Rolling Maleness and Masculinity Discussion Thread

Gay bars have no bathrooms. You piss into each other's mouths while the audience applauds.

big "how does a czar eat potatoes" vibes

oh, and for the record, i only thought men were "disgusting, alien _things_" when i believed i had to be one. hairy guys with dad bod are hot.

last time I was in a gay bar I could not help but notice at the far end of the bar were two people, a man and a woman, who dancing with an extreme focus, but I could not see who they were dancing with. but whoever it was they were staring pretty intensely at them. anyway I had to use the bathroom and figured I'd take a look and it turned out to be a full length mirror. maybe its my small town Wisconsin brain but I was fascinated with those people

straight couples at the gay bar sometimes are of A Type for sure

petition to rename straight couples "strouples"

Wait. How are the restrooms arranged differently?

it was probably specific to the bar that I went to but there was a large open space with places to sit that were not toilets

just gonna check real quick you said 'sit' there that's 'sit'?

among other options

_Wait. How are the restrooms arranged differently?_


it was probably specific to the bar that I went to but there was a large open space with places to sit that were not toilets

i thought it was going to be more something like a trough urinal with an angled mirror above it, a feature at many a gay bar restroom ;-)

lol deems

have we talked about the "men think about rome every day" stuff?

huh?

https://wapo.st/3PD8Pjo

I guess I do think about "Floral Shoppe" a lot

gotcha. i'll leave this one to the clickbait reporters and armchair analysts

Fwiw I think about ancient Rome thrice weekly.

But I live in a world where it comes up pretty often - I'm surrounded by neoclassical architecture because of where I live, I am a decently passionate reader of ancient history, and my work in government and politics as a lot of ancient Roman influence. Just the word "Senate" is enough to evoke Cicero.

when I drive down the roadway I think "concrete" and then I furrow my brow and sigh, "rome"

actually I do probably think about Roam by the B-52s three times a day

I've often thought of the parallels between Commodus and Trump (for example).

men think about the next smack off every day

https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2023/09/men-think-about-roman-empire-tiktok-trend/675341/

this week in “when tiktok jokes escape their confinement zones”

I've often thought of the parallels between commodes and Trump

I asked my husband, and after some pressure he said about once a week, but upon further questioning it turned out he just thinks about Rome itself once a week because he does a lot of travel research.

My answer was almost never but I do think about the napoleonic wars and/or the age of sail about once a day. I guess that’s similar as a conventional dad history interest but a particular interest in Rome maybe has this whiff of TheWest classicist fascism about it?

I think about lead poisoning pretty frequently, and I guess that ties into the (sometimes hypothesized fall of the) Roman empire. I dunno why I or anyone would regularly fixate on ancient Rome, but I imagine lots of people do think about World War II a lot. I know I do, one way or another.

My answer was almost never but I do think about the napoleonic wars and/or the age of sail about once a day.

It's the French Revolution for me.

for professional reasons, have been thinking about almost nothing but rome for the last month and expect to continue this way until at least mid-march, but on average it's prob only a few times a week.

was Seward in it

american civil war def my idea of the classic example of whatever we're talking about. i should think about the american civil war more tbh.

personal go-tos are the 30 years' war and the bronze age palace system lol; the latter is more or less the same as being rly into, like, pern

One day I'll finish Wedgwood's book on the Thirty Years War.

but a particular interest in Rome maybe has this whiff of TheWest classicist fascism about it?

― 𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Friday, 15 September 2023 22:41 (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink

i just think maybe as a message board we could maybe just fucking stop, yknow? lads?

I was asked by two people today about Rome. Rarely, though I've been meaning to re-read Mary Beard's SPQR. When it comes to Europe I'm an early medieval to early modern lad with some Napoleon sprinkled in.

SPQR is fun.

Been thinking Lazio thoughts this week

but a particular interest in Rome maybe has this whiff of TheWest classicist fascism about it?

― 𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Friday, 15 September 2023 22:41 (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink

i just think maybe as a message board we could maybe just fucking stop, yknow? lads?

i think thats fair tho!

but we're far from establishing the latter from the current meme turned thinkpiece

Studying something and glorifying it are, y'know, different things.

I wouldn't characterize my thoughts about ancient Rome (or, for that matter, the American Civil War) as glorifying them. Any more than looking at a weather forecast glorifies rain.

i never think about Rome that wild

fwiw there is def a type of Guy who's bought into rvturn nonsense and posts about the Roman empire a lot, these ppl's engagement with the actual history are unlikely to be any deeper than with Kant or Greek philosophy or any of the other "western culture" signifiers they pick up

Does this mean any study of the Roman empire is now suspect no of course not and no one's suggesting it is.

its .... literally suggested in what i objected to

Not a Rome guy myself. If I have one of these it's probably fin-de-siècle France and World War I.

Sonething having a "whif" of something does not mean it's intrinsic to it darra, as non-nazi wearers of asymetrical haircuts can attest.

lol, I rarely think about or evoke Rome but literally just yesterday my gf was wondering why basically no one outside of the Jewish world pays any attention to Rosh Hashanah (or the many other holidays in this month alone) and my response was 'thanks, Constantine!' So guilty as charged, I suppose.

xp "is now suspect" is your own wording, thats not the same as retreating to "intrinsic to x" which is your new position so afaic im being clear and consistent here

I do not think something having a whif of something means anyone indulging in it is suspect either! Subcultures grab hold of signifiers all the time, it's just a thing that happens.

the whole British imperial identification with Rome and the distorting effect histories in that tradition have had on our imagination is something you still have to reckon with though since it's a huge part of the literature in this language (and it's probably one of the things that draws the fascists in)