Stonewall the queer summer? More like bone all who're near summer!
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Saturday, 29 June 2019 13:59 (four years ago) link
i'm glad you're moving into comedy, honeybunch
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 29 June 2019 14:02 (four years ago) link
I haven't gotten laid in like five days and i've had enough
― surm, Saturday, 29 June 2019 20:05 (four years ago) link
loved this interview:
https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/06/jeremiah-newton-stonewall-interview-old-person-lgbtq.html
― cheese canopy (map), Saturday, 29 June 2019 20:07 (four years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QwvQ-CPK0Z0
― clouds, Sunday, 30 June 2019 15:29 (four years ago) link
headed to this today: http://www.ifccenter.com/films/the-queen/
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Sunday, 30 June 2019 15:37 (four years ago) link
How was everyone's pride?
― surm, Monday, 1 July 2019 12:45 (four years ago) link
bcz i did not leave my apartment (except to buy food) until 7:20pm, great!
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 1 July 2019 14:03 (four years ago) link
a few hours downtown followed by a trip up to central park - with a lengthy trip to Washington Square Park - strongly suggested a conflation of Pride with Carnival in a way I'd never seen before.
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Monday, 1 July 2019 14:40 (four years ago) link
I've...never been to a Pride parade.
(Ours were a few weeks ago)
― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:39 (four years ago) link
i sorta missed the parade this year but the streets were closed down and everything was shoulder to shoulder from downtown to midtown regardless
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:40 (four years ago) link
i'm a bit more of a Folsom Street Fair type, tbh. Pride often just seems like a bunch of corporate hooey and a lot of people getting way too fucked up. i find it depressing, and have felt this way even before i started really cutting back on drinking and partying.
― blue light or electric light (the table is the table), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:42 (four years ago) link
(for reference to those who've never met me in person, i now drink approximately ten alcoholic beverages a month. i used to do that in the space of 48 hours, on a regular basis, for years).
― blue light or electric light (the table is the table), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:44 (four years ago) link
There was an anti-corporate Queer Lib march apart from the big one, but I attended neither.
Folsom Strett East is two blocks long now... I did go to that a week ago, but just spectated for two hours.
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 1 July 2019 15:49 (four years ago) link
the SF one was shut down in the middle yesterday for 50 minutes by anti-police /anti-corporation protestors
― Dan S, Monday, 1 July 2019 15:51 (four years ago) link
I don't go to Pride because I try to go outdoors in the summertime as little as possible.
― Herman Woke (cryptosicko), Monday, 1 July 2019 16:00 (four years ago) link
yeah, heat + crowds + lots of music I don't need to hear again
spent about two hours in bar both Sat & Sun nights, that was my limit
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 1 July 2019 16:02 (four years ago) link
i know about the protests at the SF parade. know one of the folks who was in that line.
but that disruption still won't get me near anything like a Pride parade. it's just not my thing— you can drag me to a party or something, yes, but a parade? fuck no.
― blue light or electric light (the table is the table), Monday, 1 July 2019 16:05 (four years ago) link
I went to one once but it was in Berlin, just last year, as it happens. The Christopher Street Parade, they call it there. I had so much fun but I was extremely drunk and it was Berlin and was very ridiculous. I fell out with my friend who had decided to wear a dress but wasn't confident enough to be a guy in a dress so I had to supervise.
Actually, it was shit, apart from being wasted.
― Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:39 (four years ago) link
and I went into the Tiergarten after the parade ended and lots of men were cruising and that so it was interesting.
― Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:41 (four years ago) link
It was an experience.
― Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:43 (four years ago) link
see how bipolar I am.
― Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:44 (four years ago) link
i got excited reading about dore alley parties yesterday (i might go this year with my boyfriend) but i don't know. sometimes it's more fun to read about them, not go, and look at photos / listen to the sets later haha. i don't drink anymore so it's got to either have good music or good socializing. and not be at 2 in the morning. noncompliant is dj-ing. so is dj harvey. the harvey thing looks like a sex party maybe. i've always wanted to see him do his thing but i don't know if it's like too much work. i get tired at 10 every night lol.
xp jed i feel you, i always have the best and worst time at parties, alcohol dramatizes my mood swings.
― cheese canopy (map), Monday, 1 July 2019 22:56 (four years ago) link
and I know what you mean about being there or not but looking afterwards.
― Funky Isolations (jed_), Monday, 1 July 2019 23:00 (four years ago) link
fuckin' hate paradesi stayed inside all day in the AC and tried to work on music
― surm, Tuesday, 2 July 2019 16:52 (four years ago) link
What goes less mentioned is that Stonewall was just two years old at the time, and when the first pride parade—then known as the Christopher Street Liberation Day March—was held the following year, the bar had already shut down after timidly limiting its drink selection to juices. The space became a bagel shop, a Chinese restaurant, and a shoe store until its current iteration opened in 1990. As much as Stonewall galvanized the gay community, that community navigated both its 1970s heyday and the apocalyptic throes of the AIDS crisis without it. Pride finds a way....
“Circuit parties [gay raves] and parades are thriving. Grindr isn’t killing them and Grindr isn’t killing gay bars. Boredom is,” posits Daniel Nardicio, an impresario of gay nightlife in New York who also runs his own gay bar and cabaret, Club Cumming, with actor Alan Cumming. “Ooh, you have drag bingo? Drag brunch? Drag karaoke? Stop. Give me something new, not just a rainbow on a bottle of Absolut or a retirement home cliché hosted by a drag queen.”
Even as gay bars have ridden the acclaimed historic visibility of television shows including RuPaul’s Drag Race and Pose, they’ve merely become “vessels for viewing parties” of those shows, adds Nardicio.
Gay bars are “stuck,” he says, and he has a theory about why.
“AIDS killed lots of artists and free spirits, but it also killed people who would’ve grown up to become mentors to everyone under 50 now. We grew up alone and without that sense of connection across generations. We lost them, and we’ve paid the price by slipping from the creative class to the consumer class. We went from radical to basic.” “Basic,” according to the Urban Dictionary of American slang, is one “only interested in things mainstream, popular, and trending.” Consider how derivative 2019 queer culture seems compared with 1967. Gay liberation pulls its punches....
In contrast to broad LGBTQ acceptance by the mainstream, queer culture itself has fought and fractured internally largely along racial lines. The idea of a united gay community in 2019 is as much a fantasy as there ever was for a demographic group whose sole uniting factor is sexual preference and societal marginalization—not, say, age, creed, career, class, color, health, or regionalism, the identities around which Americans often coalesce. So as gay bars embrace bachelorettes and other straight audiences even as they tell trans women they “aren’t real women,” or assert that centering blackness too much is “not good for the businesses,” there is actually more of a need for more vulnerable members of the queer spectrum to have spaces that feel safe to them, and exclusively for them.
https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2019-06-28/the-american-gay-bar-is-down-but-don-t-count-it-out-just-yet
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 14:25 (four years ago) link
totally agreeso much basic it's shit i always say i wish i had grown up in new york in the 80s....without all the death.
― surm, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 15:59 (four years ago) link
gratified to seem some grousing about the gross corporate hedonism of pride parades, cuz I was starting to feel like a homophobe last weekend for having similar thoughts
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:03 (four years ago) link
are you kidding? half my contemporaries are morons, sorry ya shits
― surm, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:04 (four years ago) link
it's a miracle i found any gay friends in this city tbh
They don't come more basic than me, sorry to say.
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:05 (four years ago) link
waitaminit, surm are you in SF?!
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:07 (four years ago) link
you're high-end basic, dear
xp
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:07 (four years ago) link
omg no i wish! in NYC, sorry if i confused you!and Eric i beg to differ. you have a big heart. that's p unbasic, shocking as that may be.
― surm, Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:08 (four years ago) link
btw Happy Roundnumber Birthday, Eric!
The only thing I remember about the summer of '79 is I saw a double bill of Animal House and Putney Swope at my hometown theater.
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:13 (four years ago) link
Round number and rounder midsection!
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 16:44 (four years ago) link
all part of the otter to bear transformation
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 3 July 2019 17:16 (four years ago) link
I'm having Jake over tonightThere's a real spark there!He's adorable and sexy af and I'm a little bit pinching myself!!!!
― surm, Friday, 5 July 2019 21:22 (four years ago) link
Jake Ryan?
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Friday, 5 July 2019 21:35 (four years ago) link
Lol noooooJake with the floppy hair who lives on my street and wants to watch horror movies with me!!!!!
― surm, Friday, 5 July 2019 21:40 (four years ago) link
damn, see what I miss by hating horror movies
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 5 July 2019 22:35 (four years ago) link
:P he let me top and now I want a burger
― surm, Saturday, 6 July 2019 06:21 (four years ago) link
Horror movies, topping and burgers?! Keep that one!
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Saturday, 6 July 2019 13:38 (four years ago) link
Omg right
― surm, Saturday, 6 July 2019 14:44 (four years ago) link
hooked up with a dude at a wedding I attended -- Brooklyn's good for that sort of thing
― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 6 July 2019 15:19 (four years ago) link
Lol Brooklyn is so slutty. What did he look like?! Give us the deets
― surm, Saturday, 6 July 2019 17:33 (four years ago) link
I don't get nuthin in Brooklyn
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Sunday, 7 July 2019 05:29 (four years ago) link
I feel lost that I haven't had my fill of Manhattan gays everAm I missing much?This guy I was seeing recently gave me a dispassionate goodbye and I figured we came to parting ways but he texted last nightI'm gonna make him wait a few days before I respond.
― surm, Sunday, 7 July 2019 12:20 (four years ago) link
I shaved my balls while listening to The Hidden Cameras this morning. Don't really care for the song that much but I really like the lyrics:
Hunting hair to find emotional graceI am scared you'll see my body and knowThat removing hair has taken over my lifeAnd I don't know how to stop
I want another enema, nema, nemaGood waste is an oxymoron, moron, moronMy body is an exit wound, oh my wounds, oh my woundsI want another enema, nema, nema
― flamboyant goon tie included, Sunday, 7 July 2019 19:26 (four years ago) link
hairless balls make me sad
― J0rdan S., Sunday, 7 July 2019 21:02 (four years ago) link
i'm debating whether or not to befriend more straight men sometimes i like them i dunno
― surm, Thursday, 5 September 2019 15:33 (four years ago) link
happy almost fall!!!!! I'm quite enjoying having a bachelor pad I mean, I can basically do whatever I want whenever I want itIT'S NOT BAD
― surm, Tuesday, 10 September 2019 06:51 (four years ago) link
This dude I dated for a few months before we decided to be friends instead, I love him so so muchToday I spoke to him on the phone, he was expressing some body image issuesAnd I told him that, in fact, he was so beautiful that it felt cruelHe liked that!
― flamboyant goon tie included, Wednesday, 11 September 2019 02:29 (four years ago) link
aw that is so sweet i think i would really like to hear that if i were in his shoes
― surm, Wednesday, 11 September 2019 19:03 (four years ago) link
congrats on your move surm
― cheese canopy (map), Wednesday, 11 September 2019 19:50 (four years ago) link
thank you!!! you know, i actually kept the apartment so while it wasn't a move, it really feels like a brand new home with just me there. i have to do a lot of redecorating soon....
― surm, Wednesday, 11 September 2019 21:25 (four years ago) link
The new Azealia Banks mixtape has gotten a lot of weird ire online but I just listened to it twice through and it fucking rules
I don't know where else to put that statement
― flamboyant goon tie included, Friday, 13 September 2019 04:52 (four years ago) link
<3 i can't stop listening to Kelly by Kelly Rowlandlike over and over
― surm, Friday, 13 September 2019 14:35 (four years ago) link
packed house at Lincoln Center last night to see Lily Tomlin & Jane Wagner
lots of women, gayz, couples
a line I'd forgotten from The Search for Signs of Intelligent Life in the Universe is "What's the point of being a hedonist if you're not having a good time?"
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 13 September 2019 15:21 (four years ago) link
Oh yeah a friend of mine was at that thing and posted about it on FacebookMy bf saw the update and said "I do not understand a single word of this Facebook post"
― flamboyant goon tie included, Friday, 13 September 2019 15:25 (four years ago) link
There were superfans rushing the stage for selfies with Lily at the end. What the hell is wrong with people?
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 13 September 2019 15:27 (four years ago) link
tbh i have a limited number of people i would want selfies with but lily tomlin is one of them
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 13 September 2019 16:27 (four years ago) link
i might too, but not in the middle of a scrum.
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 13 September 2019 16:44 (four years ago) link
no, agreed; that's always a bad look up to and including the most famous of people
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 13 September 2019 18:20 (four years ago) link
I have a photo of myself with Lily but it wasn’t a selfie and I hadn’t planned on asking for it - on the rare occasions I meet Very Famous People I don’t usually ask for photos. But she was very nice about it.
― donna rouge, Friday, 13 September 2019 22:23 (four years ago) link
so liiiiikei'm getting together with a guy tonight who's super into this dom sub stufflike i think he wants me to slap him around which don't get me wrong, i'm totally intobut it's been a hot minute sooo i just hope i haven't lost my touchalso i have a 4th date with a reallllly nice and handsome guy on Friday. he used to be a runway model so i have no idea what he's doing with me but I'LL TAKE IT
― surm, Monday, 16 September 2019 20:07 (four years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOMvs_1UFCk
― cheese canopy (map), Monday, 16 September 2019 21:14 (four years ago) link
:P :D :D
― surm, Monday, 16 September 2019 21:52 (four years ago) link
IJustTook advantage of the "open" nature of my relationship for the first time in a year-and-a-half. It was a total surprise! A friend came over for lunch, he lingered, it was clear he was interested, I offered, he pretended to act surprised, etc.
I wasn't especially attracted to the guy? But I like him a lot personally? But it was weirdly, still, the best O I've had in a long, long time. It was really hot and the dude was clearly very happy about it too.
But then, of course, after he left, I became Lady Macbeth, scrubbing the condom smell from my hands, laundering literally everything in the house, showering shaving making dinner basically had an extended domestic explosion in response to this
I get it but I don't get it, really. Monogamous Sex That Is Just Fine is so perfect, problem free, reliable, easy, I am still so confused by this dynamic.
― fgti (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 21 September 2019 23:54 (four years ago) link
well, that is a very domestic goddess dynamic
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Sunday, 22 September 2019 04:22 (four years ago) link
“I learned to cook this good because I was always cheating on my boyfriend”
― fgti (flamboyant goon tie included), Sunday, 22 September 2019 05:08 (four years ago) link
yeah p much
― surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:16 (four years ago) link
it's also like a primitive thing thosex with strangers, in terms of evolution speaking, is not as safe as the one you know it makes sense that after he leaves you would want to expound upon the safety and tranquility of your home
― surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:17 (four years ago) link
not that your friend is a stranger but you kwim
― surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:18 (four years ago) link
Pro-tip: if you're gonna have sex with one of your closest friends, be sure it's at least good sex and not mediocre sex like I endured Sat night/Sunday morning.
― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 23 September 2019 16:36 (four years ago) link
mediocre is often good enough.
not ready to start a fall thread yet (maybe cuz it's 89 F in NYC today) but i can't think of a good title.
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 23 September 2019 16:39 (four years ago) link
fuck. so ready for 65 degrees.
― surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:45 (four years ago) link
ummm also Alfred that's a really good tip
xp from my own post in the "nobody goes to the theater" thread but i love this musical and wish everyone would give it a listen so:
The OST for the outrageously good and crazy wordy "A Strange Loop" came out today - described by the Liz Phair loving playwright/composer as a musical about a black, fat, queer, effeminate theater nerd searching for meaning by writing a musical about a black, fat, queer, effeminate theater nerd who writes a musical about a black, fat, queer, effeminate theater nerd searching for meaning - and it's great.Author is Michael (r) Jackson, so he names the lead of his roman a clef "Usher" and he's an usher at a Disney show. Highly recommended!https://open.spotify.com/album/7vlAmEdZEOVdRUsB4fgrvC?si=1MkKwKxrSPKsLgS_qkobmg
Author is Michael (r) Jackson, so he names the lead of his roman a clef "Usher" and he's an usher at a Disney show. Highly recommended!https://open.spotify.com/album/7vlAmEdZEOVdRUsB4fgrvC?si=1MkKwKxrSPKsLgS_qkobmg
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 27 September 2019 16:56 (four years ago) link
"Inwood Daddy," in context, is fucking devastating
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 27 September 2019 17:02 (four years ago) link
Ahhh hahahah that sounds so awesome!!
― fgti (flamboyant goon tie included), Friday, 27 September 2019 17:37 (four years ago) link
i think you'll love it fgti, kinda has your name on it; would love to see you and jackson collabo.
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 27 September 2019 17:43 (four years ago) link
so i just started getting furniture in my bach pad feels so gooood
― surm, Wednesday, 9 October 2019 15:29 (four years ago) link
including the waterbed?
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 15:45 (four years ago) link
ha that would be the day
― surm, Wednesday, 9 October 2019 15:49 (four years ago) link
summer is over, queers
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 15:51 (four years ago) link
THANK GOD
― surm, Wednesday, 9 October 2019 16:11 (four years ago) link
Do not accept.
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 16:37 (four years ago) link
are you saying we need a new thread morbzy?
― surm, Wednesday, 9 October 2019 16:42 (four years ago) link
i have a really unpopular title ready, so beat me to it
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 16:55 (four years ago) link
No please share.
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 17:34 (four years ago) link
Hurry up and make the thread I have sumthin to say
― i could chug a keg of you (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 17:42 (four years ago) link
https://66.media.tumblr.com/d1b2b986c8e1ef88e9f1f57f29725a01/tumblr_p542ecSrAK1tstd16o2_250.gif
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 18:34 (four years ago) link
Oh no, I was posting that in a Jazmine Masters voice
― i could chug a keg of you (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 18:37 (four years ago) link
--- - Oop
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 18:38 (four years ago) link
Canceling Ellen and the NFL: QUEER FALL of 2019
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 9 October 2019 18:39 (four years ago) link