Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

"that are only valid"

this site was only fun just answering the questions and seeing how it matched you up, heaven for bid I'd actually *gasp* meet up with someone from it.

I thought that's what dating sites are for though...?

i made quite a few okc buddies over the years (but mainly was back when they had a messageboard going)

i met my gf on okc

link?

It seems like you'd have to invest a lot of time into it to get a little return. Still, I have dated one or two people from it, not that they were very successful overall.

i am scared to meet the people on it bc they creep me out.

girl profiles get way lot more action than boy ones (i registered the exact same profile as my real one, except changed the name to a girls name and put myself in as female, with the first google picture i found for 'indie girl', the first day i registered i received 85 messages)

cool, are you meeting up with any of them ?

no but i can refer some to you? :)

I still visit OKCupid occasionally, but I've only met 2 people in real life through it in the 4+ years I've been registered there. I think the more generalized nature of it actually makes it worse as a dating site, because it's kinda hard to tell why some people have put their profiles there.

I think this is both its greatest weakness and its greatest strength - you get a better cross-section of people who just logged in to find out what Harry Potter character they are or what their dating type is. IOW you get just everybody who is bored at work, which could include actual hot people in addition to the normal dating site lurkers (like, say, me). Now, the vast majority of the time these hot people are seeing someone or not interested, but if you can catch them in a brief window of availability....

I dunno - I've been on there about as long and I've racked up one best friend in the world (total babe & occasional lover as well) and one sweet, short-lived, super-sexy fling that didn't go anywhere and left me bummed out for a while. I think that's an OK track record for a dating site for a guy like me.

i met one person on this site and it was a disaster. she was a holy roller.

I found two people I was interested in and neither has replied to me. I have a slew of replies from young 'uns but sadly no interest in being Mrs Robinson.

I signed up at the end of June and have met a bunch of people irl, all of them cool and most of them no less cuet than their pics. It probably helps that I'm in San Francisco.

I deleted my profile last month. I met up with one person last winter who was nice enough, but realized then that I am not confident enough in my real life ability to meet people to be meeting people on a dating site. (You might think "well that's WHY you would use a dating site!" but that's not how the psychology works.) But I'm moving to a city where I'm sure there'd be a lot of interesting people on it, so it will remain a temptation.

Two dates this weekend set up via OKC. Unheard of. Both seem not scary, creepy or anything so hoping it'll be fun if nothing else. It'd better be (see co-workers bitching thread).

And...?

Got sick and missed one of them - postponed till next week. Other one was rescheduled for last night. He was a really, really nice guy, and pretty attractive. We had loads to talk about as he'd lived in Serbia for two years, knew Eastern Europe and had just bought a cat. Somehow or other this did not lead to sparkling conversation :-(

The other one is drunkenly messaging me about beer.

we have a winner!

I'm the only saddo still on OKCupid, aren't I?...

I just use it for the tests! </lie>

i'm still there but none of them ever date me. maybe we should date?

itt: dom passantino expressing the emotion "love"

actually, i'm kinda considering this

i killed my okcupid account

this means no more mandee's greatest moments on okcupid thread :(

i did make a fake name and now i just edit people's profiles

dammit WHY ONLY gay straight or bi? is there nothing between straight and bi? no sliding scale?

sorry folks, but straight it is. peace god. ;_;

a few months back i tried it and went on a couple dates, one of them turned into a two-week mini-relationship, but eh. i don't think online dating is for me.

this is a bit innocent smoothie

still on it, haven't done anything with it in a good while. I know if I update my profile I'll only get a fresh barrage of good-hearted but uninteresting 19-year-old nerdies looking my way. (I'm 27, so...) Also I'm moving soon anyway, so why bother trying to find romance?

xposts

Ken, if you can do better than message 'lol I am buzzed' or talk earnestly about Serbia, or achieve something between the two, you're on. It will be a long distance relationship.

Mandee, I have a fake name too so that I can stalk unseen without messing around with my 'real' (ahem) profile settings.

feeling this

Another date today. Don't say 'if this goes well, we could go do X' in the first five minutes for fuck's sake! (Him, not me).

On the upside my next and probably final date has alerted me to this, which at least means he'll have a sense of humour if it all goes pear-shaped.

here's hoping X was philately or Hornby trainset painting or something

X was going to Baltimore, which sent me into a hasty explanation of how much I like exploring cities ON MY OWN

wow! within 5 minutes too! way to blow your load

NB, I do live only 40 mins from Baltimore, so it's not so bad, but yeah.

lol "I will explore my local city ALONE, thanks"

dude should have been all Euro capital on you

I'm the only saddo still on OKCupid, aren't I?...
― ljubljana, Thursday, May 21, 2009 6:14 PM (3 days ago) Bookmark

I'm on okcupid but every time I use the browse feature it's the same old girls in my area that I don't want to date.
I haven't had any luck on dating sites for over 25 years now.

I had a marathon 'match' session recently and I really do think I've met the only two guys I was interested in meeting (of those that that 'match' is finding for me in the top, you know, ahemthreehundred or so), with a third later this week. And that's in DC! I really fancy the third based on his picture so I'm kind of stupidly optimistic about it.

captain lorax you have not been using dating sites for more than 25 years

NB, I am now sending stupid messages to the third guy in order to fuck things up in advance. Fucking things up when really interested must be hard-wired in.

Am yet to gauge quite how immersive this website can be, but it seems to contain multitudes of wasted time

multitudes of time

like 'a myriad of options'. That drives me up the wall.

you know, you don't have to bite the apple ljubljana. you could set an example for women everywhere (because obviously they are all sinful snake listening apple biters)

whaaa

Eh? (I'll consider it, but I'll have to understand it first).

you don't have to fuck things up