Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

One of my best gay friends is going through cancer right now— we’ve been friends since 2004. It’s a damn good thing he lives close by and I can pop in with nice things for him and get some quality time in.

thank you dan S :) and i'm glad you feel determined to stay close to your people

xp sorry to hear T, but it's great that you're close enough to visit him regularly, and i'm sure your visits mean a lot to him

This thread is a good thread

Isn't this a lovely thread? The gay thread. What a lovely, clever name. Where the elite meet. Never have I seen so much elite.

ok fuck off

I suppose the sell-by date of All About Eve quotes has expired, Dan. Eric and I've been using them since the Bush II years.

and remember what I said upthread about cooling off and stop assuming the worst of posters?

I don't assume the worst of you Alfred at all, but that post was very condescending

(the post about the gay thread)

Joseph L. Mankiewicz, hon, was like that.

My long post seven hours ago makes clear what I think of this thread.

"Isn't this a lovely thread? The gay thread. What a lovely, clever name. Where the elite meet. Never have I seen so much elite."

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, June 13, 2022

I feel like I'm in sync with you for the most part Alfred, but that is an awful post and is not representative of you or of this thread at all

and I don't even exactly remember my comments about All About Eve, just that I didn't think it was as great as Sunset Blvd. It's depressing to think that you were mocking me about those comments

i’m kind of cracking up at a spat breaking out after everyone posts how wonderful this thread is… but i don’t think we need to derail the thread over this

Shut up J0rdan S

Just now:

Him: “the white mugs would be cleaned better w baking soda”
Me: “that sounds fascinating and maybe you could demonstrate by doing the dishes once in a while”
Him: “or you could do what my mom does…”
Me: “fuck your dad?”

It's depressing to think that you were mocking me about those comments

I wasn't -- I was quoting AAE, as usual. I'm sorry, though.

We all need to take a deep breath in this thread. The last 48 hours have been bizarre, certainly the surliest it's ever been. I'm not sure why we're assuming the worst from posters who've been on ILX in some form for almost two decades. We should start with the assumption that "no one here tries to be an asshole."

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, June 13, 2022 12:05 PM (

Oh just to be clear I was trying to be funny in telling J0rdan to "shut up"

Sorry if it came off otherwise (or just wasn't funny)

I understood!

How is this the second time in as many months that someone got seriously set off by All About Eve quotes?

I understood both times—

I want to note that while we can’t always agree with each other on other threads, we’re all here in some degree or other because the moral panic continues to be about us, some of us more than others obviously. While we can’t find agreement in other areas, it might be best to assume the best of each other, as Alfred says, because the ally straights are NOT going to be saving us from their infinitely more hateful counterparts.

fgti that is some grade-a repartee. elite even 🧐

we really do need more allyship, table otm. feel like some of the difficulty is text messageboard communication is so one dimensional it's hard to see each other!

Negronis on me!

alfred it would be lovely to meet you some time but i would need to order a mocktail or a shirley temple lol

do you still smoke weed? If so, we're good.

all the thumbs up

... or a milkshake?

A martini, please. Very dry.

i ate so much last night the thought of a milkshake hurts. sparkling water or kombucha. or water from the gd tap haha.

i drank cocchi and soda all saturday afternoon at the annual dyke pride picnic

... or a milkshake?

― Eggs Benedick (Eric H.)

...duck?

sorry I got bent out of shape last night, Alfred. I know now that I misread your intentions. I really like you and everyone else in this thread

Cheers!

to you too!

There are very few moments in life as good as this. Let's remember it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ea1TFx3HIL8

hey y'all - I just caught up on all the action from the past week, and the conversations here are giving me life. it feels so necessary to be exchanging perspectives with a group like this, coming from all kinds of different backgrounds. it's a real highlight of the week for me and fills my heart <3

no need to belabor the conversation - but just to say that I've been hanging with a straight guy friend recently (my first straight guy friend in years!), and it's been really great. I didn't realize it would be! it recently occurred to me that I don't have to feel ashamed of wanting to identify as both a man - and very much with womanhood, as well. of course, not having to feel ashamed is very different from actually *not* feeling ashamed, if that makes sense, but I was glad for the realization. as all have said, way complicated.

I also want to share some big news, which is that I just beat cancer. I was diagnosed at the end of last year and was in treatment most of this year - I guess "beat" is pretty relative (always a chance of having to deal with this again), but it was the best possible scenario and for now I'm in remission. :D it felt important to tell you all.

also - "Hi guys. I doubt anyone remember me from 10 years ago. Just wanted to pop in. *Goes back to lurking.*

― lilsoulbrother, Wednesday, May 11, 2022 11:51 PM (one month ago) bookmarkflaglink"

I remember! and I'm really glad you've popped in :))

omg swen wonderful news, i'm so happy for you

hooray swen!! ❤️

gah thanks. what a trip. the hair is almost back but body needs some time - which i don't have much of because I'm going to fire island at the top of August! I'll have to "rebrand."

wish you the best Swen, hope you have a fun summer!

Swen you champ, you are gonna rule Fire Island <3

dear Swen, I am glad yr doing okay. <3 love and light always

<3 me too. grateful for you T. also I can drink and ingest edibles again, which is feeling very real. hope all are enjoying the weekend so far.

wow! congrats

very happy for you :)

That is awesome and great news!

🙏🙏🙏 what's up 4 Saturday bubbies?

That is awesome news Swen!

Today my plan is to relax, enjoy gnocchi for lunch (the sauce is simmering), practice cello for a few hours, swim, play video games, and not do anything even remotely resembling "work".

Tomorrow I plan to work all day and then sing karaoke with friends in the evening.