Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I would love it if someone made me a crush tape mix of like the Vaselines/Josef K/Sexual Objects/Nectarine No 9 stuff though.

OKCupid webinar in session yo

io, why stooped? shared cultural currency is a great start, better than crude & unabetted physical attraction

scottish post-punk is a legitimate language of love imo

none of yall indulging me indulge yall

okcsearch 'cardiacs pynchon', let the fun begin

Let's hope he agrees w you, crut.

the other 'cardiacs pynchon' guy really has to step up his game okcupid.com/profile/Logogos?cf=regular

xp Aaaand doesn't read ilx.

out of interest, LJ, as a Londoner who presumably gets a lot of the same matches I get (we're 93% Match 79% Friend 5% Enemy), how often do you receive unsolicited messages?

Probably about 3 times a week. A disproportionate number of my more...enjoyable experiences on OKCupid have arisen from these auspices, but of late the majority of unsolicited correspondence has been of the perplexed and incredulous variety, which is good because my profile is by design a fairly robust filtering mechanism

none of yall indulging me indulge yall
okcsearch 'cardiacs pynchon', let the fun begin
― veneer timber (imago),

are you sayin' let's look at each other's profiles? i'm game (oakgrove1968), but you can only search the profiles of the gender you're interested in, right?

nah you can search everyone. otherwise 'new friends' wouldn't really work huh

faaaaairly certain the other cardiacs pynchon dude is mates with sarahel

out of interest, LJ, as a Londoner who presumably gets a lot of the same matches I get (we're 93% Match 79% Friend 5% Enemy), how often do you receive unsolicited messages?
― Merdeyeux, Tuesday, December 3, 2013 3:05 PM

I thought I read upthread some guy saying he got 4 messages a day? can that be right? i've gotten two messages since being on for a month :(

nah you can search everyone. otherwise 'new friends' wouldn't really work huh

faaaaairly certain the other cardiacs pynchon dude is mates with sarahel

― veneer timber (imago),

I don't think I have new friends checked on mine...mistake? i'm looking for a girlfriend who would presumably be a friend too!

dude, most everyone has 'new friends' checked - i'd amend

lj, when it comes to robust filtering, your profile succeeds with aplomb.

i think the more active you are the more people see your profile, and the more messages you get. and if you're male you have to be pretty active to cut through the noise. i was getting three or four a week when i was doing lots (not even necessarily messaging) but since i've gone hands off yea, it's down to a few messages per month.

btw my profile is okcupid.com/profile/communist_dog, bit tired of it now and it hasn't been particularly successful, feel that i should clear the decks and start over.

the other thing i'd amend and i hate hate hate to do this because i think the written content of a profile is so much more important (yours being erudite and culturally multifaceted not to mention Pynchon'd up) but you probably want at least one picture where all of you (clothed) is visible, and you probably want a main picture that obviously isn't a selfie. juuuust sayin'!

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gonna discover which match-questions merdey and i fundamentally disagree on

ohoho that old semantic chestnut

changed my abortion answer; I think I was trying to be too clever (saying that abortion isn't an option for me because I don't have ovaries or a womb & therefore have absolutely no say in any such decision - turns out you can probably say 'yes' and the explanation holds)

that one change has put us up to 98% o_O

the other thing i'd amend and i hate hate hate to do this because i think the written content of a profile is so much more important (yours being erudite and culturally multifaceted not to mention Pynchon'd up) but you probably want at least one picture where all of you (clothed) is visible, and you probably want a main picture that obviously isn't a selfie. juuuust sayin'!
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― veneer timber (imago), Tuesday, December 3, 2013

yeah, I know, it's hard for me to get a good face and body picture in the same shot...i could go on but it's stupid and neurotic of me and i've got to fix it. thanks for the tip and any other pointers would be so appreciated!

that's pretty much the most important thing by a mile. also at least 3 pictures is always good

OK, I'll work on getting a good face-body combo shot and a couple non-selfies...thanks again!

here is mine, feelin kinda stale lately

http://shoutkey.com/oxen

Have heard a tip that you should have pictures of your face from different angles

You have a really good camera face, though

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lj i wanna say ditch the pic in drag or at the very least don't make it your default but i know better than to say that

haha, well it's doing a job

wdnt say yr profile is stale-seeming on first view, might seem so if you've had it a while. clearly it's gettin' u plans

that one change has put us up to 98% o_O

(Y). probably because i don't put much weight on any questions that don't equate to "are you a fascist?" (tho by 'fascist' i mean anywhere right of, say, rosa luxemburg.)

here is mine, feelin kinda stale lately

http://shoutkey.com/oxen

― |$̲̅(̲̅ιοο̲̅)̲̅$̲̅| (gr8080),

Aw shit, man, can I borrow your face Friday night?

gr80, nice profile! Need to fix the spelling of 'despite' in the last bit.

thanks!

I recently got one of those dubious "you're hot, you've been ranked among the top attractive profiles..." Emails. I'm pretty sure this is because the last time I disabled my account, I included as feedback "this site can be incredibly depressing"

Anyhow, these days I mostly spend time hiding people I'll never message. This just started as a way to expedite browsing, and because looking at the same faces over and over gets really wearying (god have mercy on the poor ladies who see my face with every search), but it's become a kind of end in itself, a campaign of total destruction by radical process of elimination, if you will.

yeah, I do that.

i tried to do that once but it just never ended

so you're still doing it is what you're saying

it extended out to the rest of my life, now i try to hide everyone

Does anyone still go here or is this like dating friendster now? I've never gotten a message back from anyone except a guy in the UK so... that's a little too long distance for me.

Or maybe... maybe I'M the creeper?!

I haven't used the site much this year after a particularly boring date, but it still seems pretty active to me, in the DC area. But where do you live, Viceroy? Think it depends a lot on that - the bigger the place, the better.

Also I don't typically respond to people who message me that don't live in my area. I have enough trouble with relationships that I don't want to tack on long-distance to that.

Does anyone still go here or is this like dating friendster now? I've never gotten a message back from anyone except a guy in the UK so... that's a little too long distance for me.
Or maybe... maybe I'M the creeper?!
― Viceroy

I have my first OKC date tonight. She is the 2nd woman I've asked out on the site, first one I got no answer.

Heh, it looks like it didn't take long for OKC to turn back on their picture-only browsing format.

I live in the outskirts of the Boise "metropolitan" area in Idaho. Not a very large pool I guess, but large enough to have 4 or 5 people I'm interested in who OKC says are good matches...

I get about 1 response for every 7-10 messages I send, so I dunno, it could just be that you have to message more people. It's also worth looking at people's last login time if you're not already, because sometimes they'll show me someone cool, I'll msg them, and then I realize they haven't logged into the site in six months. I never hear back from those people.

oh I see. Thanks for that, I guess I just didn't realize the response to message ratio.

OK, my first OKC date had no sparks but I've now changed my height from the mendacious 5'9" to an honest 5'8" from here on. Here's an article that appeared today which is the sad thinking that caused me to fib in the first place!
http://nypost.com/2013/12/08/short-men-dont-stack-up-with-nyc-women/

Manhattan women are prob just pickier in general & you should be looking at like the ratio of the rate of contacts to short dudes to the rate of contacts to all dudes, also what kind of guy sits around waiting for girls to contact him, also what the fuck is going on with dude's hair in the stock photo accompanying that story!?

not a fan of the rushed Caesar?

Manhattan women are prob just pickier in general & you should be looking at like the ratio of the rate of contacts to short dudes to the rate of contacts to all dudes, also what kind of guy sits around waiting for girls to contact him, also what the fuck is going on with dude's hair in the stock photo accompanying that story!?
― Dan I., Monday, December 9, 2013 2:02 PM

Thanks, Dan. It is a very NYC specific thing I think. Anyway my profile now reflects my real height for better or worse. And yes, what a stupid article that is!

Have you considered that your scale might have been off and you're actually 5'9

And that you're actually lying by therefore saying you're 5'8