mental mistakes - where do you fall?

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curious as to how other people's brains work compared to mine in this regard. i'm not just talking 'work' or anything, like any kind of 'life' mistake.

Poll Results

OptionVotes
I reflect and momentarily feel 'dumb', but then eventually I can move on 25
one mistake is the beginning of a domino effect and I will doubt myself on everything from now on 19
when I make a mistake, whatever - it happens, and there's too much else to worry about to dwell 8
Other 3
I never make mistakes 2


Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Thursday, 23 September 2021 20:03 (one month ago) link

either options 2 and 3 depending on my mental state at the time

it's been 2 more often the past few years, which is good

STOCK FIST-PUMPER BRAD (BradNelson), Thursday, 23 September 2021 20:06 (one month ago) link

sometimes i let out a big cathartic "god i'm a dumbass" and then that's usually funny enough to me that i don't dwell

STOCK FIST-PUMPER BRAD (BradNelson), Thursday, 23 September 2021 20:07 (one month ago) link

i have trouble accepting mistakes to the point where after I make a mistake, when other stuff goes wrong, I assume I am the person that caused that (even when I am not).

making my life hell at work right now but also in real life - for instance, my brother was supposed to come over for two days to be with the folks while I'm out of town, and I told him the right dates and he screwed up and is departing earlier than he is supposed to and I thought for a while that I gave him the wrong details until I found them.

I blame corporate programming.

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Thursday, 23 September 2021 20:27 (one month ago) link

#2

I'm a sovereign jazz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 23 September 2021 20:36 (one month ago) link

somewhere between #2 and #3 depending on how much sleep I've had

lemmy incaution (emsworth), Thursday, 23 September 2021 20:42 (one month ago) link

What about not worry too much about it and move on but intermittently remember it and feel embarrassed at random occasions years later?

I am using your worlds, Thursday, 23 September 2021 20:43 (one month ago) link

I think my skin has got thicker over the years but I'm still prone to brooding on these things - and very much still feel raw about all sorts of things that happened years ago. As the Australian poet Les Murray put it 'I suffer from unconquerable memory'.

Vanishing Point (Chinaski), Thursday, 23 September 2021 20:55 (one month ago) link

I was under-slept earlier this week and when trying to think what month it was I thought it was spring lol

《Myst1kOblivi0n》 (jim in vancouver), Thursday, 23 September 2021 21:13 (one month ago) link

missing option for I will sometimes think about this when I'm trying to fall asleep for the next 30 years

bovarism, Thursday, 23 September 2021 21:33 (one month ago) link

otm

Lily Dale, Thursday, 23 September 2021 22:25 (one month ago) link

a few times this week I went to bed stewing over something I did in 2010

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Thursday, 23 September 2021 22:25 (one month ago) link

Mine is a two-part answer:
1. Apologize repeatedly and in detail so everyone knows I know I made a mistake
2. Remember the mistake forever

Lily Dale, Thursday, 23 September 2021 22:26 (one month ago) link

At the best: A few days of mental hell. At the worst: An immediate panic attack.

Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Thursday, 23 September 2021 22:28 (one month ago) link

I generally do a "well THAT didn't work" thought and move on after whatever damage control is needed. When they were little, I taught my kids that everyone gets to make 10 little and 1 big mistake every day, and if you don't use them they carry over, but making the same mistake over again counts double.

Jaq, Thursday, 23 September 2021 22:45 (one month ago) link

Oh, that's great!

Lily Dale, Thursday, 23 September 2021 23:01 (one month ago) link

I reflect and move on as best I can.

It mainly depends on how big an error it was and how strongly it arouses feelings of shame and guilt. If reflection shows me a course of correction, great. I'll do that. If there's not a thing I can do to correct it or prevent a recurrence, but my stupid brain wants to keep tossing it up at me, then I keep batting it down until my brain stops forcing it forward. That can take a while sometimes. It's tiresome, but it's hard to control your thoughts and feelings when they come from autonomous parts of the brain.

more difficult than I look (Aimless), Thursday, 23 September 2021 23:02 (one month ago) link

mostly 2, although I can slide into 3 if I feel like my mistake has a negative impact on someone in my life

Mr. Cacciatore (Moodles), Thursday, 23 September 2021 23:09 (one month ago) link

i mistake from one mistake to another and no longer care, life is a series of mistakes

typo hell #5: maybe you get an idea of what went into, or (Karl Malone), Thursday, 23 September 2021 23:34 (one month ago) link

like just then, i tried to vote in the poll a second time. forget i had just voted. add +1 to the mistake meter

typo hell #5: maybe you get an idea of what went into, or (Karl Malone), Thursday, 23 September 2021 23:35 (one month ago) link

your second vote counts on the metaphysical plane

more difficult than I look (Aimless), Thursday, 23 September 2021 23:40 (one month ago) link

Somewhere between 1 and 2 but the condition others mentioned above, about randomly remembering fuckups from high school or five years ago or whenever else, definitely applies as well.

but also fuck you (unperson), Friday, 24 September 2021 00:35 (one month ago) link

my brain loves to show me mistakes i made when i was like 13 at random times. and all ages between 13 and now.

certified juice therapist (harbl), Friday, 24 September 2021 01:09 (one month ago) link

My personal #1 goal at any job I've worked at in my adult life is to learn exactly how to correct any mistakes I (and often those whose jobs are adjacent to mine) might make in a day. Mistakes are unavoidable and human but they seldom need to be the end of the world. Like people at my job freak out when mistakes happen but I just calmly roll up my sleeves and put things back in their place.

I wish I could figure out how to better port that skill over to my non-work life, where mistakes are more often a sign of what a goddamn stupid idiot I am.

Marty J. Bilge (Old Lunch), Friday, 24 September 2021 01:21 (one month ago) link

what about jobs where mistakes are not easily corrected?

typo hell #5: maybe you get an idea of what went into, or (Karl Malone), Friday, 24 September 2021 02:06 (one month ago) link

think about THAT!

typo hell #5: maybe you get an idea of what went into, or (Karl Malone), Friday, 24 September 2021 02:06 (one month ago) link

i did brain surgery on a guy once and then realized he was there to have his appendix taken out so I had to put his brain back but but a bunch of us had been playing hockey with it first so he was dumber than before

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Friday, 24 September 2021 02:07 (one month ago) link

but that guy was probably happier as a result

typo hell #5: maybe you get an idea of what went into, or (Karl Malone), Friday, 24 September 2021 02:09 (one month ago) link

he was until he died 5 minutes later

Gardyloominati (Neanderthal), Friday, 24 September 2021 02:10 (one month ago) link

then he died happy! what more could any of us wish for?

more difficult than I look (Aimless), Friday, 24 September 2021 03:00 (one month ago) link

to the op - just confirmation of what i already believe. working on it ... wish the process was faster.

lukas, Friday, 24 September 2021 03:09 (one month ago) link

two weeks pass...

Automatic thread bump. This poll is closing tomorrow.

System, Thursday, 14 October 2021 00:01 (one week ago) link

1. Apologize repeatedly and in detail so everyone knows I know I made a mistake
2. Remember the mistake forever

3. Make same mistake week later

Sorry, but that is how I feel (Ste), Thursday, 14 October 2021 15:24 (one week ago) link

It used to be 3, now it's 1. Yay Sertraline.

mike t-diva, Thursday, 14 October 2021 15:30 (one week ago) link

my brain loves to show me mistakes i made when i was like 13 at random times. and all ages between 13 and now.


Yep.

And of course the worms! (Boring, Maryland), Thursday, 14 October 2021 16:13 (one week ago) link

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

System, Friday, 15 October 2021 00:01 (one week ago) link


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