Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

oh yeah, there was a third girl, we slowly meandered away from each other.. there wasn't ever going to be anything there

'reset' in preparation for another one of my expansive braingusts

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yucko

I just signed up for this. First experience with a dating site, seems fairly promising. Just sent a couple msgs to matches along with some "winks" along with answering questions. Sooo...we'll see.

A couple of the conversations on other threads inspired me tonight and I got three pages in on the matches in my area and stopped here

I am a Central Florida college student, toiling daily to get by and stay high. I have a healthy interest in the lives of other people and an obsession with visual language.

I receive so many messages it is unfeasible for me to reply to all of them, and honestly I am probably not DTF.

I had to look it up in the Urban Dictionary. Girl was wearing ironic bifocals I guess? Because her other pictures were like aspiring model club kid hipster, heavily photoshopped fashion shots, stuff like that.

dtf . . . dtf. Sheesh.

And one cute girl close to my age within a few pages and I'm thinking, NEERRRRRRRRD. What's going to happen when you've worked through all those Robert Jordon books? Existential crisis, I bet. But that's mean. Just a woman trying to find someone. But the posturing and preemptive social parrying make reading the profiles kind of hard to stomach.

And what is visual language? Like concrete poetry? Typography? Gesture, dance?

I've found plenty of dates online without ever using online dating services. Why bother when you can get to know friends of friends via IRC, livejournal, facebook, forums etc?

Well its worked for me plenty.

^^ braggin

Well, yeah.

I'm curious
did you give pics before you ever met any of those online people you mentioned?

did you ever meet anyone without giving them a single picture at all?

Probably she does.

I just a second ago made a real OKCupid profile with a picture and a couple of things about me and it's pretty complete, if you were to ask me, "Do you think you need to include more for your OKCupid profile?"

so what's the most private thing you're willing to admit

I didn't do that one. It's not a very personal profile and I put a very unflattering picture up as my primary one, one of me after biking fifteen miles and dangerously depressed. I am not trying to pull to hard.

But I will admit that I tweaked it several times until I thought it sounded right. And it still probably doesn't.

did you give pics before you ever met any of those online people you mentioned?

did you ever meet anyone without giving them a single picture at all?

Hmm lemme think.. I think in a few cases, yes (nor did I see their pic). And I'll be honest - some of those were, like blind dates, complete disasters. So that I stopped doing.

But I'mn not talking about "talk once then meet for coffee", I'm talking about getting to know szomeone via other friends online over the course of days/weeks/months before dates happen.

It isnt something I'd do anymore I dont think - notwithstanding the fact I have a partner now (who, incidentally, I origianlly met via Livejournal now I think about it).

Oh geez please excuse my typing, the hell is with me lately.

I'm curious about how somebody has successfully approached someone with mutual, if not terribly close, friends for dating. My experience/theory is that unless you meet them in real life you're not appropriately breaking any ice, so I'm not sure what the FB protocol is for "Hi, I think you're cute, we went to the same school, share dozens of friends and we should hang out some time - I think we'd get along based on the fact you're always cropping up in my newsfeed and I'm totally intrigued by you,"

It should be easier than online dating (which I've never done) but there's higher risk because this person shares friends, and I'm not sure which of the mutual coolege friends could introduce us, if any.

I want to vent about my OKC-spawned 'relationship' and where it is 'going' or not etc. but this isn't the place and there are so many lurve/dating-related threads. Recommendations?

So good they named it twice: The Vagaries of Dating The Vagaries of Dating
The boring option: Internet Dating

lol pinefox: I just registered on a dating website!

Ta!

PF kind of reminding me of when Mr Logic goes to a prostitute in Viz

― MPx4A, Tuesday, 22 July 2008 20:26 (1 year ago)

Haahah.

Jesus Christ, that Internet Dating thread. I'm gonna print that thread out and hang it in my kitchen to remind myself why I don't drink any more. *facepalm*

OK, no matter how bad things are now, they are not as bad as they were when I was unemployed. I was mad as a box of frogs at that point. (Not that I'm exactly sane now, but more like, a tadpole in a matchbox mad, rather than full on rainforest of frogs in freezer box)

And I've just figured out why internet dating doesn't work for me - I only ever seem to try it when I'm miserable and unhappy about something. When I'm pretty settled and content, I don't feel the need to do it. Which is just setting oneself up for disappointment, really.

I think you could expand that to dating in general really! It works better when you're not in a black mood desperately wanting some kind of answer (in which case one comes over as IN YOUR FACE)... I mean this generally obviously K, I'm not saying this about you (hell, Ive done it heaps ugh).

No, no, that's totally and completley appropriate to me.

Oh Ive read back over some past email/post exchanges with potential dates and I just want to stab my eyes out for my stupidity :/

The problem is, when I get to the point where I kinda like my life and have managed to row my way to general OKness, those are the times I think "no way in HELL am I letting some man in here to go and stomp around and mess it all up."

And of course thats right when some hot guy gets right up into your thing and you don't know what to do, innit? sigh.

HA HA HAH um, if that ever happened, I would check for the hidden camera and the laugh track

bryce, can i see your okcupid profile?

That might just be embarrassing! I'm thinking about it.

I think it's sort of a stupid profile actually. And nobody's looked at it, apparently. It might not even be up a full 24 hours.

bryce, im not gonna judge you!! mostly i just wanted to see the pic you described.

you can email me the link, you dont have to post it for everybody to see

I have a profile on this...the people are fucking weird.

How so?

i called a girl out on there for saying she liked all music except country and rap :)

I just find they don't seem like people I ever meet...

http://www.futureshipwreck.com/pics/they-live3.jpg

xxpost Is that a joke? What is the point?

xpost You mean that there's a whole group of humans with OKCupid accounts who for some reason don't mix with the people you see on the street or in their cars or at work or at the grocery store?

xpost They Live or whatever with Roddy Piper?

only met one girl through that site and she was cool but told me she was depressed about an hour into the date...

So you bailed? Maybe she if she had met someone nice it would've picked her up considerably, and maybe you could've been that someone.

xp - yeah ... joke image to explain LG's statement about how they seem like people he never meets.

I got the joke!

sorry ...

Roxy, I had some tag or description or whatever, that required thing, but I got rid of it with a hundred spacebar presses. It was stupid trying to express myself, to express myself at 1:30 am, to try to describe myself to make myself appealing to people or whatever configuration you can think of.

xpost Oh I was smiling and laughing when I wrote that.

I will say with regards to the what do women want thread, I will almost definitely be skipping the mix tape portion of my next relationship.

the guy i am seeing right now made me a mixed tape, an actual cassette. u would approve

Yeah, def.

It's killing me and I can't move on! What of my picture. It's dire, isn't it. I'm ambivalent about the process. I just need people to hang out with in E. Orlando.