Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Sure, just float it out to her as an option, all casual-like. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If she acts weird, move on.

Are you interested in her? If so, offer. If not, don't. If she turns up at the same place when you haven't offered, who cares? If you're not interested, you're not interested.

Well I got my first-ever IM today. To ask about a quote on my profile. So that at least answers the question "is this thing on?"

Well I'm off to meet my destiny. On a Sunday morning at a John Cage conference no less.

I was outside my home late last nite cleaning the gutters and drains in preparation for the hurricane that hits today, when an attractive young woman walked up to me and struck up a conversation - she lived down my street but I didn't know her. About five minutes later she gets a phone call, tells the caller she'll be right there, and then bolted away. I sure hope this wasn't one of those fake-call things they have to give ppl excuses to break off a real-life convo.

so did she want help cleaning her gutters and drains or what

that was the first thing i asked her, since she first wanted to know if i was the maintenance guy (the landlord all but ignores the place). She didn't want help.

My okc luck is holding, the one I thought was a long shot is the best thing I have ever had going. No clue how that happened, it certainly wasn't my doing.

Next date: Wednesday. Got that 'no clue who you are' feeling, but he's a 95% match or something and didn't actively piss me off in his profile.

It's a start.

She wouldn't have to do a fake call to exit in this situation, so it was probably real.

the 'search' function brings up so many people I had never seen before

Thread title strangely a propos: I've just been broken up with. Very unexpectedly, I must say.

Shit. I was getting very happy for you. I'm sorry.

ugh sorry

Did they say anything that made any kind of sense, or, as is so often the case, not?

That he's not getting any younger (!!) and the more we got close enough to have feelings, the more he felt like the feelings that should be there weren't. Which is strange, because he hasn't shown that at all.

Nngh.

Strike two for tall, cold, cerebral editors who like slumming it with someone with literary pretensions but who is actually not complicated/cold enough for them.

well it's for the best to cut it off short? sorry to hear :(

It would have been for the best if he hadn't brought me presents from his vacation and called me sweet names in other languages as recently as yesterday. In some amount of time I will find it laughable that he just said "I'm not getting any younger, and..." but not quite yet.

aw, that's awful. I'm sorry.

xp - I already found that part laughable, or at least that phrase laughable, on your account. Certainly too early for you to, though :-(

There is sometimes something 'off' about the cold, cerebral types who nevertheless enjoy the sweet-name-calling. It can be a strange juxtaposition.

How old is this dude, anyway? You are totally complicated enough! And who wants to be cold?

Whatever he said cannot be taken at face value considering that he brought you presents from vacation and called you sweet names...yesterday. All I've learned about this person is that he can't read or communicate his own feelings very well. Still, I'm sorry :(

That he's not getting any younger (!!) and the more we got close enough to have feelings, the more he felt like the feelings that should be there weren't. Which is strange, because he hasn't shown that at all.

Ugh wtf, L thats exactly what the guy I was seeing said to me!?? Tho, thats turned out to be a lot more complicated and is still a weird ongoing.. weird thing.

Ah shit dude, sorry to hear that!

I know, Trayce! I thought of you. What a weird thing to say. If you like a person and you like doing the same things and you like their thoughts and comments about stuff, and vice versa, why not just keep doing things you like together? It's obviously not really about not getting any younger, it's about feelings and how to have them.

Yeah exactly! I get "I do actually love you, yes. I love you, but I'mn not "in love" with you. Oh but I love being with you and the sex is awesome and you're amazing and smart and funny and sexy and etc etc etc"

...and I'm like... ok, thats all good stuff, wheres the freaking problem? Still dont understand. We still spend time together tho ha. LYFE.

I've been in and out of a long-distance ILYBINILWY relationship for the last eight years now and neither of us has any idea what to do with it. I feel ya.

http://gs1.wac.edgecastcdn.net/8019B6/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_mcmuac4pLo1qz6f9yo1_500.jpg

Heh.

Didn't-piss-me-off-in-his-profile man didn't piss me off in person either, but there was no more and no less to be said for him.

I can't stay mad at my guy, despite some recent events, when he quotes "o rose thou art sick" at me over txt and then says "my interpretation of that was always that Blake was using the wrong pesticide" :D

so my first OKC date has been rescheduled 3 times due to hurricane sandy. ominous??

Bad timing. If you got together on Sunday night you might have gotten to spend a couple of days shacking up together.

so I deleted my profile, but I am going to make a brand new one. I'd LOVE ILX's help with writing it.

Oh dangerous.

can we help you answer the questions too

You should only answer the questions where you think "why would anyone pick this response?", and then pick that response. Then see what kind of matches you get. I think you'd find some colorful characters.

Countdown until the system/someone diagnoses homoII with MPD.

I only visit OKC to moderate lately. it's fun.

Someone congenial & fix-it-y & backpacking/ice climbing/outdoorsy msged me and continues to write when I write back. Remind me never to date fussy, emotionally out of touch editors again ever. You'd think I'd learn, but....

"If you can have a conversation about political philosophy on a random Tuesday, in a dive bar and dressed for the opera, you're my kind of girl." Translation: No actual women need apply.

So I have always had the worst luck in getting any kind of responses or messages on this site. I kinda want the new profile to be less representative of the actual me, but rather just the kind of read-between-the-lines, project-on-me kinda profile that dudes will respond to. Also need help with a new user name.

I might need a photo of me holding a ukulele.

XP that is definitely the right idea, for ladies and dudes

so my first OKC date has been rescheduled 3 times due to hurricane sandy. ominous??

― 乒乓, Wednesday, October 31, 2012 11:56 PM (6 days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

so this was a very middling date!

it's okay because I have another one tomorrow

if I do find someone through this I will attribute it to linking to both REGRET (BAYWATCH VERZH) and UPSIDE DOWN in my profile

I kinda want the new profile to be less representative of the actual me, but rather just the kind of read-between-the-lines, project-on-me kinda profile that dudes will respond to.

"dudes", haha. my old profile gave a good impression of the actual me, which resulted in ten visitors a week, and three dates overall. then i overhauled it, put all the personal info in the explained questions, encouraged people to go look for it, put a bunch of non sequiturs in the "thinking about" section, and set the prettiest possible picture of me as an avatar. result: fifty visitors a week, and tons of mail, most of which are ladies perving on The Beard, which I carefully showcased in said picture.

people actually look at the answers to questions? wow