scarier part is knowing just how many of these folks i would swipe right on in Her. like, oh god, please don't let my taste in women be Johnny Knoxville.
― Kate (rushomancy), Sunday, 2 October 2022 02:45 (one year ago) link
Hours of great talk, laughs and dinner with my friend Jimmy in London today. I love the times we spend together. He was blown away by photos of our full stage and thrilled for Download. I had to say “Jimmy, you’re at the foundation of everything we do.” @JimmyPage @DownloadFest pic.twitter.com/7WHpjuKrAf— Paul Stanley (@PaulStanleyLive) June 8, 2022
― an icon of a worried-looking, long-haired, bespectacled man (C. Grisso/McCain), Tuesday, 4 October 2022 00:09 (one year ago) link
love those ladies
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 4 October 2022 00:27 (one year ago) link
“I WANNA KNOW IF WE GOT ANY DINNA GUESTS TONIGHT THAT I CAN GET HIIIIIIIIGH”
― calstars, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 11:31 (one year ago) link
turns out there's quite a variety of men who look like old lesbians. Can we pin down the aesthetic?
― fetter, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 12:53 (one year ago) link
https://assets.blabbermouth.net/media/stonegossardsolo2020_638.jpg
https://www.metalzone.fr/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/stone-gossard-pearl-jam-768x468.jpg
Stone Gossard of Pearl Jam
― Dinsdale, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 19:35 (one year ago) link
1st one won't embed, but here's the url anyway: https://assets.blabbermouth.net/media/stonegossardsolo2020_638.jpg
― Dinsdale, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 19:36 (one year ago) link
Can we pin down the aesthetic? post-boomer casual dress + hairstyles last changed in 1986.
― bendy, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 19:41 (one year ago) link
combined with clean shaven of course
― Evan, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 19:53 (one year ago) link
https://2.bp.blogspot.com/_2njq2Guqp4c/TObuOWe4b6I/AAAAAAABbVY/OLe90cv3i9M/s400/1119%2Bjp.jpg
― Vast Halo, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 20:00 (one year ago) link
lol JoeHonkin on liposuction needle
― calstars, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 20:19 (one year ago) link
good skincare and discernable cheekbones
― fetter, Tuesday, 4 October 2022 20:49 (one year ago) link
― fetter
speaking as someone who was assigned male at birth and has for the last several years been taking drugs to turn herself into an old lesbian, it's not really an "aesthetic" per se
first off there's not nearly as much difference between the physical appearance of "men" and "women" as a lot of people seem to think. this lack of difference is, i'd argue, a large part of _why_ clothing is so aggressively gendered. for a lot of people it is Very Important to know upon first looking at someone what their gender is.
since the culture we exist in now is patriarchal, the way this manifests itself is that male is an _unmarked_ gender, and female is a _marked_ gender - maleness is not something that is "performed", per se, just a sort of default state of being. pre-transition i can't say i ever went to a lot of effort to "perform masculinity". i mean, i smelled bad and had a receding hairline. that's about it.
lesbians are often taken to be "butch", to do male gender performance, and absolutely there are plenty of lesbians who do that, but for me, lesbianism is more a matter of _not doing gender performance for the benefit of straight men_. the last thing i want to do is look like a man, but i _don't_ dress femme most of the time.
"old" is certainly a factor as well - when cis women go through menopause they stop making as much estrogen, which i can tell you firsthand makes a pretty big difference in how a person looks. a woman who's not taking hormone replacement therapy (which was, of course, invented for cis women) is going to look more... _androgynous_, let's say.
basically what makes an old man look like an old lesbian is not being bald. that's pretty much it.
anyway, i'm going to continue to use this thread as my own personal version of Her. swiping right on Stone Gossard (shit, they had me when they started calling themselves _Stone_, yummmm), left on Jimmy, Paul, and Joe. (i'm assuming stone would be ENM given how prominent their ring is in their PFP. i'd still want to meet their nesting partner.)
― Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 00:42 (one year ago) link
lesbians are often taken to be "butch", to do male gender performance
this came out wrong. that's not necessarily what "butch" is. apologies.
― Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 00:45 (one year ago) link
That's a great fucking post.
Facial hair, too, of course--which often goes with baldness.
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 00:58 (one year ago) link
lol, yeah, forgot facial hair was a thing for a second
i should also add that photographs are also fairly poor at representing perhaps the two most important ways we gender people - height and voice. take the picture of taylor swift and paul mccartney - she has her arm around his shoulder and they're the same height (5'11"). it's pretty easy to look at that picture and see them as a lesbian couple. would we see it the same way if taylor swift was 5'2"?
― Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 01:52 (one year ago) link
McCartney must have heels on in that case.
― Fronted by a bearded Phil Collins (Tom D.), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 07:14 (one year ago) link
Every single one of the KITH now embodies this aesthetic. Especially Dave, but especially Mark!
https://i.imgur.com/8VqWXET.jpg
― "Spaghetti" Thompson (Pheeel), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 07:57 (one year ago) link
― Fronted by a bearded Phil Collins (Tom D.)
height is more like women's clothing sizes - there's what you might call a high standard deviation within any particular number.
― Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 09:45 (one year ago) link
one of the great things about being a lesbian is that you can look like taylor swift or paul mccartney or any of the kids in the hall or, well, anybody you like. and these days, instead of saying "she looks like a man!" they'll instead say, without any particular malice against _you_, that anyone who resembles you looks like a lesbian. i think that's pretty awesome.
― Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 10:23 (one year ago) link
Young Stone Gossard was quite the hottiehttps://i.redd.it/vfa74xho5ht41.png
― Dinsdale, Wednesday, 5 October 2022 19:06 (one year ago) link
a hotter Nuno Betancourt basically
― stank viola (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 19:09 (one year ago) link
Little bit of a young David Lee Roth vibe going on there.
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Wednesday, 5 October 2022 20:37 (one year ago) link
*old* Stone Gossard is, whatchoo talkin about. I am here for that autumnal knit and silver fox n specs look.
― Stoop Crone (Trayce), Thursday, 6 October 2022 00:04 (one year ago) link
cosign, stone gossard is pretty much just a physically attractive human being!
― Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 6 October 2022 00:07 (one year ago) link
Speaking of
https://metalheadzone.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/david-lee-roth-696x435.jpg
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Thursday, 6 October 2022 00:11 (one year ago) link
Damn it
https://bravewords.com/medias-static/images/news/2020/5E442402-david-lee-roth-i-didnt-spend-time-trying-to-imitate-the-fella-in-led-zeppelin-i-didnt-try-to-mimic-the-fella-in-the-rolling-stones-i-spent-my-time-trying-to-be-black-image.jpeg
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Thursday, 6 October 2022 00:12 (one year ago) link
https://i.pinimg.com/236x/76/7e/88/767e88bd139cf9305c8d334e27585e35--dwight-yoakam.jpg
Dwight Yoakam
― an icon of a worried-looking, long-haired, bespectacled man (C. Grisso/McCain), Saturday, 8 October 2022 19:17 (one year ago) link
good one.
― “Cheeky cheeky!” she trills, nearly demolishing a roadside post (forksclovetofu), Sunday, 9 October 2022 20:01 (one year ago) link
is his military strategy “post-menopausal love affair in tuscany” pic.twitter.com/xLEur8il0j— kilgore trout, death to putiner (@KT_So_It_Goes) October 11, 2022
― an icon of a worried-looking, long-haired, bespectacled man (C. Grisso/McCain), Tuesday, 11 October 2022 17:45 (one year ago) link
as a bald person i'm just glad there's some karmic payback for men who that the audacity to have a good head of hair in old age
― Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Tuesday, 11 October 2022 17:46 (one year ago) link
https://i.imgur.com/w8ZZZVd.jpg
― calstars, Wednesday, 7 December 2022 01:17 (one year ago) link
doesn't look old, though
― beard papa, Wednesday, 7 December 2022 21:08 (one year ago) link
I'm a better person for having seen that photo of Jeff Pocaro.
― Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Saturday, 24 December 2022 05:24 (one year ago) link
Little drummer boy
― calstars, Saturday, 24 December 2022 11:38 (one year ago) link
i want him to join my bookclub
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 24 December 2022 17:15 (one year ago) link
https://i.kinja-img.com/gawker-media/image/upload/c_fit,f_auto,g_center,pg_1,q_60,w_1600/bf7d8d01bb24c8393c596d11227ae337.jpg
― Josh in Chicago, Wednesday, 11 January 2023 19:13 (one year ago) link
https://i1.sndcdn.com/artworks-8s5TwMkhdqyUJIu9-rNy7sg-t500x500.jpg
Craig Kilborn
― an icon of a worried-looking, long-haired, bespectacled man (C. Grisso/McCain), Wednesday, 11 January 2023 19:35 (one year ago) link
“That’s a MAN, baby”
― calstars, Wednesday, 11 January 2023 20:26 (one year ago) link
This Dylan pic Soto had on his blog:
https://humanizingthevacuum.files.wordpress.com/2023/01/1976.webp
― an icon of a worried-looking, long-haired, bespectacled man (C. Grisso/McCain), Saturday, 21 January 2023 23:33 (one year ago) link
https://pbs.twimg.com/ext_tw_video_thumb/1619055896394596352/pu/img/J-CGvH6YjhF3pTv7.jpg
#onethread
― an icon of a worried-looking, long-haired, bespectacled man (C. Grisso/McCain), Sunday, 29 January 2023 06:34 (one year ago) link
There is no bottom pic.twitter.com/taLeqFd7bg— Aaron Rupar (@atrupar) February 24, 2023
"I support my brave & beautiful lesbian daughter..."
― an icon of a worried-looking, long-haired, bespectacled man (C. Grisso/McCain), Friday, 24 February 2023 23:27 (one year ago) link
They both look like bottoms
― Alicia Silver Stone (Boring, Maryland), Saturday, 25 February 2023 00:09 (one year ago) link
You would know
― calstars, Saturday, 25 February 2023 00:18 (one year ago) link
ya cuz your gay haha
― ꙮ (map), Saturday, 25 February 2023 00:41 (one year ago) link
idk at least one of them probably thinks wiping too carefully is shameful :(
― mh, Saturday, 25 February 2023 01:52 (one year ago) link
From the looks, it's not the one on the left
― عباس کیارستمی (Eric H.), Saturday, 25 February 2023 15:30 (one year ago) link
(That's re: wiping, not bottoming)
https://i.imgur.com/zK1RqmJ.jpgAnother Porcaro (Steve)
― calstars, Friday, 17 March 2023 16:52 (one year ago) link
https://i.imgur.com/XPQaRUy.jpgMight as well add Luk at this point
― calstars, Saturday, 18 March 2023 22:17 (one year ago) link