Does going on holidays ever cause you so much stress that you think you'd just be better off staying at home?

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I've got to get a week's work done in four days, drive the dogs to a kennels where they've never been before, buy a birthday present for the person I'm going to see, and find my stupid prescription and fill it before I go. Plus all the sorting out plants, fish, and various other things so they won't all be dead when I come back, and the worry about what they'll have banned at the airport/what new luggage charges they'll have introduced to prevent me from getting on the plane without handing over more cash.

The week before going on holidays is always a stressful time for me. If I lived on my own, I don't think I'd ever travel anywhere.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:13 (fourteen years ago) link

Added to which, when I came downstairs this morning, Cody dog couldn't open his eyes and had to be rushed to the vet. Now he has to wear one of those collars, have cream in his eyes three times a day, and have two tablets a day for the next five days, and we're going away in three days. STUPID FUCKING DOG!

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:14 (fourteen years ago) link

YES

electricsound, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:14 (fourteen years ago) link

i have a holiday to the UK starting at the end of next week and it's causing me so much stress i almost wish i'd spent all the money on nice microphones or something

electricsound, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:15 (fourteen years ago) link

I can't help thinking that there's something very wrong when going on holidays is one of the things that causes you to need tranquilisers from the doctor.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:17 (fourteen years ago) link

Maybe you guys are going on the wrong holidays.

A change of scenery is required, yes. But do you have to go halfway around the world to get it?

Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:19 (fourteen years ago) link

i don't need a change of scenery. tbh i'm doing this far more for the friend i'm meeting up with than myself

dear oh dear

electricsound, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:20 (fourteen years ago) link

I too am going to visit someone. And it's not even half way around the world, it's just four hours away by plane. But it's the not being able to bring the dogs that always causes the problem. Now I need to phone the kennels and make sure they will be able to give Cody his drops and his meds and what am I going to do if they say no?

(I am often like this when I am just going out for the night as well. It's often better if I just don't do anything to deviate from my routine at all.)

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:23 (fourteen years ago) link

It'll all be worth it Accentmonkey. Best of luck to Cody.

kv_nol, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:46 (fourteen years ago) link

i'd give anything to be away from here

696, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:47 (fourteen years ago) link

Ditto.

kv_nol, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:55 (fourteen years ago) link

Yes. Hence I regularly just book time off work and hang out at home with the phone unplugged, watching DVDs and eating chocolate in my pyjamas. (Or at least I did until sprog.)

Archel, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 11:59 (fourteen years ago) link

Get rid of the dogs. Or get rid of the friends.

(I think I know which I'd pick.)

Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:01 (fourteen years ago) link

So do they.

kv_nol, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:11 (fourteen years ago) link

The week before going on holidays is always a stressful time for me.

the things at work I am endlessly putting off often only get done when I stay late the night before I go on holidays.

If my employers are reading this, maybe you should arrange for me to go holidays every two weeks.

The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:13 (fourteen years ago) link

archel, isn't that what weekends are for?

am bad at holidays. can't think of anywhere i'd want to go, especially on my own. i end up getting to december and having 3/4s of a year's holiday entitlement left.

koogs, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:13 (fourteen years ago) link

i'm ace at holidays. but i still can't persuade anyone to go to uzbekistan :(

Noodle Vague, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:15 (fourteen years ago) link

Going on holidays is a world of hassle though. Or preparing to go on holidays. Many's the time my beloved are so tired we are sobbing the night before we fly away on some stupid trip.

I am finding the whole travelling thing a world of pain. Airports are too crowded, low cost airlines have skangerised the flying experience, and there is all that prickology about imaginary liquid bombers. Last time I went away I tried the boat and train as an alternative... and had to endure endless delays and concentration camp conditions.

The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:17 (fourteen years ago) link

can't think of anywhere i'd want to go, especially on my own.

This is problematic.

I can actually think of a few places that I'd like to go, but then end up getting teh ph34r about going on mine own, and don't. I'm a big fat wimp about setting off to the Faroe Islands or somewhere on mine own.

I've lucked into my holidays in the past year, through being offered places to go by friends or family. But I've made quite sure they're low stress places to get to. I totally can't do airplanes. I just can't. Also, not having dogs or committments around the house helps.

Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:18 (fourteen years ago) link

Noodle, Mister M would go with you. He really wants to go to that end of the world and see all old things. I have made my position on visiting the 'stan' countries quite clear.

NO to stans.

Vicar, yes. I've got to say that the flight to and from Bristol for ATP earlier this year, a mere 45 minutes each way, was such a nightmare that I'm reconsidering ever flying Skangair ever again, even on a short hop like that.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:20 (fourteen years ago) link

Of course there's more stress involved when going on a holiday! So many things to do, so little time. That said, I badly need an escape.

nathalie, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:21 (fourteen years ago) link

Get rid of the dogs. Or get rid of the friends.

Thing is, if the regulations for bringing the dogs were looser, I could just bring them with me. The flight's not that long and my friend is very fond of them. Also Nova Scotia is a pretty dog-friendly place. It would solve all my problems.

All will be fine though. I just needed to freak out for a little while, espeically because I put Cody's plastic collar on to stop him scratching at his eye, and he freaked out and peed himself and slammed into a chair and then tried to pull the collar off over his head and broke his own collar in the process. Not calming at all.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:23 (fourteen years ago) link

holidays taken so far this year - dentist appointment, haircut, waiting in for plumber, waiting in for decorator. = 3.5 days (bit annoyed about that because they were all groups of half days and i was working weekends anyway - should be time off in lieu. they also promised to pay me for days i didn't take last year. 4 months later and i'm still waiting...)

koogs, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:27 (fourteen years ago) link

where in UK mr sound?

koogs, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:28 (fourteen years ago) link

I was wondering this too.

aldo, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:30 (fourteen years ago) link

I was kinda kidding about getting rid of the dogs - I'm not actually that heartless. So many of my childhood holidays involve happy memories of rumpusing around with the dog. Heck, we even bought my first dog while on holiday in Cornwall.

But keeping animals is one of those things that kind of limits your holiday options. Flying with animals... wow. No.

Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:31 (fourteen years ago) link

londondondon. i will be staying near vauxhall station for a few days.. then going oop north for a few.. then coming back to london again, not sure where i'm staying yet.

xpost

electricsound, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:34 (fourteen years ago) link

electric sound in London??!!?

ILX0Rpollooza 2, anyone?

No wait... NO. FAPping in order, surely?

Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:38 (fourteen years ago) link

I was kinda kidding about getting rid of the dogs

I know it.

The lesson I've learned from the prep work for this holiday is: don't go on holidays during the peak holiday periods. Because I normally go on holidays in September, October, November, or January, I really had no idea what a pain in the ass it is trying to do things at this time of the year. Kennels, vets, doctors, passport offices, etc., all packed.

Of course I reaise that this is like a tourist getting on the train at 7.30 in the morning and saying "hey, your public transport system is really crowded!" and for that I am sorry.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:38 (fourteen years ago) link

I'll turn this car around right now!

Ronan, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:44 (fourteen years ago) link

Never EVER go on holiday when schools are on holiday. Even if you like children, it's likely to put you off them - and holidays - for life.

Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:46 (fourteen years ago) link

Flying gets more and more unpleasant every time I do it. I fly so much for work that the last thing I want to do when I am on holiday is start it in an airport. I can do with out the queues, the shoescoatlaptop dance, the delays, the getting scanned for a second time, arararagh.

I'm looking forward to two weeks walking in wales with children.

Ed, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 12:56 (fourteen years ago) link

can't think of anywhere i'd want to go, especially on my own.

I've often thought about how if you set up a guidebook series to places aimed at the solo traveller, you would clean up. Lots of people have noone to go on holidays with, but would like to go on holidays. They need a guidebook that will tell them restaurants to go to where they won't feel weird eating alone. and so on.

The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:18 (fourteen years ago) link

Never EVER go on holiday when schools are on holiday.

but what if you are a teacher, or *shudder* have children?

The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:19 (fourteen years ago) link

My condolences.

But clearly you wouldn't teach or spawn unless you could actually put up with the little horrors. ;-)

Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:20 (fourteen years ago) link

And the "solo holiday" thing would probably take off. But only if you catered if for the more mature traveller, rather than the "sex and singles" young persons on the pull kind of thing. Which is already catered to.

Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:21 (fourteen years ago) link

The eating alone thing can be a bit of a bugger, I don't mind so much during the week, but on the weekends you do feel a bit of a numpty.

Ed, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:24 (fourteen years ago) link

(I am often like this when I am just going out for the night as well. It's often better if I just don't do anything to deviate from my routine at all.)

OTM. I used to travel so much and now it's been years since I even left the state! (well except for that break neck 36 hour trip to Detroit)

But yes pets (especially dogs. And iguanas.) complicate travel immensely. Ours have even hampered visiting my family who are only a three-hour drive away.

Ms Misery, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:25 (fourteen years ago) link

We should house-swap, Ms. M. You would get to be near(ish) to ilxors in Dublin, beside the Irish sea, and near some of Ireland's most ancient historical sites. I would get to be somewhere warm.

The eating alone thing can be a bit of a bugger

There are already loads of holidays you can take on your own, but they are tours rather than solo traveller things. Mister M and I met quite a few solo travellers when we were in New Zealand. The kind of hostels we were staying in were very mature-quiet-person-travelling-alone-friendly. They had single rooms as well as dorms, no televisions or bars, and comfy chairs for reading books in as well as hanging out and chatting.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:29 (fourteen years ago) link

But New Zealand is too far away to go to every holiday.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:29 (fourteen years ago) link

House-swapping really sounds lovely.

Ms Misery, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:31 (fourteen years ago) link

We will do it next year. We can't do it this year, we've already used all our holidays.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:32 (fourteen years ago) link

I guess it is more difficult because I am working rather on holiday most of the time and I'm in the wrong mindset after a day in the office.

Ed, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:35 (fourteen years ago) link

Travelling for work is something I simply couldn't do. My older brother travels for work all the time as well, and I don't know how he stays sane. I would hate it.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:41 (fourteen years ago) link

I am loosing two weekends this month, it is taking its toll.

Ed, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:42 (fourteen years ago) link

I hope you are paid well, Ed.

Ms Misery, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:46 (fourteen years ago) link

Not as well as I should be, but the work environment is good.

Ed, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 13:51 (fourteen years ago) link

Going to work is causing me enough stress that I'd rather go on holiday and not come home

mh, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 14:00 (fourteen years ago) link

I am loosing two weekends this month, it is taking its toll.

This is one of the things about work travel that really pisses me off. If Mister M is visiting the Mothership, he usually flies out on a Saturday and home again on a Saturday, so he gets two full weeks in California. But then he has lost two full weekends to work and work-related tiredness. I don't think it's fair at all.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 14:09 (fourteen years ago) link

I at least get them back as extra holiday.

Ed, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 14:11 (fourteen years ago) link

Mister M does not. Sadface.

accentmonkey, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 14:14 (fourteen years ago) link

There is some stress beforehand, but all in all hols are definitely LESS stressful than real life.

Deciding where to go (must be warm, good food, swimming) is not too stressful. We always decide at the last minute anyway.

Paperwork and shit - no problem.

Packing - don't get me started. Ultra-stressful! Me and Mrs. Dr.C are at opposite extremes. I'm ultra minimalist and pack 2 t-shirts about 2 weeks before we go, and she takes everything but the kitchen sink and starts packing 5 mins before the taxi comes. Then there's the kids and their stuff :(

Sorting out the house ready to go is tedious. There's always something you forget that leaves the fridge smelling like a farmyard when you get back. Then you're on the way to the airport and you can't remember if you gave whoever's feeding the cat your spare keys. And you haven't got their phone number to phone and check.

From then on it's all fun. Unless you hurt your back swimming and can't move at all (Italy, 2006). Or the missus attempts to amputate a finger in the car door (France, 2004).

Dr.C, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 15:23 (fourteen years ago) link

I am loosing two weekends this month, it is taking its toll.

LOOSE OR ELSE!

The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 11 July 2007 15:52 (fourteen years ago) link

I haven't been on holidays for 2 & 1/2 years because the last time I did, my boss insisted he couldn't do without a temp for 2 weeks. She then called me almost every morning wanting to know how to use MS Word.

I can actually think of a few places that I'd like to go, but then end up getting teh ph34r about going on mine own, and don't.
This is my situation at present. The thought of not knowing the language or getting lost fills me with trepidation, but if I don't go now, I never will. So I will just have to grow some balls and do it.

accentmonkey, have a fabulous holiday & enjoy revisiting the site of your nuptials.

Hard like armour, Friday, 13 July 2007 01:58 (fourteen years ago) link

It's horrible stressful preparing to travel. In addition to all my work stuff, I always have to drive my mother to some other relative's house, as I won't be on hand in case of medical emergency.
But as soon as we succeed in parking our butts in a plane seat, the magic begins.
I love getting away!
I haven't been off this island since, I don't know—April? And that was just to shuttle my mom to my sister's house in Connecticut.

Aren't house trades a hassle in that you have to get your house presentable?

Beth Parker, Friday, 13 July 2007 02:52 (fourteen years ago) link

Holidays are bad for the heart

badg, Friday, 13 July 2007 03:21 (fourteen years ago) link

NEVER.

gr8080, Friday, 13 July 2007 03:22 (fourteen years ago) link

Actually, in reponse to my own question upthread, I guess getting the house ready for a trade wouldn't be so different from the usual pre-trip drill—getting the house very tidy so it won't be so depressing to come back home.

Beth Parker, Friday, 13 July 2007 23:55 (fourteen years ago) link

You know, until I had my own house, I never got why you'd need to clean before you left. "What, mom, are you afraid we'll get robbed and the thieves will have to see we have a messy house?"

But then, after first vacation while living On My Own. "Heheh, mom was so dumb." But then: THE DEPRESSING GROSS, yes! and worse yet, the cockroaches. :(

Abbott, Saturday, 14 July 2007 00:28 (fourteen years ago) link

Well, the house is all clean, the dogs are packed off to the nice German kennels where the nice man will look after them and give Cody his eye drops and call the vet if there's a problem.

Just the airport security shite to get through now, and then it's Canada, whales, nice restaurants, bookshops, The Bounty, and pirate ships. EXCITEMENT!

accentmonkey, Saturday, 14 July 2007 07:13 (fourteen years ago) link

'm ace at holidays. but i still can't persuade anyone to go to uzbekistan :(

My sister is currently visiting all the stans right now.

Elvis Telecom, Saturday, 14 July 2007 08:05 (fourteen years ago) link

I don't want to go to anyplace where there's even a whisper of danger. I am a coward.

Beth Parker, Saturday, 14 July 2007 12:37 (fourteen years ago) link

"I haven't been on holidays for 2 & 1/2 years because the last time I did, my boss insisted he couldn't do without a temp for 2 weeks. She then called me almost every morning wanting to know how to use MS Word."

THIS IS SO VERY WRONG.

scott seward, Saturday, 14 July 2007 14:22 (fourteen years ago) link

Safe trip and have a great time accentmonkey! May your mutinies be fun!

kv_nol, Sunday, 15 July 2007 11:18 (fourteen years ago) link


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