Tea With the Flames: A QUEER New Year to Keep You Warm in WINTER 2020

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thank you for being a fiend

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 6 January 2020 17:51 (three weeks ago) link

jeez Sarah Jessica needs some work

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 6 January 2020 17:59 (three weeks ago) link

lol @ you both

surm, Monday, 6 January 2020 18:01 (three weeks ago) link

i just finished redecorating my apartment, it's beautiful! now i just want to get a bar cart . . . . . . . . . this is gonna be a full on bach pad imma tell you right now

― surm, Monday, January 6, 2020 11:44 AM

i suggest modeling it on Rock Hudson's in Pillow Talk

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 6 January 2020 18:02 (three weeks ago) link

omg. so hot. now i just need a party line!
also: i've been listening to a LOT of Doris Day. in the morning when i get ready. gay much?

surm, Monday, 6 January 2020 18:04 (three weeks ago) link

que sera sera

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 6 January 2020 18:05 (three weeks ago) link

queer sera sera!

surm, Monday, 6 January 2020 18:09 (three weeks ago) link

We missed a bet not calling this thread FEAST OF THE ASS.

Maria Edgelord (cryptosicko), Monday, 6 January 2020 18:12 (three weeks ago) link

#culo

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 6 January 2020 18:13 (three weeks ago) link

hieeeee

clouds, Monday, 6 January 2020 22:54 (three weeks ago) link

hey girl hey!

surm, Monday, 6 January 2020 23:00 (three weeks ago) link

i'm having a situation with a coworker and i'm about to lose it on his straight white male ass
good morning!

surm, Tuesday, 7 January 2020 15:32 (three weeks ago) link

that was super uncomfortable.

surm, Thursday, 9 January 2020 18:14 (two weeks ago) link

i'm about to lose it on his straight white male ass

I am sure we're all reading this the correct way.

temporarily embarrassed thousandaire (Eric H.), Thursday, 9 January 2020 18:44 (two weeks ago) link

Also, remind me what day again the Feast of the Ass is? I think I'm out of town.

temporarily embarrassed thousandaire (Eric H.), Thursday, 9 January 2020 18:45 (two weeks ago) link

Tuesdays are bad for me.

temporarily embarrassed thousandaire (Eric H.), Thursday, 9 January 2020 18:57 (two weeks ago) link

ummmmmmmm so when are you getting married!??!??!?!?!?

surm, Thursday, 9 January 2020 19:32 (two weeks ago) link

(not on a Tuesday i guess)

surm, Thursday, 9 January 2020 19:44 (two weeks ago) link

No but I hope to make Feast of the Ass the reception theme!

temporarily embarrassed thousandaire (Eric H.), Thursday, 9 January 2020 20:04 (two weeks ago) link

We're looking to do it in late September or early October.

temporarily embarrassed thousandaire (Eric H.), Thursday, 9 January 2020 20:05 (two weeks ago) link

Ass hysteria!

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 9 January 2020 20:12 (two weeks ago) link

i'm glad you waited to do it, v quaint

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 9 January 2020 21:46 (two weeks ago) link

Quaint misbehavin'

temporarily embarrassed thousandaire (Eric H.), Thursday, 9 January 2020 21:49 (two weeks ago) link

perfect time for a wedding. October weddings are my absolute favorite. perfect time to wear a jacket.

surm, Friday, 10 January 2020 16:01 (two weeks ago) link

Hi queers. Holidays were a shit-show for me emotionally but I’m excited to be alive and mobile on this dreary day

flamboyant goon tie included, Friday, 10 January 2020 17:10 (two weeks ago) link

what happened flambo?

surm, Friday, 10 January 2020 17:11 (two weeks ago) link

Rather not focus on the bad but instead focus on the good, tbh?

There is something so appealing about a man with an enormous dick who is really only interested in touching the previously untouched, not about the nut or about showing off.

flamboyant goon tie included, Friday, 10 January 2020 23:12 (two weeks ago) link

i like that image

surm, Saturday, 11 January 2020 17:33 (two weeks ago) link

my new fling has an enormous d. he wants to put it in me. i'm not sure about it.

surm, Saturday, 11 January 2020 17:34 (two weeks ago) link

what did y'all do this weekend?

surm, Monday, 13 January 2020 19:13 (two weeks ago) link

Fighting a light infection and some latent depression, slept a lot. You?

flamboyant goon tie included, Monday, 13 January 2020 19:27 (two weeks ago) link

talked to a visiting British pop journalist at Julius'

went to a party and chatted up an adorable hetero man i have a hopeless crush on

saw a couple old restored movies at MoMA

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 13 January 2020 19:28 (two weeks ago) link

that sounds glorious, when were u at Julius? i was there on Friday night.

also been fighting a cold. i hooked up with a friend and watched some good movies. INSIDIOUS is great!!!!!!!!!! that was some scary shit. and yesterday i finally got around to playing/recording some music thank goodness.

what do you do when you get depressed to fight it flambo?

surm, Monday, 13 January 2020 19:30 (two weeks ago) link

i was there Saturday around 7. pre-SRO

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 13 January 2020 19:38 (two weeks ago) link

an unusually quiet weekend except for a happy hour. Saw 4K Trouble in Paradise yesterday.

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 13 January 2020 19:42 (two weeks ago) link

@ surm, I ask for extensions on my deadlines, I go for walks, I cook, I smoke weed and watch movies in the evening.

flamboyant goon tie included, Monday, 13 January 2020 20:18 (two weeks ago) link

<3 love those remedies. extensions, weed and movies are all part of my arsenal too.

surm, Monday, 13 January 2020 20:19 (two weeks ago) link

went to the desert with my husband. a lovely time, got in some hiking and a li’l hot tub canoodling

donna rouge, Tuesday, 14 January 2020 00:30 (two weeks ago) link

sounds great, big desert fan here

ingredience (map), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 01:30 (two weeks ago) link

i'm moving into a (really cute and nice) trailer with my bf next month.

ingredience (map), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 01:32 (two weeks ago) link

donna where did you guys go?

ingredience (map), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 01:33 (two weeks ago) link

also: I had a really fucking powerful gummy bear for the Lubitsch film

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 01:35 (two weeks ago) link

tsk tsk

if you can't get high on Lubitsch alone...

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 01:56 (two weeks ago) link

I'm in Boston, enjoying the skyline somehow?

temporarily embarrassed thousandaire (Eric H.), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 02:56 (two weeks ago) link

that sounds nice! the skyline in Boston is indeed mesmerizing. donna your vacation sounds p much perfect.

surm, Tuesday, 14 January 2020 16:48 (two weeks ago) link

i can't recall any detail of Bos skyline aside from Citgo sign next to Fenway

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 17:00 (two weeks ago) link

has anyone here ever gotten a nose job?

surm, Tuesday, 14 January 2020 21:09 (two weeks ago) link

is that like a blow job

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 22:04 (two weeks ago) link

you know that's not the first time we've made that joke
lol

surm, Tuesday, 14 January 2020 22:11 (two weeks ago) link

i think i routinely think about a nose job every 7 years so, makes sense
blowjobs otoh i think about every 7 minutes

surm, Tuesday, 14 January 2020 22:12 (two weeks ago) link

i remember your nose surm, it's A+

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 14 January 2020 22:39 (two weeks ago) link

<3 awwwwwwwwww
wow you really know how to make the boys weak in the knees huh

surm, Tuesday, 14 January 2020 22:41 (two weeks ago) link

map: place we stayed was in yucca valley, we went hiking in the park near 29 palms

donna rouge, Wednesday, 15 January 2020 00:19 (two weeks ago) link

I've thought about going on a korean plastic surgery trip with a friend. He makes me watch a lot of plastic surgery videos when I am over. I was very interested in the nose thread lift (non-surgical) videos that we recently watched. I could see doing that instead of like, taking my ear cartilage or rib meat to build up my bridge.

Yerac, Wednesday, 15 January 2020 03:07 (two weeks ago) link

I just described getting fucked up the ass as being “driven to hell”

the bones tell me nothing (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 15 January 2020 17:06 (two weeks ago) link

that's how i describe it, never having experienced it

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 15 January 2020 17:08 (two weeks ago) link

"date" 3 with the newbie. our 2nd sleepover. i like him.

also i've honestly never looked better in my whole life but the boys aren't biting, none of it adds up. really doesn't make any sense. like, i'd do me.

surm, Wednesday, 15 January 2020 19:04 (two weeks ago) link

one seems to be biting, hon

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 15 January 2020 19:06 (two weeks ago) link

right, true

surm, Wednesday, 15 January 2020 19:09 (two weeks ago) link

you're like my fairy godmother this week, thank you

surm, Wednesday, 15 January 2020 19:09 (two weeks ago) link

lol, just need a tiara

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KzgaqB2hFio

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 15 January 2020 19:13 (two weeks ago) link

omg you know i was thinking of that when i typed it, i was OBSESSED with that production lol

IMPOSSIBLE! THINGS ARE HAPPENING EEEEEEEVERYYYYYY DAYYYYYY!!!!

surm, Wednesday, 15 January 2020 19:14 (two weeks ago) link

i'd prefer to duet on the Stepsisters Song

a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 15 January 2020 19:22 (two weeks ago) link

um
the stepsisters are among my most hilarious characters in all of film history
my mom and i used to die watching them

surm, Wednesday, 15 January 2020 19:38 (two weeks ago) link

i'm having a double header horror feature with a coworker tomorrow night. may be my first straight guy friend in years. !

surm, Thursday, 16 January 2020 16:41 (one week ago) link

I've been smoking weed with friends on the reg, that's pretty queer I guess, is it? maybe not. We're all gay while we do it though

the bones tell me nothing (flamboyant goon tie included), Thursday, 16 January 2020 18:55 (one week ago) link

New thread name.

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 16 January 2020 18:55 (one week ago) link

i have to tell you though, that I can't smoke weed with people anymore
i mean the level of social anxiety and paranoia is just beyond
but when i'm alone it's really a marvelous thing

surm, Thursday, 16 January 2020 18:58 (one week ago) link

I like it alone and with friends. I like taking video! So nice to have video of yourself and your friends blasted out of your minds like a That 70s Show moment

Montegays and Capulez (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 18 January 2020 15:57 (one week ago) link

so cute!

surm, Tuesday, 21 January 2020 16:58 (one week ago) link

i have to tell you that this weekend was a travesty for my self-esteem.
i had one of those moments when i looked in the mirror and promptly picked apart everything about physical appearance. at the very least it inspired me to go to the spa. it's amazing what it takes sometimes to make you go to the spa.
also i had an awkward run-in yesterday. an acquaintance of mine is always on my Grindr grid, and one day months and months ago i sent him a message saying it was good to see him recently and just making light of how we're both on the app so much. totally fine and we laughed it off. then the other night i sent him a message like totally in the middle of the night just being like "go to bed! haha" and he didn't respond! like is that just not ok? a 4am Grindr message between friends? and now i have to see him at parties and stuff. i don't want him thinking i'm THAT GUY!

surm, Tuesday, 21 January 2020 20:43 (one week ago) link

just for a little bit of perspective, the range of weird human behavior is like the size of the solar system compared to that little detour. i try to tell myself that whenever i wake up at 4 am with my mind racing about how weird, embarrassing and not self-aware i am.

ingredience (map), Tuesday, 21 January 2020 21:36 (one week ago) link

ok so true. thx

surm, Tuesday, 21 January 2020 22:16 (one week ago) link

I bet he doesn't even remember! Remember that Grindr is not the place to ever expect a reply.

Montegays and Capulez (flamboyant goon tie included), Tuesday, 21 January 2020 23:08 (one week ago) link

for shizzle, tbh i never do
maybe he didn't even see it until later!

surm, Tuesday, 21 January 2020 23:20 (one week ago) link

I'm so happy I don't use Grindr (or any app). You tell somebody you're not interested in anything tonight thank you, and then they message you again an hour later "IF YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED THEN WHY ARE YOU STILL ONLINE" and it's like... I hate blocking people.

Somebody did build a profile with my face and info, it got back to me that it existed, very scary

Montegays and Capulez (flamboyant goon tie included), Tuesday, 21 January 2020 23:26 (one week ago) link

Always seems so crazy to

Help.... I am talking to a guy on there who is way out of my league. Like way. What do I do

surm, Wednesday, 22 January 2020 12:16 (one week ago) link

Keep talking? Go have sex with him? I swear I think Grindr has changed (for the worse) the way gay men interact w each other, feel about their own bodies and the bodies of others, and conditioned its users to be in a constant state of feeling rejected. (Not projecting, this doesn’t apply to all, just many of my observes Grindr-addict faggo friends)

Montegays and Capulez (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 22 January 2020 15:27 (one week ago) link

I got in an argument a few months ago because I proposed to one friend that he remember (when feeling bad about his body) all the great sexual experiences he’d had with people who were by-society’s-metrics “undesirable”— another friend got mad at me for suggesting that one can “shrug off the mantle of body capitalism”, which wasn’t what I was suggesting; the implication that “hot =/= good at sex” was offensive to my second friend

Montegays and Capulez (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 22 January 2020 15:30 (one week ago) link

well, it's also this weird sort of animalistic thing. you know like, there's only so much self-esteem you can have before the primal laws of attraction kick in. like you can't circumvent attraction. and there do seem to be some dominant characteristics of desirability when it comes to most sexual orientations.

BUT i think you're right that Grindr is an extremely slippery slope. as evolved persons, and can be very toxic. i like to think that these days most people in our culture at least understand the beauty of being human and the differences between humans. loved the usage of the expression "dad bod" that hit it big a few years ago bc dad bod is p much my aesthetic, without the kids. lol.

surm, Wednesday, 22 January 2020 15:46 (one week ago) link

oh hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

surm, Monday, 27 January 2020 18:34 (two days ago) link


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