Tfw you realize you’re wearing clothes like it’s 1995 and everyone around you looks like they’re going to or coming from the gym
― calstars, Wednesday, 13 March 2024 19:42 (six months ago) link
Didn't know that people wore PAJAMAS to the gym.
― pplains, Wednesday, 13 March 2024 19:50 (six months ago) link
I won't be at the doctor's until this weekend to confirm, but I think I've developed my first ulcer, likely due to prolonged ibuprofen use to treat jaw-clenching pain.
― blatherskite, Wednesday, 13 March 2024 21:16 (six months ago) link
In just the last couple of weeks my eyesight has become noticeably worse. I booked myself into the opticians and they rang and asked why I was seeing them before I was due. I told them and they sent me to the eye hospital. Luckily I'm fine but I do need glasses.
At the same time I can very suddenly and noticeably feel the skin around my neck feels looser and wrinklier in a way it hadn't before.
That's it guys, I'm officially middle aged!
― your mom goes to limgrave (dog latin), Wednesday, 13 March 2024 23:29 (six months ago) link
Identified my year of retirement: 2037
― calstars, Friday, 15 March 2024 20:47 (six months ago) link
not so bad!
― close encounters of the third knid (darraghmac), Friday, 15 March 2024 21:15 (six months ago) link
Jonah who will turn 62 in the year 2037
― calstars, Friday, 15 March 2024 21:40 (six months ago) link
It's coming up.
― pplains, Saturday, 16 March 2024 02:54 (six months ago) link
I have less than 9 months to go before I graduate from this thread and now I’m getting all the back and leg aches y’all have been talking about… I used to be able to sit cross-legged on the floor for hours without problems… oops
― sarahell, Friday, 29 March 2024 17:32 (five months ago) link
I lost complete hearing in my left ear six months ago. No biggie
― Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Friday, 29 March 2024 19:17 (five months ago) link
eh?
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 29 March 2024 21:19 (five months ago) link
jk sry
Ha! I’m having surgery in a month. They think one of those tiny lil ear bones lost connection so they’re gonna put a prosthetic in. Should get a lot but not all of it back. It’s seriously disorienting not to have hearing in one ear. I cannot geolocate sounds for the life of me.
― Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Friday, 29 March 2024 21:57 (five months ago) link
this happened to my husband about 10 years ago. never got the hearing back. he can't tell where any sound is coming from, it's pretty bad. plus tinnitus :(
― kinder, Friday, 29 March 2024 22:14 (five months ago) link
I don’t wear bifocals or glasses of any sort but I do now (in my forties) understand why older people who do will tilt their head down when they look at something across the room and up when reading something in small print
― calstars, Saturday, 13 April 2024 21:10 (five months ago) link
I've got a painful foot/big toe. I've done some reading about gout and spoken to my dad, who suffers periodically, so pretty sure it's not that. I think it's probably a pressure/RSI from all the walking I do? It's manageable but is just another one of those 'it's always there' aches that makes up my body map.
I'm also now the proud owner of a 'bunion sleeve', which sounds like a rejected name for a 'combine two nouns' death metal band.
― I would prefer not to. (Chinaski), Sunday, 14 April 2024 17:32 (five months ago) link
My left knee inflammation only really cleared up this week. Reaggravated it shortly after it got better when I went ziplining due to the upstairs climb. Can finally bend it again lol.
Now minor left hip twinges showed up but not painful, but enough to where I'm walking a LITTLE different
― CEO Greedwagon (Neanderthal), Sunday, 14 April 2024 17:53 (five months ago) link
i bought a cute pair of Vans for fun after mostly wearing semi-orthopedic shoes for the past 5 years . i wore them to the movies, and i maybe walked half a block to and from my car. YET NOW I AM IN PAIN WTF i now have this stupid pain in my instep/arch and can barely walk and it’s like cool great fuck me ever buying “fun” shoes again i fucking hate being old
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 01:03 (four months ago) link
Gotta get into a stretching practice again, and make sure the chair I sit in for work had some lower back support. I’m paying the price for not doing these things tonight.
― Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 01:11 (four months ago) link
― sarahell, Wednesday, 24 April 2024 01:42 (four months ago) link
I think they have a line of vans with better support now
― calstars, Wednesday, 24 April 2024 02:25 (four months ago) link
Wait til your Insoles start reeling like the devil’s breath
― Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 02:38 (four months ago) link
Oops reeking
― Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 02:39 (four months ago) link
these Vans were like v low profile maryjanes w glued-in insoles, i realized i would have had to semi-wreck them to wear insoles in them comfortably so i just returned them instead
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 03:36 (four months ago) link
i tried to wear ballet flats once. _once_.
in the meantime i have all kinds of fun stretches for my feet to do. fun stretches for _everything_ haha
― Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 14:12 (four months ago) link
when I think about my feet and feminine shoes, I really wish I had insisted on wearing men's shoes much earlier in life ... I have wide feet so I have to buy wide width shoes in women's anyway
― sarahell, Thursday, 25 April 2024 16:42 (four months ago) link
File under the Fear of becoming invisible dept: I ordered a slice at the pizzeria. Several minutes passed and server asked how he could help me
― calstars, Sunday, 28 April 2024 17:16 (four months ago) link
Lol thought it was only me shit that happened too.
Did you say "waiting on the five slices I ordered and paid for"?
― ain't nothin but a brie thing, baby (Neanderthal), Sunday, 28 April 2024 20:18 (four months ago) link
depends on how many other people are at the establishmentif 0, sure go ahead and take it personally if you mustif many, cut some slack? it's probably not about you.
― Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Sunday, 28 April 2024 20:31 (four months ago) link
Exactly… I had this experience in my 20s … it definitely isn’t middle age
― sarahell, Sunday, 28 April 2024 21:19 (four months ago) link
I had this experience once, in an airport Dunkin Donuts, when absolutely no one else was in line or being served. I gave it a minute, then left and just got coffee and OJ somewhere else.
― Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Sunday, 28 April 2024 21:50 (four months ago) link
(I’m 47 - this happened maybe two years ago)
This can reflect the invisibility of the single person - rather than the older person, ime.
― Dr Drudge (Bob Six), Sunday, 28 April 2024 21:58 (four months ago) link
A younger coworker started a coed recreational kickball team a few years ago, I was already in my forties and said to myself, I used to play lots of kickball when I was young, I’ll join and show these kids how it’s done. Well pretty early on in the season I kicked as hard as I could and pulled my quad so badly I thought I tore something. My leg swelled up and I could barely walk for weeks. I finally recovered in time for the playoffs, so of course I joined back up, and of course in my first at-bat I re-pulled my quad just as badly as the first time. I gave up on sports after that, I guess I’m too old. Nowadays I am getting ready to buy a pair of readers because I am sick of goggling blindly at fine print.
― epistantophus, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 01:58 (four months ago) link
Not to be a dick, but some pretty simple stretching can go a long way in that regard. I am 39– I stretch for 15 minutes every morning, and intend on doing so until I die
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 11:18 (four months ago) link
This can reflect the invisibility of the single person - rather than the older person, ime.― Dr Drudge (Bob Six)
― Dr Drudge (Bob Six)
there are _so many different kinds_ of invisibility haha
it's something i struggle a lot with. am i being treated worse than the other people around me? am i being ignored? if so, _why_?
the whole phenomenon of the "karen" - to me it's kind of one response to not being _acknowledged_. it's one of the things that makes "passing" so hard for me - the way women of a certain age tend to be treated. there are _very much_ gendered differences here, ime.
women, like... we gotta learn to not take being ignored personally, even if there are, you know... even if we are being ignored _because_ we're women in our '40s. cuz if we don't that's when we get called "karens".
― Kate (rushomancy), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:30 (four months ago) link
The invisibility experience for me was more surreal than anything else, a “am I on Candid Camera?” feeling.
(I didn’t throw a fit or anything - just stood there for a minute or two accepting that this was happening, or not happening, before floating away to another business.)
― Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:34 (four months ago) link
“Am I really alive? Am I a ghost?”
And while I haven’t worked in the service industry for many, many years, I get that these are repetitive, demanding jobs, and that the 6-7 people working at the combination DD/Baskin Robbins had been grinding since 5 am and were likely burnt to the point that I, a 6’4 black man, just might not have registered in the moment
― Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:37 (four months ago) link
i had my ear surgery last week. it was a big deal and i assume there are lots of people out there who have the same issue, but live in a place where the diagnosis would not have happened and the surgeon wouldn't live in their town. kind of got mad at him because right when i woke up post surgery he tells me for the first time that i'm not allowed to blow my nose for 10 days. mfer, it's mid April and pollen is everywhere. i have literal scabs on my nose from blowing it so much. not sure if it's a 40s thing, but my allergies have gone from 0 to 100 in the last few years
― Heez, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:40 (four months ago) link
how's ya hearing?
― kinder, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 19:46 (four months ago) link
I hope your surgery went well, Heez. Rather frequently, my right ear gets completely clogged up and I also cannot pick out individual speakers or tell where sounds are coming from. It really struck me how having even just a marginally difficult time hearing can immediately feel isolating.
― fajita seas, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 20:46 (four months ago) link
Getting old is so f’in weird
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 00:51 (four months ago) link
Seconded.
― Kate (rushomancy), Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:51 (four months ago) link
Hope I don’t die soon!
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:52 (four months ago) link
Planning to live to 90 like my grandparents done did
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:53 (four months ago) link
Every time I get carded I’m like, “this is the last time I’m gonna get carded”
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:45 (four months ago) link
/romero
― close encounters of the third knid (darraghmac), Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:52 (four months ago) link
last got ID'd in Morrisons of all places when I was 40. I assume that will be the last time unless I go back to the USA at some point or somewhere else where they card OAPs
― Colonel Poo, Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:57 (four months ago) link
I get that they think I’m a narc…I guess
― calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 18:10 (four months ago) link
fell in the bathtub this morning. cut my chin open. i wouldn't call it a serious fall, but at my age i can't just brush off falls like i could when i was younger. scariest thing is that i live by myself. i mean i don't feel like i'm the age where i'd want a lifealert bracelet or something but yeah, if i seriously hurt myself by accident it'd be a while before anybody came to check. had a pretty bad fall last december... was on my way out to an event, it was icy, forgot something upstairs, went up the outside stairs too quickly and banged myself up. still went to the event, though, without even so much as cleaning myself up. i guess i can say i'm learning - i wouldn't do that today. i think the fall back in december was probably worse. hard to say. it's getting around. my balance has never been good. i had a fall in my garage back in '19 and my ankle stability has been really bad ever since.
anyway my QPP is gonna be over in a bit to check... in the meantime i'm just shook... got a towel in my mouth waiting for the bleeding to stop.
― Kate (rushomancy), Monday, 6 May 2024 14:51 (four months ago) link