We all need to take a deep breath in this thread. The last 48 hours have been bizarre, certainly the surliest it's ever been. I'm not sure why we're assuming the worst from posters who've been on ILX in some form for almost two decades. We should start with the assumption that "no one here tries to be an asshole."
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, June 13, 2022 12:05 PM (
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 09:34 (one year ago) link
Oh just to be clear I was trying to be funny in telling J0rdan to "shut up"
Sorry if it came off otherwise (or just wasn't funny)
― flamboyant goon tie included, Tuesday, 14 June 2022 11:10 (one year ago) link
I understood!
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 11:29 (one year ago) link
How is this the second time in as many months that someone got seriously set off by All About Eve quotes?
― Eggs Benedick (Eric H.), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 11:39 (one year ago) link
I understood both times— I want to note that while we can’t always agree with each other on other threads, we’re all here in some degree or other because the moral panic continues to be about us, some of us more than others obviously. While we can’t find agreement in other areas, it might be best to assume the best of each other, as Alfred says, because the ally straights are NOT going to be saving us from their infinitely more hateful counterparts.
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 13:54 (one year ago) link
fgti that is some grade-a repartee. elite even 🧐
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:07 (one year ago) link
we really do need more allyship, table otm. feel like some of the difficulty is text messageboard communication is so one dimensional it's hard to see each other!
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:10 (one year ago) link
Negronis on me!
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:17 (one year ago) link
alfred it would be lovely to meet you some time but i would need to order a mocktail or a shirley temple lol
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:22 (one year ago) link
do you still smoke weed? If so, we're good.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:23 (one year ago) link
all the thumbs up
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:27 (one year ago) link
... or a milkshake?
― Eggs Benedick (Eric H.), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:33 (one year ago) link
A martini, please. Very dry.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:37 (one year ago) link
i ate so much last night the thought of a milkshake hurts. sparkling water or kombucha. or water from the gd tap haha.
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 15:37 (one year ago) link
i drank cocchi and soda all saturday afternoon at the annual dyke pride picnic
― donna rouge, Tuesday, 14 June 2022 16:21 (one year ago) link
― Eggs Benedick (Eric H.)
...duck?
― Kate (rushomancy), Tuesday, 14 June 2022 16:34 (one year ago) link
sorry I got bent out of shape last night, Alfred. I know now that I misread your intentions. I really like you and everyone else in this thread
― Dan S, Wednesday, 15 June 2022 01:10 (one year ago) link
Cheers!
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 15 June 2022 02:14 (one year ago) link
to you too!
― Dan S, Wednesday, 15 June 2022 02:16 (one year ago) link
There are very few moments in life as good as this. Let's remember it.
― Eggs Benedick (Eric H.), Wednesday, 15 June 2022 02:56 (one year ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ea1TFx3HIL8
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Wednesday, 15 June 2022 03:34 (one year ago) link
hey y'all - I just caught up on all the action from the past week, and the conversations here are giving me life. it feels so necessary to be exchanging perspectives with a group like this, coming from all kinds of different backgrounds. it's a real highlight of the week for me and fills my heart <3
no need to belabor the conversation - but just to say that I've been hanging with a straight guy friend recently (my first straight guy friend in years!), and it's been really great. I didn't realize it would be! it recently occurred to me that I don't have to feel ashamed of wanting to identify as both a man - and very much with womanhood, as well. of course, not having to feel ashamed is very different from actually *not* feeling ashamed, if that makes sense, but I was glad for the realization. as all have said, way complicated.
I also want to share some big news, which is that I just beat cancer. I was diagnosed at the end of last year and was in treatment most of this year - I guess "beat" is pretty relative (always a chance of having to deal with this again), but it was the best possible scenario and for now I'm in remission. :D it felt important to tell you all.
also - "Hi guys. I doubt anyone remember me from 10 years ago. Just wanted to pop in. *Goes back to lurking.*
― lilsoulbrother, Wednesday, May 11, 2022 11:51 PM (one month ago) bookmarkflaglink"
I remember! and I'm really glad you've popped in :))
― Swen, Friday, 17 June 2022 22:18 (one year ago) link
omg swen wonderful news, i'm so happy for you
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Friday, 17 June 2022 22:25 (one year ago) link
hooray swen!! ❤️
― donna rouge, Friday, 17 June 2022 23:06 (one year ago) link
gah thanks. what a trip. the hair is almost back but body needs some time - which i don't have much of because I'm going to fire island at the top of August! I'll have to "rebrand."
― Swen, Saturday, 18 June 2022 00:26 (one year ago) link
wish you the best Swen, hope you have a fun summer!
― Dan S, Saturday, 18 June 2022 01:32 (one year ago) link
Swen you champ, you are gonna rule Fire Island <3
― The 25 Best Songs Ever Ranked In Order (Deflatormouse), Saturday, 18 June 2022 01:39 (one year ago) link
dear Swen, I am glad yr doing okay. <3 love and light always
― broccoli rabe thomas (the table is the table), Saturday, 18 June 2022 02:55 (one year ago) link
<3 me too. grateful for you T. also I can drink and ingest edibles again, which is feeling very real. hope all are enjoying the weekend so far.
― Swen, Saturday, 18 June 2022 03:22 (one year ago) link
wow! congrats
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 18 June 2022 03:35 (one year ago) link
very happy for you :)
― J0rdan S., Saturday, 18 June 2022 08:10 (one year ago) link
That is awesome and great news!
― castanuts (DJP), Saturday, 18 June 2022 16:41 (one year ago) link
🙏🙏🙏 what's up 4 Saturday bubbies?
― Swen, Saturday, 18 June 2022 17:18 (one year ago) link
That is awesome news Swen!
Today my plan is to relax, enjoy gnocchi for lunch (the sauce is simmering), practice cello for a few hours, swim, play video games, and not do anything even remotely resembling "work".
Tomorrow I plan to work all day and then sing karaoke with friends in the evening.
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 18 June 2022 17:32 (one year ago) link
I was feeling like I wanted to enter into a large-scale collaborative artistic project with somebody in particular. This person is not a close friend, but we've known each other for twenty years, seem to have a deep connection, and have worked on small projects here and there. I called him and made my pitch and he said, "the best part of this suggestion is how excited I'd be to work with you again" and I had the biggest dopamine rush. I am excited! excited to be excited about work again.
― flamboyant goon tie included, Saturday, 18 June 2022 17:35 (one year ago) link
that is a great feeling fgti!i have no real plans this morning or afternoon. tonight i’m going to watch ‘aliens’ in a cemetery.
― donna rouge, Saturday, 18 June 2022 18:40 (one year ago) link
I'm in a pool.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 18 June 2022 18:53 (one year ago) link
omg donna
― Swen, Saturday, 18 June 2022 20:00 (one year ago) link
heroic weekend plan
fgti I'm finally in a creative period too after A HOT MINUTEreal nice feeling
― Swen, Saturday, 18 June 2022 20:02 (one year ago) link
i'm subbing in for the saturday dj at da gay club
got all the rihanna and ariana i was missing
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Saturday, 18 June 2022 20:39 (one year ago) link
yesss which RiRi
― Swen, Saturday, 18 June 2022 21:05 (one year ago) link
diamonds, we found love, where have you been, s&m
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Saturday, 18 June 2022 21:16 (one year ago) link
fav thread💙
you are all a complete and total delight.
donna that's ... uhm, quite an intrguing idea.
― I'm ANTIFA and I vote. (Austin), Saturday, 18 June 2022 23:13 (one year ago) link
I'm so jealous 💙
I'm about to start a show called wild things on Amazon, seems pretty cool
― Swen, Saturday, 18 June 2022 23:30 (one year ago) link
Yo i keep thinking it's Sunday
― The 25 Best Songs Ever Ranked In Order (Deflatormouse), Sunday, 19 June 2022 02:39 (one year ago) link
Tomorrow's like a bonus
my red state decided to make juneteenth a holiday, so i get monday off!
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Sunday, 19 June 2022 02:54 (one year ago) link
― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map)
words that confuse me unneccessarily:
1. "subbing"
― Kate (rushomancy), Sunday, 19 June 2022 04:26 (one year ago) link
lol
I get Monday off too but I need to call a board member in the morning and ask for his 25k which should be fun
― Swen, Sunday, 19 June 2022 12:35 (one year ago) link