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Yeah, I started a thread, I'm clearly way out of control.

― teh_kit (g-kit), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:12 (nineteen years ago)

TO RECAP: RELAX YALL. ;-)

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:12 (nineteen years ago)

The thing is of course that it ain't gonna happen unless you pursue it. You have to make sure that you create the opportunity.

you'll never get to narnia that way :(

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:14 (nineteen years ago)

I was nearly 20. It was kind of rubbish and also kind of gross. (Ask MattDC, he read the other thread, with details.)

There's no rush.

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:14 (nineteen years ago)

You know, dropping the leet schtick when posting on the Mod Board might result in your request being taken more seriously.

It was actually intended for discussion of the zing/DIGGING culture

Then say this. Having to decode a question before answering it is of interest to no-one.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:14 (nineteen years ago)

k, i give up

― teh_kit (g-kit), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:17 (nineteen years ago)

greg:

i. the thread you start had an imcomprehensible title (to anyone who hadn't read this thread)
ii. the thread contained no parsable content in re yr topic (to anyone who hadn't read this thread)
iii. the thread shouldn't have been on the mods board

the hazing ritual for anan threads abt hard-to-express emotional questions relates to the fact that lots of ilx posters are more worried that the original poster is posting in bad faith than they are about the issue treated as an objective subject of enquiry

(ie they are pre-emptive anti-troll zings)

― mark s (mark s), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:18 (nineteen years ago)

Is anyone else absolutely staggered by the irony of Steve having a go at someone for moaning about ILX all the time?

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:21 (nineteen years ago)

do i have to watch tv to be a normal human being?

sex is no different than anything else that a vast majority of the human race does. you don't have to do it, but the more of these common things you deny yourself, the more disconnected you'll feel from society at large.

and like someone else said upthread, this may be a typical "guy" answer but who cares who you lose your virginity to. it's not some magical moment like kate and louis will have you imagine. yeah, it's better to be in love, but it isn't necessary. just find someone attractive and have recreational sex.

― critique de la vie quotidienne (modestmickey), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:22 (nineteen years ago)

Matt, I do not spend all my time on ILX moaning about ILX. But thanks for your continued support.

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:22 (nineteen years ago)

Actually I think I might be more floored by the irony of G-Kit complaining about lame excelsior-bait on serious threads.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:24 (nineteen years ago)

Whereas I'm just bewildered by your raging speedhorn.

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:24 (nineteen years ago)

it's not some magical moment like kate and louis will have you imagine.

unless you want it to be. but, no, it's not necessary. i mean, it can be special but maybe some people want to get it over with.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:25 (nineteen years ago)

As Marilyn Monroe said once:

"It's not how long it takes, it's who's taking you. "

― mark grout (mark grout), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:25 (nineteen years ago)

dirty cow

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:27 (nineteen years ago)

Last time I looked you were expounding your grief all over ILX. It didn't half get sticky.

nice re-edit btw

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:28 (nineteen years ago)

Well, this is a fine to-do isn't it?

― Tom D. (Dada), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:29 (nineteen years ago)

I was going to post it in the following post for comic effect but someone xposted me.

(xpost)

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:30 (nineteen years ago)

"It's not how long it takes, it's who's taking you. "

Clearly she never had to experience a guy with premature ejaculation.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:30 (nineteen years ago)

She was being driven backwards at the time.

― mark grout (mark grout), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:31 (nineteen years ago)

or maybe just easily impressed

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:32 (nineteen years ago)

dont bother having sex unlss you can guarantee you will not have to incur dry spells of not having sex in the future.

― titchyschneider (titchyschneider), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:32 (nineteen years ago)

nathalie, waiting for sex to be a magical moment with unicorns dancing around you represents unrealistic expectations for life. you can't live that way. just find someone attractive who you think sex will be fun with, fuck them and see if it's your thing. if it's not, whatever. if it is, whatever. you can't live your life waiting for a dream world. are you not going to get a job until you find the best job ever? not go to college unless you get accepted into the ivy league? not going to listen to a cd until you find one that you know ahead of time will be a transcendent experience? fuck all that.

― critique de la vie quotidienne (modestmickey), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:32 (nineteen years ago)

this thread is indeed rich in irony

― mark s (mark s), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:34 (nineteen years ago)

waiting for sex to be a magical moment with unicorns dancing around you represents unrealistic expectations for life.

what are you, the sex grinch? i'm devastated here

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:34 (nineteen years ago)

waiting for sex to be a magical moment with unicorns dancing around you represents unrealistic expectations for life.

No one EVER said this.

Saying that someone should have sex because they've found a person they *want* to have sex with, rather than because "everyone is doing it!!!" or "Omigod, if I don't lose my virginity soon I'm going to grow hair on my palms" is not the same as unicorns and rainbows.

― The Long Grey And Overcast Tea Time Of The Soul (kate), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:36 (nineteen years ago)

dont bother having sex unlss you can guarantee you will not have to incur dry spells of not having sex in the future.
-- titchyschneider (titchyschneide...) (webmail), Today 2:32 PM. (later) (link)

I disagree in a way. 'Always should be someone you really love' I'd say. Nothing else matters.

― mark grout (mark grout), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:37 (nineteen years ago)

*insert joke about unicorn and the horn here*

― Tom D. (Dada), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:37 (nineteen years ago)

Insert its horn where, exactly?

― Forest Pines (ForestPines), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:38 (nineteen years ago)

just remember,when you do have sex, it's hard to stop.
it's like cell phones: you don't need them,but when you actually have one - it's hard to do without it.

plus - think about frusrated people - who want sex but can't get it..
what would you advice them?
yout situation is much better.

― virgin suicide (emekars), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:39 (nineteen years ago)

Someone's been sitting in the house for too long.

Ok, crap joke, but, dude, I never said that it *had* to be special.

it's like cell phones: you don't need them,but when you actually have one - it's hard to do without it.

and you can always put it on vibrate

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:40 (nineteen years ago)

kate, eh, i guess i was responding more to how louis has talked about sex in the past rather than anything you've said.

my point is: sex isn't a big deal. it's a normal human activity that everyone should try. our christian culture has stigmatized sex so badly that it leads us to ridiculous questions like this post - "is it ok for me to not have sex?!? can i be a normal human?" how fucking silly is that. people, and i am afraid louis is one of them, get really silly, really unrealistic ideas about what sex is and how it should be.

― critique de la vie quotidienne (modestmickey), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:41 (nineteen years ago)

nathalie, i know, i wasn't trying to disagree with you. just elaborate.

― critique de la vie quotidienne (modestmickey), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:41 (nineteen years ago)

"baby, let's just fuck and if you like it great, if not, whatever"

― Euai Kapaui (tracerhand), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:45 (nineteen years ago)

people who are frustrated at not getting any sex can call up a hooker, next question

― Euai Kapaui (tracerhand), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:46 (nineteen years ago)

our christian culture has stigmatized sex so badly that it leads us to ridiculous questions like this post - "is it ok for me to not have sex?!? can i be a normal human?"

Dude, think this through. If we were in any sense living in a Christian culture (not that yourself and myself are neccesarily living in the same culture), the question would be "Is it ok for me to have non-married (bonus Catholic clause: non-reproductive) sex?"

It's probably closer to say that out secular culture has stigmatized not having sex so much that (rest of sentence unchanged).

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:54 (nineteen years ago)

The first time's really just about getting it out of the way. Once you've done that you can start to enjoy it. Just make sure the other person is a decent human being and you are attracted to them enough to want to do it. Otherwise, no harm in hanging on until the circumstances arise.

― Mädchen (Madchen), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:58 (nineteen years ago)

It's probably closer to say that out secular culture has stigmatized not having sex so much that (rest of sentence unchanged).

Indeed, mickey you need to get out more [/obligatory zing]

― onimo (onimo), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 14:59 (nineteen years ago)

Totally and utterly agree with Andrew Farrell.

― Sick Mouthy (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:00 (nineteen years ago)

Just make sure the other person is a decent human being

See I fucked that one up from the outset but still, no regrets...

― onimo (onimo), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:00 (nineteen years ago)

I honestly thought you'd typed "circumcision" there, Mädchen.

― C J (C J), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:00 (nineteen years ago)

i thought it said 'erections'

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:01 (nineteen years ago)

I think Mickey was making a more subtle point, there, though - it's not so much that our culture's secular, it's that our culture's post-Christian, it's in a phase of reaction against (real/perceived) sexual repression, so all we've done is turning previous attitudes to sexuality on their head, we've not reinvented them in a purely 'secular' fashion.

― ampersand, spades, semicolon (cis), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:04 (nineteen years ago)

yeah, and i still think Christianity/Christian values have reasonable influence on things here (but would be biased here).

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:05 (nineteen years ago)

Now stop. Everyone's just being silly!

― Kv_nol (Kv_nol), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:05 (nineteen years ago)

finally...

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:06 (nineteen years ago)

Here? In ILX? ;-) You're right though, I do think that our culture is still wearing that cross. ho ho ho

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:07 (nineteen years ago)

That's it. All of you: Go to your rooms. Blood bitch, when the hand gets dull then look around you. Until then, you can't beast sex with someone you love...

― Kv_nol (Kv_nol), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:08 (nineteen years ago)

freud to thread

― vita susicivus (blueski), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:09 (nineteen years ago)

cis, i was about to write a long response saying exactly what you just said. i was in the shower planning how to phrase it. thanks for beating me to the punch.

― critique de la vie quotidienne (modestmickey), Wednesday, 17 January 2007 15:10 (nineteen years ago)

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