― Aimless, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 00:15 (seventeen years ago) link
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― Abbott, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 00:20 (seventeen years ago) link
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― moley, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 00:30 (seventeen years ago) link
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― Trayce, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 00:36 (seventeen years ago) link
― Maria, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 00:46 (seventeen years ago) link
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― get bent, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 00:48 (seventeen years ago) link
― moley, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 00:57 (seventeen years ago) link
― jhøshea, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 01:50 (seventeen years ago) link
― rrrobyn, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 01:53 (seventeen years ago) link
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― Trayce, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 01:59 (seventeen years ago) link
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― max, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 02:32 (seventeen years ago) link
i even flew across the country and hung out with ned!
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 02:38 (seventeen years ago) link
― moley, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 03:10 (seventeen years ago) link
― s1ocki, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 03:46 (seventeen years ago) link
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― moley, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 04:31 (seventeen years ago) link
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― latebloomer, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 05:08 (seventeen years ago) link
Sorry I didn't visit you in LA - for some reason I thought you were a New Yorker.
― Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 05:12 (seventeen years ago) link
― Trayce, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 05:13 (seventeen years ago) link
― kenan, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 05:21 (seventeen years ago) link
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― Abbott, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 05:24 (seventeen years ago) link
― moley, Wednesday, 16 May 2007 05:31 (seventeen years ago) link
i just wanna say, once again, that dave q. is a genius & that his description of extraverts is dead-on.
thank you. :-)
― Eisbaer, Saturday, 2 June 2007 08:43 (sixteen years ago) link
[Self-defense tip though - always pay ludicrously exxaggerated attention to them - for like TWO MINUTES. Keep mental note of EVERYTHING they said, like you're a detective. This gives you enough of their 'material'. Then as they go on, ask them some question referring to what they've said in that inital two minutes, or better yet, expose some discrepancy between THAT statement and current one. Do this repeatedly, and (cf Milgram experiment) ask question repeatedly and more insistently each time, sometimes rephrasing (this can be dragged out indefinitely, as person will usually have no answer whatever). Since the ext. usually a)has no reason to say anything they say, and b)usually can't remember what they've said anyway, they will become vaguely anxious, then completely unhinged as the cognitive dissonance overcomes them, as they're forced to stare into that void within themselves that no amount of self-generated verbal pollution (think of it as aural skunk-spray or other yecchy Discovery Channel shit) will cover up. Remember how Hannibal Lecter disposed of that spunk-throwin' guy in 'Silence of the Lambs'? Like that. (Umm...of course anybody who reads excepted, like if I see you in a pub or something)
hahaha awesome
― latebloomer, Saturday, 2 June 2007 08:49 (sixteen years ago) link
sigh. it seems like every day since i started my new job, i've had someone remark about how "quiet" i am. and it's true in that situation -- i'm there to get my work done and my top priority isn't socializing. but i'm starting to resent people making a thing of it, like they're putting the onus on me to be a fucking social butterfly when i really have nothing much to add to the watercooler conversation. want me to talk? i can talk at length about experimental music, urban policy and infrastructure, design, ambitious cooking projects, literature... but i just don't have very much to say about your kids, your SUV, or your diet. sorry i'm not part of the special breeders' club. i apologize on behalf of my withered old uterus.
― hipsters jump up to get run off (get bent), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 08:01 (thirteen years ago) link
:)
I spend as much time at work avoiding my colleagues as I do actually working.
― Cars and Freedom (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 08:02 (thirteen years ago) link
i think the next time someone says "you're so quiet" i'll respond with "you're so loud!"
― hipsters jump up to get run off (get bent), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 08:09 (thirteen years ago) link
I'm getting better at knowing when to shut the hell up. I doubt I'll ever be very good at it.
― I am Woolen Man. The scarf and I are one. (kenan), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 08:21 (thirteen years ago) link
Man, having spent most of my life working office jobs I can totally sympathize. Working in a record store now seems like paradise because there's literally nothing to talk about but music; even the methed out freaks selling cds they just lifted from a convertible don't get on my nerves. I guess being around spergin' record nerds and terse junkies makes me feel pretty functional.
― Slade Venom Secret Police (GOTT PUNCH II HAWKWINDZ), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 08:54 (thirteen years ago) link
Ha, I will have to remember this.
― tokyo rosemary, Tuesday, 25 January 2011 15:15 (thirteen years ago) link
pretend you don't speak english
― idgi fridays (blueski), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 16:22 (thirteen years ago) link
(hi tokyo rosemary! please be less quiet with your posting; you are missed!)
― hipsters jump up to get run off (get bent), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 19:02 (thirteen years ago) link
I am a person who looks forward eagerly each year to my opportunity to spend from two to three weeks alone in the remotest wilderness I can reach on foot. I have a basically cheerful disposition when I am properly fed and cared for, and I do like people, but I find them ultimately quite tiring to spend a lot of time with.
The main difficulty is that other people keep desiring me to fasten my attention to whatever they are doing or thinking. They seem to think their thoughts and activities are quite fascinating. I suppose they are, up to a point. I just wish they weren't so repetitious, so perverse, so egotistical, so random and so impenetrable.
I find I enjoy more and more the sorts of people who cheerfully mouth a few simple well-worn jokes, make a few commonplace remarks on the weather, and otherwise engage in soothing and soon-finished rituals, then leave me be. Either that, or they'd better have something of substance to say.
― Aimless, Tuesday, 25 January 2011 20:33 (thirteen years ago) link
my sisters and I were talking about this exact thing the other day. my take is that extroverts get made uncomfortable by "quiet" people and so feel compelled to try break their shell or whatever. and they are totally oblivious (prob due to lack of much introspection) to the fact that saying "you're so quiet!" is the exact wrong tact to doing this. last time someone said this to me (a couple weeks ago) I said "ok I'll yell out randomly every couple hours then". "yes please!" was her response.
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 22:40 (thirteen years ago) link
plus they think you're just *dying* to talk and engage with them about their stupid shit but are just too shy
― A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Tuesday, 25 January 2011 22:42 (thirteen years ago) link