love

I keep going back to Robert Ashley “three men have loved her, one a decade on average” (sorry if that’s inaccurate quote)…. Kate so otm on this thread re deserving and not deserving and the self-fulfilling prophecy

I keep going back to Robert Ashley “three men have loved her, one a decade on average” (sorry if that’s inaccurate quote)…. Kate so otm on this thread re deserving and not deserving and the self-fulfilling prophecy

Sometimes it seems as though there are two kinds of people in the world -- those who as young children got the message very clearly that they were loved unconditionally and they could just be without worrying constantly about fucking up and losing that love, which, particularly at that young age feels like you will just about die without it, and otoh those who felt like they had to constantly do some ongoing social equivalent of acrobatic feats in life to maintain that sense of well-being even in some small way. Sadly much of human history is probably shaped by people reacting to and trying to (over-)compensate for those feelings of lack and deprivation. If one is in the latter category, when witnessing ppl in the first it almost seems like you are watching magical beings who glide through so many life circumstances sans friction. Almost like the way the average person might view a psychopath. There are so many psychological burdens that they are not involved in from the getgo.