"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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what a disaster for engagements

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lol at alex in NYC making a pissy facebook comment when michael jackson died (something like "well I won't miss him") but dropping an RIP for swayze

He's an incredibly complicated guy, that Alex hailing from NYC.

Nobody understands him but his woman...

That's because (a) I was never a fan of Michael Jackson and (b) actually enjoyed the odd Patrick Swayze movie (namely "Red Dawn" and "Donnie Darko" ... if the latter can be referred to as a "Patrick Swayze movie.")

Michael Jackson meant nothing to me other than irritation.

UPDATE: http://i28.tinypic.com/x26xhh.jpg

just got back home, i've been on campus all day (midterm week :'(), and then at a friend's.

she defriended me on facebook. so i'm pretty sure she (and some others) saw it. i had checked facebook on my phone earlier, and after my post there were 2 other replies, one saying "ummm" and the other ignoring my post and congratulating her.

i'm going to bed, i have a mutual friend who i just txted to check up on her profile tomorrow morning.

i sent the message:

idk dude, you should probably talk to your gf about it not me. but trust me, it happened, i know the guy she did it with, and other people do too. when you were going home every weekend, she had sex in your guys' bed. if you dont believe me..tattoo. inner thigh.

i'm not trying to be an ass or anything, but i figured youd wanna know..

tattoo. inner thigh.

Wait so you're seeing all this unfold and you're not involved? How public is this shit going down?

The guy who's doing this is asking for help and posting the developments on a massive thread somewhere over the internet rainbow. Hundreds are watching it go down on there - he asked for advice and it naturally took this turn.

mental.

Hahaha thats awesome.

good god

Yes, "awesome" that this poor guy gets to find out his fiancee cheated on him via a Facebook comment. "Awesome" indeed.

tattoo. inner thigh.

Well its not awesome for the guy, no.

Tbh, the guy that posted the initial comment is a worthless douchebag. If it was so important to him that this guy find out about her cheating, there are certainly MUCH better ways to handle it. Tossing it out on Facebook like that was clearly intended to just fuck with their lives for his own entertainment. Karma's a bitch.

What's sort of crazy is that he only did it after being egged on by about a hundred internet people demanding some sort of e-justice and shouting "do it faggot." Certainly not the kind of encouragement that will lead to a good decision. Ever.

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Wow, major update:

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"seriously what the fuck is your problem, ive only met you twice. why the fuck are you trying to ruin my life? I don't know what you think you know, but stop making shit up. Thanks to you my fiance won't fucking talk to me anymore. Stay outta my business, asshole."

That's from the girl, apparently.

Pft. She lyin'.

She's been caught out and now she's shittin herself.

why don't people ever realize that facebook has a private messaging option?

Somehow, I suspect they want the public show.

oh wait yeah i just realized that this *is* going down in PMs and the guy is screencapping the replies - well that's pretty shitty imo

Too bad there's no film of the guy's face when he read "tattoo. inner thigh." Was probably epic. Poor guy.

why don't people ever realize that facebook has a private messaging option?

Because this started as a "what if I did ______? lol" joke and then evolved into "I'm doing this guy a favor this has a purpose bro needs to know." event.

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Yeah I was gonna say (the first comment was on her wall tho)

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his response to the girl (or the one that the forum wants him to send)

"look, lady. you wanna go on ahead and deny you slept with my boy "___________" all you want, but the fact remains you did it. the NEW fucking question is are you that hurtful of a person to not fess up now before you ruin this poor guys life?

if you even REMOTELY have a soul, tell him the truth."

I don't think there's a problem w/ public shaming for a girl who does something like this. And I don't think it's horrible that someone notifies the dude about this, even if it's over fb and done by someone obnoxious.

The real problem is that the dude who was about to get married is now *also* dealing w/ this shit in public. He didn't do anything to deserve that, and you'd think that if the internet moralist was really thinking about that dude's best interests, he'd be acting differently.

this is lame and everyone involved is a retard

This is why I never ever discuss my personal life (well much of it) on FB. You cant lock that shit down.

If Google ever bought Facebook I think we'd all just give up the notion of a private life altogether. They'd have too much to blackmail us with.

My first couple years on ILX are enough to damn me forever, anyway. But I am big on protecting the privacy of others, and helping to make them awafe of the risks.

Big Lebowski Shirts!

apparently you can't be 'in a relationship' with your piano on facebook

sorry to be the one to break this but another dude's been playing your piano

omg

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Alright, how about this perspective?

She had an affair, it was brief, ended, few people knew, and she's 'had it out' with her fiance, and they've sorted out any underlying issues and all is fine.

They decide to get married.

Now, it's all over the internet and she is denied the closure for the sake of the people who go up to the guy and go "lol she emasculated you and gave you the horns of a cuckold siree" so he can't go ahead for fear of looking lol gay or whatever it's called.

Still, lol, ay?

No one's denying this dude's method was ridiculous and was rooted in stone-throwing naughtiness, but I think the facebook needling and the damage done is overstated. The big revelations were all contained in FB e-mails and no one's identity has been revealed.

BTW, the guy she slept with is apparently doing a semester at sea and is unreachable for the most part.

it seems pretty clear that they didn't 'have it out' tho

Dear the sea, before you get married to this guy I have something you might want to know

I dunno, basically if my soon to be wife had cheated on me, I'd want to know about it. I just wouldn't want the process of me learning about it to be public.

it seems pretty clear that they didn't 'have it out' tho

It seems pretty clear that it's nobodyz bizness but dere ownnn

it started being other peoples' bizness when she started sleeping with other people

this is lame and everyone involved is a retard

― akm, Thursday, September 17, 2009 12:39 AM (12 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

This whole thing is ridiculous.