two weeks pass...

emsley clan : -1

cancer scoreboard : +1

fuck cancer.

mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:27 (five years ago) Permalink

Mark, I'm so sorry; my condolences to you and your family.

I'M THAT POSTA, AAAAAAAAAH (DJP), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:29 (five years ago) Permalink

oh Mark I am so sorry. sending you love and support in this time.

cosi fan whitford (underrated aerosmith bootlegs I have owned), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:31 (five years ago) Permalink

echoing the above. my sincere condolences to all of you

dayo, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:35 (five years ago) Permalink

A hug and kiss for you, Mark.

Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:37 (five years ago) Permalink

echoing the above. my sincere condolences to all of you

― dayo, Thursday, April 26, 2012 8:35 AM (1 minute ago)

^^^ So sorry, Mark. Fuck cancer.

improvised explosive advice (WmC), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:39 (five years ago) Permalink

Sending you love and the tiniest lightening of this burden. I'm so sorry.

how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:40 (five years ago) Permalink

i'm so sorry mark.

diafiyhm (darraghmac), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:42 (five years ago) Permalink

Horrible news, very sorry to hear this, good thoughts to you and family Mark.

ooooiiiioooooooooooooooaaaaaaaaoooooh un - bi - leevable! (LocalGarda), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:46 (five years ago) Permalink

ta for the wired tlc ..

this just goes to prove that even in this day and age of techno miracles, in the majority of cases, the powers that be really dont have a grasp on this evil disease.

we were told back in december that there was a good chance of 12 months of settled life.

to say the last 4 months have been a living hell of health related shyte would be an understatement.

we have no let up from the hospital/a&e chaos, so in some ways, i'm glad that she is now no longer suffering, but damn, its heavy on those of us left behind.

mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:49 (five years ago) Permalink

how horrible, Mark. RIP, & I hope you too are able to find some peace in this.

Euler, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:50 (five years ago) Permalink

mark i'm so sorry for you and your family's loss, i hope you all get all the love and support you need

seapunk run. run punk run! (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:55 (five years ago) Permalink

Oh Mark, I'm so sorry to hear that. Wishing you all the strength in the world over the next few days and weeks.

btw didn't i braek ur heart (NickB), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:57 (five years ago) Permalink

That is horrible to hear, take care of yourself, man.

Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:58 (five years ago) Permalink

Also: fuck cancer.

Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:06 (five years ago) Permalink

Oh my God. I am so so sorry to read this. I can't imagine how horrible the past year must have been for you. My best wishes go out to you and your family.

wolf kabob (ENBB), Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:10 (five years ago) Permalink


My condolences.

Ned Raggett, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:27 (five years ago) Permalink

mark, I'm very sorry. words on a message board don't do it justice.

this just goes to prove that even in this day and age of techno miracles, in the majority of cases, the powers that be really dont have a grasp on this evil disease.

I switched oncologists recently, going to the big medical center named after one of the Rockefellers. My new guy is the teacher who taught my two old guys.

We went down the list, talking about the medications I had been given, what my diet could be, drawing a DNA helix on the paper of the examination chair and saying 45 minutes of exercise based on my age x 5 - 2 or something. That last one, "What does running up and down stairs have to do with cancer?" made him literally stroke his beard and say "We don't know. Everything I've told you is basically an educated guess at best."

Now, this guy is pretty educated, but every honest doctor would be the first to tell you that plugging tubes of poison into people's veins and blasting them with radiation is witchcraft at best.

pplains, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:51 (five years ago) Permalink

Now, this guy is pretty educated, but every honest doctor would be the first to tell you that plugging tubes of poison into people's veins and blasting them with radiation is witchcraft at best.

i have an uncle who is a highly qualified doctor in canada - and he basically told me this back last year, so while we were getting the 'we will cure you' story from various folks here, i've been quietly preparing for this outcome due to the insider information from him.

still, doesn't make dealing with the fallout any easier ..

good luck with your battle pplains - you have my heartfelt wishes and hopes for a more successful outcome.

for us, the big reveal was the discovery of an evil lump weeks after the completion of premium grade chemo that she underwent as that confirmed just how aggressive the fucker was.

(uncle confirmed that she got the best that was available .. so no complaints on that score)

mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 15:08 (five years ago) Permalink

Heartfelt condolences, mark. I'm so sorry that things turned out this way.

that mustardless plate (Bill A), Thursday, 26 April 2012 19:03 (five years ago) Permalink

i'm so very sorry, mark.

estela, Thursday, 26 April 2012 19:13 (five years ago) Permalink

Found out yesterday that mother in-law likely has pancreatic cancer. She got sick the day after we left for vacation, but apparently her doctor's been all kind of amazing and has run 6 months worth of tests in 2 weeks. From what I understand they think it's still in early stages, and possibly slow-growing though I'm still trying to make sense of everything so I don't exactly know all the details.

the worst part is that her Mum died of cancer when she was quite young, and her brother died of pancreatic cancer a couple of years ago, so it's just like AAAAAGGGGH FUCK YOU CANCER SERIOUSLY

the gallows-humor lighter side is that because of a blocked bile duct she now has a major case of jaundice. She said over the phone that she was pretty green, but when she answered the door mr Veg and I were like, 'Whoa. you weren't kidding.' Wicked Witch of the West level neon green. It's really weird!

We visited with her yesterday - she's very scared, tired, etc, but still very much herself. I love her so much...it just fucks me up that she's dealing with all of this. Ugh!


Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:17 (five years ago) Permalink



hope they caught the fucker in time peppermint.

mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 20:30 (five years ago) Permalink

I know. I'd like to have her around for a lot longer :)

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:38 (five years ago) Permalink

btw, my condolences to you, mark...a big DOUBLE FUCK YOU CANCER

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:42 (five years ago) Permalink

cheers pepper.

borderline alcoholism + v. loud music helps.

a little.

mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 20:48 (five years ago) Permalink

<3 <3 <3

Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:58 (five years ago) Permalink

my mother in law was diagnosed with terminal cancer on Friday. Somehow the fucking doctor she has been getting x-rays and cat scans from for the last five years completely missed the huge tumor crushing her heart. My wife had to take an emergency red-eye last night and fortunately made it home before her mom died. now they're waiting for more tests.

fuck you, incompetent doctors, fuck you cancer, etc.

sleeve, Monday, 30 April 2012 21:31 (five years ago) Permalink

Somehow the fucking doctor she has been getting x-rays and cat scans from for the last five years completely missed the huge tumor crushing her heart.

due to the time, i am assuming you are US based pepper, cos this scarily similar to our situation.

3 years of 'problems' that were ignored cos it would have cost a few quid to send bh for a CT scan ..

so, yes fuck you incomp. doctors and fuck you tory policy to make doctors even more important in the decision making process.

once bh was escalated to the next level of care then it has to be said, the care was absolutely fantastic, but the fact of the matter is that he problems were ignored by the the GPs for 3 years .. and the GPs defence : 'bh is too young to get stomach cancer'

ok, time for more wine ..

mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 21:39 (five years ago) Permalink

hang in there, also check out the revive on the Steve Albini thread, very inspiring.

sleeve, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 00:36 (five years ago) Permalink

I was told just today that my aunt was in the final stages of her cancer, so I feel you. It's amazing how much money + resources gets pumped into research and how it's still such a crapshoot of who survives and who doesn't.

musicfanatic, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 00:47 (five years ago) Permalink

it is terrifying how many stories of hospital error there are, specifically in this thread.

AdamVania (Adam Bruneau), Saturday, 21 January 2017 01:50 (one year ago) Permalink

Thanks Dr. Morbius and Adam

larry appleton, Saturday, 21 January 2017 01:55 (one year ago) Permalink

Very sorry for your loss. Fuck cancer.

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Saturday, 21 January 2017 18:14 (one year ago) Permalink

one month passes...

just an update: surgery (2 of them) went fine and he is actually growing new hairs from his new nose! a few more surgeries to come but so far it is promising...

ofc they got a bill from that botched operation where they nearly killed my mom, charging them for the unnecessary blood transfusions that were entirely the fault of the hospital. someone's gonna get sued...

AdamVania (Adam Bruneau), Friday, 24 February 2017 00:28 (eleven months ago) Permalink

Another update: both my wife and my dad had to stop their chemo early because they had too many side effects. But both of their tumours shrank significantly before this.

My wife had surgery yesterday, she is in hospital at the moment. She has traces of MRSA so they are keeping her in til Monday as a precaution. In a few weeks she will start radiotherapy. This is going to be a logistical nightmare because they do not offer radiotherapy where we live, she'll have to go 35-45 miles every day for 3 weeks to another town (not decided which yet) and we have no car.

My dad has another week of radiotherapy to go. He has to have a heart monitor fitted because he had some heart trouble as part of his reaction to chemo, but after that no more treatment. Then 3 months wait then more tests to see if he is clear of cancer or not.

Transform All Suffering Into Poo (Colonel Poo), Friday, 24 February 2017 20:02 (eleven months ago) Permalink

This is going to be a logistical nightmare because they do not offer radiotherapy where we live, she'll have to go 35-45 miles every day for 3 weeks to another town (not decided which yet) and we have no car.

the chaos of an evil lump is beyond belief until you experience such shyte ..
you have my heartfelt love CP.

mark e, Friday, 24 February 2017 20:21 (eleven months ago) Permalink

thanks Mark

Transform All Suffering Into Poo (Colonel Poo), Friday, 24 February 2017 20:41 (eleven months ago) Permalink

two weeks pass...

Cancer still won't fuck off. They didn't get it all, so instead of radiotherapy there's another 2 months of chemo starting beginning of April and THEN radiotherapy.

Colonel Poo, Thursday, 16 March 2017 12:35 (eleven months ago) Permalink

Goddamnit. Very sorry Colonel. Wishing you two all strength and all the best.

Le Bateau Ivre, Thursday, 16 March 2017 15:42 (eleven months ago) Permalink

Damn. Love and best to you both indeed.

Ned Raggett, Thursday, 16 March 2017 15:49 (eleven months ago) Permalink

best to you from a chemo vet.

Supercreditor (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 16 March 2017 16:04 (eleven months ago) Permalink

And now my wife has MRSA and has to go back into hospital, again.

The surgeon is blaming the oncologist for sending her for mastectomy too soon after chemo so her immune system was still too vulnerable. We're supposed to be trusting these people, tbh it's pretty unprofessional imo to say that, it's not like the surgeon didn't know she was having chemo and she didn't say anything at the time, just sounds like she's trying to cover her own arse.

So now my wife is probably going to be stuck in a ward with a load of incompetent nurses sitting around doing fuck all again, why is it always a Friday when she has to go in, seems like they put all their worst staff on at weekends. The ward she was in last month there was an old woman with dementia who'd had an eye taken out after she fell and skewered it on something, they had a nurse sit with her to keep an eye on her, she kept trying to remove the bandage and stick her finger in the eye hole and the fucking useless nurse just sat playing with her phone and let her do it. My wife had to keep trying to get the nurse's attention to point it out.

Colonel Poo, Friday, 24 March 2017 15:26 (ten months ago) Permalink

JFC. Sorry CP.

Tim, Friday, 24 March 2017 15:30 (ten months ago) Permalink

Sorry CP, you're really being put through it all. That's terrible about the nurse/surgeon. Once that trust is put in question it multiplies anxiety x10000

kinder, Friday, 24 March 2017 15:46 (ten months ago) Permalink

If it's anything like US hospitals that person was probably not a nurse though they are happy to have patients think so

chip n dale recuse rangers (Jon not Jon), Friday, 24 March 2017 15:48 (ten months ago) Permalink

CP I'm so sorry you're going through this

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 24 March 2017 15:58 (ten months ago) Permalink

sending u good thoughts and some vintage punk rock vibes, CP

sleeve, Friday, 24 March 2017 16:04 (ten months ago) Permalink

My mum's cousin has cancer now too. Fucking cancer everywhere. What are the fucking odds. 4 family members in less than 12 months. First cousin once removed might be stretching it I suppose.

Colonel Poo, Friday, 24 March 2017 16:08 (ten months ago) Permalink

sorry that you're going through so much shit cp. hope you haven't got too far to travel between home and the hospital

jay kay huysmans (NickB), Friday, 24 March 2017 16:27 (ten months ago) Permalink

our best to you all in this horrific situation M

an uptempo Pop/Hip Hop mentality (imago), Saturday, 25 March 2017 19:08 (ten months ago) Permalink

one month passes...

I'm reminded today of small mercies. B is between treatment at the moment. I can't even imagine what it would be like if we were having to deal with the hospital with the computer system down. Even this makes me feel guilty that there are people out there facing utter confusion.

Colonel Poo, Friday, 12 May 2017 22:46 (nine months ago) Permalink

three weeks pass...

Fucking incompetent bastards :(

Patient transport supposed to be taking my wife to radiotherapy. They fucked up the appointments so nobody came this morning. My wife phoned up PT to see what was going on and they said they'd sort it out and send someone. Nobody came. So I call PT and after being on hold for ages they can't find anything on the system for today still. They have to speak to supervisor and call me back. Turns out the person my wife called this morning fucked it up and put tomorrow instead of today. What the fucking shit is wrong with these cunts. So no radiotherapy today and we'll have to try and sort it out with the hospital, I guess they'll put in an extra appointment at the end of the treatment? There's no fucking end to this is there.

Colonel Poo, Monday, 5 June 2017 11:56 (eight months ago) Permalink

I'm sorry for you and anyone who suffers incompetence in these circumstances, Colonel.

Supercreditor (Dr Morbius), Monday, 5 June 2017 12:01 (eight months ago) Permalink

two weeks pass...

Cancer fucked. My wife has just finished her last dose of radiotherapy. That's the end of her hospital treatment - she'll be taking hormone pills indefinitely.

Mixed emotions today. Happy obviously, but worried about the future. Odds of reoccurring are high. 5 year survival is 40%.

Colonel Poo, Friday, 23 June 2017 13:47 (eight months ago) Permalink

I'd say be present in the moment man

Congratulations, I'm really happy about your news.

El Tomboto, Friday, 23 June 2017 14:06 (eight months ago) Permalink

yeah it sounds like at least some move towards hope - pleased to hear it. good wishes to you both.

Bein' Sean Bean (LocalGarda), Friday, 23 June 2017 14:23 (eight months ago) Permalink

all the best to you both - tombot's advice otm

total eclipse of the beefheart (bizarro gazzara), Friday, 23 June 2017 14:25 (eight months ago) Permalink

Ta. Is the correct advice. Bit emotional right now (right now? lol when am I not) but I've got a while til she gets home to pull myself together.

Colonel Poo, Friday, 23 June 2017 14:29 (eight months ago) Permalink

Godspeed, Colonel. I'm still here and thriving (mostly) 5 years after my diagnosis so leave those stats alone is my advice.

Supercreditor (Dr Morbius), Friday, 23 June 2017 14:31 (eight months ago) Permalink

Best to you too, Morbs.

Re stats, if this was 20 years ago we'd be looking at 5% survival at 5 years so there is that at least.

Colonel Poo, Friday, 23 June 2017 14:37 (eight months ago) Permalink

all the best to you yes, it seems to have been a horrendous time but a note of hope now yes

imago, Friday, 23 June 2017 14:57 (eight months ago) Permalink

Very glad to hear this man, you've been in my thoughts a bit, my best to you and your missus.

Andrew Farrell, Friday, 23 June 2017 15:20 (eight months ago) Permalink

Congratulations to you and your wife for getting through treatment. Here's to the best possible path forward.

a butt groove but for feet (DJP), Friday, 23 June 2017 15:31 (eight months ago) Permalink

Congratulations and best wishes to you both. Hope you have a long overdue chance to relax, try to de-stress and do what Tombot says. Wishing you all the best.

a passing spacecadet, Friday, 23 June 2017 15:45 (eight months ago) Permalink

Echoing all the above -- absolutely best to you both.

Ned Raggett, Friday, 23 June 2017 17:17 (eight months ago) Permalink

after everything you've both gone through the tears are understandable. best to your wife, that is pretty damn good news:)

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 23 June 2017 17:39 (eight months ago) Permalink

Fingers crossed for you pal and B.

Odysseus, Friday, 23 June 2017 23:45 (eight months ago) Permalink

This is very good news, C.P. Best to you both, hope you'll be free of hassle for a long, long time.

Le Bateau Ivre, Friday, 23 June 2017 23:50 (eight months ago) Permalink

Relieved to hear this news, take care of B (and of yourself as well, obviously).

ailsa, Saturday, 24 June 2017 17:21 (seven months ago) Permalink

best news i have heard in a very long time.

onwards CP.

mark e, Saturday, 24 June 2017 18:35 (seven months ago) Permalink

seven months pass...

Three friends / colleagues are undergoing treatment for cancer at the moment. One a little older than me, two younger, one of them by several years. Two of them have breast cancer. Prognosis is good for all three - all caught early and acted upon.

But still.

Fuck cancer.

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Wednesday, 24 January 2018 10:04 (four weeks ago) Permalink

Hopefully things are still going well for you and yours, CP.

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Wednesday, 24 January 2018 10:05 (four weeks ago) Permalink

my older sister was diagnosed with breast cancer last month. because of the size of the lump she was going to have a mastectomy pretty much straightaway, but when they got the results of the biopsy back it was a different strain to what they'd expected (don't ask me what) so she's been on a course of chemo since christmas instead. my wife's actually gone upto see her today to go with her to get her head shaved because it's just been falling out in big clumps. been stuggling with the cycle of sickness and tiredness. her doctor has told her that it probably won't kill her but it will be a horrible few months of treatment, so she's just gone into grit-yer-teeth-and-get-through-it mode. fuck though, these things just come straight out of the blue at you :/

faust apes (NickB), Wednesday, 24 January 2018 10:42 (four weeks ago) Permalink

One of the people I know with breast cancer was my direct report at work until November, then she got the job as my backfill while I'm working on a project for a year. She's 32, planning on getting married this year, in good health, no family history of breast cancer. Literally come out of nowhere.

Fuck cancer.

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Wednesday, 24 January 2018 10:50 (four weeks ago) Permalink

two weeks pass...

Fuck you, cancer, for taking my (LOTSA people's) aunt Sally today. You pathetic weakling bully, you had the doctors convinced that she'd last no more than half a year, but she fought you for more than double that, and still found time to work on her arts/crafts, turn 80, cheer the kids (and kids' kids, and other people's kids) on in their various pastimes, raise & release a coupla monarchs from pupae, finally try edibles (underwhelming), and see her latest (twin) great-grandbabies, #s 13 & 14, almost beginning to stand. All the while gleefully bitching about the usual, like the Blue Jays' playoff pratfalls and casino meals and the jackass moron president down south, and especially the ailments you gave her; and always with a laugh and a smoke and an ashtray at hand. She fought you every step, motherfucker.

Scape: Goat-fired like a dog! (Myonga Vön Bontee), Sunday, 11 February 2018 20:46 (one week ago) Permalink

sorry :(

It's not delivery, it's Adorno! (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Monday, 12 February 2018 01:43 (one week ago) Permalink

thanks ums

Scape: Goat-fired like a dog! (Myonga Vön Bontee), Monday, 12 February 2018 03:51 (one week ago) Permalink

fuck this god damned cuntball of a shitting fucking fuck

reverse-periscoping (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 16 February 2018 09:11 (one week ago) Permalink

sorry for vagueness, i have no words but need to spray words

reverse-periscoping (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 16 February 2018 09:11 (one week ago) Permalink

aunt sally sounds like a wonderful person MVB who clearly made the best of her groove.
if i get to see any great grandkids then i will die a very content man.

that said, still it needs to be said often : fuck cancer.

mark e, Friday, 16 February 2018 10:30 (one week ago) Permalink

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