"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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Just so's you lot know...

Basically, Facebook, the "MySpace" for posh students only...

mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:19 (fourteen years ago) link

HURRAH! Keep the students off the rest of the interweb that's what I say.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:26 (fourteen years ago) link

this is v. widespread for US college students. And not the posh ones, neccessarily.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:36 (fourteen years ago) link

people with myspace accounts should be culled.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:37 (fourteen years ago) link

"tremor"

StanM (StanM), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:43 (fourteen years ago) link

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:56 (fourteen years ago) link

i thought that despite being a harvard thing, it had spread into non-posh kids too

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:08 (fourteen years ago) link

, it had spread into non-posh kids too

Like I said, all US college students do this these days.

It's different from MySpace b/c you have to have an email with the associated university to have a page. if you have a utexas.edu email you can't link up to people at ugeorgia.edu. if you're just gmail.com then you can't do either.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:11 (fourteen years ago) link

So it's only going on email addresses eh.... and seeing as my employer is a fairly prestigious major university and as such has kindly donated me an email address... does that mean I could SPY ON 'EM??

AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:15 (fourteen years ago) link

staff and faculty can also join, so yes.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:15 (fourteen years ago) link

my balls are better than myspace.

teh_kit has 21 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:16 (fourteen years ago) link

well that's not saying a whole lot kit.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:17 (fourteen years ago) link

We call them 'ball bags' these days g-kit, do you not slavishly follow Am I Russell Brand Or Not like wot everyone else doth?

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (fourteen years ago) link

Incidentally (hello I am old), isn't there something else called faceparty? Is it the same? You young people!

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (fourteen years ago) link

If I put myself down as 'staff' and not 'student', does that exlude me from one set or the other? Cos like, I know other staff at [INSERT UNIVERSITY NAME HERE] and don't want to exlusively find out details of academics/administrators when I could larff at STEWWDENTS :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:21 (fourteen years ago) link

faceparty is different
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faceparty

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:23 (fourteen years ago) link

who wants to be in my Ballsbook, ladies?
xpost Ballsparty?

teh_kit has 22 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:24 (fourteen years ago) link

I don't know Starry. I'm not sure if the site is able to verify past a legitmate .edu address. I am uni staff but have yet to facebook myself. the shame.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:32 (fourteen years ago) link

Answers for starry re Facebook

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook%27s_use_in_investigations

wikipedia:

Privacy Settings

Facebook contains privacy settings that individuals can set to prevent school administrators or other groups from accessing their profiles or photos. Under the "My Privacy" settings page, a facebook user can select which of the following groups are allowed to view a page:

* Undergrads
* Grad Students
* Alumni
* Faculty
* Staff

However, there is no guarantee that school administrators or law enforcement agencies will not choose to identify themselves falsely on Facebook, or that they cannot gain access to profile information via other means.

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:33 (fourteen years ago) link

Can you change your profile if necessary? What if you are eg, an employee doing a research project, for debate :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:39 (fourteen years ago) link

Two stories:

1. My girlfriend just graduated from college last year (2005) and doesn't have a Friendster or MySpace profile but does have a Facebook profile. This makes me feel old. However, I think what she likes about Facebook is that it is relatively closed off to the outside world, whereas I don't generally care what yahoos have a gander at my drunken photos.

2. I was at a frat party at the Univ. of Chicago a couple months ago ... an ILXor invited me, and I went for the anthropological experience as much as anything, really. Anyway, so I'm talking to this BMOC in a felt cowboy hat, who's somehow convinced that I had been dancing with this girl he has a crush on named Allison. (The only girl I'd been dancing with was this gawky philosophy major named Ethel who hurriedly told me within the first minute, "By the way, I don't wanna hook up with you, I have a boyfriend." Whatever!) I try to deny it at first, but he's not upset or anything, his attitude is more like "good for you, bro -- she's fuckin' hot, isn't she?" -- so eventually I agree that yes, I was dancing with Allison. "You know what you can do for me?" he slurs. "You can have her look me up on Facebook. That's Bret. With one T." At which point I laughed out loud.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:48 (fourteen years ago) link

Oh and re the thread title: when my gf was showing me her Facebook profile, I was surprised to see that not only could you say you were "In a Relationship" but you could actually designate who your partner was and link to their profile.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (fourteen years ago) link

no idea !

i would expect most streetwise students would probably lock out snooping staff via the privacy settings

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (fourteen years ago) link

BMOC

??

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:54 (fourteen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:57 (fourteen years ago) link

Facebook is pretty useful. It makes keeping in touch with uni friends nice and easy. I'm young and went to a 'posh' uni though.

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:59 (fourteen years ago) link

No-one has yet addressed the fact that the titular quote is incredible cute!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:07 (fourteen years ago) link

jng, how long can you keep your uni account open in the States? Over here, perhaps a few months... i mean, you cannot really use Facebook (if I got the rules right now) to keep in touch with uni friends once you graduated

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:09 (fourteen years ago) link

most universities offer alumni accounts.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:10 (fourteen years ago) link

surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (fourteen years ago) link

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (fourteen years ago) link

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (fourteen years ago) link

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (fourteen years ago) link

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (fourteen years ago) link

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (fourteen years ago) link

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (fourteen years ago) link

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (fourteen years ago) link

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (fourteen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (fourteen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (fourteen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (fourteen years ago) link

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (fourteen years ago) link

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (fourteen years ago) link

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (fourteen years ago) link

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (fourteen years ago) link

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (fourteen years ago) link

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (fourteen years ago) link

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (fourteen years ago) link

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (fourteen years ago) link

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (fourteen years ago) link

yay!

Mark G, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:33 (two years ago) link

"You have two memories..."

but before that, here's a crappy video of pictures you've posted floating around that we put together because it is Friends' Day

and here's a 3 word post from 9 years ago (that one's probably on me)

and here's a crappy video of pictures you've posted that we've cobbled together for no other reason than it used to be January and now it isn't. Your January Highlights.

and here's a memory from two years ago yesterday that you might have missed (but didn't)

meanwhile those group posts you made to that group with 26 people in it, we're only going to show that to two of them, despite the fact that they all subscribed specifically.

koogs, Tuesday, 12 February 2019 11:06 (two years ago) link

eight months pass...

anyone got tips for getting rid of the phantom notifications? my total keeps creeping upwards, now it's at seven, none of which are real.

Book Doula (sleeve), Tuesday, 5 November 2019 18:41 (one year ago) link

can you describe these in more detail?

sarahell, Tuesday, 5 November 2019 18:44 (one year ago) link

you know, the little red dot with the number in it. When I'm logged out, it (incorrectly) says seven, when I log in there are zero. Totally nitpicky but it drives me crazy.

Book Doula (sleeve), Tuesday, 5 November 2019 18:53 (one year ago) link

do you use fb on both a phone and computer?

sarahell, Tuesday, 5 November 2019 18:54 (one year ago) link

yeah, and I think that's at the root of it. I don't see them on the phone, but I do on the computer.

Book Doula (sleeve), Tuesday, 5 November 2019 19:01 (one year ago) link

The Android app is rubbish tbh. Sometimes when these things appear on the Web page there are new likes or comments way down your list from days ago that it wants you to acknowledge. I've had maybe the odd genuinely phantom notification but it lasted for a day or so and I've never had them mount up

Xia Nu del Vague (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 5 November 2019 19:03 (one year ago) link

i often get notifications based on the last time i used facebook on the particular device. ... esp. message notifications ... as opposed to the last time i used facebook and looked at the notifications

sarahell, Tuesday, 5 November 2019 19:22 (one year ago) link

one month passes...

Logged in to FB after months away, immediately regretted it: https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2164890463806836&id=100008577106113

Roz, Thursday, 5 December 2019 00:32 (one year ago) link

God, when I see this ol thread, I think how long ago. Then I see it's only 13 years!

Mark G, Thursday, 5 December 2019 00:38 (one year ago) link

Yeah I prob should have posted that to the “why do I hate that...” other FB thread but somehow always remember this one instead.

Roz, Thursday, 5 December 2019 00:45 (one year ago) link

what's the regrettable thing at that link?

insecurity bear (sic), Thursday, 5 December 2019 01:21 (one year ago) link

not sure if you're asking about the content of the link or what's regrettable about it: it's a shitty conservative meme about "snowflakes".

if it's the latter, the reason i got off FB in the first place was so that I spend less mental space looking at terrible content, like shitty conservative memes about "snowflakes".

Roz, Thursday, 5 December 2019 02:08 (one year ago) link

if that's the one I'm thinking of, yeah it's pretty bad

sleeve, Thursday, 5 December 2019 02:56 (one year ago) link

the former, as a non-facebooker I couldn’t see it

insecurity bear (sic), Thursday, 5 December 2019 03:01 (one year ago) link

If you click on his profile all his other posts are about Catholicism and bacon. Not sure what I make of that.

koogs, Thursday, 5 December 2019 04:11 (one year ago) link

four weeks pass...

all I want for Christmas is for the Facebook 'hide post' option to work.

ex-colleague uses it like Twitter and is forever posting crap memes and pictures of beer, things I don't mind seeing once, but given that the hide post option seems to do nothing, I have to scroll past them again and again.

koogs, Saturday, 4 January 2020 04:02 (one year ago) link

Unfollow ex-colleague?

nickn, Saturday, 4 January 2020 04:58 (one year ago) link

The local news feature in the iOS app is awful, just highlighting every petty crime so old people can panic some more.

Greta Van Show Feets BB (milo z), Saturday, 4 January 2020 05:49 (one year ago) link

un-following seems a bit drastic - some of it is interesting. it's just the drunken (?) chains of cat memes, the half-dozen pictures that he posts individually, or the French language stuff that annoys me. hide posts would be fine, if it worked.

(with the reposts you can hide all from the original poster and that seems to work. social fixer plugin has an alternative that works on desktop)

koogs, Saturday, 4 January 2020 10:22 (one year ago) link

I use the Snooze for 30 Days option for a couple of my friends.

☮️ (peace, man), Saturday, 4 January 2020 10:39 (one year ago) link

i have a number of people i snooze for 30 days because they post too much
it's the best option imo bc at most i have to snooze them again, that's 1 click for 30 days of relief with no hurt feelings

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Saturday, 4 January 2020 15:07 (one year ago) link

I'd like a "hide stuff I don't wanna see" feature, but I guess AI isn't that far along yet.

nickn, Saturday, 4 January 2020 21:28 (one year ago) link

Run back Facebook did today.

They bought a story in a publication, pretended it wasn’t sponsored, their COO posted it, then when they got caught, they denied knowing anything about it.

And what was that ad/story about?

Their commitment to stopping disinformation.

Incredible.

— Ben Collins (@oneunderscore__) January 9, 2020

Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 9 January 2020 02:54 (one year ago) link

four weeks pass...

the 'hide for 30 days' i did has obviously worn off. ex-colleague (see above) posted 17 (seventeen!) things on the 3rd, including 4 reposts from "Cinema, mon amour" which is some kind of arthouse movie screenshot farm.

koogs, Thursday, 6 February 2020 22:02 (one year ago) link

Yeah, I get movie bros posting shit from Cinema, Mon Amour too. Cringiest fucking name. Tru headz know we call it kino now anyway.

Daniel_Rf, Friday, 7 February 2020 10:25 (one year ago) link

one month passes...

filter has expired again, 7 posts today. man united have done something, here's a picture of the rain, the daily mash has posted something funny, gammon watch has posted something funny, a news article about millennials...

koogs, Sunday, 8 March 2020 19:53 (eleven months ago) link

two months pass...

Blocked by Facebook. Not following community standards. this is bogus.

it's asking for my phone number for 2fa. it's asking for a picture of me so it can check it's me (check against what though? - i've not uploaded any other photos of me)

koogs, Friday, 22 May 2020 17:30 (nine months ago) link

"We have fewer people available to review information due to the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic.

This means we may be unable to review your account."

koogs, Friday, 22 May 2020 17:37 (nine months ago) link

four weeks pass...

Seem to be a lot of companies that have decided to stop advertising on this site.

Josh in Chicago, Saturday, 27 June 2020 03:28 (eight months ago) link

my company just warned us not to say controversial things if we say we work for them on our FB profile, or we can be disciplined.

this is why my job shows as "Fey Canoes", and why I don't use my Christian name on Twitter or anywhere else.

I hear that sometimes Satan wants to defund police (Neanderthal), Saturday, 27 June 2020 04:36 (eight months ago) link

two months pass...

They've finally forced me into the new layout (on a laptop) and it's so horrible. I thought it couldn't get more ugly BUT IT DID

kinder, Sunday, 6 September 2020 10:09 (six months ago) link

There was still a switch under options for me on Friday.

koogs, Sunday, 6 September 2020 11:27 (six months ago) link

Does anyone know if it's possible to turn off the delightful feature of fb automatically popping up a message window whenever visiting a business page?

This has just started happening for me with the new layout.

brain (krakow), Sunday, 6 September 2020 12:06 (six months ago) link

I just went through and looked at a bunch of businesses that I have liked. Some of them have the message window pop-up and some don't, which makes me think maybe it's something on their end.

While I was going through though, I noticed a bunch of weird stuff that I didn't recognize in my likes. A movie called Scare Dares that seems to have never been released. A Disney Junior page, but not the one sanctioned by Disney. A link to a shady-looking external website titled "I can't believe a GIRL did this because of Justin Bieber - Website". In the case of the first two, clicking on the link brought up an error page that read "This Content Isn't Available Right Now. When this happens, it's usually because the owner only shared it with a small group of people, changed who can see it or it's been deleted." For the Bieber scam site, the message was "You Can't Go to This Link From Facebook. The link you tried to visit goes against our Community Standards." But as far as I can tell, I'm left with no way to unlike these things!

peace, man, Sunday, 6 September 2020 12:31 (six months ago) link

the new layout is awful.

I actually have taken a one week vacation from FB (using messenger only) and Jesus, why didn't I do this earlier. my mood has been so much better.

Neanderthal, Sunday, 6 September 2020 15:37 (six months ago) link

two months pass...

Now they're trying to beat Twitch I guess?

Continual failures and embarrassments like trying to turn Marketplace into an Amazon/Ebay alternative (but with useless search capabilities), creating an Instagram platform for TikTok people to port their content over including the TikTok watermarks, the different attempts to be a streaming video platform... and Zuck is still worth $30+ billion?!

onlyfans.com/hunterb (milo z), Wednesday, 2 December 2020 00:16 (three months ago) link

FB now is kinda like if you built a shelf 15 years ago, and every so often, you kept making useless improvements to it to the point where now it doesn't even serve the original purpose of holding things up, and there are nails poking out, loose screws, and even a syringe or two lying around on it

Lover of Nixon (or LON for short) (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 2 December 2020 02:20 (three months ago) link

Maybe if Zoomers start watching Among Us on there it will move away from being Boomer Jonestown.

onlyfans.com/hunterb (milo z), Wednesday, 2 December 2020 02:28 (three months ago) link

one month passes...

> the half-dozen pictures that he posts individually

15 today. it snowed in paris.

koogs, Saturday, 16 January 2021 22:14 (one month ago) link

one month passes...

I check Marketplace every few days hoping for the world’s cheapest Rhodes piano to fall into my lap.

I’ve started reporting obvious guns and ammo posts (“Freedom Seeds” with a picture of an ammo box) and not a single one has ever been taken down by Facebook.

Joe Biden Stan Account (milo z), Monday, 22 February 2021 23:08 (one week ago) link

Had someone genuinely ask me this a few months ago, to which I responded "hahaha I'm 30, bro."

hourspass, Monday, 22 February 2021 23:18 (one week ago) link

xpost the bots are shit and the actual real person moderators are all alt-righters. explains why "men are trash" gets you a ban, but stuff like the above or transphobic posts don't.

I think even "shut up" triggers the bots

if you meh them, shut up (Neanderthal), Monday, 22 February 2021 23:33 (one week ago) link

The only time Ive ever seen a FB post I reported get removed was one with a necrophila image in it.

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Tuesday, 23 February 2021 00:56 (one week ago) link

But my bf and his friends podcast? It has a FB group and the members LOVE to swear at each other a lot, its sort of the aussie schtick (loads of "gimme a cake you cunt" and so on), and apparently lately loads of posts have been going into the censor bitbucket.

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Tuesday, 23 February 2021 00:57 (one week ago) link

Friend of mine got a post from years ago removed which was just an Islamic State map with their projected territory - he'd posted it because it included Portugal and Spain, with the comment "I think those two were included for better football results?".

Daniel_Rf, Tuesday, 23 February 2021 11:57 (one week ago) link


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