Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Oh geez please excuse my typing, the hell is with me lately.

I'm curious about how somebody has successfully approached someone with mutual, if not terribly close, friends for dating. My experience/theory is that unless you meet them in real life you're not appropriately breaking any ice, so I'm not sure what the FB protocol is for "Hi, I think you're cute, we went to the same school, share dozens of friends and we should hang out some time - I think we'd get along based on the fact you're always cropping up in my newsfeed and I'm totally intrigued by you,"

It should be easier than online dating (which I've never done) but there's higher risk because this person shares friends, and I'm not sure which of the mutual coolege friends could introduce us, if any.

I want to vent about my OKC-spawned 'relationship' and where it is 'going' or not etc. but this isn't the place and there are so many lurve/dating-related threads. Recommendations?

So good they named it twice: The Vagaries of Dating The Vagaries of Dating
The boring option: Internet Dating

lol pinefox: I just registered on a dating website!

Ta!

PF kind of reminding me of when Mr Logic goes to a prostitute in Viz

― MPx4A, Tuesday, 22 July 2008 20:26 (1 year ago)

Haahah.

Jesus Christ, that Internet Dating thread. I'm gonna print that thread out and hang it in my kitchen to remind myself why I don't drink any more. *facepalm*

OK, no matter how bad things are now, they are not as bad as they were when I was unemployed. I was mad as a box of frogs at that point. (Not that I'm exactly sane now, but more like, a tadpole in a matchbox mad, rather than full on rainforest of frogs in freezer box)

And I've just figured out why internet dating doesn't work for me - I only ever seem to try it when I'm miserable and unhappy about something. When I'm pretty settled and content, I don't feel the need to do it. Which is just setting oneself up for disappointment, really.

I think you could expand that to dating in general really! It works better when you're not in a black mood desperately wanting some kind of answer (in which case one comes over as IN YOUR FACE)... I mean this generally obviously K, I'm not saying this about you (hell, Ive done it heaps ugh).

No, no, that's totally and completley appropriate to me.

Oh Ive read back over some past email/post exchanges with potential dates and I just want to stab my eyes out for my stupidity :/

The problem is, when I get to the point where I kinda like my life and have managed to row my way to general OKness, those are the times I think "no way in HELL am I letting some man in here to go and stomp around and mess it all up."

And of course thats right when some hot guy gets right up into your thing and you don't know what to do, innit? sigh.

HA HA HAH um, if that ever happened, I would check for the hidden camera and the laugh track

bryce, can i see your okcupid profile?

That might just be embarrassing! I'm thinking about it.

I think it's sort of a stupid profile actually. And nobody's looked at it, apparently. It might not even be up a full 24 hours.

bryce, im not gonna judge you!! mostly i just wanted to see the pic you described.

you can email me the link, you dont have to post it for everybody to see

I have a profile on this...the people are fucking weird.

How so?

i called a girl out on there for saying she liked all music except country and rap :)

I just find they don't seem like people I ever meet...

http://www.futureshipwreck.com/pics/they-live3.jpg

xxpost Is that a joke? What is the point?

xpost You mean that there's a whole group of humans with OKCupid accounts who for some reason don't mix with the people you see on the street or in their cars or at work or at the grocery store?

xpost They Live or whatever with Roddy Piper?

only met one girl through that site and she was cool but told me she was depressed about an hour into the date...

So you bailed? Maybe she if she had met someone nice it would've picked her up considerably, and maybe you could've been that someone.

xp - yeah ... joke image to explain LG's statement about how they seem like people he never meets.

I got the joke!

sorry ...

Roxy, I had some tag or description or whatever, that required thing, but I got rid of it with a hundred spacebar presses. It was stupid trying to express myself, to express myself at 1:30 am, to try to describe myself to make myself appealing to people or whatever configuration you can think of.

xpost Oh I was smiling and laughing when I wrote that.

I will say with regards to the what do women want thread, I will almost definitely be skipping the mix tape portion of my next relationship.

the guy i am seeing right now made me a mixed tape, an actual cassette. u would approve

Yeah, def.

It's killing me and I can't move on! What of my picture. It's dire, isn't it. I'm ambivalent about the process. I just need people to hang out with in E. Orlando.

the picture is not bad, you look cute, but it is sure to be misinterpreted as "DRAMATIC", which since i know you i know was not your intention

It actually was a very dramatic moment. I was sweaty but I could have been crying. The other picture's not really better.

I think it's weird that no one has effectively imitated New Order. That came up on some other thread, some other band that you'd think people would try to imitate the sound of, but it was obvious they were inimitable.

It's the drum programming, mostly, but also the keyboards and that bass guitar sound.

tons of ppl have tried to imitate NO, but they arent as good.

who took the sweaty picture? you look as upset as the day is long

the second picture is very myspace, you should get rid of it

Somehow I managed to take the first picture. I used to have a flattering picture of me in b&w and another flattering picture of me holding a real camera, but I have no idea where those are.

Yeah, they've tried to imitate NO, but I've never heard any of them get it sort of right whether they sucked or not. It's like with Pavement. Their imitators, even if they're not as good, totally manage to sound exactly like them. The Volume and Sone albums sound like Pavement tooling around in the studio, same guitars, amps, recording equipment, whatever. With NO thing, I've just never heard anything that'd make me make a mistake.

bernard's singing voice is pretty unique too

Oh, yeah, but with voices then the comparison just becomes unfair.

I'm trying to think of who that other band. It was another case of, This should be doable, but it seems it hasn't been.

science proves that dudes emailing girls from dating sites "u r vry pretty" are perceived as crepey

I've written a few messages in the past and I felt creepy no matter what I said. I always feel creepy when I ask a girl out - it's happened so few times since 9th grade, really about four times of directly asking a girl out, and I think of the four said yes, and of those three none of them gave a crap (or were really worth giving a crap about, to be real).

loool @ 'band' being the highest

http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/how_to_get_replies_2/interests-chart.png

Although that is probably the best way, that rush you get from face-to-face contact and saying, "I saw you and I think you're cute. Would you like to go out sometime?" And then they say yes. In a way, totally worth the not going anywhere.

Literature lowest? Jaysus.

How's it going is an unusual greeting?

xxp - or even on the phone, when you can get something of a read on someone ...