I'm legit terrified of sex with strangers. I remember a Grindr-happy friend once expressing confusion about the act of "picking up at a bar", like he couldn't even process the idea that you might want to first converse socially with somebody you intend to be intimate with
In the early 2000s I picked up somebody in a bar in Austin who drove me back to his place, we hooked up (it was lame), and then he drove me back to where I was staying, pointing out all the fragile parts of the South Austin moraine landscape that his development company was intending to steamroll over. Me at age 23 in the passenger seat nodding as he talked about his problems with "environmental activist lobbyists" etc.
― flamboyant goon tie included, Wednesday, 19 October 2022 15:25 (one year ago) link
I just finished a draft on Erotica (30 years old tomorrow) and tried not to lean too hard into the terror of sex in the early '90s. But it was difficult. And I didn't succeed.
― Eric H., Wednesday, 19 October 2022 15:32 (one year ago) link
I have had sex with online hookups, but only bad and unfulfilling sex. The only fulfilling hookups I had were with people I met in bars. I met my husband at a Kink Bound in Public shoot in a bar, ffs.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Wednesday, 19 October 2022 15:37 (one year ago) link
I say this with love ... that tracks :)
― Eric H., Wednesday, 19 October 2022 15:40 (one year ago) link
https://www.slantmagazine.com/music/madonna-erotica-retrospective-review/
― Eric H., Wednesday, 19 October 2022 20:06 (one year ago) link
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Wednesday, 19 October 2022 21:59 (one year ago) link
why does fetish footwear have to be so goddamn uncomfortable?
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 20:05 (one year ago) link
First line in your memoir!
Hooked up with a 21-y-old at a Halloween party on Saturday, introduced to me by my friend the host. He was pretty drunk, I mildly drunk, and we were going at it in the bathroom 20 minutes later.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 20:53 (one year ago) link
that sounds fun!
oh my the queers and their halloween costumes and photos. i'm supportive fron the sidelines. i stayed home all weekend and i'll be in bed by 8:30 tonight. it's spooky season for many but it's depression season for me.
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:05 (one year ago) link
haha, anyway, alfred did you have a costume this year?
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:06 (one year ago) link
New Romantic FIU Footballer. I hope the subtle makeup isn't too subtle.
https://i.imgur.com/KOwM7dS.jpg
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:09 (one year ago) link
very handsome
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:15 (one year ago) link
today i dressed up as 'office worker on casual friday' so i could give even less of a fuck than usual
― ꙮ (map)
I hear ya. Normally I can't stand Halloween
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:17 (one year ago) link
i do get an idea or two for a costume every year but it just seems like another project i have to do. i swear one of these years i'll just go for it. maybe i need to do mushroom / ketamine therapy and a little bit of magic queer pixie dust will rub off on me.
yesterday i had a strong image of me djing in a dress. like a nice designer dress. putting that one on the 'maybe some day when i have less baggage to carry around all the time' list too.
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:21 (one year ago) link
We were supposed to do an Airbender themed couples costume this year, but my weekend in hospital dashed those dreams— I can’t even eat any candy at the moment, on a “full liquids” diet until Friday
― poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:44 (one year ago) link
Negronis!
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:46 (one year ago) link
oh no, i hope you're feeling better soon
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:48 (one year ago) link
table, I hope you got my message on the other thread. Hugs.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:53 (one year ago) link
I did, thanks Alfred and map! staying away from booze for a bit as i believe it might have been a booze-induced chowdown that caused the obstruction in the first place, but i am planning on hitting the vape for the first time since Friday, longest i’ve gone in years without weed ?!?
― poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:57 (one year ago) link
I'm not sure taking someone younger and more inebriated than yourself into a bathroom for sex, moments after meeting them, is the way you want that hook-up story to sound
― boxedjoy, Monday, 31 October 2022 22:24 (one year ago) link
We didn't have sex. It's fine -- we talked yesterday, we're meeting for coffee tomorrow night.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 22:28 (one year ago) link
i've never really loved halloween - the pressure to think of an original/funny costume, running all over town to get the stuff you need for it, then actually executing the idea (and in my case, more likely than not doing a shitty job of it)...i know some gays treat it like it's their christmas and i'm happy for them but it's not really my thing. i'm also really ready for those spirit halloween costume memes all over IG to be over and done with lol
― donna rouge, Monday, 31 October 2022 22:50 (one year ago) link
i agree very much with all of that, except the doing a shitty job of it, i don't think that's possible for you
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 23:43 (one year ago) link
i look forward to the day i can hire my own temporary costume designer to execute my halloween costume for me (must have seen one too many of those vogue look back videos today)
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 23:45 (one year ago) link
― poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 00:51 (one year ago) link
you aren’t allowed to have drunken bathroom sex until you’re at least 22
― J0rdan S., Tuesday, 1 November 2022 00:54 (one year ago) link
xp yes, that was uncalled for imo.
shit, hope you're ok table and wish you a speedy recovery.
i've worn the same costume every year for the last 5 or 6 years, initially it was based of a playful yijing reading ("someone tethers his cow; the traveller's gain is the townie's disaster", no particular question). I had this great 1890's fringe jacket that i bought to flip but never got around to selling. a year later i added a hobby horse.
― "H to the Izzo" means "I love you" (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 03:27 (one year ago) link
can we see the jacket?!
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 09:27 (one year ago) link
omg i love all of that xp
apropos of nothing here's a hobby horse from wikipedia
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/7b/Morris_dancers_Thames_at_Richmond.jpg-
― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 15:29 (one year ago) link
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/7b/Morris_dancers_Thames_at_Richmond.jpg
when i'm dancing with my straight friends
― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 15:30 (one year ago) link
awww look at those straight people
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 15:31 (one year ago) link
ok i had to laugh at the fb friend whose costume was a "spirit halloween costume" template printed out as a giant card they're wearing
― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 18:36 (one year ago) link
Had sex with my husband this morning, rolled over and said “Now let’s vote.”
― ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.), Tuesday, 8 November 2022 14:33 (one year ago) link
Yeah, because all your gay friends wouldn't go https://t.co/oAV3dl1eyV— extremely hardcore naomi (parody) (@H0NEYRIVER) November 17, 2022
― ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.), Thursday, 17 November 2022 20:54 (one year ago) link
― ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.)
Wish Morbs were here to see this
― G. D’Arcy Cheesewright (silby), Thursday, 17 November 2022 21:06 (one year ago) link
So would he, if memory serves
― ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.), Thursday, 17 November 2022 21:12 (one year ago) link
the taylor swift tweet on the other head i wouldn't wish on him
― ꙮ (map), Thursday, 17 November 2022 21:13 (one year ago) link
I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, tbh
― poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Thursday, 17 November 2022 23:55 (one year ago) link
I miss Morbs’ sense of humor … and that he had one
― ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.), Friday, 18 November 2022 01:10 (one year ago) link
"At least two people inside the club confronted and fought the gunman and prevented further violence, Vasquez said. “We owe them a great debt of thanks,” he said."
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 21 November 2022 00:29 (one year ago) link
mfer was 22 years old.
i've been to club q, once. it was the second to last day of a week i had to spend in colorado springs attending an antiquarian books seminar. i took an uber out there. i remember black and white checkered decor. friendly people. there was a bathhouse attached to it, pretty bare bones but charming. i had a great time. played hooky the next day. my best memory of the whole week by far. a little oasis stuck in the futuristic lower case sans serif gay 2000s and perfect for it. colorado springs is such a horrible place overall, has to be one of the worst cities in the u.s. that bar was really the only gay bar in the city iirc. what a nightmare.
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 21 November 2022 00:38 (one year ago) link
how conservative is Colorado Springs, map?
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 21 November 2022 00:54 (one year ago) link
i mean, i don't have numbers and i haven't checked recently, but it's the ultimate armed forces town with a whole mess of defense contractors and so forth. there's literally nowhere good to eat in the city. the whole place is basically a run-down suburb. the city itself outlawed recreational weed, you have to buy it 30 miles outside of town.
― ꙮ (map), Monday, 21 November 2022 01:00 (one year ago) link
wyd
― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 17:48 (one year ago) link
Popping Advil for monkeypox vax-induced chills.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 18:25 (one year ago) link
:| feel better soon
― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 18:34 (one year ago) link
i'm in a meeting
― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 18:35 (one year ago) link
calling in sick in a few, air quality got me feeling crappy