I'm Only Happy When It's Gay // LGBTTQQIAAP+ // Fall 2021

Awww...So happy for you both, map.

Congrats map.

Theo quit his job, which was great, and while I was worried that we were going to drive each other crazy, we're actually doing great being around each other more. :-)

that sounds great.

you guys are sweet, thank you.

o snap! Look at this happy lot!
makes my heart warm.
congratulations doll 🤍
ted that's great. always an important adjustment.
I'm tryna get one more good time up in this bachelor pad
b4 a wacky 2 months we'll see those that goes

Congratulations map!!!

congrats map, best wishes

now that my porn tumblr finally got deleted all i'm left with is perving on a video ad for wrestling singlets that shows up in my fb feed from time to time.

i need a vast and constantly refreshed store of trashy and retro porn jpgs in my life.

I just purchased two issues of a very scarce vintage porn mag by the great Meal Roberts, who was around the time as all the studio physique people but mostly took photos of boy next door, California types. More on him here:
https://www.anothermanmag.com/life-culture/11093/mel-roberts-the-20th-century-queer-photographer-targeted-by-the-lapd

All that I'll say is that my friend was selling them and gave them to me for a song-- one of them is worth twice what he asked.

Obviously, I meant Mel Roberts and my phone autocorrected. Apologies.

map congraaaaaaaaaats!!!!!

felt that way too, in the abstract, but then I encountered a couple insanely hot ppl who were into it and realized in that moment I would 100% hold a leash for the right person

tbf there is precious little I wouldn’t do if someone I was sufficiently attracted to was turned on by it. service switch, innit

― nicole, Saturday, January 29, 2022 8:04 PM (one week ago) bookmarkflaglink

i would 100% wear a leash for the right person

but yea completely otm re turn ons. if you're into something and you're also into me and i'm into you then i will be up for almost anything

i just don't think i would look good in a leash
i have no problem with the act i just do not think it would be very flattering
it sucks because i love chokers but I'm a bracelet and earring guy, like to me a cuff is self actualization
I've always a second earring but errebody and their mother says the ones on top hurt like a b

I'm thinking of perma thread names any inspo

Your thread titles are always perfect

Maybe a callback to “i have like no gay friends in town” but on the other hand weve moved past that in many ways

Permanently lgbtqia+

i am permanently lgbtq+ in town

I am permanent. I am queer. I am in town. I am here.

is that some rally I don' know about?

😂 ok good feedback. I'll get cracking. in the meantime, any good stories? new love? old flames? i might be ready for a pre spring fling tbh.

celebrated our 10th (!) anniversary by driving out to desert hot springs for the weekend. mineral water pools feel sooooo nice

Congratulations! We celebrated ours last year

damn y'all! bunch of happy clams over here. real question: what kind of swimsuit do you wear?

I go swimming so rarely that if I do wear anything, it's usually underwear. But also swimming is more complicated with a stoma, so...

I'm really concerned for all the trans and queer teens out there. Reading an article about Texas this morning made me weep.

Hello gays, I have been away from home for two weeks and I really miss my bf!

hi sweetie! are you facetiming? where are you?

UGH tabes <3 - Texas. more and more Republicans. gross. what was the article saying?

I have been away from home for two weeks and I really miss my bf!

― flamboyant goon tie included, Wednesday, March 2, 2022 9:14 AM (five hours ago)

i hate when that happens!

last summer i started wearing speedos if i was somewhere gay, or just w/ my bf. or at the beach in p town i wore nothing

i have a cute pair of green and blue swim trunks that kinda look like athletic shorts. i have speedos that i probably don't fit into anymore (and that are kind of ugly anyway tbh)

I'm not sure why it's never occurred to me to wear speedos.

i have a deep, deep aversion

don those sound super cute

hardest thing about swimsuits is that they are always too long, even a 5" inseam looks too long on me bc i'm pretty short so i've been looking for 3". the longer "boardshorts" look comical on me

i think i'd look hella cute in a speedo tbh but would only wear it in the right place

my legs are too large to wear anything but trunks, i have a pair with roosters on them i bought in las vegas at the gay swimwear store. though they are mid thigh.

once when i was desperate for money i was *ahem* answering ads. and this guy really needed me to wear a speedo for him after we ate at the cheesecake factory. so i still have that.

my speedo is red, it felt a bit baywatch to me. i want to find a new color, but most speedos w/ designs on them are ugly. i'm thinking kelly green for this summer.

i think marcos would look hella cute in a speedo tbh as well

this guy really needed me to wear a speedo for him after we ate at the cheesecake factory

i love a specific fetish!

lol

Beefcake Factory

my bf and i have a running joke about the little factory where we ad-lib a construction foreman saying things like "ok boys, time to grease up your pistons, bend over and put your backs into it," etc.

I definitely don't fit into speedos anymore, the last pair I bought I weighed about 15 pounds less than I do now for a variety of reasons.

I should have said 'my speedos'

It's worth mentioning that I almost exclusively wear bikini briefs, tho. I hate any other type of underwear.

my kink of shame is that i bought a bunch of shorts and these weird little ball holsters from a lame gay-bro clothing company based in san diego called w00f clothing, and i still wear them to the gym. my cheeks are turning red just typing it haha.

I go home tomorrow and I'm excited to see my dude. It's been 24/7 with him for a while now bc pandemic. Physical distance has created imagined mental distance, I feel his absence.

I enjoy wearing speedos! I do not enjoy being naked in public. My speedos are black and from the Speedo/CDG collaboration.

i think marcos would look hella cute in a speedo tbh as well

― Nedlene Grendel as Basenji Holmo (map), Wednesday, March 2, 2022 3:01 PM (two hours ago) bookmarkflaglink

<3 <3 <3

i dont even wanna talk about the underwear i wore for most of my twenties. like the cheapest square boxers from target lol. financial security and feeling more ***gay*** in my life now means i finally bought nicer underwear. i have these pale pink ck briefs on right now and i look good in them

My partner used to be a competitive swimmer and wears speedos, which I do not think I will ever be capabalenof doing

it took me a while to get there but whenever i was around a bunch of boys in speedos wearing a normal bathing suit i felt like a prude so i decided to switch over to the dark side... in mixed company (meaning a straight beach) i'd prob wear normal bathing suit. but as far as riis beach in new york, p town, fire island etc i like being among the horde of skimpy suits (or in p town, the horde of nudes). i believe alfred saw me wear a speedo when we were at the standard in miami beach but that's only bcuz my boyfriend's trunks got ruined so i let him wear mine thus leaving me w/ just a speedo

I lit a candle for you two at the Standard chapel.

i have a weird situation. so this guy, f, was friendly to me on ig and eventually came to a dj thing. he is close friends with my partner's work manager. he is also in an ltr. i had a friendly coffee date with f which turned into texting which got flirty, him initiating it. i asked if he was flirting, which seemed to make him anxious, but i told him it was welcome. i was communicating with my partner about it this whole time with the understanding that this sort of thing was fine (with no knowledge yet about f and his partner and where they are at), but he finally said he was uncomfortable because f is close with his manager at work. which is fine and very understandable and i'm supportive of that. so i've cooled off on texts and i'm sure f has picked up on it.

anyway, we had planned a couples dinner thing as friends. but now that feels awkward to follow up on.

i think i still want to be friends with f and i think that could still be possible but i'm unsure about where to go from here.

what do i communicate to f here? my partner doesn't want me to say to him that i stopped flirting because of the work manager, to leave him out of it. which, ok, i guess? this is strangely bewildering and i've taken a few days to try and think it over but could use some perspective.

anyway, we had planned a couples dinner thing as friends. but now that feels awkward to follow up on

to be clear, we had planned it, then they had to cancel, nothing rescheduled yet

I think maybe reschedule the couples dinner if possible and then try to thread the needle of friendly-but-not-flirty there so you're showing interest in spending time together but not interest in *wink wink, nudge nudge*?

Or, is there an avenue via DJing in which you could re-engage neutrally? I can't gauge from the story if he's a music nerd or not; if he is, maybe you can come up with some crate-digging type of question?

It's very odd trying to think of strategies to engage with someone that communicate that you are NOT flirting with them