Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

imago, speaking on behalf of other people is a bad idea. Please don't do it.

actually yer right, We never as much made eye contact, although she did perform many sexually suggestive dance moves that night. is perhaps a projection. point retracted

Ok, if you're reading that as "she performed sexually suggestive dance moves" BECAUSE I was there, then you're flat out misreading what I'm saying.

well I didn't think you meant that, but idk, shouldn't speak for others generally otm

edddddddd

Yesssssss?

get out via the window, run

If imago is quite finished (incorrectly) mansplaining what he thought I meant...

ed, the word I would have used would not be "narcissistic", wrong connotations. It would "solipsistic". There is a world of difference.

The situations you describe: Running into your former teacher either on OKC or at a club where she is dancing; sitting behind someone you had an (unsuccessful OKC) date with. These situations are awkward and potentially fraught. Yes.

But the awkwardness may well be *situational* rather than a personal reflection on you. The woman at the movies may well be thinking "OMG, a {guy from OKC} this is awkward, I don't want to have to explain my online dating habits to my IRL friends" where you are occupying the awkward space of {dude from OKC date} rather than her judgement on ed b, human being and OKC user. The situation with the teacher is similar, I mean, she may have been thinking "I was out there doing the butt-dance with my mates when OMG, argh, I saw one of my former students, eek!" - you are occupying a space of {former student}.

I mean, it is partly, yes, "do not assume that because a woman smiles or frowns or even dances sexily, that you are the intended recipient of these actions" because this is a constantly reinforced message. But in these specific cases, it is also a much huger helping of "if a woman reacts awkwardly to an OKC date turning up at a film, it's because ~OKC dates~ are inherently awkward" rather than her carrying around any specific feelings (negative or positive) about you as a human being or even a date.

Apologies is this if coming out crankily, but the main source of my crankiness here is imago ~playing expert~ and telling people what he has decided that I meant or didn't mean. But again, case in point: my crankiness is situational, dependent on imago's actions, rather than judgement on ed b, human being and ILX poster.

Oh yes, that makes total sense and I agree with you.

now if we can just get imago back to agree as well

paragraphs 2 through 5 are sage advice

man, srsly lay off the teacher -- it's hard enough to do the job, but to have to wear the hat on the dance floor is too much
teachers are ppl too

sometimes more so than others, in my experience

Ok, I feel bad about this now. Sorry.

What movie was it?

wear the hat on the dance floor

can we make this a euphemism, stat

*pulls up a chair*

ok i'm on this thing

Good luck!

I just saw someone with "hike" and "dogs" in their name. Summing up, in two words, my problem with most of the people in California.

I met my gf on this thing (in California) and she had a long rant about guys and their dogs, like, "I see right through you, freewheelin' dog guy."

Haha

i'm going on a hike with my dog and a girl i met on okc tomorrow, but i'm in the midwest

Is it a hike or are you just walking around somewhere?

hike
hīk/noun

1. a long walk, especially in the country or wilderness.

synonyms:walk, trek, tramp, trudge, slog, footslog, march; ramble

"a five-mile hike"

I feel like it's one of those "I love the outdoors and hiking" things where people really mean they like walking around a park.

When I think "hiking" I think of specialty footwear, possibly carrying camping gear, and following the Appalachian trail or something

In the United States, Canada, the Republic of Ireland, and United Kingdom, hiking refers to walking outdoors on a trail, or off trail, for recreational purposes.[5] A day hike refers to a hike that can be completed in a single day. Multi-day hikes with camping are referred to as backpacking in North America.

The thought of hiking makes me need to lie down. Preferably in front of an air conditioner.

I'm going to go take a hike on this subject

mh do you list "pedantry" under your OKC interests

Don't be a hike cop

nah, I was just reminded of some article where people were joking about the tendency for people to overemphasize sunny outdoors activities in words and pictures and thought it relevant

I hope your hike went well

Think there's some regional difference in usage around "hike" - e.g. LA peeps talk about "going for a hike up Runyon Canyon" all the time and that is a freakin' paved path.

Going for a ramble with my schipperke after work.

traversing Runyon Canyon is hiking!!!!!

shooting hoops in your driveway may not be the NBA but it is playing basketball

There was Judge John Hodgman episode with a dispute about what counted as hiking. IIRC, it was decided that hiking involved hills.

idiotic decision-- ppl hike for miles in deserts and meadows with no hills in sight

eh, that's no hike, that's a traipse

u ppl are a traipse

grady otm thru this discussion imo

brb, going for a walk to clear my head after this discussion

when I hear hike I def think "change in elevation." if you're not going up something you're going on a walk. but I live in the PNW where hiking is a real thing for a lot of ppl.

I had a friend who equated "mountain climbing" with "rock climbing." I feel like this is similar.

if u guys wanna roll your eyes at hiking being a dating profile cliche that's fine but insisting that ppl aren't actually hiking due to improper footwear, non-strenuousness, or brevity, it isn't just needlessly pedantic, it is wrong

In the United States, Canada, the Republic of Ireland, and United Kingdom, hiking refers to walking outdoors on a trail, or off trail, for recreational purposes

verifying this as good info

getting to my place from downtown is quite a hike, imo

fwiw I was poking fun at the mention of hiking in the context of okcupid, I am not actually that pedantic. at least I sure hope not.

just realised that gr8080's DN depicts undulating terrain

When I take a hike, it is just as long as I choose it to be. Neither more nor less.

what we talk about when we talk about talking about hiking

lolololol a good friend of mine went on a date w one of my exes last night without knowing it, and then texted me about how bad he was, STILL WITHOUT KNOWING IT. Oh ok cupid.

People on OKC tell me to take a hike all the time, appears to be quite a popular hobby