Have you ever been hurt by an internet ad hominem?

Of course you have. But do you find yourself especially sensitive to them? Is there one that hurt the most? How do you react to them? (Emotionally, physically, diplomatically)

If you have never been dissed on the internet you are a lying sack of shit, now you qualify.

The first big one for me was on an indie band listserv in the 90s where the seemingly most well-liked/respected dude called me a "fucking moron"

I remember flushing. I remember I had merely said I liked somebody's bad pun or joke. Did that make me a moron? Maybe so! I can't believe I was so sensitive, so insecure.

Anyway I was called "fucking annoying" today on twitter by someone whose account I like, and I was able to concede to myself that in this case she's right and it stung a little but nbd.

ILX has been gentle with me. I recall barbs from gershy and JW. bell_labs called for my banning a few times. And then I'm sure there's been a few go over my head.

To be truly hurt by an ad hominem, I'd have to have some measure of respect for the person employing it. Those who make it a habit are usually easy to spot before they get around to dumping on me.

Taunting and name-calling usually just come off as the desperate resorts of the stupid, but I have been completely infuriated by at least one ad hominem on the internet, when a fairly well-spoken hard-right conservative dismissed my arguing in favor of social welfare programs as based solely on the fact such programs allowed me to escape paying for my daughter's care. I could have shivved the guy, if he'd been within arm's reach. That's as mean and low down as anyone has gone on me via internet.

I get hurt by most of them, in person or online, and am not good at hiding that.

Mostly due to years of bullying, being ugly and awkward growing up, and having a dad that liked to scream in my face.

Someone told me that a comment I made about them on FB hurt them deeply and i remember being surprised that anybody cared that much about what I thought to be hurt by it.

The pile on that caused me to leave ILX when I was San Te stung a bit

I posted on the Noise Board in 2004-05, which was probably my first exposure to Internet trolling/hazing/shitposting. I wasn't ready for it.

It does bother and disappoint me that people have problems with me! It's weird! Maybe I'm being naive about the way the world works...
― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 28 March 2005 20:36 (fourteen years ago) link

feel worse about things i've posted drunk than anything anyone's said about me, although i'm probably not very noticeable either way

i have twice been called a cunt by a britishes, tho, which is honestly a thrill

I was infuriated by an ILX ad hominem like a decade ago (by a poster I'm now totes cool with) but that seemed to be the intent of the post in question. Otherwise, I've generally only been hurt to the extent that I was feeling particularly fragile at a particular time, which is more about me and my shit. As Aimless sez, I think I'd only be hurt if one of the e-peeps I think highly of wheeled on me out of the blue (see, by way of contrast, the dude who used to ad my hominem nigh daily and whose opinion I did not GAF about).

Shout out to the posters whose use of ad hominems is so unparsimonious it defangs them by default.

*shows off prison tats, flexes bicep*

I like to think my username here preempted any such, but insults as such? Not especially, no, but being ignored or talked over is way worse.

Think the worst online experience I ever had was years ago when my picture id posted on a wdyll-alike thread with a charming ethnic slur attached to it. But having been online for more than half my life and having modded some extremely drama-heavy places, here is like nothing even at its worst. Maybe that’s a lesson for me, though.

i am protected from hurt by virtue of being both profoundly chill and widely beloved

I like to think my username here preempted any such

I had no idea 'gyac' meant something beyond, well, you. What is it, exactly?

'get yourself a coat' - haters are cordially invited to leave the premises

is this trolling?

when is it not

tbf if i was going to design the perfect unhurt survivor of internet ad-hominem rancour it'd be a high-functioning aspie dude with the irksomely unsquashable self-confidence a jolly decent education can bestow. if anything the abuse has improved me

first google page comes up with:

Global Youth Anti-Corruption
Gifford Youth Activity Center
Give Yourself A Clue
Gourock Youth Athletic Club
God You're A Cunt

I was going to say the first letter stood for your first name, but as we know the name is spelled as it’s pronounced, with a J.

Anyway, yeah, the 5th one, mostly because I needed a username I’d never used before.

i am protected from hurt by virtue of being both profoundly chill and widely beloved

― international sword swallower, producer and creative director (bizarro gazzara), Tuesday, January 21, 2020 5:44 AM (forty-six minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink
Never forget the important role played by your rampant self-delusion.

Did that hurt, y/n

I don’t get hurt...... I get even 😈

Did that hurt, y/n

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Yeah,I've been hurt a lot. But ilx is honestly child play. There was the guy who took to facebook to explain why I was actually a psychopathic rapist. The powerful guy in my field who would sent me messages late at night saying I should be institutionalized. And the time I discovered a coupe of guys discussing getting some builders and a van, pick me up and put me in the van, and see if the builders couldn't get me to change my mind.

Yeah, but I can't remember what or when. These days I avoid any chance of this happening by not having any time to hang out on the internat in places hwere people might ad hominem attack me.

Fred, that’s messed up. Textbook cyberbullying.

Yeah that's fucked up.

well you diss gnomeo and juliet at your peril

But it IS anti-feminist, and I will not be silenced!