― Konal Doddz (blueski), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:02 (eighteen years ago) link
But the only thing that pisses me off more than the BABYBABYBABY pressure is people trying to extrapolate their personal choices to the entire human race by saying things like "having children is selfish". It's reactionary and doesn't make either side any better.
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― Bernard's Summer Girlfriend (kate), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:04 (eighteen years ago) link
― Real Goths Don't Wear Black (Enrique), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:06 (eighteen years ago) link
But yeah, what others said, men can produce children up to a much later age.Maybe they cannot be a dad, but they can impregnate.
― clodia pulchra (emo by proxy), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:07 (eighteen years ago) link
― Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:08 (eighteen years ago) link
― Bernard's Summer Girlfriend (kate), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:08 (eighteen years ago) link
just because you feel an instinct doesn't mean you have to act on it. on the other hand, there are some instincts/urges that DON'T fit into the so-called biological imperative, like homosexuality. and i don't really care about this imperative (the word gives me the creeps); i figure the world will go on turning even WITH a smattering of childless heathens and homos.
― the man from mars won't eat up bars where the tv's on (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:09 (eighteen years ago) link
― mark grout (mark grout), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:09 (eighteen years ago) link
i'm not suggesting that everybody is selfish, just that too many people are.
― the man from mars won't eat up bars where the tv's on (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:10 (eighteen years ago) link
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:12 (eighteen years ago) link
(I am just touchy because this was not my personal choice. And I am full of cookie.)
― Bernard's Summer Girlfriend (kate), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:14 (eighteen years ago) link
― jz, Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:15 (eighteen years ago) link
― the man from mars won't eat up bars where the tv's on (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:16 (eighteen years ago) link
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:18 (eighteen years ago) link
― PJ Miller (PJ Miller 68), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:18 (eighteen years ago) link
― indolent girl (indolent girl), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:32 (eighteen years ago) link
― Real Goths Don't Wear Black (Enrique), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:34 (eighteen years ago) link
― ailsa (ailsa), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:39 (eighteen years ago) link
― A Van That's Loaded With YSI? (noodle vague), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:40 (eighteen years ago) link
Anyway, the desire to have children isn't selfish, it's a basic imperative. We evolved from creatures that wanted children, so of course we do too.
Those of us who don't want children aren't selfish either. Society will always need childless people to pay for the tax breaks of those of you who have bothered to reproduce...
― Stone Monkey (Stone Monkey), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:43 (eighteen years ago) link
― ailsa (ailsa), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:44 (eighteen years ago) link
Why doesn't it just mean wanting something for yourself? Not that this is necess. a bad thing. But yeah not wanting kids could be seen as selfish too because either way it's a decision you're making to suit your own interests ahead of others (parents hopes/expectations etc.).
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:44 (eighteen years ago) link
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:46 (eighteen years ago) link
― M. White (Miguelito), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:49 (eighteen years ago) link
― Real Goths Don't Wear Black (Enrique), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:49 (eighteen years ago) link
― indolent girl (indolent girl), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:51 (eighteen years ago) link
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:53 (eighteen years ago) link
― M. White (Miguelito), Thursday, 6 April 2006 14:56 (eighteen years ago) link
it's why i said "so-called." i believe in biology (obv) but this notion of "imperatives," well, it's a slippery subject and it gets thrown around in politics a lot by people with dubious science backgrounds. if we're talking about nature taking its course, well that leaves wiggle room for, you know, evolution.
― the man from mars won't eat up bars where the tv's on (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:02 (eighteen years ago) link
O don't, please!!! I've given them up for Lent.
― indolent girl (indolent girl), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:16 (eighteen years ago) link
You have to braise them just so, though.
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:17 (eighteen years ago) link
― indolent girl (indolent girl), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:19 (eighteen years ago) link
― PJ Miller (PJ Miller 68), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:20 (eighteen years ago) link
― Curt1s St3ph3ns, Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:22 (eighteen years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:22 (eighteen years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:23 (eighteen years ago) link
― Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:24 (eighteen years ago) link
― A Van That's Loaded With YSI? (noodle vague), Thursday, 6 April 2006 15:25 (eighteen years ago) link
It seems that people are equating "basic imperative" with "having children". This isn't true. Women with full-grown children don't drop dead after menopause.
Also: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation
Specifically: the first section, which addresses evolution
― NoTimeBeforeTime (Barry Bruner), Thursday, 6 April 2006 16:09 (eighteen years ago) link
― Bernard's Summer Girlfriend (kate), Thursday, 6 April 2006 16:12 (eighteen years ago) link
― NoTimeBeforeTime (Barry Bruner), Friday, 7 April 2006 00:36 (eighteen years ago) link
― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Friday, 7 April 2006 00:38 (eighteen years ago) link
― someone let this mitya out! (mitya), Friday, 7 April 2006 00:57 (eighteen years ago) link
― gem (trisk), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:09 (eighteen years ago) link
― someone let this mitya out! (mitya), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:10 (eighteen years ago) link
― isadora (isadora), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:17 (eighteen years ago) link
― gem (trisk), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:24 (eighteen years ago) link
of course the right person could well change my mind (eg i would have more than gladly had children with my recent ex but nobody else i've ever dated)
― electric sound of jim (and why not) (electricsound), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:35 (eighteen years ago) link
― gem (trisk), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:47 (eighteen years ago) link
I am baffled that there are people who don't understand or believe the concept that some women are actually NOT AT ALL MATERNAL. It is possible you know.
― Trayce is not a guy! (trayce), Friday, 7 April 2006 01:53 (eighteen years ago) link