C/D: Friends with Babies

So if you love music (the ostensible originating reason for this site), you kinda at least have to accept the premise of babies? I think?

You also have to accept the premise of foul smelling feces ... you can accept these premises but also want to avoid them as much as possible.

Surprised no one has mentioned that just accepting one's own existence requires accepting the existence of babies.

yes, but enough ppl on ilx hate themselves so ...

i am so, so delighted by a big sam reference itt

There is a certain sonic frequency above which I don't like hearing the human voice ... unless it's like, someone singing opera. Once a child's voice descends below that frequency/pitch, I am okay spending time in their presence.

otmfm, that shriek sends me running. even the gurgles of a happy baby send me running because i know that shriek is literally 2 minutes away.

yes, but enough ppl on ilx hate themselves so …

yeah p sure this was where I found out that anyone who had kids after the year 1980 is probably a sociopath

2020 Democratic presidential primary

i live in the breediest breedery in the united states, utah, and i'm surrounded by people who dedicate their entire lives to the importance of breeding and have formed a religious cult for furthering that mindset. even not in utah it's still pretty much the majoritarian default. so i for one am very grateful for (a tiny handful) of voices here that (occasionally) push back and make the ethical case for not-breeding and argue that it's good, actually, because the overwhelming current of the mainstream can make it difficult to keep upright in the eddy of not-breeding without some additional strength and support.

People understandably confuse the advocacy of not breeding with hating your nieces, nephews, godchildren.

oh god, Mormons and breeding ....I had a friend in high school (he was the oldest kid in his Mormon family) and doing the math, his mom must have been constantly pregnant/breeding for 18 straight years.

yeah. maybe. but to my way of thinking, "I don't care about your baby, and I wish you hadn't been so selfish as to effectively end our friendship for your egotistical experiment" or "anyway children should be gestated by paid workers and raised communally" are not great examples of making "the ethical case for not-breeding". They seem, I don't know, sort of shallow when considered as ethical arguments.

well yeah, they're first steps. i was referring to sic saying that having babies after 1980 is sociopathic. also this for more context and depth: https://www.comatonse.com/writings/2017_deproduction.html

Remember to take a moment to welcome ex-congressman (R) Sean Duffy's 9th child into the world.

that's not my ethical case against breeding, that's my political program. my ethical case against breeding is that it is cruel to create an alive person

I've forgiven my parents for having me, but barely

I was born before 1980, so my parents are cool

i would be down for gestation to occur completely without the requirement of a woman's body. But if they want to get paid for it, I am fine with that too.

I missed what happened in 1980 did they outlaws antibiotics or summat?

desire and raising children have been the organizational principles of civilization since time immemorial, there is no shortage of deep ideological backing for the concept of raising children. choosing not to go that way needs more of a coherent solidarity imo. perhaps less based on "having kids is awful" and more based on "the concept of family needs to expand beyond blood roles and into experiential relationships," perhaps fostered by things like silby's political program.

XP Ordinary People came out, iirc.

it takes a paid ass village

I've forgiven my parents for having me, but barely

guys i'm sure sic has a very particular reason for choosing that year i mean he hasn't let me down yet

lol thanks bb

maybe it will be like the military where entering into this program will be a way for more people in the US to obtain affordable healthcare.

on "the concept of family needs to expand beyond blood roles and into experiential relationships," perhaps fostered by things like silby's political program.

this would benefit parents too

everyone

Will silby accept a moderate position, it’s fine to make babies it’s just unacceptable to let them live to be adults

I would accept babies if they grew up to be Nude Jake Gyllenhaal

You just have to purchase a lottery ticket like the rest of us.

No see once you’ve had a baby it’s a person and we have to take care of them

heh this reminds me of conversations with former middle school teachers, who, in their darker moments, thought that between the ages of 11 and 13, all children should just be put on a jungle island and left to their own devices Lord of the Flies style ... because those are the worst ages to try and teach.

I would accept babies if they grew up to be Nude Jake Gyllenhaal

i'm all for publically supported group childrearing as long as the budget includes earplugs and xanax

my sil offered to be a surrogate for our baby because she loves being pregnant??? But I had to tell her that it wouldn't solve the problem of not actually wanting the baby.

hah

i'm all for publically supported group childrearing as long as the budget includes earplugs and xanax

― cheese canopy (map), Thursday, October 10, 2019 12:17 PM (one minute ago)

we kinda have that already though -- it's called "school" -- and earplugs and xanax? Damn, some of our teachers have to buy their own paper!

haha

actually, I have friends who teach kids who would be stoked to get free xanax tho

a chicken in every pot, a xanax in every baby

a chicken in every baby, pot and xanax in every parent

a baby in every chicken, a booming market for soylent green futures

a Nude Jake Gyllenhaal in me

lock thread, we’ve cracked the case

https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2011/03/29/article-0-0B613BC900000578-752_468x463.jpg

He was born in 1980.

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I see the passion never died.

does it ever?

I've got little kids - yeah it was hard for me to go out for a matter of months per child - but I think it depends on the friends. A couple of mine (with no kids) just dropped off the face of the earth once we had kids. Loads of texts trying to get them to come out but we were just no longer on their radar.

Getting to the age now where friends who are parents to young kids also have caring responsibilities to their own parents (dementia, health problems etc).

v. self-centered for people to have ailing parents without consulting their friends, who may not be into it