fuck cancer

apparently that's right :) (a small smile, but one nonetheless) the things that life forces you to learn...

My friend Mike, who I mentioned upthread, has cancer again. Only now it's a non-recurrent form and it's likely terminal.... again.

After he moved to Atlanta, at first, we stayed in touch more often, but over time, I didn't chat with him as much.

We were always more "in person" friends, and I was still stressed out from the nightmare move I conducted for him. He visited a few times, we occasionally hung out, but I was often busy or distant.

He kept returning to FL to keep his doctors, who were supposed to do a few more chemo sessions to get any residuals, and he could resume normal life. Then today happened.

Everybody is stunned by the news today, but he's shellshocked. I was already supposed to see him Friday, as I had msged him to make plans. I feel terrible for being distant in recent months.

But it's fucked how he saw normalcy on the horizon only to have it cruelly yanked away.

Fuck cancer.

damn. sorry for your friend. hopefully they can outrun it with the latest drugs. either way, it sucks.

Sorry to hear that Neanderthal. Cancer is a cursed thing.

Cancer is a cursed thing.

indeed.

for a few years now i have hung out with a lovely lady for the odd pub lunch etc.
she has been brilliant for my well being.
and now, out of the blue (sort of) her older brother has several evil lumps that mean his time is very limited.
to say this is massively triggering me would be an understatement.
i am not close to the brother at all, but seeing him deterioate in the same way BH did throughout her chaos is all a bit too much for me to deal with again.
i feel very guilty, however, i am struggling re the direct connection with such chaos again.
not that i can say anything to anyone.

f*ck getting old.
and f*ck cancer.

Im pretty fuck cancer heading into removal surgery in 2 wks, since my last biopsy was high risk and shitty. If they beat metastasis it’s perty good for a long life, but if not it’s pretty 2-4 yrs in most cases depending where it’s gone to. Looking good so far in the scans tho.

After my last injury and survival, i’m pretty trigger proof really. Fuck cancer tho

Im pretty fuck cancer heading into removal surgery in 2 wks, since my last biopsy was high risk and shitty. If they beat metastasis it’s perty good for a long life, but if not it’s pretty 2-4 yrs in most cases depending where it’s gone to. Looking good so far in the scans tho.

After my last injury and survival, i’m pretty trigger proof really. Fuck cancer tho

Holy shit Hunt3r, fingers crossed for you

Good luck good luck!

Thanks, appreciated. I’ve gotta lot of assumptions in my head, but I’m expecting to live a lot of adaptions inconveniences and limitations. But I’ve already been doing that quite a lot in the past 6 years and I know that being receptive to comment and advice from the people whom you love is the must useful (and accurate) posture.

hope you get some good news soon my friend, this not knowing must be awful

Also crossing fingers for you, Hunt3r.

Yeah, good luck Hunt3r - I hope you get some relief soon.

hunt3er : genuinely hoping for the best of outcomes for you.

Best wishes to Hunt3r.

Initial pathology came back looking good for a cancer free outcome for at least a while— possibly a good long long while. I’ll know much better in a couple months. There’s still a lot of pages to turn. Thx again tho.

great preliminary news and fingers extra crossed for you Hunt3r

congrats and hopes for a clean slate for you

Great news and congrats

thank god - be well hunt3r!

That's great news!

Excellent.

Great news!

Indeed!

really glad to hear it Hunt3r!!

Devastated to find out that a friend of mine passed from pancreatic cancer a couple months ago. I didn't know she was sick, apparently she was diagnosed around the beginning of the pandemic and didn't say anything about it outside of her family - which fits her personality as she was always more interested in what you were doing. Played a small role in bringing me and my wife together, outstanding teacher, made a mean gin-and-tonic.

Fuck cancer. Fuck it fuck it fuck it.

I’m so sorry to hear of your friend’s passing ET, that is an awful thing to learn, on top of a terrible loss. Screw cancer.

Just awful news. Very, very sorry to hear it.

Fuck cancer and ESPECIALLY fuck pancreatic cancer

"small role" wtf am I saying? more like "did you ask her out yet? g'on!"

I'm so sorry to hear that. She must have been an incredible person to navigate both cancer and the pandemic for so long without letting people know how ill she was.

Sorry to hear, ET. Fuck cancer.

Sorry to hear it ET.

best wishes, ET, i'm sorry. fuck cancer.

One of my best friends in the world got diagnosed with stomach cancer yesterday. Not great survival rates, even when it's caught early.

Fucking gutted right now.

That sucks so sorry to hear it. I lost a good friend to leukemia a month ago, he was 38 and had a challenging life but was doing his best to improve himself. Such a tragedy regardless.

(And Elvis the pancreatic kind got my dad a couple of years ago. You have my condolences as well.)

Thanks viborg.

I need to get back into therapy. Don't think I can handle helping a friend through this stuff without being massively triggered.

jesus christ, table, I'm sorry. Hugs.

that sucks, table.

i'm so very sorry table :(

i'm really sorry, table. finding someone to talk to is a very good idea. <3

how awful, table, I'm so sorry.

<3 table

That’s terrible news about your friend, table. sorry to hear it. I hope you find a way to share your support role with another or more, and find the counseling you mentioned.

Ugh. I'm sorry Table.

have to admit: initial thought was "ugh, why do I have to get the BORING cancer?"

truth: boring cancer (breast, a little bit interesting because lobular vs. ductal) means inconvenient as opposed to "damn i could die!

nevertheless, fuck u cancer for fucking up my summer plans, u bitch

ffs quincie sorry to see this, fuck you cancer, give it a proper kicking

sorry quincie, I hope it's gone quickly and easily, fuck cancer

Cancer sucks, hope you get rid in short order. Good luck, quincie xx

ugh sorry to hear quincie, sending you good feeling