"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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Just so's you lot know...

Basically, Facebook, the "MySpace" for posh students only...

mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:19 (fifteen years ago) link

HURRAH! Keep the students off the rest of the interweb that's what I say.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:26 (fifteen years ago) link

this is v. widespread for US college students. And not the posh ones, neccessarily.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:36 (fifteen years ago) link

people with myspace accounts should be culled.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:37 (fifteen years ago) link

"tremor"

StanM (StanM), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:43 (fifteen years ago) link

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:56 (fifteen years ago) link

i thought that despite being a harvard thing, it had spread into non-posh kids too

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:08 (fifteen years ago) link

, it had spread into non-posh kids too

Like I said, all US college students do this these days.

It's different from MySpace b/c you have to have an email with the associated university to have a page. if you have a utexas.edu email you can't link up to people at ugeorgia.edu. if you're just gmail.com then you can't do either.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:11 (fifteen years ago) link

So it's only going on email addresses eh.... and seeing as my employer is a fairly prestigious major university and as such has kindly donated me an email address... does that mean I could SPY ON 'EM??

AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:15 (fifteen years ago) link

staff and faculty can also join, so yes.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:15 (fifteen years ago) link

my balls are better than myspace.

teh_kit has 21 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:16 (fifteen years ago) link

well that's not saying a whole lot kit.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:17 (fifteen years ago) link

We call them 'ball bags' these days g-kit, do you not slavishly follow Am I Russell Brand Or Not like wot everyone else doth?

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (fifteen years ago) link

Incidentally (hello I am old), isn't there something else called faceparty? Is it the same? You young people!

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (fifteen years ago) link

If I put myself down as 'staff' and not 'student', does that exlude me from one set or the other? Cos like, I know other staff at [INSERT UNIVERSITY NAME HERE] and don't want to exlusively find out details of academics/administrators when I could larff at STEWWDENTS :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:21 (fifteen years ago) link

faceparty is different
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faceparty

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:23 (fifteen years ago) link

who wants to be in my Ballsbook, ladies?
xpost Ballsparty?

teh_kit has 22 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:24 (fifteen years ago) link

I don't know Starry. I'm not sure if the site is able to verify past a legitmate .edu address. I am uni staff but have yet to facebook myself. the shame.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:32 (fifteen years ago) link

Answers for starry re Facebook

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook%27s_use_in_investigations

wikipedia:

Privacy Settings

Facebook contains privacy settings that individuals can set to prevent school administrators or other groups from accessing their profiles or photos. Under the "My Privacy" settings page, a facebook user can select which of the following groups are allowed to view a page:

* Undergrads
* Grad Students
* Alumni
* Faculty
* Staff

However, there is no guarantee that school administrators or law enforcement agencies will not choose to identify themselves falsely on Facebook, or that they cannot gain access to profile information via other means.

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:33 (fifteen years ago) link

Can you change your profile if necessary? What if you are eg, an employee doing a research project, for debate :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:39 (fifteen years ago) link

Two stories:

1. My girlfriend just graduated from college last year (2005) and doesn't have a Friendster or MySpace profile but does have a Facebook profile. This makes me feel old. However, I think what she likes about Facebook is that it is relatively closed off to the outside world, whereas I don't generally care what yahoos have a gander at my drunken photos.

2. I was at a frat party at the Univ. of Chicago a couple months ago ... an ILXor invited me, and I went for the anthropological experience as much as anything, really. Anyway, so I'm talking to this BMOC in a felt cowboy hat, who's somehow convinced that I had been dancing with this girl he has a crush on named Allison. (The only girl I'd been dancing with was this gawky philosophy major named Ethel who hurriedly told me within the first minute, "By the way, I don't wanna hook up with you, I have a boyfriend." Whatever!) I try to deny it at first, but he's not upset or anything, his attitude is more like "good for you, bro -- she's fuckin' hot, isn't she?" -- so eventually I agree that yes, I was dancing with Allison. "You know what you can do for me?" he slurs. "You can have her look me up on Facebook. That's Bret. With one T." At which point I laughed out loud.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:48 (fifteen years ago) link

Oh and re the thread title: when my gf was showing me her Facebook profile, I was surprised to see that not only could you say you were "In a Relationship" but you could actually designate who your partner was and link to their profile.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (fifteen years ago) link

no idea !

i would expect most streetwise students would probably lock out snooping staff via the privacy settings

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (fifteen years ago) link

BMOC

??

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:54 (fifteen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:57 (fifteen years ago) link

Facebook is pretty useful. It makes keeping in touch with uni friends nice and easy. I'm young and went to a 'posh' uni though.

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:59 (fifteen years ago) link

No-one has yet addressed the fact that the titular quote is incredible cute!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:07 (fifteen years ago) link

jng, how long can you keep your uni account open in the States? Over here, perhaps a few months... i mean, you cannot really use Facebook (if I got the rules right now) to keep in touch with uni friends once you graduated

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:09 (fifteen years ago) link

most universities offer alumni accounts.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:10 (fifteen years ago) link

surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (fifteen years ago) link

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (fifteen years ago) link

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (fifteen years ago) link

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (fifteen years ago) link

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (fifteen years ago) link

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (fifteen years ago) link

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (fifteen years ago) link

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (fifteen years ago) link

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (fifteen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (fifteen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (fifteen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (fifteen years ago) link

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (fifteen years ago) link

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (fifteen years ago) link

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (fifteen years ago) link

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (fifteen years ago) link

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (fifteen years ago) link

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (fifteen years ago) link

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (fifteen years ago) link

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (fifteen years ago) link

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (fifteen years ago) link

Oversight Committee going to take the case

but they can't get into their accounts

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:29 (two weeks ago) link

Russians putting plan B into action, dispersing disinformation pamphlets from airplanes.

Josh in Chicago, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:29 (two weeks ago) link

Yeah same with Google, most restaurant listings include pictures of paper or signboard menus.


it's very funny to me that facebook disabled my account about a week before this total collapse

I had just been reporting a bunch of trolls for spreading covidiocy on the Resident Advisor Insta page right before it went down and initially assumed they had turned the tables on me, for mocking them relentlessly. I do assume I will get banned eventually if I keep it up.

Thinking about starting a campaign to pressure RA etc to just completely block comments on their accounts if they can’t be fucked to block the brigades of political trolls. However I doubt there would be much if any real impact of my efforts at all.

recovering internet addict/shitposter (viborg), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:30 (two weeks ago) link

(xpost)

recovering internet addict/shitposter (viborg), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:30 (two weeks ago) link

leave a harsh yelp review for facebook

When Young Sheldon began to rap (forksclovetofu), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:30 (two weeks ago) link

I thought this was good:
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/04/technology/facebook-files.html

Facebook is in trouble.

Not financial trouble, or legal trouble, or even senators-yelling-at-Mark-Zuckerberg trouble. What I’m talking about is a kind of slow, steady decline that anyone who has ever seen a dying company up close can recognize. It’s a cloud of existential dread that hangs over an organization whose best days are behind it, influencing every managerial priority and product decision and leading to increasingly desperate attempts to find a way out. This kind of decline is not necessarily visible from the outside, but insiders see a hundred small, disquieting signs of it every day — user-hostile growth hacks, frenetic pivots, executive paranoia, the gradual attrition of talented colleagues.

DJI, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:34 (two weeks ago) link

Too bad I can't share that on Facebook.

DJI, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:34 (two weeks ago) link

they also said over a decade ago that going public was going to kill FB and no young people would use their system anymore and....well.....it's like Taco Bell, people consume it and don't mind that it makes them shit their brains out.

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:36 (two weeks ago) link

How long has Apple been able to sustain their death spiral?

@ forklovestofu where to find Resident Advisor’s Yelp page?

recovering internet addict/shitposter (viborg), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:36 (two weeks ago) link

leave a harsh yelp review for facebook

"Torbin U.
Denmark
one star

I would say ... delete that."

Josh in Chicago, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:37 (two weeks ago) link

Apparently the outage is the fault of a single "cretinous" employee who deleted the site while tying to scrub all mentions of himself from the internet in a fit of self-loathing.

No name as yet, but there's a photo.

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/3/3d/Nick_Clegg_%282011%29_%28cropped%29.jpg/402px-Nick_Clegg_%282011%29_%28cropped%29.jpg

My two teenage kids have not even considered getting fb accounts, and I don't think anyone at their high school wants one. That can't be good for growth.

DJI, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:38 (two weeks ago) link

The death spiral dream sounds great, but a huge percentage of the world's population uses FB as the internet, full stop. Like, that's the only site they visit ever.

Andy the Grasshopper, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:39 (two weeks ago) link

It does seem like the only reason young people use FB is to communicate with older generations.

Given the way things are going the next big thing will probably be Telegram 3.0 after it’s been assimilated into the TikTok “multiverse” or whatever.

recovering internet addict/shitposter (viborg), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:39 (two weeks ago) link

The kids still like Instagram.

Josh in Chicago, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:40 (two weeks ago) link

literally my best friend couldn't message one of her other best friends as she never got her phone number as they always used Messenger to communicate

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:40 (two weeks ago) link

i just got a message from someone but i can't tell if it was old and snuck through

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:41 (two weeks ago) link

I just got in, not sure it'll last.

nickn, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:44 (two weeks ago) link

I was picking a friend up at the airport today and we only ever communicated over Messenger - thankfully fellow ILXor kate78 had an actual mobile number for her!

Jaq, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:51 (two weeks ago) link

The kids still like Instagram.

I couldn’t say what actual substantive difference there is between TikTok and Instagram, but it seems like most of the content on Instagram is reposted from either TikTok or Twitter. I know the young people don’t fuck with Twitter, it’s just for memeing. But unless there’s also close to a majority of content on TikTok which is reposted from Instagram, then I get the impression that TikTok is more popular with those on the front edge of the curve.

recovering internet addict/shitposter (viborg), Monday, 4 October 2021 21:51 (two weeks ago) link

Instagram appears to be back online

Andy the Grasshopper, Monday, 4 October 2021 21:57 (two weeks ago) link

facebook too

it was nice while it lasted

Brad C., Monday, 4 October 2021 21:59 (two weeks ago) link

Never forget

recovering internet addict/shitposter (viborg), Monday, 4 October 2021 22:01 (two weeks ago) link

Actually still down here. But I have not forgotten.

recovering internet addict/shitposter (viborg), Monday, 4 October 2021 22:01 (two weeks ago) link

the culprit?

http://i.imgur.com/0bED8TD.jpeg

nobody like my rap (One Eye Open), Monday, 4 October 2021 22:04 (two weeks ago) link

Francis!

calstars, Monday, 4 October 2021 22:07 (two weeks ago) link

Whatsapp still seems hosed

Mr. Cacciatore (Moodles), Monday, 4 October 2021 22:08 (two weeks ago) link

networking notworking

StanM, Monday, 4 October 2021 22:08 (two weeks ago) link

don't go back to facebook, stay on this thread, we can do all the facebook stuff if you like, maybe embed some ads which autoplay at a loud volume and 100 posts from the same woman you met 14 years ago and have no real interest in.

She had babies though

When Young Sheldon began to rap (forksclovetofu), Monday, 4 October 2021 22:41 (two weeks ago) link

mine didn't, she just posts everything she eats, not sure why fb thinks I am interested as I scroll past all of them in a hopeless search for the posts from my actual friends, which it refuses to show me.

Idk anything about this fellow but there’s some interesting history if nothing else.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BCTlcj5vImk

recovering internet addict/shitposter (viborg), Monday, 4 October 2021 22:48 (two weeks ago) link

The only people I know who use WhatsApp are South and Central American immigrants who talk to their relatives at home that way. They'd be really screwed if it went away.

but also fuck you (unperson), Monday, 4 October 2021 22:49 (two weeks ago) link

I think we just need to be able to “poke” other ilx’ors here and we might never need Facebook again

FRAUDULENT STEAKS (The Cursed Return of the Dastardly Thermo Thinwall), Monday, 4 October 2021 22:57 (two weeks ago) link

How long has Apple been able to sustain their death spiral?

Its death spiral of making very popular things that cost a lot of money and selling them?

Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Tuesday, 5 October 2021 00:17 (two weeks ago) link

Apple is pretty much an old school traditional business compared to FB, Google etc

Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Tuesday, 5 October 2021 00:18 (two weeks ago) link

Apple has much more in common with Nintendo than FB or Google

Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Tuesday, 5 October 2021 00:22 (two weeks ago) link

otm, also they have actual stores you can go to if you have issues

sleeve, Tuesday, 5 October 2021 00:27 (two weeks ago) link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byEFBBN1ueE

anvil, Tuesday, 5 October 2021 01:20 (two weeks ago) link

Sammy the Bull with the inside scoop

anvil, Tuesday, 5 October 2021 01:21 (two weeks ago) link

The only people I know who use WhatsApp are South and Central American immigrants who talk to their relatives at home that way. They'd be really screwed if it went away.

the only people I know who DON'T use WhatsApp are North Americans. entire governments in Asia and Africa are run on WhatsApp.

this morning, govt ministries here in Malaysia were scrambling to set up alternative chat groups on Telegram in case there's another outage.

Roz, Tuesday, 5 October 2021 04:44 (two weeks ago) link

i used it when I was in the Philippines, it was basically how i kept in contact with the local partner site there and arranged pick-ups.

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Tuesday, 5 October 2021 04:56 (two weeks ago) link

Camaraderie, there's this thing where you click on three dots next to someone's name, and three of the options are literally:

- see fewer posts like this
- temporarily stop seeing posts
- stop seeing posts but stay friends

Extinct Namibian shrub genus: Var. (Ye Mad Puffin), Tuesday, 5 October 2021 07:13 (two weeks ago) link

but if I actually engage with it then the battle is lost.

edited to reflect developments which occurred (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Tuesday, 5 October 2021 07:15 (two weeks ago) link

I wish insta had a fewer posts option. Some people post waaay too much. Only option is to mute them and then they’re kind of lost forever!

calstars, Tuesday, 5 October 2021 18:25 (two weeks ago) link

In the last two weeks, I've had three friend requests on my dormant account from girls I knew in junior high school. Keep in mind it was a small school, so we're talking about a pool of only 20-30 people.

I guess one of them friend-requested me first, and that made me pop up on the others? It's weird though. I would've been flattered 35 years ago, but now, no way. Not going to be a part of whatever algorhythm they've got buzzing up there.

Besides, they can find me on Twitter.

pplains, Wednesday, 13 October 2021 01:00 (one week ago) link

Faced with a similar sitch, I’d probably accept. Junior high was a special time

calstars, Wednesday, 13 October 2021 01:51 (one week ago) link

a time I'd never like to relive

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 13 October 2021 01:57 (one week ago) link

Sorry brah

calstars, Wednesday, 13 October 2021 02:28 (one week ago) link

Accepting them would put Sarah Huckabee Sanders into my timeline faster than a heartbeat.

pplains, Wednesday, 13 October 2021 12:31 (one week ago) link


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