idk. i got called for jury duty today and i was surprised by how many just... ordinary-looking people there were. i'm not saying that as a put-down. it's just not something i see a lot of. i know that "ordinary-looking" isn't the same as "ordinary". i don't think of anybody as being actually "ordinary". there was one lady in front of me with pink hair on one side and black hair on another and stompy boots and a pentagram badge on her bag. behind me was a goth girl, the sort who dress goth even when it's cold and they're reporting for jury duty. and then there's me, looking as ordinary as anyone else, just with a trans flag-colored horizontally striped top from target's pride collection (i'm pretty sure the gay agenda has reclaimed _all_ horizontal stripes, at this point. all horizontal stripes are gay, just like rainbows are gay, just like love is gay). me and a couple hundred people in queueing for half an hour and then being told they can go home. is anybody else there seeing their first trans person? it sounds ridiculous, for god's sake, i live in _portland_, there are _thousands_ of us. even here, though. it's easy to not notice. maybe out of those hundreds of people, someone there saw me and was happy i existed, like that guy in small-town texas. joy is a social contagion, but it's not yet a pandemic. that doesn't bother me. i haven't gotten the impression that bigots are good at controlling pandemics.
― Kate (rushomancy), Tuesday, 27 February 2024 00:59 (two years ago)
Not sure where to put this but a week or so ago I saw a listing for a club night which described itself as "LGBTQIA+ and Hetero friendly" next to the address and hours info
― anvil, Tuesday, 27 February 2024 10:38 (two years ago)
lol
Let me tell you a short story how I “met” @HJoyceGender and two other leaders of @SexMattersOrg in the train to Cambridge last night. I didn’t know who they were at the time but I was sitting near a middle aged lady who was typing in very big letters on her phone. So I look.. 1/— Letters Bunchofnumbers (@dschw89) February 27, 2024
― This is Dance Anthems, have some respect (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Tuesday, 27 February 2024 10:58 (two years ago)
tldr; Helen Joyce caught reading Harry Potter slashfic on a train
― This is Dance Anthems, have some respect (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Tuesday, 27 February 2024 10:59 (two years ago)
It’s not slash. Slash is male/male. It’s extremely funny that she reads in font huge enough that it can be clearly seen by someone sitting across from her. Also, JKR quite famously hates fic of her characters. Very funny thing to happen to this awful person.
― Roman Anthony gets on his horse (gyac), Tuesday, 27 February 2024 11:50 (two years ago)
oh nooooooooooooooo are we gatekeeping slash now :(
i'm actually reading a book by an old-school usenet veteran about "yuri" and the history of it, all the battles over it and who the audience is - is "yuri" an offensive term, should it be called "shoujo-ai" ("girls love"), stuff like that
with the added layer that these arguments are mostly taking place in the anglosphere about framings of gender and sexuality from another culture
but with the _added_ added layer that these framings were in themselves borrowed from english language framings
like for instance early on the term "rezu" started to being used, but a lot of its use was kind of similar to the way the word "lezzie" used to be used - stuff sort of based on cishet ideas of "lesbianism"
which then led to Actual Lesbians(tm) adopting the term "bian" to describe themselves
and all i can think of is "With our forces combined..."
ANYWAY to follow up i have now seen the tweet where the twitter CEO outed the trans user's alternate accounts, and i won't be sharing the account names because it was a privacy violation, but the alternate account names are fucking _hilarious_ and i am here for all of them. also hilarious that this guy thought by sharing the account names he would, like, shame the user. real "charlton heston reading the lyrics to cop killer" vibes.
― Kate (rushomancy), Tuesday, 27 February 2024 16:50 (two years ago)
No no, last week it was the twitter CEO, this week it's the tumblr CEO..
― Andrew Farrell, Tuesday, 27 February 2024 22:49 (two years ago)
when does twumblr get involved
― Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 28 February 2024 02:09 (two years ago)
wtf
https://x.com/bowwowgoodboy/status/1774917359590916149?s=20
― Kate (rushomancy), Tuesday, 2 April 2024 14:50 (two years ago)
So I did watch the new Lily Alexandre video and it's as always a good watch, a difficult one, but I thought the peroration was particularly good at... succintly expressing things I see around me, things that I feel a lot and don't know how to express.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-CxiPdXuwgc
"With such a wide range of people committed to giving trans people a hard time, it can sometimes feel like the whole planet is conspiring against us. Nearly all the trans people I know are barely scraping by, struggling in ways they've done nothing to deserve, while the people working to intensify our struggling face no such stigma. A lot of people I know are withdrawing. A lot of them are coping in ways that worry me."
There's more to it than that. Lily's not saying that to be a doomer. I'm not a doomer either. The stuff she says after that is important. It's stuff I know, stuff I've known for a while, and it's important to be reminded of that, and since she says it, it's important for me to remind other people of that, in my own words this time.
The planet is not conspiring against us. I'm a longtime conspiracy theorist, but I wouldn't say that there's a conspiracy _against_ trans people at all. It's not really _about_ us at all. The kinds of shit people are saying about us, they could be saying it about anyone. The Jews or the Palestinians or Black people or, you know, anyone. We're not the first. I don't think we'll be the last, though I'd fucking love to be wrong about that. It's comforting in a way, knowing that it's not just us, knowing that trans people aren't alone in this, but it's also frustrating. Alexandre quotes Bari Weiss, who's Jewish, parroting flat out anti-Semitic conspiracy theories, just with the word "trans" substituted in for "Jewish".
And it's not... I mean, someone like Weiss is exceptional in a lot of ways. Not, like, everybody is going to be as blind to the reality of things as Weiss clearly is. It happens more than I'd like, though, and it's so dispiriting. I am withdrawing. I am pretty withdrawn, because it just hits me so hard whenever I see someone acting like that. I don't really want to know just how _many_ people there are who'd do the same thing, under those circumstances. And do I blame them personally? Not for the most part. Weiss, yeah, sure, I'll blame her personally. Like I said. She's exceptional. Most people? No, I don't blame them. But it breaks my heart. Every time. I can't bear to see it. Even if that's only, like, one in ten - and I think that's a pretty low estimate, one in ten - it breaks my heart.
I've said this a couple of times, but it's good to be here lately. It's good to just... talk to cis people and know that y'all have my back. That none of you are against us, that if you were, you wouldn't fucking be here, one way or another. I value that a lot. It is easy for me to feel, sometimes, that I'm in a bubble, that I live in a different world from everyone else, that it could all just come crashing in, that we could all just be _gone_, and we would be... like what frogbs said about people who died from COVID.
even now it's like these people are barely even remembered. just people who existed in some sort of "before time"
And, you know. If it's them, it could be us. It could be all of us. That scares me. I hope... I hope that fear is groundless. I still, haha, I still have a little bit of hope left, I guess. Even when I feel like I don't.
― Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 4 April 2024 23:36 (two years ago)
if anyone's in or near glasgow there's a protest at 6.30 today in george square. the local nhs board are due to announce a ban on hrt and blockers for trans youth
instagram.com/transprotestglasgow/
gotta say things aren't looking too great over here on terf island rn, and i can't see the situation improving any time soon :(
― ava (paolo), Thursday, 18 April 2024 07:53 (two years ago)
I feel for you. The utter bleakness is just overwhelming sometimes, particularly when it comes to things in the UK. Not that things in the US are all beer and skittles... people keep saying "2024 is an election year"... I don't know what that's supposed to mean and I don't want to know. I stopped following politics years ago... it's incredibly clear to me that whatever happens isn't up to me... at least in the US _some_ people will support us. I don't feel like I can talk about the reality of it, though, people turn away, they can't look at what's happening to us. I can't blame them. Sometimes I just, you know, feel like our lives are the abyss people avoid staring into...
Right now I can't bring myself to hope for a better world. I don't feel like... I don't feel like I have the _right_. That's just right now, though. How I feel changes a lot.
― Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 18 April 2024 11:20 (two years ago)
Ava I'm not going to be able to make it tonight - it was just too last minute for me, I got hit with an unexpected busy spell at work and I have a funeral tomorrow morning so I had to stay late. I'm with you there in spirit though, this is dismal.
― boxedjoy, Thursday, 18 April 2024 17:19 (two years ago)
i'm sorry for your loss, hope the funeral goes as well as possible, and thanks for your kind words
― ava (paolo), Friday, 19 April 2024 07:31 (two years ago)
i have purposely avoided this cass bullshit cos most of my trans pals would seem to rather talk about other stuff (nerdy music chiefly) and i suspect it'd be too predictable and upsetting. like, it's obvious she's a GC plant right? and yet the guardian is rabbitting on about how finally science is prevailing. bullying is the last thing these people have left; you have to have faith these are terminal throes of an embittered older generation surely
― imago, Friday, 19 April 2024 08:26 (two years ago)
i've been avoiding most of the media coverage too, it's deeply depressing and i just can't deal with it. i've been told that the telegraph used the phrase 'evil trans ideology' recently. even for a right wing paper that kinda shocks me. but not too much
and i hope you're right re the older generation thing. hopefully things will be better for us in a couple of decades or so
― ava (paolo), Saturday, 20 April 2024 08:22 (two years ago)
i understand the need to believe that trans hate will fade away organically but it didn't happen organically in the first place so i see no reason to think it's a demographic issue
― Bitchin Doutai (Noodle Vague), Saturday, 20 April 2024 10:47 (two years ago)
the best hope would be a coalition with every other target of the establishment's moral panics over the last several decades the problem is everyone still around is traumatised and demoralised and suspicious of one other to varying degrees and in the worst cases have joined in this time out of fear or desire for leverage or revenge or whatever
― Left, Saturday, 20 April 2024 13:37 (two years ago)
if this is a conspiracy to disempower feminist and queer movements from the inside and provide cover for the crimes of cis men they really couldn't have done a better job
if it actually is something like that few participants are actually aware of it which reflects poorly on their understanding of their own history considering how many times gays and/or feminists have allied themselves with the right and been destroyed as a result (even if they felt temporarily empowered at first)
― Left, Saturday, 20 April 2024 13:51 (two years ago)
I know most of the people doing this are straight with nominal if any connection to actual feminist movements but I never expected better of those people anyway
― Left, Saturday, 20 April 2024 13:53 (two years ago)
right, it's always been a key tool in the colonialist/capitalist playbook - divide the opposition, pit them against each other - it's the guiding principle behind corporate social media. unfortunately it is really effective, at least in the medium term. not only does marginalization and oppression serve to pit oppressed groups against each other, it also causes tremendous conflict within marginalized groups. it's one of the reasons i'm thinking of getting the fuck out of portland. even those of us who have some small amount of financial resources, those resources a drop in the bucket. it's not enough to make meaningful change in even the life of one person, given the forces we're up against. i learned that one the hard way. getting adequate systemic resources and ending systemic oppression will never happen under capitalism, but at the same time we're too isolated and marginalized to overthrow capitalist oppression. by the time capitalism does in fact collapse, what'll be left in its wake are heavily traumatized and marginalized communities constantly at each other's throats. i don't really have any hope for a better future. i'm just trying to have the best present i can.
if this is a conspiracy to disempower feminist and queer movements from the inside and provide cover for the crimes of cis men they really couldn't have done a better jobif it actually is something like that few participants are actually aware of it which reflects poorly on their understanding of their own history considering how many times gays and/or feminists have allied themselves with the right and been destroyed as a result (even if they felt temporarily empowered at first)I know most of the people doing this are straight with nominal if any connection to actual feminist movements but I never expected better of those people anyway― Left, Saturday, April 20, 2024 6:53 AM (two hours ago)
― Left, Saturday, April 20, 2024 6:53 AM (two hours ago)
lily alexandre's video on the topic actually addresses these points really well imo
i understand the need to believe that trans hate will fade away organically but it didn't happen organically in the first place so i see no reason to think it's a demographic issue― Bitchin Doutai (Noodle Vague)
― Bitchin Doutai (Noodle Vague)
well, it's more complicated than that. it _didn't_ happen organically, true. cisgender ideology, however, has been a key component of hegemonic christian colonialism. it systemically eradicated queerness and anything that didn't conform to their ludicrous idea of the gender binary.
the thing to understand is that it _failed_. i grew up in an age where the cisgender agenda had achieved total success. the only way to survive as a trans person was to "pass" - to eradicate one's own transness and spend one's life conforming to their gender norms. if such a hegemonic norm was truly sustainable, then we wouldn't have all of this overt bigotry now. transphobes are fighting a battle they've already won. it doesn't matter how many times they "win" - they cannot truly eradicate transness. trans and queer ancestors fought hard and fiercely against their own erasure for decades, and if people are fighting against us harder today, i truly believe they're fighting for a doomed cause.
because transphobia is based entirely on enforced ignorance. the only way their ideology works is if people believe, like i believed, that there was no other choice, no other option. it's utterly demoralizing that transphobia is entrenched in every single institution of power in the uk, all the media, both major political parties. and it is effective. people listen to the crap that comes out of organs of power more than they listen to their own children. monstrous. absolutely monstrous, this level of cruelty.
they have to _keep doing it_, is the thing. always and for all time. they can never stop. we're everywhere. we walk among them. we're their own children, their own _parents_. it's so much work, and the more of us there are, the harder it is. i know the cost. i know the toll it takes to hate like that, because they taught me to do that to myself. i carried their hatred for them for a long time, and i gave it back. it's theirs now.
and that doesn't _fix_ anything. for trans people it still fucking sucks. they hurt us, we suffer, we die, too often and too soon. and them? ok, they die alone, unloved and unmourned.
the reason we win is that they can just _walk the fuck away_ at any time. i've seen it, again and again. if i could walk away, you know, from all this. if i could walk away from me. i absolutely fucking would. in a heartbeat. if i had any kind of a choice at all i would absolutely not choose this. i can't. this is who i am. this is who we are. my life runs deeper than their hatred, signifies more than their fury.
do i think a better world will come from that? not really, no. the cruel of this world - and there will always be more of them - will find new people to hate and kill. they always do.
― Kate (rushomancy), Saturday, 20 April 2024 16:51 (two years ago)
ok the japanese mascot chiitan supporting trans rights is going viral i had to go and look it up and see what its whole deal is
Much of the media produced by Chiitan was often chaotic and involved the mascot acting clumsy or violent. Occasionally its videos were criticized for being "creepy",[7] "reckless", and "dangerous".[1] Some of Chiitan's videos included it hitting a punching bag with a baseball bat, jumping into metal boxes, flipping a car, twirling a motorized weed cutter around its head,[5] falling off a pogo stick, failing at bowling, and falling off a bike while trying to fire a bow and arrow.[8]Some of the social media posts in which Chiitan and Shinjo-kun appeared together led some people to believe that Chiitan was a "bad influence" on Shinjo-kun. One post, in which Chiitan carries a miniature baseball bat and Shinjo-kun is dressed as a gangster, is captioned: "We're the bosses, don't mess with us or we'll commit otterocities."[10]Following the segment, Chiitan, via its official Twitter account, stated that it was angry that Oliver had stolen its friend and challenged Oliver to a fight. It tweeted WWE-inspired challenges directed at John Oliver, inviting him to fight it in a "NO HOLDS BARRED MATCH". In another tweet, Chiitan stated that it "wants to give John Oliver a chance to explode through a table", and later attempted to enlist Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson to help pressure Oliver. Oliver, in response to Chiitan's posts, tweeted "I'm in a public beef with an unsanctioned Japanese otter. I needed this."[10]
Some of the social media posts in which Chiitan and Shinjo-kun appeared together led some people to believe that Chiitan was a "bad influence" on Shinjo-kun. One post, in which Chiitan carries a miniature baseball bat and Shinjo-kun is dressed as a gangster, is captioned: "We're the bosses, don't mess with us or we'll commit otterocities."[10]
Following the segment, Chiitan, via its official Twitter account, stated that it was angry that Oliver had stolen its friend and challenged Oliver to a fight. It tweeted WWE-inspired challenges directed at John Oliver, inviting him to fight it in a "NO HOLDS BARRED MATCH". In another tweet, Chiitan stated that it "wants to give John Oliver a chance to explode through a table", and later attempted to enlist Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson to help pressure Oliver. Oliver, in response to Chiitan's posts, tweeted "I'm in a public beef with an unsanctioned Japanese otter. I needed this."[10]
this is the kind of allyship we need
any mascot who will threaten to suplex john oliver through an exploding table is clearly on the right side of history
― Kate (rushomancy), Tuesday, 23 July 2024 13:56 (one year ago)
i don't care whether it's "transphobic" or not but i ran across someone on slsk with the username She'sABrick and have been wondering for the last half hour whether the subtext is intentional or not
that's how i am with subtext half the time mind you
now's a good time for me to remind myself that "subtext" and "bottom text" are two completely different things
― Kate (rushomancy), Sunday, 1 September 2024 03:55 (one year ago)
It's a Ben Folds Five song.... I have no idea what subtext you mean though!
― kinder, Sunday, 1 September 2024 10:07 (one year ago)
honestly kate, you are reading way too much into something that is almost certainly a reference to either the Commodores or Ben Folds. Not everything is about being trans.
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Sunday, 1 September 2024 11:33 (one year ago)
and i say that with love and tenderness, fwiw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrBx6mAWYPU
― the talented mr pimply (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 1 September 2024 11:34 (one year ago)
honestly kate, you are reading way too much into something that is almost certainly a reference to either the Commodores or Ben Folds. Not everything is about being trans.― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table)
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table)
you're absolutely right. having a weird brain weekend.
― Kate (rushomancy), Sunday, 1 September 2024 14:03 (one year ago)
much love, though
― the talented mr pimply (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 1 September 2024 14:10 (one year ago)
oh absolutely, much love to y'all as well. :) i got a pretty good idea of why i wonder these things and like y'all are saying, it does in fact have nothing to do with being trans. i'll try to talk about it more elsewhere.
― Kate (rushomancy), Sunday, 1 September 2024 14:20 (one year ago)
I've been rabbitholing on SNL for the past weekend. Trying not to think about things outside of my control. And I've been doing it for... typical Kate reasons, honestly. I'm fascinated by it because it's so often _bad_. So, so much of this show is just not funny. Not just "hasn't held up", like, this shit was never funny in the first place. They've made a lot of mistakes. They've done a lot of shitty things. They've given platforms to awful people. Lorne Michaels is more or less the main villain of _The People's Joker_, and from what I can tell he deserves to be portrayed in that way.
And sometimes, of course, it's fucking hilarious, in weird and unexpected ways. Maybe some of it is the juxtaposition. It kind of encapsulates the idea of "crate-digging", the idea of experiencing huge amounts of mediocre and bad shit and then stumbling on something that's awesome... that surprise, that joy, is greater for me than when I'm expecting something to be good. Yeah, that is what I'd say interests me about it - my belief that at its baseline, the show is _just not funny_.
Sorting SNL's Youtube channel by views gives a different experience. You don't see the whole shows, but the ranking is done by virality. Which means you get great sketches, but also sketches that are controversial, like the "Aer Lingus" sketch, or just plain fucking bad, like Elon Musk as Wario.
So when I'm browsing through and I see a sketch with 5.6 million views called "She's Got a D!%k" I think to myself, oh God, of course. Of course.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OslWqLHlCvw
Then I watch the sketch. Because I'm interested in the context. I mean, of course it's transphobic. No question about that. I know it going in. It's from 2013. I remember 2013. Everybody and everything was transphobic.
Part of the reason I watch it is because another clip with a lot of views is 2015... "Pete Davidson on Trans Rights". He's for trans rights, was for trans rights in 2015. I'm one of those olds who doesn't really know a lot about SNL past, well... season 5, to be honest. I'm that fucking old.
So I watched "She's Got a D!%k", prepared for the worst. It still amazes me how much changed in the course of two years. Much as I fucking hate Malcolm Gladwell, i kind of do feel like there was a "Transgender Tipping Point", and it was when Time Magazine said it was, around 2014. Hell, they probably had some role in making the tipping point, a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy thing.
There's this page on TV Tropes called "Fair For Its Day". I think sometimes stuff that wasn't fair for its day gets excused on those grounds, but I do also think that... you know, having grown up in really transphobic times, the bar was a lot lower then. Wanda in the Sandman story "A Game of You", I think that was Fair for Its Day. I'd frame it more as... grading on the curve. Social standards were so low that stuff which today is pretty clearly bigoted is actually affirming, is actually helpful to a lot of the people the thing in question is bigoted against.
Which is to say that I did find "She's Got A Dick" (this isn't network TV, I can say "dick" here) to be unexpectedly affirming. First off, the person who wrote it - Michael Che, apparently, it was apparently the first sketch Michael Che wrote for SNL - the sense I get was that Michael Che was just... ignorant of trans women. Like it didn't even occur to him that some women have penises. So even though I'd say it's unquestionably transphobic, I wouldn't say it's _consciously_ transphobic. I'm really struck by the lack of malice in this sketch.
The second thing that's important to me is that Michael Che is, in fact, a good writer. A lot of jokes, transphobic or no, are written by people who are bad writers and don't know how to make something funny. I'd say that the old meme song "Transphobic Techno" is an iteration of this joke that isn't funny - from memory, the lyrics are just "Bitch got a penis", over and over again.
Che, on the other hand, fleshes out the joke. He frames it as a cliche romcom - the sort where the guy has to come to terms with the idea that the woman isn't perfect. She has kids. She's had a mastectomy. I personally... I personally suspect that one of the reasons these movies keep getting made is because a lot of women feel like we're broken or flawed in some way, that because of some issue or another a man couldn't really love us for who we are. So you have, for instance, the "hooker with a heart of gold" trope. When I was young, I saw _Pretty Woman_, which is kind of an iconic representation of that trope. It's a terrible representation of sex work and sex workers, but to me, the film presents Roberts' character not as a professional, but as a slut. Why, she even _sucks his dick_! I remember how terribly controversial people found that at the time, and it, like, represents a patriarchal standard to me, one of the ideas I was raised with. Good Girls don't suck dick.
For the record, I very definitely suck dick. I got a lot of shame about my sexuality in a lot of ways, but sucking dick - I'm not ashamed of that. I'm proud of that.
That might be a lot of why I find it affirming - because of how perfectly it replicates the structure of one of those cliche romcoms. I am, in a lot of ways, a basic white bitch, and the theme of this fictional movie is something I genuinely have anxiety about. I worry (not without cause) that people won't be into me because of my dick.
I did read the comments. Usually I don't, but in this case I did, just because, I guess... I wanted to see what people were watching it thought about it, and maybe get a sense of when people were watching this. It's been there for eleven years, since it was first broadcast, and a lot has happened in that time. Did people think it was funny when it first came out? Is it viral with transphobes now?
Turned out the top comments I saw were from about four years ago, when apparently Youtube decided to start recommending it to people for a while. God knows why Youtube does these things - and these comments weren't transphobic. Some of them were from other trans women who, like, me found the sketch validating. A lot of them were focused on the stereotyped character of the "Black best friend" - which is the funniest part of the sketch. It's a pitch-perfect critique of the, uh, _questionable_ racial politics of a lot of these films.
For me, the thing that I find most affirming about it is that that it speaks to my own past anxieties. Before I was with another trans women, I had a lot of anxiety about being sexually intimate with a woman who has a penis. To me, that's a common anxiety, that's a normal anxiety to have. I didn't want to admit to it. I felt like if I acknowledged that, I'd be admitting that I was transphobic.
I guess coming from that background is a lot of why I have this anxiety, that other people might avoid me because of my dick but noat admit it. I don't know how prevalent it actually is.
I am stil ignorant in a lot of ways, because I've never sucked a cis guy's dick. It's something I'd be interested in. I should probably find a sex worker to try that with. I know I could go to a bathhouse or pick up someone on Grindr, but it's an issue of fairness for me. I know I don't want to be someone's experiment. I don't want someone to get with me just because they're _curious_ about what it's like beiing with a trans woman. If it's in a professional context, though, I think it's fine to do that. That's one of the reasons I'm in favor of sex work - I think it is good for people to experiment sexually, and if someone is gonna do that I think sex work is the most ethical way to do that.
Anyway. More Kateposting. Hopefully it's a little more grounded than my last revive :)
― Kate (rushomancy), Monday, 28 October 2024 19:00 (one year ago)
I don't know anything about that sketch! But now I've watched the video and I do.
I ended up watching the Netflix doc Will & Harper about Will Ferrell's road trip with his trans friend/coworker Harper Steele over the weekend. Steele was a head writer for SNL for many years, and left the show around 2015, so it's possible she was in the writers' room for that one, although not out at the time.
I haven't had the chance to talk to anyone else about the documentary yet, but I didn't expect much and it exceeded that. I think the piece they address throughout is what they knew would happen, but couldn't quite plan for: what happens when a comedian who is instantly recognizable to many people travels the country with a friend, putting both of them in the spotlight regardless of where they are, and that friend is also a trans woman? Thankfully that's not the totality of the film. I feel like they weren't sure what they were going to end up with before they started filming and anything comedic/goofy that gets attempted ends up working against them. I don't think their shared sense of humor was responsible for many things that are my type of comedy, really, so maybe it came off better for other viewers. There were a few heartbreaking moments, conversations that took place with few others present (if any at all) that were probably the best parts.
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Monday, 28 October 2024 22:03 (one year ago)
I've heard really good things about it! I haven't seen it yet. But what I've heard has been overall positive. I've also heard... that there were bits that were kind of planned, to some extent, and that those bits didn't necessarily land great. I feel like a situation like that would be tough to negotiate.
― Kate (rushomancy), Monday, 28 October 2024 23:14 (one year ago)
anyone following the San Jose State women's volleyball story? there is a trans woman who has played on the team for years (she is a senior) but was only recently was publicly revealed to be trans. several other teams have forfeited their matches against SJS in protest, and one of the team's co-captains filed a lawsuit to stop her teammate from playing, alleging Title IX violations. here is an article about it: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/11/28/us/trans-volleyball-san-jose-state.htmli recognize that this can be a complicated issue, but what gets me is that the people objecting to the trans woman playing (including the captain) *always* misgender her. how do you have a serious conversation about it if people won't even admit she's a woman?
― jaymc, Sunday, 1 December 2024 14:36 (one year ago)
this is one of those things where i don’t even think there should be a conversation, that everyone on one side of this issue is not only wrong but a hateful idiot, so yeah it doesn’t surprise me that they can only misgender her
― ivy., Sunday, 1 December 2024 16:08 (one year ago)
“biology is destiny” - people who say they care about women but actually hate them
― ivy., Sunday, 1 December 2024 16:09 (one year ago)
It is impossible to have any kind of “conversation” when one side is acting in total bad faith and using the issue as a site to vent their transphobia.
― cryptosicko, Sunday, 1 December 2024 16:16 (one year ago)
one of the team's co-captains filed a lawsuit to stop her teammate from playing, alleging Title IX violations.
that team co-captain:
Ms. Slusser, a senior from Denton, Tex., said she considers this fight “God’s plan” for her.She said she initially didn’t realize that her teammate, who has played for the Spartans since 2022, was transgender, even when first living with her and rooming with her for away games. The two had been good friends, she said.But when the article was published this spring about the teammate’s gender identity, Ms. Slusser said she felt betrayed. She said, “I truly don’t care how you want to live your life,” but a trans woman shouldn’t room with female teammates or use a women’s locker room.
She said she initially didn’t realize that her teammate, who has played for the Spartans since 2022, was transgender, even when first living with her and rooming with her for away games. The two had been good friends, she said.
But when the article was published this spring about the teammate’s gender identity, Ms. Slusser said she felt betrayed. She said, “I truly don’t care how you want to live your life,” but a trans woman shouldn’t room with female teammates or use a women’s locker room.
ivy otm x2
― rob, Sunday, 1 December 2024 16:19 (one year ago)
'we can always tell' *years pass without telling*
― starring skibidi williams as lando calrizzian (m bison), Sunday, 1 December 2024 16:19 (one year ago)
congrats to the nyt for managing to get vile anti-trans bigotry into the limited space of a single photo caption btw
― rob, Sunday, 1 December 2024 16:27 (one year ago)
jaymc, you might be interested in this much more in-depth article: https://www.espn.com/college-sports/story/_/id/42549609/inside-san-jose-state-university-2024-volleyball-season-gender-fairness-safety
among other things it actually analyzes claims about the player's performance rather than simply quoting awful bigots
― rob, Sunday, 1 December 2024 16:41 (one year ago)
ivy otm x3you can't have a conversation with hateful idiots
love it when it's presented as "fairness in sports", because you'd think the same idiots would also care about it not being "fair" for transgender men but they never do.
― scanner darkly, Sunday, 1 December 2024 17:04 (one year ago)
Slusser alleged the player in question conspired with a few teammates and an opponent to clear space on the court to allow the opponent to basically spike the ball into her face unimpeded, in retaliation for the lawsuit/public comments.
"What did i do to deserve that? All I did was dehumanize her!"
― her pal Santa falls to the floor (Neanderthal), Sunday, 1 December 2024 17:48 (one year ago)
The ESPN article also managed to frame the story correctly, portraying Slusser as an awful, hateful piece of shit without having to say so
― her pal Santa falls to the floor (Neanderthal), Sunday, 1 December 2024 17:56 (one year ago)
Oof and today I learned about Fide banning transwomen from women’s chess. Batshit.
― the trombone just keeps getting bigger (flamboyant goon tie included), Sunday, 1 December 2024 18:11 (one year ago)
Why is there “women’s chess?”
― cryptosicko, Sunday, 1 December 2024 18:47 (one year ago)
So the chess bois don’t get distracted
― Grape Fired At Czar From Crack Battery (President Keyes), Sunday, 1 December 2024 19:13 (one year ago)
Ugh of course Riley Gaines is involved. Grifted her way from being a good but non-Olympic-caliber college swimmer to a Fox host and pal of DeSantis and Trump, all by whining about Lia Thomas.
― Blitz Primary (tipsy mothra), Sunday, 1 December 2024 19:40 (one year ago)
oh fuck i didn’t know the team refusing to play san jose state is my alma mater. fucking depressing. i think i’m going to write them a letter
― ivy., Sunday, 1 December 2024 19:47 (one year ago)
or one of the teams rather
― ivy., Sunday, 1 December 2024 19:48 (one year ago)