"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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Just so's you lot know...

Basically, Facebook, the "MySpace" for posh students only...

mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:19 (thirteen years ago) link

HURRAH! Keep the students off the rest of the interweb that's what I say.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:26 (thirteen years ago) link

this is v. widespread for US college students. And not the posh ones, neccessarily.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:36 (thirteen years ago) link

people with myspace accounts should be culled.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:37 (thirteen years ago) link

"tremor"

StanM (StanM), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:43 (thirteen years ago) link

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 12:56 (thirteen years ago) link

i thought that despite being a harvard thing, it had spread into non-posh kids too

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:08 (thirteen years ago) link

, it had spread into non-posh kids too

Like I said, all US college students do this these days.

It's different from MySpace b/c you have to have an email with the associated university to have a page. if you have a utexas.edu email you can't link up to people at ugeorgia.edu. if you're just gmail.com then you can't do either.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:11 (thirteen years ago) link

So it's only going on email addresses eh.... and seeing as my employer is a fairly prestigious major university and as such has kindly donated me an email address... does that mean I could SPY ON 'EM??

AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:15 (thirteen years ago) link

staff and faculty can also join, so yes.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:15 (thirteen years ago) link

my balls are better than myspace.

teh_kit has 21 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:16 (thirteen years ago) link

well that's not saying a whole lot kit.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:17 (thirteen years ago) link

We call them 'ball bags' these days g-kit, do you not slavishly follow Am I Russell Brand Or Not like wot everyone else doth?

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (thirteen years ago) link

Incidentally (hello I am old), isn't there something else called faceparty? Is it the same? You young people!

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (thirteen years ago) link

If I put myself down as 'staff' and not 'student', does that exlude me from one set or the other? Cos like, I know other staff at [INSERT UNIVERSITY NAME HERE] and don't want to exlusively find out details of academics/administrators when I could larff at STEWWDENTS :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:21 (thirteen years ago) link

faceparty is different
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faceparty

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:23 (thirteen years ago) link

who wants to be in my Ballsbook, ladies?
xpost Ballsparty?

teh_kit has 22 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:24 (thirteen years ago) link

I don't know Starry. I'm not sure if the site is able to verify past a legitmate .edu address. I am uni staff but have yet to facebook myself. the shame.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:32 (thirteen years ago) link

Answers for starry re Facebook

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook%27s_use_in_investigations

wikipedia:

Privacy Settings

Facebook contains privacy settings that individuals can set to prevent school administrators or other groups from accessing their profiles or photos. Under the "My Privacy" settings page, a facebook user can select which of the following groups are allowed to view a page:

* Undergrads
* Grad Students
* Alumni
* Faculty
* Staff

However, there is no guarantee that school administrators or law enforcement agencies will not choose to identify themselves falsely on Facebook, or that they cannot gain access to profile information via other means.

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:33 (thirteen years ago) link

Can you change your profile if necessary? What if you are eg, an employee doing a research project, for debate :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:39 (thirteen years ago) link

Two stories:

1. My girlfriend just graduated from college last year (2005) and doesn't have a Friendster or MySpace profile but does have a Facebook profile. This makes me feel old. However, I think what she likes about Facebook is that it is relatively closed off to the outside world, whereas I don't generally care what yahoos have a gander at my drunken photos.

2. I was at a frat party at the Univ. of Chicago a couple months ago ... an ILXor invited me, and I went for the anthropological experience as much as anything, really. Anyway, so I'm talking to this BMOC in a felt cowboy hat, who's somehow convinced that I had been dancing with this girl he has a crush on named Allison. (The only girl I'd been dancing with was this gawky philosophy major named Ethel who hurriedly told me within the first minute, "By the way, I don't wanna hook up with you, I have a boyfriend." Whatever!) I try to deny it at first, but he's not upset or anything, his attitude is more like "good for you, bro -- she's fuckin' hot, isn't she?" -- so eventually I agree that yes, I was dancing with Allison. "You know what you can do for me?" he slurs. "You can have her look me up on Facebook. That's Bret. With one T." At which point I laughed out loud.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:48 (thirteen years ago) link

Oh and re the thread title: when my gf was showing me her Facebook profile, I was surprised to see that not only could you say you were "In a Relationship" but you could actually designate who your partner was and link to their profile.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (thirteen years ago) link

no idea !

i would expect most streetwise students would probably lock out snooping staff via the privacy settings

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (thirteen years ago) link

BMOC

??

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:54 (thirteen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:57 (thirteen years ago) link

Facebook is pretty useful. It makes keeping in touch with uni friends nice and easy. I'm young and went to a 'posh' uni though.

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:59 (thirteen years ago) link

No-one has yet addressed the fact that the titular quote is incredible cute!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:07 (thirteen years ago) link

jng, how long can you keep your uni account open in the States? Over here, perhaps a few months... i mean, you cannot really use Facebook (if I got the rules right now) to keep in touch with uni friends once you graduated

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:09 (thirteen years ago) link

most universities offer alumni accounts.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:10 (thirteen years ago) link

surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (thirteen years ago) link

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (thirteen years ago) link

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (thirteen years ago) link

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (thirteen years ago) link

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (thirteen years ago) link

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (thirteen years ago) link

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (thirteen years ago) link

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (thirteen years ago) link

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (thirteen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (thirteen years ago) link

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (thirteen years ago) link

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (thirteen years ago) link

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (thirteen years ago) link

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (thirteen years ago) link

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (thirteen years ago) link

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (thirteen years ago) link

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (thirteen years ago) link

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (thirteen years ago) link

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (thirteen years ago) link

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (thirteen years ago) link

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (thirteen years ago) link

it's almost like amassing ungodly sums of money might be.. evil?

Nhex, Thursday, 6 December 2018 16:39 (one year ago) link

hmm, makes u think

We're in 2009—it's time to take risks, (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 6 December 2018 16:39 (one year ago) link

> fun fact: no-one ever became a billionaire through scrupulously even-handed business practices

the minecraft guy?

koogs, Thursday, 6 December 2018 17:54 (one year ago) link

one month passes...

they need to cut it out with the "your facebook memories" shit

Trϵϵship, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:07 (one year ago) link

every time i click the box that says "show me less things like this" and i still get these updates multiple times a week. sometimes it's nice to reflect on the past but it has to be on my own initiative. the past is full of traps--photos of exes, reminders that life is fleeting, whatever. who do they think they are?

Trϵϵship, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:11 (one year ago) link

facebook memories is actually my favourite bit (because facebook is worse than it used to be so past = better)

koogs, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:12 (one year ago) link

it's a form of torture

Trϵϵship, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:13 (one year ago) link

If I were that terrified of being reminded of my life I wouldn’t record it for posterity tbh

gray say nah to me (wins), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:50 (one year ago) link

it's a form of torture

― Trϵϵship

this also applies to facebook as a whole, fyi

The Elvis of Nationalism and Amoral Patriotism (rushomancy), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 15:06 (one year ago) link

I was having a bad day a while back and Facebook was nice enough to show a post and pic of me and our dog the day before we put little Dottie to sleep : (

Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 15:10 (one year ago) link

That's horrible. I live in fear of the day my RIP post for my cat shows up in FB memories - it got tons of engagements at the time so I think they'll definitley go for it.

Daniel_Rf, Monday, 4 February 2019 10:45 (one year ago) link

So happy I'm off fb. It's been 2 weeks now? Haven't missed it at all.

nathom, Monday, 4 February 2019 12:58 (one year ago) link

i don't think it filters 'memories' in any way, based on the four bits of absolute tosh it just gave me, none of which has a single like.

"is imagining he's playing tennis"

oh look, 6 years ago i was in kensington waiting for the comedy to start. i know this because i checked in from the pub next door. fascinating.

koogs, Monday, 4 February 2019 13:17 (one year ago) link

congrats nathom!

i don't miss facebook but i do miss talking to most of my internet friends. they're good people but the opportunities for quality socialization on facebook just aren't there, i find it to be an addiction that ultimately does more harm than good. i need to find more friends i can hang out with in person, but the social anxiety makes it challenging...

The Elvis of Nationalism and Amoral Patriotism (rushomancy), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:48 (one year ago) link

ilx is the only good place on the internet

Calgary customer Elvis Cavalic (bizarro gazzara), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:52 (one year ago) link

(in b4 inevitable 'and even ilx sucks' posts)

Calgary customer Elvis Cavalic (bizarro gazzara), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:52 (one year ago) link

i don't think it filters 'memories' in any way, based on the four bits of absolute tosh it just gave me, none of which has a single like.

They don't show YouTube links in memories anymore, but I think that's the extent of the filtering (aside possibly from game/app posts).

a large tuna called “Justice” (C. Grisso/McCain), Monday, 4 February 2019 15:47 (one year ago) link

Have deactivated FB and IG for a little more than a month now and it's been brilliant. Don't miss either.

Wish I could take myself off Twitter too but it's a job requirement, unfortunately.

Roz, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 04:41 (one year ago) link

I have been off fb for a couple of weeks. It's liberating. I do miss some people but the downsides being on it are outweighing the former. Back on ilx which feels grebt. Just can't access my stevienixed account. Nathom will do. Lol

nathom, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 12:58 (one year ago) link

Well, you get the FB ilxors here too, so there’s that!

suzy, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:12 (one year ago) link

Yes! Missed you guys

nathom, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:33 (one year ago) link

yay!

Mark G, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:33 (one year ago) link

"You have two memories..."

but before that, here's a crappy video of pictures you've posted floating around that we put together because it is Friends' Day

and here's a 3 word post from 9 years ago (that one's probably on me)

and here's a crappy video of pictures you've posted that we've cobbled together for no other reason than it used to be January and now it isn't. Your January Highlights.

and here's a memory from two years ago yesterday that you might have missed (but didn't)

meanwhile those group posts you made to that group with 26 people in it, we're only going to show that to two of them, despite the fact that they all subscribed specifically.

koogs, Tuesday, 12 February 2019 11:06 (one year ago) link

eight months pass...

anyone got tips for getting rid of the phantom notifications? my total keeps creeping upwards, now it's at seven, none of which are real.

Book Doula (sleeve), Tuesday, 5 November 2019 18:41 (three months ago) link

can you describe these in more detail?

sarahell, Tuesday, 5 November 2019 18:44 (three months ago) link

you know, the little red dot with the number in it. When I'm logged out, it (incorrectly) says seven, when I log in there are zero. Totally nitpicky but it drives me crazy.

Book Doula (sleeve), Tuesday, 5 November 2019 18:53 (three months ago) link

do you use fb on both a phone and computer?

sarahell, Tuesday, 5 November 2019 18:54 (three months ago) link

yeah, and I think that's at the root of it. I don't see them on the phone, but I do on the computer.

Book Doula (sleeve), Tuesday, 5 November 2019 19:01 (three months ago) link

The Android app is rubbish tbh. Sometimes when these things appear on the Web page there are new likes or comments way down your list from days ago that it wants you to acknowledge. I've had maybe the odd genuinely phantom notification but it lasted for a day or so and I've never had them mount up

Xia Nu del Vague (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 5 November 2019 19:03 (three months ago) link

i often get notifications based on the last time i used facebook on the particular device. ... esp. message notifications ... as opposed to the last time i used facebook and looked at the notifications

sarahell, Tuesday, 5 November 2019 19:22 (three months ago) link

one month passes...

Logged in to FB after months away, immediately regretted it: https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2164890463806836&id=100008577106113

Roz, Thursday, 5 December 2019 00:32 (two months ago) link

God, when I see this ol thread, I think how long ago. Then I see it's only 13 years!

Mark G, Thursday, 5 December 2019 00:38 (two months ago) link

Yeah I prob should have posted that to the “why do I hate that...” other FB thread but somehow always remember this one instead.

Roz, Thursday, 5 December 2019 00:45 (two months ago) link

what's the regrettable thing at that link?

insecurity bear (sic), Thursday, 5 December 2019 01:21 (two months ago) link

not sure if you're asking about the content of the link or what's regrettable about it: it's a shitty conservative meme about "snowflakes".

if it's the latter, the reason i got off FB in the first place was so that I spend less mental space looking at terrible content, like shitty conservative memes about "snowflakes".

Roz, Thursday, 5 December 2019 02:08 (two months ago) link

if that's the one I'm thinking of, yeah it's pretty bad

sleeve, Thursday, 5 December 2019 02:56 (two months ago) link

the former, as a non-facebooker I couldn’t see it

insecurity bear (sic), Thursday, 5 December 2019 03:01 (two months ago) link

If you click on his profile all his other posts are about Catholicism and bacon. Not sure what I make of that.

koogs, Thursday, 5 December 2019 04:11 (two months ago) link

four weeks pass...

all I want for Christmas is for the Facebook 'hide post' option to work.

ex-colleague uses it like Twitter and is forever posting crap memes and pictures of beer, things I don't mind seeing once, but given that the hide post option seems to do nothing, I have to scroll past them again and again.

koogs, Saturday, 4 January 2020 04:02 (one month ago) link

Unfollow ex-colleague?

nickn, Saturday, 4 January 2020 04:58 (one month ago) link

The local news feature in the iOS app is awful, just highlighting every petty crime so old people can panic some more.

Greta Van Show Feets BB (milo z), Saturday, 4 January 2020 05:49 (one month ago) link

un-following seems a bit drastic - some of it is interesting. it's just the drunken (?) chains of cat memes, the half-dozen pictures that he posts individually, or the French language stuff that annoys me. hide posts would be fine, if it worked.

(with the reposts you can hide all from the original poster and that seems to work. social fixer plugin has an alternative that works on desktop)

koogs, Saturday, 4 January 2020 10:22 (one month ago) link

I use the Snooze for 30 Days option for a couple of my friends.

☮️ (peace, man), Saturday, 4 January 2020 10:39 (one month ago) link

i have a number of people i snooze for 30 days because they post too much
it's the best option imo bc at most i have to snooze them again, that's 1 click for 30 days of relief with no hurt feelings

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Saturday, 4 January 2020 15:07 (one month ago) link

I'd like a "hide stuff I don't wanna see" feature, but I guess AI isn't that far along yet.

nickn, Saturday, 4 January 2020 21:28 (one month ago) link

Run back Facebook did today.

They bought a story in a publication, pretended it wasn’t sponsored, their COO posted it, then when they got caught, they denied knowing anything about it.

And what was that ad/story about?

Their commitment to stopping disinformation.

Incredible.

— Ben Collins (@oneunderscore__) January 9, 2020

Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 9 January 2020 02:54 (one month ago) link

four weeks pass...

the 'hide for 30 days' i did has obviously worn off. ex-colleague (see above) posted 17 (seventeen!) things on the 3rd, including 4 reposts from "Cinema, mon amour" which is some kind of arthouse movie screenshot farm.

koogs, Thursday, 6 February 2020 22:02 (two weeks ago) link

Yeah, I get movie bros posting shit from Cinema, Mon Amour too. Cringiest fucking name. Tru headz know we call it kino now anyway.

Daniel_Rf, Friday, 7 February 2020 10:25 (two weeks ago) link


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