Certain people you keep seeing all the time (on gigs or demonstrations or festivals, in cinemas or pubs, at the campus, etc), but don't actually know them.

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Do you feel the urge to say hi to them when you come across them? Should you eventually just introduce yourself to them?

Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:24 (sixteen years ago) link

theres this one girl, she was working at this chinese place when i was on a date w/ another girl & stupidly went through this whole 'wait, do i know you from somewhere?' thing that looks like flirting, in front of my date, then i realized id drunkenly hit on her at a gallery opening & kinda slunk away, since then ive seen her like at least once a week at my coffee shop & the grocery across the street & the utrecht art supply store & 2 of the 3 bars i usually hit - wtf

and what (ooo), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:29 (sixteen years ago) link

A lot of my core group of friends stem from them being 'that guy who's always at the same gigs as me'. It tends to get to the stage where it's more unnatural to not talk to them than it is to just fall into conversation. This way, however, there's always the danger of leaving it too long to ever ask their name, because you feel you really should know it by now.

emil.y (emil.y), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:37 (sixteen years ago) link

for me this person is dickon from orlando.

EARLY-90S MAN (Enrique), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:39 (sixteen years ago) link

There's the dude on the train sometimes who looks a bit like my mate Luke and reads Mac User magazine. But I doubt fellow commuters count. He's about the only one I'd talk to.

Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:41 (sixteen years ago) link


teeny (teeny), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:41 (sixteen years ago) link

I did meet my best friend this way though.

teeny (teeny), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:45 (sixteen years ago) link

I've got better at talking to these people. Even a couple of years ago I'd have hidden in the corner, trying to not look in their direction, but after 4+ years standing in the same room as some of these people, it's a bit silly not to say hi to them.

I still regret not talking to this guy who was on my course at uni and worked behind the bar at a venue. Actually I don't think I talked to more than 10 people on my course (out of 180ish), and I spent 4 years sitting in the same lecture room as them.

jellybean (jellybean), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:48 (sixteen years ago) link

beatle bob, hahaha

Sam: Screwed and Chopped (Molly Jones), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:48 (sixteen years ago) link

A lot of my core group of friends stem from them being 'that guy who's always at the same gigs as me'.

This sounds amazing, like the way people make friends in movies and sitcoms. I never end up talking to, let alone making friends with, these people.

g00blar (gooblar), Monday, 25 September 2006 13:49 (sixteen years ago) link

Does anyone really know Beatle Bob?

Rufus 3000 (Mr Noodles), Monday, 25 September 2006 14:14 (sixteen years ago) link

define "know." he lives here in st louis.

teeny (teeny), Monday, 25 September 2006 14:20 (sixteen years ago) link

I've seen him out many times in Austin over the years. never felt the need to befriend.

Sam: Screwed and Chopped (Molly Jones), Monday, 25 September 2006 14:21 (sixteen years ago) link

Does anyone really know Beatle Bob?

rock u like a § (ex machina), Monday, 25 September 2006 14:22 (sixteen years ago) link

I met Beatle Bob in 1997 at a music conference in St. Louis, WTF kind of person is he supposed to be haha.

a naked Kraken annoying Times Square tourists with an acoustic guitar (nickalici, Monday, 25 September 2006 14:34 (sixteen years ago) link

In a city of this size the scenes are pretty small, so often it happens these people happen to be friends of friends, which is how I finally get to speak to them. But occasionally I just go and talk to them, even though it can be kinda awkward, especially since, if they're girls, "I've seen you somewhere" can sound like a bad pick-up line.

There's this one girl I've had a casual long-distance crush for at least five years; she's actually been to my flat while I wasn't there, and later on she was living right next to me, and we also met at parties, but even though she seems really nice it feels like we've destined to bump to each other maybe once a year and exchange a few words, and no more.

Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 25 September 2006 14:36 (sixteen years ago) link

there are 2000 people on my campus, and i've been here 3 years, so that's about half the people i see on a daily basis by this point. if i see someone at 2 events in a week, or in class and at some kind of event, then it's odd not to start a conversation; this means there are a lot of people i've met but don't really remember.

Maria (Maria), Monday, 25 September 2006 14:37 (sixteen years ago) link

for me this person is stewart lee from lee and herring

Ward Fowler (Ward Fowler), Monday, 25 September 2006 14:45 (sixteen years ago) link

Am I dumb for not getting the first part of Maria's equation?

Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 25 September 2006 18:04 (sixteen years ago) link

no dude, you should just go on wondering forever

paradigm, brother? (matattack), Monday, 25 September 2006 18:06 (sixteen years ago) link


Tuomas (Tuomas), Monday, 25 September 2006 18:46 (sixteen years ago) link

there are two people in my program i keep running into in the neighborhood, but that's because they live here.

any cop (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 25 September 2006 19:29 (sixteen years ago) link


B Marchall (Seuss 2005), Monday, 25 September 2006 20:32 (sixteen years ago) link

For me, it used to be this guy.

Run Ruud Run (Ken L), Monday, 25 September 2006 20:37 (sixteen years ago) link

Hahaha...weird coincidence...I was *just* thinking about Beatle Bob like ten minutes ago, I swear! (My thought stream was - "Is there any way a person can make money by being a scenester?" to "Does Beatle Bob have a day job?")

I saw him at like every other indie rock show in the STL in 2000...weird thing was, sometimes there were *other* middle-aged guys in suits up there, dancing with him! WTF?! Coattail-riding? And for what?

Ernest P. (ernestp), Monday, 25 September 2006 22:33 (sixteen years ago) link

i meant that there is a relatively tiny number of people i might possibly pass by on a daily basis, and i have been passing by many of them on a daily basis for a couple of years. so the number of people i keep seeing all the time is large.

Maria (Maria), Monday, 25 September 2006 23:16 (sixteen years ago) link

Oh, I thought you could somehow calculate how many of the 2000 people on the campus you've met based on the amount of years you've been there.

Tuomas (Tuomas), Tuesday, 26 September 2006 04:55 (sixteen years ago) link

For me it used to be alext.

Forest Pines (ForestPines), Tuesday, 26 September 2006 06:21 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm amazed that no-one's mentioned rat-tail

Porkpie (porkpie), Tuesday, 26 September 2006 18:50 (sixteen years ago) link


This is amazing

roc u like a § (ex machina), Tuesday, 26 September 2006 19:00 (sixteen years ago) link

sixteen years pass...

it makes sense that several of the posts in this thread are about Beatle Bob. some very sad news - he announced today he has lou gehrig's disease (ALS), and won't be dancing tonight. other than 85 days that he missed during the pandemic, somehow he attended a show EVERY NIGHT for 9,349 days straight, wearing a beatles mop-top wig and dancing. he was/is such a local legend that i first heard of him back in high school, when his streak was only 5 years or so long and i didn't even live in st louis. he is one of the most legendary local legends i have ever heard of.


Karl Malone, Tuesday, 24 January 2023 00:17 (one week ago) link

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