Finally admitting it's no longer worth yr time to be polite C/D

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Yeah. So?

Millar (Millar), Sunday, 24 August 2003 15:51 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

cf. ilm: 2002-present.

strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Sunday, 24 August 2003 15:54 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

it takes more time to be polite?

oops (Oops), Sunday, 24 August 2003 15:56 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

oh and by the way I've found oops really hilarious for the past 3 months, no really, he's got some comic muscle to flex with that shit

Millar (Millar), Sunday, 24 August 2003 16:00 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

likewise, bro

oops (Oops), Sunday, 24 August 2003 16:01 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

WHATEVER DUDE *fart sound*

Millar (Millar), Sunday, 24 August 2003 16:02 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

like, gag me with a spoon

oops (Oops), Sunday, 24 August 2003 16:02 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

my login password is 'tigerfat'

Millar (Millar), Sunday, 24 August 2003 16:06 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

who gives a shit?

stevem (blueski), Sunday, 24 August 2003 16:07 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

see: getting fired from your waiting-tables gig.

phil-two (phil-two), Sunday, 24 August 2003 17:36 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

it's always worth your time to be polite!

s1utsky (slutsky), Sunday, 24 August 2003 17:48 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

miss manners says that angry people get their way more easily than polite ones.

Maria (Maria), Sunday, 24 August 2003 17:49 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

but it probably takes a toll

s1utsky (slutsky), Sunday, 24 August 2003 17:51 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

This is the true story of 837 strangers, picked to live in a message board to find out what happens when people stop being polite and start getting real...

Larcole (Nicole), Sunday, 24 August 2003 18:07 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Millar = Puck

stevem (blueski), Sunday, 24 August 2003 18:16 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

I can't wait

Mr Noodles (Mr Noodles), Sunday, 24 August 2003 19:21 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

you should never be polite in the first place bcz that's when ppl take advantage of you.

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Sunday, 24 August 2003 19:23 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

I agree with slutsky.

rosemary (rosemary), Sunday, 24 August 2003 19:25 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

This is the true story of 837 strangers, picked to live in a message board to find out what happens when people stop being polite and start getting real...

I've got dibs on being Julie from the first season! Which is kinda sad considering she was only 19 then and I'm, like, older. (Ah well, she's absolutely older than me IRL. It'll still work.)

Just Deanna (Dee the Lurker), Sunday, 24 August 2003 20:01 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Being polite is so much easier.

miloauckerman (miloauckerman), Sunday, 24 August 2003 21:06 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Wesley Willis R.I.P.

s1utsky (slutsky), Sunday, 24 August 2003 21:14 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Being dumb's the easiest of all

Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Sunday, 24 August 2003 21:19 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

i think julio's comment has a certain truth to it - although not in every case. there are certain people who i've had very strained relationships with - and i've spent a lot of time trying to be nice to them - but still had little success trying to establish even cordial relations with them. it seems like a waste of time and effort in hindsight - i'd rather just be rude and ignorant to them at this stage.

weasel diesel (K1l14n), Sunday, 24 August 2003 21:20 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

being polite is harder, it takes work, but i think its worth it.

The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Sunday, 24 August 2003 21:21 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

less mopping up afterwards for a start

electric sound of jim (electricsound), Sunday, 24 August 2003 22:19 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Great, now I have the Residents stuck in my head you bastards.

Trayce (trayce), Monday, 25 August 2003 02:04 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Great, now I have the Residents stuck in my head you bastards.

That's supposed to be a bad thing?

Christine 'Green Leafy Dragon' Indigo (cindigo), Monday, 25 August 2003 02:42 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Impolite people can suck it.

NA (Nick A.), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:14 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

it's funny when some people loudly protest the virtues of politesse like their new doctrine of rudeness will save the world. hardly.

one can be polite and still covey one's anger, btw.

amateurist (amateurist), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:28 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

coNvey

amateurist (amateurist), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:28 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Amateurist, I couldn't agree more. (no sarcasm intended.)

daria g (daria g), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:29 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

good test cases of the possibilities w/in politeness: calling up customer service lines of large corporations.

amateurist (amateurist), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:30 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

in fact you can be 10x more witheringly effective by being polite and angry than being splenetic and angry.

amateurist (amateurist), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:31 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

that and many other nuggets of wisdom are in my new book, 120 ways to be withering effective: in the boardroom, in the bedroom

amateurist (amateurist), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:31 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

I swore like a Pennsylvania state trooper earlier while trying to get through to an actual person at Verizon Wireless. But when I actually talked to a person, it was back to default polite mode. It's certainly gotten me out of a lot of credit card late fees.

daria g (daria g), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:31 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

in fact you can be 10x more witheringly effective by being polite and angry than being splenetic and angry.

passive-aggressiveness: the new black

animal wrangler (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:32 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Indeed if you really want to make your annoyance clear politeness is much more effective. Can also make others angrier if such is your intention. Also see: Parisians.

It's not passive-aggressive to refrain from bashing others over the head with pure aggressiveness..

daria g (daria g), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:35 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

kill 'em all and let god sort 'em out

animal wrangler (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:36 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

what is alex in nyc doing on jody's computer?

amateurist (amateurist), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:36 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

Witheringly effective in the bedroom?

JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:36 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

i found parisians to be more aggressive-aggressive

Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 25 August 2003 15:38 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

one month passes...
you should never be polite in the first place bcz that's when ppl take advantage of you.
-- Julio Desouza (juli...), August 24th, 2003.

I think this is very interesting. It is more like it takes patience to deal with rudeness or cluelessness, the most commonly-bugging variety of which I have recently encountered which is dealing with people who are complaining to you basically that they are having to work too hard to get the maximum benefit out of their acquaintance with you, basically, not getting or understanding that THEY may be seeking YOU more than YOU are seeking THEM. It is fine to have this situation but don't complain about it to the person you are pursuing, please!

For example, I met a random fellow at a random function and I gave him my card at his request. He emailed me at work at the business email address on my card and in the BODY OF THE EMAIL asked me what my business telephone was. This caused me to think, is this person lame or just plain stupid? because my work telephone number is on the same card where he got my email. This was a big turn-off.

Later, after I returned one of his calls, he left a return message in part complaining that it was really inconvenient of me not leaving my callback number and that he had to go "shuffling through" lots of people's cards to find it. DUH! I am happy to return his call and to leave my number when asked to do so but it just indicates to me that someone is likely to be careless or lazy in a friendship, should one ever develop.

>:(

END OF RANT

felicity (felicity), Thursday, 25 September 2003 18:55 (fifteen years ago) Permalink

fifteen years pass...

you should never be polite in the first place bcz that's when ppl take advantage of you.
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Sunday, 24 August 2003 19:23 (fifteen years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

my current job is where this penny has finally started to drop for me

(ito irl behaviour obv)

~mine own~ bitcoin (darraghmac), Thursday, 14 March 2019 23:39 (one week ago) Permalink

As a general rule of conduct there's already more than enough friction and irritation involved in just living among other humans that reducing it a bit through good manners helps to keep us from one another's throats. Over time you learn which people do not reciprocate your being politeness, but rather use it as a means to trample on you. Them you can unload on.

A is for (Aimless), Friday, 15 March 2019 01:13 (one week ago) Permalink


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