Tea With the Flames: A QUEER New Year to Keep You Warm in WINTER 2020

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Let the games begin.

thank you for being a fiend

jeez Sarah Jessica needs some work

lol @ you both

i just finished redecorating my apartment, it's beautiful! now i just want to get a bar cart . . . . . . . . . this is gonna be a full on bach pad imma tell you right now

― surm, Monday, January 6, 2020 11:44 AM

i suggest modeling it on Rock Hudson's in Pillow Talk

omg. so hot. now i just need a party line!
also: i've been listening to a LOT of Doris Day. in the morning when i get ready. gay much?

que sera sera

queer sera sera!

We missed a bet not calling this thread FEAST OF THE ASS.

#culo

hieeeee

hey girl hey!

i'm having a situation with a coworker and i'm about to lose it on his straight white male ass
good morning!

that was super uncomfortable.

i'm about to lose it on his straight white male ass

I am sure we're all reading this the correct way.

Also, remind me what day again the Feast of the Ass is? I think I'm out of town.

January 14th is the FEAST OF THE ASS

Tuesdays are bad for me.

ummmmmmmm so when are you getting married!??!??!?!?!?

(not on a Tuesday i guess)

No but I hope to make Feast of the Ass the reception theme!

We're looking to do it in late September or early October.

Ass hysteria!

i'm glad you waited to do it, v quaint

Quaint misbehavin'

perfect time for a wedding. October weddings are my absolute favorite. perfect time to wear a jacket.

Hi queers. Holidays were a shit-show for me emotionally but I’m excited to be alive and mobile on this dreary day

what happened flambo?

Rather not focus on the bad but instead focus on the good, tbh?

There is something so appealing about a man with an enormous dick who is really only interested in touching the previously untouched, not about the nut or about showing off.

i like that image

my new fling has an enormous d. he wants to put it in me. i'm not sure about it.

what did y'all do this weekend?

Fighting a light infection and some latent depression, slept a lot. You?

talked to a visiting British pop journalist at Julius'

went to a party and chatted up an adorable hetero man i have a hopeless crush on

saw a couple old restored movies at MoMA

that sounds glorious, when were u at Julius? i was there on Friday night.

also been fighting a cold. i hooked up with a friend and watched some good movies. INSIDIOUS is great!!!!!!!!!! that was some scary shit. and yesterday i finally got around to playing/recording some music thank goodness.

what do you do when you get depressed to fight it flambo?

i was there Saturday around 7. pre-SRO

an unusually quiet weekend except for a happy hour. Saw 4K Trouble in Paradise yesterday.

@ surm, I ask for extensions on my deadlines, I go for walks, I cook, I smoke weed and watch movies in the evening.

<3 love those remedies. extensions, weed and movies are all part of my arsenal too.

went to the desert with my husband. a lovely time, got in some hiking and a li’l hot tub canoodling

sounds great, big desert fan here

i'm moving into a (really cute and nice) trailer with my bf next month.

donna where did you guys go?

also: I had a really fucking powerful gummy bear for the Lubitsch film

tsk tsk

if you can't get high on Lubitsch alone...

I'm in Boston, enjoying the skyline somehow?

that sounds nice! the skyline in Boston is indeed mesmerizing. donna your vacation sounds p much perfect.

i can't recall any detail of Bos skyline aside from Citgo sign next to Fenway

has anyone here ever gotten a nose job?

is that like a blow job

u know what you're practically glowing through the computer screen, i am very happy for your new life!

don't do it, surm, it'd be a deprivation for you and whoever else

then again as someone who usu indulges via... parties... i wonder if coronavirus should change that

hmmm, no

o right u like the parties

that's very sweet of you, what you said, i'm really juggling the options. it feels weird so far, you know it's only been a month. i look kinda disastrous so i probably need to plan like a salon day.

oh shit i’ve only just realised these threads are full queer now. hello fellow queers!

oh snap! i didn't know you were queer! weeheeeeeeee!!!

(by that, i mean i didn’t feel right posting in what were nominally gay threads)

yes we're very queer now
i never liked the word gay tbh, i don't even identify as gay even though i'm a man who likes men!

xp yeah, i went through a whole bisexual coming-out process last year, complete with counselling and therapy groups

that's amazing! so proactive and positive.

oh i completely get that, the label thing can be frustrating when attraction/identity are so much more complicated

<3 are you like seeing people now?

no change to my life at all, i just didn’t want to keep hiding who i am (although it’s properly grand to see a staggeringly hot dude at a carnival and grab my mate and say “just don’t talk to me for the next 20 seconds, just don’t”)

:D :D :D love it

<3

It would be presumptive of me to identify as queer tbh. But luckily this thread welcomes all kinds!

Instead of celibacy, I gorge on Muriel Spark novel.s

Welcome, Autumn! We need to expand the membership.

thank you!

and let's talk about Hawt Guys You Have Seen.

have you done the deed yet?

“done the deed” bahahahaha

fwiw i identify as queer because sometimes it’s easier than having to explain things (including the 1990s)

Lately I've been really enjoying mangling Twitter slang irl. "I enjoy to see it." "I hate to see that." "And that's the that on it, question mark."

i'm back on twitter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You picked quite a time to make your return!

why, has sumthin been happnin

Same thing, just more of it and infinitely worse.

oh no

the cancelled f1 grand prix is in my neighbourhood, lewis hamilton suddenly has three days off, and so do i

godspeed

do any other singles over the age of 40 think you've had sex for the last time?

Because of COVID? I don't think that's gonna be the case at all, I think once the virus starts to go into remission there'll be a massive sex party

I had funtime with a guy who left Seattle two weeks ago!

End times!

not a good time in my life for there to be a sex strike

captain trips has obliterated my queer connections

SPRING already

worst spring ever

How is everybody holding up?

I'm finally out of my depression and getting some work done! Hooray!

Dunno how I'll survive without a man's arms around my cock for the next six months.

Grindr should start an offshoot app called Sheltr that's specifically for gays looking for a quarantine buddy

(I would prob use Sheltr regardless of quarantine, all I want is somebody for whom I can cook breakfast)

not even thinking about sex much

Work is keeping me occupied roughly 80% of my waking hours these days, which is to say I am holding up.

Following a routine has been pretty easier.

I have been waking up at 8/9am, making coffee, blinking and realizing it's 3:30pm. I don't know where my days are going. Ugh!

Omg guys

How are we, do we have a spring thread

I'm a month sex-free!

sex appreciates it

atm i’m so deprived of humans that every person i see on the street is unusually hot

OMG
Same
It’s gotten to the point where literally at the grocery store today I was checking out guys with face masks on

I have been banned from the streets

self-isolating LGBTs of SPRING 2020