Andrea Dworkin RIP

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You made me feel very, very guilty, Andrea.

Momus (Momus), Monday, 11 April 2005 17:44 (nineteen years ago) link

wow, that's surprising, only 59. rip.

mark p (Mark P), Monday, 11 April 2005 17:53 (nineteen years ago) link

I hope someone tells me where she's buried so I can piss on her grave. An awful, miserable, facist person. An abuser of people and an abuser of facts. Good riddance. Thankfully, feminism continued to thrive even with Dworkin continually working to further marginalize it.

shookout (shookout), Monday, 11 April 2005 17:53 (nineteen years ago) link

she was MARRIED?!?

weird.

Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 11 April 2005 17:53 (nineteen years ago) link

Yup. It was something often ignored.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 11 April 2005 17:54 (nineteen years ago) link

one can only wonder at their sex life...

Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 11 April 2005 17:55 (nineteen years ago) link

Interesting. I don't think she could have died at a time when she seemed less relevant. In another 10-15 years, when we get a full reconsideration of the '60s-'70s women's movement, she'll seem more concretely part of something important (albeit maybe one of the less appealing manifestations of it). Right now, she just seems kind of ludicrous.

gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Monday, 11 April 2005 17:59 (nineteen years ago) link

I had no idea what she looked like. I think I was subconsciously confusing her with Marilyn Vos Savant.

The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:00 (nineteen years ago) link

I'm sure Callum will be along to pay tribute.

Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:02 (nineteen years ago) link

now let's compare her with the pope

Sym Sym (sym), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:03 (nineteen years ago) link

one can only wonder at their sex life...

I'm pretty sure it was non-penetrative. Can't remember where I heard that, but obviously it was consistent with her philosophies.

jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:03 (nineteen years ago) link

sounds very fulfilling.

Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 11 April 2005 18:05 (nineteen years ago) link

I'm sure Callum will be along to pay tribute

Their sexual ethics seem strangely similar at times.

Ferlin Husky (noodle vague), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:06 (nineteen years ago) link

"obviously"? in many political lives the biggest gulf falls between philosophy and sexual practice

mark s (mark s), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:06 (nineteen years ago) link

rest in peace

cozen (Cozen), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:08 (nineteen years ago) link

From the Guardian:

"In my own life, I don't have intercourse. That is my choice."

jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:09 (nineteen years ago) link

provided no shortage of fun in my philo 355 class: "Contemporary Moral Problems".

kingfish, Monday, 11 April 2005 18:11 (nineteen years ago) link

Her husband MUST have had porn around? If they didn't do it.

andy --, Monday, 11 April 2005 18:12 (nineteen years ago) link

I'm still a booster of her book of fiction, Mercy. Makes most so-called "transgressive" lit look like rebecca of sunnybrook farm. it fits nicely on the shelf next to acker or selby.

scott seward (scott seward), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:12 (nineteen years ago) link

wow. RIP, ms dworkin.

g e o f f (gcannon), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:14 (nineteen years ago) link

mark s: I didn't mean "obviously" like you think I meant it! I meant "that practice is entirely plausible, since obviously [i.e., as you can all see] that practice accords with her philosophy."

jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:14 (nineteen years ago) link

I read an interview with her husband once - an unassuming bespectacled type who was fiercely supportive of her as campaigner and intellect.

Tom (Groke), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:15 (nineteen years ago) link

"You made me feel very, very guilty, Andrea."
ditto

Felonious Drunk (Felcher), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:15 (nineteen years ago) link

apologies jaymc i am v.tired at the moment

(i do think speculation abt the HAPPINESS of her sexlife w.her husband is a bit pointless: what couples end up gettin up to and what they get out of one another = the untellable mystery)

mark s (mark s), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:17 (nineteen years ago) link

"In my own life, I don't have intercourse. That is my choice."

Not exactly gonna win a lot of converts promoting that lifestyle...

Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 11 April 2005 18:18 (nineteen years ago) link

she was MARRIED?!?

weird.

Actually, I'm surprised she got married to him, because her partner was a homosexual, as I recall.

Vestigial Appendages, Esq. (King Kobra), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:19 (nineteen years ago) link

Not exactly gonna win a lot of converts promoting that lifestyle...

The Catholic Church seems to do alright.

Ferlin Husky (noodle vague), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:20 (nineteen years ago) link

uh, the Catholics promote sex like there's no tomorrow - except for priests, and yeah that seems to be working out REALLY well for them lately, doesn't it?

Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 11 April 2005 18:21 (nineteen years ago) link

Priests and Nuns. You know why they call them Nuns, don't you? Because they get nun.

Ferlin Husky (noodle vague), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:25 (nineteen years ago) link

*cymbal crash*

Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 11 April 2005 18:25 (nineteen years ago) link

Anyway, I had a kind of Foucaultian irritation at the suggestion that, like, everybody thinks fucking is the greatest thing.

Ferlin Husky (noodle vague), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:26 (nineteen years ago) link

Any reaction yet from Elaine Showalter, who memorably said a few years back she doubted anybody would get up at 4 AM to watch Dworkin's funeral?

rasheed wallace (rasheed wallace), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:27 (nineteen years ago) link

Dworkin's husband is a gay feminist.

http://dir.salon.com/books/feature/2000/09/20/dworkin/index.html

Momus (Momus), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:28 (nineteen years ago) link

why is it being held at 4am?

mark s (mark s), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:28 (nineteen years ago) link

That's Showalter's way of doubting Dworkin's global reach.

rasheed wallace (rasheed wallace), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:29 (nineteen years ago) link

"Anyway, I had a kind of Foucaultian irritation at the suggestion that, like, everybody thinks fucking is the greatest thing."

uh, look around you. see all those bazillions of people? obviously humanity's pretty fond of fucking, on the whole.

Shakey Mo Collier, Monday, 11 April 2005 18:32 (nineteen years ago) link

"Would you jump off a cliff if humanity told you to?"

Ferlin Husky (noodle vague), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:34 (nineteen years ago) link

ferlin/foucault otm: there's a kind of anxious conformist bullying at the root of it, courtesy ppl apparently made nervous that not everyone shares their tastes and drives

mark s (mark s), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:36 (nineteen years ago) link

antifeminists lose their strawwoman, hurrah.

xpost yes, i thought her marriage sounded wonderful, frankly. and i like getting laid.

g e o f f (gcannon), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:37 (nineteen years ago) link

obviously humanity's pretty fond of fucking, on the whole.

It's also depressingly fond of territorial invasion, which is what Dworkin compared it to in the hope that fucking would go away. Her book Scapegoat compared women to the Jews as universal scapegoats, and ended up advocating that women found a sort of Gender Israel. Salon:

"Dworkin's most original and controversial conclusion to all this is that "women need land and guns." Women must reject pacifism and literally create their own militant, separatist territory (or Lebensraum?). As a practical concept, of course, the idea is nothing short of nuts. But even as an exercise in rhetoric it is unconvincing, mainly because it is unclear why Dworkin believes that Womanland would be immune to the temptations of structural power she has just been at such pains to illustrate. If the Israelis are practicing the sadism they learned from anti-Semites on the Palestinians, won't women also find their own scapegoats?"

Momus (Momus), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:38 (nineteen years ago) link

that salon piece makes it sound like will and grace!!

mark s (mark s), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:38 (nineteen years ago) link

(her marriage, i mean)

mark s (mark s), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:39 (nineteen years ago) link

susie bright can be a bit glib, but the dworkin piece that salon links to is pretty good, i think

mark s (mark s), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:47 (nineteen years ago) link

hmmmpf

Eisbär (llamasfur), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:48 (nineteen years ago) link

I had a close encounter with Dworkin at the Edinburgh Book Festival in 2000.

"Wandering past the marquees, I paused to read an events blackboard. Sitting next to it was an American woman of enormous girth, a sort of greying mannish hippy with a touch of Jerry Garcia about her. I realised with a start that it was Andrea Dworkin, the ultra-feminist who shook me to my core when, in my late 20s, I read her book 'Intercourse' with its thesis that all penetration of women by men is -- while the sexes remain unequal -- violation, and all literature a graph of rape. I eavesdropped long enough to hear her say '...it would probably just play into my megalomaniacal passion for...' She sounded like a much nicer person than her books suggest, although later I read in The Scotsman that she advocates total separation of the genders and a mother's right to execute paedophiles.

"I went to sit on the grass. The sun was shining and some children were playing. An attractive girl came and sat down right between me and Andrea. I never know what to do in situations like this. Do you look admiringly at a sunbathing girl or do you pretend indifference? This time it was much worse, because Andrea Dworkin was sitting right behind the object of my lust! Thank god my 'male gaze' was hidden behind big bulbous blue ski shades."

Momus (Momus), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:54 (nineteen years ago) link

I don't think her marriage was all that different, frankly — at least based on my experience talking to older friends about their marriages. As you get older, I think that sex slides down the priority scale for most.

If she was happy, then I think that sounds pretty great.

sugarpants: bea arthur's secret lover (sugarpants), Monday, 11 April 2005 18:59 (nineteen years ago) link

Sex sliding down the priority scale is one of the more depressing facts of marriage but it's hardly the same as one partner abstaining because she thinks any act of interercourse/penetration equals rape.

If she was happy, I'd rather be miserable.

m coleman (lovebug starski), Monday, 11 April 2005 19:04 (nineteen years ago) link

She was really fucked up. That's my honest feeling. As with any fucked up person you end up pitying them and - to be honest - one wonders if she would have been happier if she was physically attractive and not the second coming of King Kong in baggy trousers.

NamC, Monday, 11 April 2005 19:05 (nineteen years ago) link

The 1960s solution to problems was "peace love and understanding" not "land and guns". It was inclusiveness and reconciliation, not separatism and the security state.

Tell that to the Weather Underground, Malcolm X and the Black Panthers.

Shakey, OMG!

M. White (Miguelito), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:30 (nineteen years ago) link

momus, i don't think our minds work the same way.

you seem to have a strong interest in taxonomies: creating them, reformulating them. i rarely apprehend what you're getting at besides the pleasing symmetry of a well-ordered taxonomy though.

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:30 (nineteen years ago) link

The reason I had Dworkin going into Noah's ark as an "American" alongside PT Barnum is that I think her positions were (especially towards the end) showbiz positions. The solution to bad relations between the sexes -- if you're really interested in that -- is clearly reconciliation and all the virtuous circles you can get going. But Dworkin's real interest was rhetorical power. She was a very powerful speaker, deeply emotional, capable of making whole audiences weep. She got carried away with her own political power, and developed positions the way a melodrama writer makes plots. The "rape" in the Paris hotel room was the culmination of this, but she took it too far and, literally, lost the plot.

Momus (Momus), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:33 (nineteen years ago) link

Manson Family wanted land and guns too... (see also John Birch Society = roots of modern right-wing militia movements)

Shakey Mo Collier, Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:33 (nineteen years ago) link

"American" alongside PT Barnum is that I think her positions were (especially towards the end) showbiz positions.

now we're into a "showbiz = american" meme, i see.

to clarify: i *do* think the correspondence between dworkin's radical views and certain puritan/radical individualist ideas that form a big part of american history is interesting (and it's been noted by a lot of people!). i wouldn't posit those ideas as *the* american ideas nor would i posit dworkin or her ideas as "typically american."

please allow america to be as confused and conflicted as, say, france, with its petains and cocteaus.

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:36 (nineteen years ago) link

i.e. momus you keep taking your "argument" in new directions (or rather, in the direction of new essentialisms and dichotomies) when i'm objecting to the form of your RHETORIC, which remains dismayingly consistent.

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:37 (nineteen years ago) link

[more banging-head-against-a-brick-wall posts here]

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:37 (nineteen years ago) link

Land and guns may very well be a wise path to take but not in every circumstance. I think it's fair to say that land and guns were important to the founding of Anglo-America. Guns helped Protestant (or at least 'anti-Papist') North Americans to take the land of Quebec, they allowed the colonies to defend themselves against Britain during the Revolution and during the War of 1812, and they helped us take the western states from Mexico and 'pacify' the indigenous people living all across the continent. Neither racial minorities nor women are likely to take and keep land (and hence autonomy) by force. It's a silly, nostalgic fantasy worthy of a teenager but its real application is zilch.

M. White (Miguelito), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:41 (nineteen years ago) link

Amateurist, FWIW, I don't think much of Petain's music or movies.

M. White (Miguelito), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:42 (nineteen years ago) link

Well, all this proves is that I'm more like Andrea Dworkin than you are, Amateurist. We're both metaphorical thinkers, and therefore dangerous. Sure, you can say "But all men are not like that!" It's where the metaphor takes you that's interesting. I find myself agreeing with those obituaries which see her as a kind of literary troll. A troll is "wrong", of course, but takes us somewhere interesting by making us re-examine very fundamental positions.

Momus (Momus), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:42 (nineteen years ago) link

haha Momus you're as dangerous as a fuzzy little bunny.

Shakey Mo Collier, Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:46 (nineteen years ago) link

(whereas the Panthers really *were* perceived as dangerous w/their "land and guns" rhetoric - see completely insane and violent US gov't campaign to disassemble/kill them)

Shakey Mo Collier, Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:48 (nineteen years ago) link

. I find myself agreeing with those obituaries which see her as a kind of literary troll

For instance, Katharine Viner's piece in the Guardian, which says that, in a world where getting Botox treatment passes as a feminist gesture, Dworkin was a "bedrock": "even when you disagreed with her, her arguments were infuriating, fascinating, hard to forget. Feminism needs those who won't compromise..."

Momus (Momus), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:48 (nineteen years ago) link

(Andrea Dworkin as the George Galloway of feminism, ha!)

Momus (Momus), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:50 (nineteen years ago) link

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kingfish, Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:54 (nineteen years ago) link

Shakey, are you talking about COINTELPRO, or whatever it was called?

M. White (Miguelito), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:55 (nineteen years ago) link

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The Mad Puffin (The Mad Puffin), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:55 (nineteen years ago) link

there is this strange intersection with cultural conservatism with both of you. i think it's somewhat unfair how much the right's exploitation of her arguments is being held against her, be it with anti-porn laws in canada (which she apparently opposed anyway) that in any case she hardly passed or with 'creating an image of feminists as angry radicals' (god forbid). i've seen more scorn directed at her than i've ever seen directed at ralph nader or al gore. i guess people get very sentimental about their skin mags. i also wish that when people proposed moving beyond her, either absorbing her or ignoring her, it didn't so often involve a move back the cave (or further into it rather than further out of it).

j blount (papa la bas), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 17:57 (nineteen years ago) link

ie. i wish a read more criticisms of feminism that were more than defenses of the author's privilege.

j blount (papa la bas), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 18:01 (nineteen years ago) link

Blount accuses someone of conservatism = Stereolab to release new album

Momus (Momus), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 18:01 (nineteen years ago) link

where, exactly, has this thread "got us" momus? what revelations does it contain?

blount, i think to give dworkin even credit as something to "move beyond" is insulting to the much more interesting and thoughtful feminists that came before and after her!

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 18:02 (nineteen years ago) link

xpost

ok, now this thread = grudge match between two diehard sophists = i'll back out quietly

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 18:03 (nineteen years ago) link

(ok, one last thing: what i mean, blount, is that i don't think dworkin even really needs to be "dealt with." i think she's pretty safely ignored or dismissed. as retrogressive as that may be.)

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 18:04 (nineteen years ago) link

The sympathy with prostitutes I commend as well as the concern over the exploitation of porn actresses. But to say that pornography is a denial of women's civil rights is to deny individual women their own moral agency. It's better-wiser-than-thou 'maternalism' and I'm not sure where she gets off telling people what they do with their bodies and what the exact content of their sexuality should be. She didn't say that it should be regulated or ameliorated. She made a blanket, one-size-fits-all statement that it denies women their civil rights.

M. White (Miguelito), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 18:18 (nineteen years ago) link

fair enough amster, it's just so often when i see her dismissed or ignored (and while i didn't agree with her the more i read of her i find her ideas interesting at least as something to deal with. for some reason she did provoke very strong reactions - momus' reading of her as a 'troll' is right, even if his definition of 'troll' is slightly off - to the extent that that is as much her legacy as anything else. she reminds of what someone once said of ethan in that she'd construct these strawmen but the strawmen would inevitably pop up to attack her) it involve very nearly a complete dismissal of feminism, or at least to the extent that the social norm allows it nowadays, you don't hear too many arguments against women having the vote so much anymore, but 'women in the workplace' and god knows 'equal pay for equal work' remain reliable boogeymen for rightwing talk radio on a slow day, and most often the feminazi they rally against is dworkin. i don't think it's unfair to suggest she's a primary reason you'll meet women who'll say 'i'm for equal rights but i'm not a feminist' (ok probably she's a secondary reason, the right's rebranding of the word 'feminist' a la their rebranding of the word 'liberal' is probably why some shirk from that label even when they agree with its principles) and nearly every discussion of feminism on ilx does inevitably get around to dworkin, albeit usually thru prompting from an anti-feminist. i think for better or worse she has to be dealt with.

j blount (papa la bas), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 18:31 (nineteen years ago) link

yeah, you're right in that she's become a nearly inescapable part of the cultural landscape when it comes to "feminism"--and perhaps i'm being really complacent in my "oh, she's just a nut, here, read these folks..." stance.....

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 18:38 (nineteen years ago) link

david frum writes article about what he and dworkin had in common:
http://www.nationalreview.com/frum/frum-diary.asp

It's amazing how she both served as a convenient strawman for right-wing talk show hosts and made common cause with them.

Sym Sym (sym), Tuesday, 12 April 2005 22:43 (nineteen years ago) link

I think one thing all guys are united on when it comes to Dworkin:

I wouldn't have touched her with yours.

NamC, Wednesday, 13 April 2005 03:40 (nineteen years ago) link

what the fuck does that even mean?

Sym Sym (sym), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 04:07 (nineteen years ago) link

Why are you thinking about mine, Calum?

Tyrone Willie Demetrius DeAndre DeShawn (deangulberry), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 05:03 (nineteen years ago) link

The article by David Frum contains a link to NY Sun article, which conatins an ad for http://www.destinajapan.us/ , which may be all that's needed to finally push this thread over the edge!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 07:37 (nineteen years ago) link

I only just found out this morning that she died & not that she is someone that i have felt great affection for, I am surprised at my mixed reactions. My first encounter with her was in college, I lived in the Women's Resource Center & we had a library with all kinds of feminist books. The most disturbing one was this book with a woman on the cover. She had lines throughout her body & various meat cuts labeled on her. Andrea Dworkin. One of my housemates asked if I knew who she was . . . I had only heard her mentioned before . . . and when I said "no" she went on & on about how wonderful she was & what she did for women. Mostly, she talked about the porn stuff. i was confused. i never really thought too much about pornography. it surprises me now, but i guess i was never really that exposed to it. i had never seen a movie, barely a magazine & i think i was more in tune with my own personal/sexual reactions to what i was seeing rather than analyzing what it meant for Women. I am sometimes still confused as to how I feel about porn. But, on the other hand, I just read Susie Bright's essay about Dworkin & it's quite touching in a way. Just the idea that thinking critically about pornography & sex is credited to Dworkin. She paved the road for that kind of critical thinking & though I found Dworkin to be melodramatic & extreme, it's kind of amazing when you think about the very idea that one person is able to transform how a society percieves, questions and analyzes itself.

kelsey (kelstarry), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 15:40 (nineteen years ago) link

The most disturbing one was this book with a woman on the cover. She had lines throughout her body & various meat cuts labeled on her.

Some misogynist does a drawing of a woman as meat. The drawing gets out into the world with its message that "women are just meat". Andrea Dworkin sees the image and decides to use it for her book, whose thesis is "in this rotten scummy world women are just meat". Meanwhile, apart from the misogynist and Andrea Dworkin, the great majority of people don't for a minute believe that women are just meat. What a strange alliance between the misogynists and the misogyprojectionists!

Momus (Momus), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 16:36 (nineteen years ago) link

Well said Momus. Anyone who, realistically, believes that women are inferior to men is obviously not going to be reading Dworkin's work anyway. It's how I always felt about Spike Lee - who the fuck was he preaching to? Racists are hardly going to be watching his work - so whose opinions was he trying to change?

I recently bought Deep Throat - curiousity got the better of me and I'd wanted to see it for a while. Watched it in the company of a female and another guy. We had a good chuckle at it, as it is kinda funny - though such a shame about Linda Lovelace. I told me gfriend I picked it up and she couldn't care.

The real misogyny, in my opinion, comes from certain people on this forum whose attitude seems to be that women should never be lusted over or spoken about in a sexual content and that - in doing so - the person is somehow a mad woman hater. I really long for the day when we are all as liberated as somewhere like San Francisco. Having spent a few days in the city's gay district and bars and seen how no one gives a shit about sexual orientation, heavy petting on the streets etc I really wish we could all take that lead. I swear that one day I'm moving there.

NamC, Wednesday, 13 April 2005 17:05 (nineteen years ago) link

calum please don't diminish our fair city by moving here.

Shakey Mo Collier, Wednesday, 13 April 2005 17:11 (nineteen years ago) link

Gollum Calum, please move here and initiate warfare with Chris Daly and/or Tony Hall.

M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 17:14 (nineteen years ago) link

I dunno man, probably have more friends there than you do. It'll be there or LA. That's where most of m best friends are scattered now. And there's good parties every freaking night in LA. Damn, I miss that.

NamC, Wednesday, 13 April 2005 17:15 (nineteen years ago) link

maybe people would believe you were "cool"/popular/sexy/interesting/smart if you could go five seconds without talking about how "cool"/popular/sexy/interesting/smart. it's really kind of sad, it's like yr a hyper-insecure 12 year old boy.

Shakey Mo Collier, Wednesday, 13 April 2005 17:18 (nineteen years ago) link

maybe people would believe you were "cool"/popular/sexy/interesting/smart if you could go five seconds without talking about how "cool"/popular/sexy/interesting/smart you are. it's really kind of sad, it's like yr a hyper-insecure 12 year old boy.

Shakey Mo Collier, Wednesday, 13 April 2005 17:19 (nineteen years ago) link

Yeah, but the sex talk, Shakey, is straight up 16 year old.

M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 17:20 (nineteen years ago) link

I dunno man, probably have more friends there than you do.

Upon what information have you based this? Why do think this matters? Why do you think I'd care?

Actually, I'm prepared to concede that you may have more. Who knows? Pure egotism on my part inclines me to believe that my friends, though putatively less numerous, are far superior in quality.

M. White (Miguelito), Wednesday, 13 April 2005 17:31 (nineteen years ago) link

heavy petting on the streets

TEARS OF LAUGHTER

The Ghost of Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 14 April 2005 01:28 (nineteen years ago) link

Calum, dude, I've got to ROFFLE @ yr comments about A. Dworkin's appearance, coming as they do from SOMEONE WHO LOOKS EXACTLY LIKE BRANDON IN "GALAXY QUEST"!!!!1!

Pashmina (Pashmina), Thursday, 14 April 2005 08:34 (nineteen years ago) link

Yeah, and J Blount's para starting w/"fair enough amster" is some fucking good & insightful stuff, esp the line about the right's rebranding of the word "feminist" & the bit abt her straw men inevitably popping up to attack her.

Pashmina (Pashmina), Thursday, 14 April 2005 08:38 (nineteen years ago) link

I always thought the whole penis-as-inherently-violent or dominant thing came from this retroactive metaphor of a weapon. Yes, the penis is long and thin like a spear or a missile, but it also doesn't have a sharp pointy end and doesn't explode on impact. Not all acts of sticking something into something else are inherently violent. The vagina could just as easily be seen as a net, as jaws, as a trap or whatever.

Dworkin always struck me as someone brilliant who wasn't aware enough of how her own particular experiences affected/skewed her insights. Then again, judging from her popularity among women at the time, she obviously touched a nerve, so perhaps many women felt their experiences were similar.

Hurting (Hurting), Tuesday, 19 April 2005 13:49 (nineteen years ago) link

two years pass...

from

Is it even expected today that a woman should just be okay with pornography? Like we've 'progressed' to the point where no one should get upset by it? Was Ariel Levy RIGHT???

-- Abbott, Monday, February 4, 2008 12:57 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Link

It's not my obsession with porn, babe, it's your reaction to it!

-- wanko ergo sum, Monday, February 4, 2008 12:59 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Link

I totally do get this vibe from modren non-'square/straight' society (can't think of any terms that would work outside West Side Story) that a chick's just supposed to accept men jerk it to .mpegs and such, her man jerks it, so it goes. Her opinion doesn't matter, unless she's for it.
1. Is this true and
2. how did it happen and
3. is this a good or bad thing?

Abbott, Monday, 4 February 2008 02:57 (sixteen years ago) link

I was gonna respond to your questions regarding this on the eharmony thread where you invoked Ariel Levy. Anyhow, my impressions:
1. True: Yes, I think this has become increasingly the case over the past several years, esp. in the eyes of many younger i.e., early-20's/late-teens dudes
2. The Hows: Internet presumably removing the "shame factor" previously associated with pornography; plus the media push towards "porn chic", "hey porn's gone mainstream"; plus an x factor (pun not intended) of sorts of women going along with it for whatever reasons...like kinda what Levy talks about in her writings
3. Good or bad? Hmmm. Well, I don't wanna live in a society in which porn is illegal, but I can find enough objectionable things about the contemporary porn biz such that the added factor of women feeling like they are uptight or something if they are not cool with their boyfriends/husbands gettin' down w/the porn is pretty sad...actually, I think it's a sad situation for both women and men.

Part of me thinks that porn will eventually "mellow out" from what it's become, and return largely to the comparatively "innocent" Playboy/Penthouse-type sutff of decades past...I'm not sure why I think that, other then that it seems like things have swung to such an extreme that it's hard for me not to imagine it as part of a cyclical thing that must eventually revert back to something more balanced and sane.

So for whatever reasons, my attempt at answering this question is informed in no small part by me personally being skeeved out by what porn has become in the past few years. But more to the point of your inquiry, it's something that obv. needs to be worked out by individuals/couples... and the fact that societal pressures exist to such a degree that people would feel like there is something wrong with them if they are not down with the current climate, well, again that seems sad to me.
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dell, Monday, 4 February 2008 03:54 (sixteen years ago) link

six years pass...

looks like she won, ultimately

images of war violence and historical smoking (Dr Morbius), Friday, 14 February 2014 14:35 (ten years ago) link

four years pass...

Really good overview of her thought and writings: https://www.bookforum.com/inprint/025_05/20623

xyzzzz__, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 22:55 (five years ago) link

yeah great piece. always found her relationship w Moorcock very interesting.

Οὖτις, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 23:23 (five years ago) link


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