As a US citizen living in London, Christian Cox says she is shocked at the amount of abuse she receives because of her nationality. She says the level of anti-Americanism she has experienced "feels like a kind of racism". "I don't want anyone to feel sorry for Americans, or me, I just want people to realise that we are dealing with hatred too," she says.
Typical British pub banter is one thing, says Christian Cox, but the "pure hatred" she says is directed at her for being American is really starting to wear her down. The former model moved to London a year ago, where she is setting up her own business, and has been surprised at how some people have reacted to her nationality.
Ms Cox, 29, says she has been called, among other things, "terrorist", "scum", "low life", and feels that she is constantly being held to account for the actions of President Bush and for US foreign policy. This is despite the fact that she doesn't agree with the war in Iraq and didn't vote for Bush.
However she adds: "Bush is our leader and I respect that. It's a bit like the way you feel about your father. You don't always agree with him, but you would defend him." She has travelled widely in other parts of Europe, Mexico, Canada and Australia but says this is the first time her pride in her country has been challenged in such a vitriolic way.
"People would make jokes about Americans but I didn't experience the pure hatred I have had since I came to live here. "I appreciate that British people often don't understand why I have so much pride, they think it's brainwashing. And I do think some people in the US need to be more educated about what's going on in the world. But some people just fly off the handle without even talking to me - it's as if they had been waiting to run into an American all day to let their feelings out" she says.
To avoid confrontations she says she lowers her voice on the Underground and in pubs. But in one incident an older man asked her directly if she was American. "When I said yes he said: 'I just want you to know that I think you are the poorest people I have ever met in my life'. "I said I was sorry he felt that way, but that I disagreed."
The man started shouting obscenities at her group. The row developed into a brawl and Ms Cox suffered a black eye as she tried to pull two people apart. "After that I cried for two days, then booked a flight back to the States. I felt so hated, I needed to be with people who loved me." Some friends now advise her to tell people she is Canadian, to deflect potential abuse, an option she calls "sad".
However it is advice that teacher Francesca Terry, 28, who grew up in Seattle, recognises. She has lived in London for four years and is married with a daughter. "I was aware before I moved here that when you travelled abroad it was always better to say you were Canadian if you could get away with it. But we treated it more like a joke."
She was subjected to verbal abuse in the first year or so in Britain, but things calmed down particularly when she had her daughter and stopped going out to pubs so much. "When I first came here it was part of the culture shock. I felt really naive, I had thought I would go unnoticed here. I would go out and I'd just get picked on by people taking pot shots. I just didn't speak when we went out. What shocked me was that people would just say the rudest comments."
But she adds that she has a close group of girlfriends from the US, many of whom say they have not had similar experiences. She says she is still cautious when she's out and about: "If people ask where I'm from I say 'the States, but the part near Canada'."
"I feel bad about saying that, but it is out of a kind of guilt, I just don't want to get into it with people. When I do, I tell them these are not my choices. I understand my president makes bad decisions, but that's not me."
The US embassy in London declined to comment on the story.
"If people ask where I'm from I say 'the States, but the part near Canada'." ROFFLE
― Si.C@rter (SiC@rter), Friday, 14 April 2006 11:00 (eighteen years ago) link
"The US embassy in London declined to comment on the story."
― dave vire think (dave225.3), Friday, 14 April 2006 11:04 (eighteen years ago) link
― Father Esteban Buttez (ESTEBAN BUTTEZ~!!!), Friday, 14 April 2006 11:08 (eighteen years ago) link
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Friday, 14 April 2006 11:20 (eighteen years ago) link
vs.
Report: U.S. Foreign Policy Hurting American Students' Chances Of Getting Laid Abroad: "I offer to buy them a drink, and they tell me I shouldn't just stand by and watch Bush destroy the world. Look, if I had that type of pull with the president, I obviously wouldn't be out trolling for anonymous Dutch pussy."
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Some friends now advise her to tell people she is Canadian, to deflect potential abuse, an option she calls "sad".
"First, pretend you're Canadian whenever you can," Hapbrook said. "But make sure you're not around actual Canadians, because they'll know you're lying and cock-block you. Second, if there are any anti-American protests going on, take care to avoid women carrying signs. Third, focus your itinerary on countries like Ireland and Japan that are still relatively friendly to Americans."
― caek (caek), Friday, 14 April 2006 11:28 (eighteen years ago) link
And overhere?
― Brigadier Lethbridge-Pfunkboy (Kerr), Friday, 14 April 2006 11:56 (eighteen years ago) link
― lauren (laurenp), Friday, 14 April 2006 12:54 (eighteen years ago) link
Key sentence in this article: she has a close group of girlfriends from the US, many of whom say they have not had similar experiences. Exactly. This article is the kind of piss-poor "journalism" I expect from U.S. regional newspapers, Fox News, or Nick Sylvester.
(Although if she's still defending Bush, she deserves what she gets.)
― someone let this mitya out! (mitya), Friday, 14 April 2006 13:43 (eighteen years ago) link
― dave q (listerine), Friday, 14 April 2006 13:48 (eighteen years ago) link
― Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Friday, 14 April 2006 14:14 (eighteen years ago) link
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 15:44 (eighteen years ago) link
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 15:47 (eighteen years ago) link
― Grey, Ian (IanBrooklyn), Friday, 14 April 2006 16:52 (eighteen years ago) link
The idea of of having "pride" of your nationality is so entirely alien to me. Every so often there is someone on morning tv who says that English people are too ashamed to be English, and that we should all start celebrating St. George's day, and the thought repulses me rather.
― Cathy (Cathy), Friday, 14 April 2006 17:48 (eighteen years ago) link
Why Americans are so big on sides-taking is a whole other issue, I guess.
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:07 (eighteen years ago) link
eh. everybody's pretty big on sides-taking, I think; some people have just developed more sophisticated characterizations of their side, so that it seems less about where they're from and more abut an ethos or a set of principles or whatever. the elision of geographical identity and beliefs is a classic move in these encounters.
― horsehoe (horseshoe), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:16 (eighteen years ago) link
― horsehoe (horseshoe), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:17 (eighteen years ago) link
I find that comment to be very weird because Brits(the English atleast) really take pride in themselves and their country in annoying ways too. As a Swede living in London I'm kinda put off by it. Majorly.
― Lovelace (Lovelace), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:24 (eighteen years ago) link
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:32 (eighteen years ago) link
because everybody does this! people who claim cosmopolitan-ness do it too!
― horsehoe (horseshoe), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:34 (eighteen years ago) link
― shookout (shookout), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:35 (eighteen years ago) link
― horsehoe (horseshoe), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:37 (eighteen years ago) link
BECAUSE WE MURDER PEOPLE OVER "FOOTBALL"????
― Fight the Real Enemy -- Tasti D-Lite (ex machina), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:37 (eighteen years ago) link
Very different but I'm seriously not kidding when I say I can understand how it "feels" that way, especially for people who have never encountered racism. It's the experience -- something American white people hardly ever have -- of knowing that you're being singled out for approbation based on a group/culture you belong to and identify with by birth. There's a common thread there to a lot of experiences, plenty of which I've had: having people disparage a race you belong to, having people disparage a nation you belong to, even having people disparage a regional identity you have. And it's almost even more hurtful if they identify you and pull you out as an exception.
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:40 (eighteen years ago) link
― shookout (shookout), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:43 (eighteen years ago) link
obviously not the same as race, but the same mechanism of overlaying identity over which people have no control with meanings attached to belief and behavior is at work.
― horsehoe (horseshoe), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:44 (eighteen years ago) link
― horsehoe (horseshoe), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:46 (eighteen years ago) link
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:47 (eighteen years ago) link
― shookout (shookout), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:48 (eighteen years ago) link
― phil-two (phil-two), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:51 (eighteen years ago) link
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:52 (eighteen years ago) link
― Fight the Real Enemy -- Tasti D-Lite (ex machina), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:52 (eighteen years ago) link
right, but that's the defensive side of this exchange. where, to use the American model example, Midwest=America and New York=England.
I think I've actually said what amounts to "you're talking about my mom, asshole!" on ILX in that Danish Muhammad thread.
― horsehoe (horseshoe), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:52 (eighteen years ago) link
― RoxyMuzak© (roxymuzak), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:53 (eighteen years ago) link
OTM OTM OTM OTM OTM OTM. I remember a friend of mine in college almost having a nervous breakdown in the UK because he was getting treated like dirt by virtually everyone we encountered; seriously, every shitty person we encountered zeroed in on HIM and made his life a living hell (although in the interest of full disclosure he didn't help matters by doing some stupid "ugly American" things that precipitated some of these encounters).
By contrast, another trip I took with college friends in Japan really opened the eyes of two friends of mine on the race axis; both are blonde-haired and blue-eyed and neither was particularly prejudiced, but at least one was deeply, utterly racially naive and didn't get certain stories of mine until we went somewhere where people looked at him like HE was the odd, out-of-place one to whom special attention should be paid. They felt all claustrophobic and under a microscope while I couldn't really tell much of a difference between the attention paid to me walking down a random US street and walking down a random Japanese street.
― Dan (Lessons Learned) Perry (Dan Perry), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:58 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 14 April 2006 18:59 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 14 April 2006 19:00 (eighteen years ago) link
― andy --, Friday, 14 April 2006 20:10 (eighteen years ago) link
p.s. this sentence originally contained three superfluous "like"'s that I omitted upon realizing how damn american it seemed.
― i've dreamt of rubies! (Mandee), Friday, 14 April 2006 20:26 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 14 April 2006 20:30 (eighteen years ago) link
― Shakey Mo Collier (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 14 April 2006 20:32 (eighteen years ago) link
In other words, I don't think "it" is the people.
― nicky lo-fi (nicky lo-fi), Friday, 14 April 2006 21:07 (eighteen years ago) link
Yeah, when I lived in Japan I definitely became hyper-aware of the constant staring, and the way everyone around me reacted to my presence, either positively or negatively. Most of the attention was positive (if really weird) but there were occasional incidents where no one would sit next to me on crowded trains, or groups of high schoolers would point and stare, or parents pulled their children back from me. Also being solicited as a prostitute fairly often (though I think that was because people seemed to think I was Russian). While being singled out for my race it was sometimes disconcerting and upsetting, it was pretty educational. I'd never experienced anything like it before.
― Laurah (laurah), Friday, 14 April 2006 21:16 (eighteen years ago) link
Then there's this thing where my father's wife is constantly trashing my hometown in Ohio -- where my mother, sister, grandmother, niece and nephews, and most other relatives all still live -- for being white trash Midwest etc., etc. (she's from Hawaii of French descent), and it's like, "Uh, excuse me, but I'm like FROM there. It's where I still ultimately consider 'home.' Could you maybe put a sock in it?"
― phil d. (Phil D.), Friday, 14 April 2006 21:47 (eighteen years ago) link
― phil d. (Phil D.), Friday, 14 April 2006 21:54 (eighteen years ago) link
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 22:03 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 14 April 2006 22:05 (eighteen years ago) link
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 22:07 (eighteen years ago) link
XP: PHEW.
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 14 April 2006 22:10 (eighteen years ago) link
― suzy (suzy), Friday, 14 April 2006 22:11 (eighteen years ago) link
I'm talking more if, like, someone in New York said to you, Laurel, that he hated all those midwestern Christians and they all should be shot, and you said "well, that's a big part of where I'm from," and he said "yeah, but you're not LIKE THAT," or "you're not ONE OF THEM" -- even if you really aren't, it's horrifying. Like someone hands you a gun: "Just shoot your parents and we'll pretend you're one of us."
(xpost Yeah Laurel that's totally cool by me! And non-surprising, America doesn't invest words in like differentiating between post-slavery black and African-immigrant black, and what with slavery its idea of black is totally west-African and etc -- it makes sense.)
― nabisco (nabisco), Friday, 14 April 2006 22:14 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 14 April 2006 22:19 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 14 April 2006 22:20 (eighteen years ago) link
― Ogmor Roundtrouser (Ogmor Roundtrouser), Saturday, 15 April 2006 02:25 (eighteen years ago) link
Has this changed -if it existed- under Obama
Ugh punching up anyway
― MONKEY had been BUMMED by the GHOST of the late prancing paedophile (darraghmac), Wednesday, 4 November 2015 10:45 (eight years ago) link
Experienced this at work the other day, very nice guy who basically thinks the US is a fascist state - "they don't have the same freedoms we have over here in Europe" (he actually said this!) - capable of just about any evil you can imagine. Not helped by the fact that we were working with was a left wing Spanish guy, so anti-American almost by definition though in a more measured, thoughtful way. Anyway, over the course of a few hours, I managed to reason with him and get him to explain and, in some cases, moderate his more outlandish opinions. I still feel like the next time I work with guy I should wear one of lapel badges with the Union Jack and the Stars and Stripes entwined.― Fields of Fat Henry (Tom D.), Monday, 28 September 2015 18:41 (1 month ago) BookmarkFlag Post Permalink
― Caput Johannis in Disco (Tom D.), Wednesday, 4 November 2015 11:00 (eight years ago) link
If Anti-Americanism here/anywhere intensified over US Gov 10-15 years ago it's focus now (again?) is probably spread thinner over (often racist) gun violence, hard right media influence and corporate greed-negligence.
― nashwan, Wednesday, 4 November 2015 11:10 (eight years ago) link
corporate greed-negligence
I thought the UK led the world in this tbh.
― Caput Johannis in Disco (Tom D.), Wednesday, 4 November 2015 11:30 (eight years ago) link
typical UK triumphalism
― nashwan, Wednesday, 4 November 2015 11:46 (eight years ago) link
If only we had a precise English word for the irrational or stereotyped fear or hatred of foreigners! If only that word existed!
But I guess "xenophobia" has 5 syllables and "racism" only 2, so we can't expect Americans to understand or use it. ;-)
― La Düsseldork (Branwell with an N), Wednesday, 4 November 2015 11:56 (eight years ago) link
There's something very Guardian BTL about being anti-American in the UK in 2015
― canoon fooder (dog latin), Wednesday, 4 November 2015 12:17 (eight years ago) link