Mostly Apolitical Thread for Discussing/Venting our Rational/Irrational COVID-19 Fears and Experiences in 2020

no apology necessary! we're all struggling with this and I should have been more careful about my phrasing too.

I've been doing like 85% pickup and delivery of groceries for the last year. I miss going to the stores i liked to go to and - I still visit some of these but no where near as frequently or for as long as I did before. I absolutely do not miss spending two hours every weekend driving around to multiple places and wandering in huge chain grocery stores and have come to realized that I will happily spend money to have that time to use for literally anything else.

We get around 80% of our groceries delivered, which I would say is definitely more expensive - but I'm not so sure that it actually is. We tip the people really, really well for them being the ones to take on our risk for us, but I would imagine it all ends up in a wash since we are able to stick exclusively to our list and don't end up with tons of impulse purchases that shopping in person usually entails.

I just also truly don't personally understand where he's coming from, since my partner works in an emergency room, I'm immunocompromised, and we've been going grocery shopping ~2/week in-store throughout the entire pandemic. And neither of us have gotten COVID.

Same, more or less. I also know some people who have maintained a level of fear that is in my opinion unwarranted, even if it's understandable how they got to this place. Once I started going to stores it quickly became not a big deal. As long as you live in a place where people are wearing masks, I think it's (mentally) healthy to go into the world occasionally.

I think it's (mentally) healthy to go into the world occasionally.

I think there is a lot of slippage in this thread where the choice is presented as "go the store just as much as you always do" vs "never go into the world" when 95% of all people fall in the category of "going into the world occasionally or more than occasionally but also substantially less than under normal conditions"

otoh Wisconsin seems to be doing well, Gov. Evers just announced they're starting phase 1c on Monday where anyone overweight is eligible. which is like 75% of the state. my mom volunteers at a clinic and she says they're kind of encouraging people to just say they're an essential worker b/c they have a lot of appointments available and people aren't taking them right now. they think they've gotten everyone who fits into phase 1b already. granted idk if this is statewide or just in my little neck o' the woods

In particular, the idea that you're not adding to the public risk burden by going masked to the store makes no sense. You are! Not to zero, not to When I go, I am too! It's cool, there's very little we do in life that doesn't somehow impose burden on other people, you become some kind of weird ascetic if you try to do no harm and you'd fail anyway! But it's good to be aware of the burden one is choosing to impose and to be explicit about the tradeoffs you're choosing to make.

I think the degree of risk is so small as to negligible in that scenario

(frogbs, that's great to hear - can't remember where you're at, but are you in the city or more small town?)

We have a Buffalo Wild Wings but no Dave & Busters.

lol, got it

I think the degree of risk is so small as to negligible in that scenario

I cannot agree. I do it, but I don't think the risk is negligible. Why would it be? Wearing a mask cuts the risk of transmission by, what? This study in the Lancet

https://www.ucdavis.edu/coronavirus/news/your-mask-cuts-own-risk-65-percent

estimates about a 65% cut in risk. From a public health perspective that is HUGE. It's why we made all these rules, which were the right ones to make! But it's nothing like getting your risk cut down to near zero. In my circles, people wear masks when they go indoors always. Some of them still got COVID! If they didn't wear masks, more of them would! That's why masks are good!

But if everyone is wearing a mask, how much does that cut down transmission? Is that 65% assuming exposure to droplets?

I'm sorry about your friends, I haven't heard of anyone getting COVID from indoor scenarios where everyone was wearing masks and distancing. My wife was working closely with COVID-positive patients for months, both wearing masks, and did not get it.

It's pretty wacky. I know lots of stories of people not getting it from or giving it to their family, for example. Or having no idea how they got it, for that matter. I think I told the story of our friend who drove her daughter home from school in Michigan. 4 1/2 hours in the car, both masked, windows cracked, but still a cramped space for hours. Her daughter tested positive the next day, she didn't. And over the course of the next two weeks at home no one else in their family ever tested positive, either.

but there's always the things people choose to tell us and what they don't.

For sure. I also knows lots of people who fall into the category of "we're not going anywhere or doing anywhere, except this trip here and this visit there and this other thing and ... "

(doing anything, not doing anywhere, though that would be pretty reckless, too)

Currently getting vaccine envy esp bc our state is still not receiving enough doses to fulfill weekly requests and our current projection still has us inching through phase 1B tiers 2, 3, and 4 through the end of April, which almost takes us to when frack em in the leg Joe says everyone can get vaccinated, so I just don’t know what’s meant to happen between now and then, if phases 2-4 are going to go out the window, or what

That’d be fine and all but just make the call imo.

I'm somewhat surprised, given everything we've heard in recent weeks, that there are still states claiming a supply problem. That just seems, unlikely? Are there still that many wrinkles in how the feds are getting doses to the states? Seems like that would have ramped up by now. Or, hell, maybe the states are blowing smoke to cover up the fact that they still haven't figured out the distribution issues on their end, so it's easier to just say "sorry, we don't have enough".

Well, huh, I wander away from ilx for a few minutes and see that Illinois just now announced they'll be opening up for everyone 16 and over on April 12th.

Huge news, let's just hope they've got some new distribution plans to go along with it, or its going to turn Hunger Games really fast around here.

State DoH posted this about this week’s shipments

Wondering how much #COVID19 vaccine we get in Washington? Demand is still higher than supply. We are not getting any Johnson & Johnson #COVIDvaccine next week. Keep trying for your appt & help seniors in your life get theirs! More of us get vaccinated every day. pic.twitter.com/7JFEIgASxX

— WA Dept. of Health (@WADeptHealth) March 17, 2021

"I'm somewhat surprised, given everything we've heard in recent weeks, that there are still states claiming a supply problem. That just seems, unlikely?"

but you have been talking about supply/distribution problems and difficulty with access to the vaccine in your city for several weeks now

Just made an appointment for a first shot Saturday afternoon...

but you have been talking about supply/distribution problems and difficulty with access to the vaccine in your city for several weeks now

Right, but I’ve been repeatedly assured in this very thread that supply is not the issue. So I was expressing surprise to see two examples from just today that, turns out, the supply side is also still a challenge. That’s all.

I knew it was mistake to post itt again, though I was really trying to avoid any doomposting. Instead just people waiting to jump on me for any perceived inconsistency. I really don’t understand why certain posters get singled out and targeted more than others.

This thread is, almost entirely by design, a thread for people to essentially vent their spleens with fears, worries, obsessions and anxieties about COVID. For some reason I’m the only one that gets continually called out for it. It’s obnoxious as fuck.

sorry. your comment was just confusing to me. I have been worried about access to the vaccine too, not just the supply but the ethics of the distribution. I want all of my family to be protected, but California is still in the 65+ tier. I hope they move out of that in the next couple of weeks

I keep telling myself that the more vaccines go into arms the more it protects everyone... it sucks to be stuck at home, but as the percentage vaccinated of your country's population goes steadily up, our risk goes steadily down.

I feel like the number of infections will start decreasing more (it's really just held steady/plateaued the last few weeks) when the people doing most of the spreading (younger people) get vaccinated.

death rate/hospitalization for elder people is plummeting to all-time lows, though, which is great

And like that, IL Gov says everyone here 16+ eligible by April ... 12?

make sure he didn't say April 1st

the end of April, which almost takes us to when frack em in the leg Joe says everyone can get vaccinated

This misunderstands what Biden actually said, but tbh what he said was almost designed to be misunderstood. His announcement was that by May the supply of vaccine would be reliable enough and plentiful enough for states to open eligibility for vaccination to their entire adult (over 16) population, without any restrictions. At which point every adult who hadn't already fit into a recognizable category through age, medical condition, or type of employment would join the pool of people who could seek a vaccination.

still bothered by the idea of having to seek a vaccination

keep seeking vaccination, looking learning moving on

so they aren’t going to just give it to me, I have to work for it!

fuck off, I don't even give a shit now

still bothered by the idea of having to seek a vaccination

by this time next year they'll be giving away free vaccine samples at Costco

not going to wait until this time next year to live my life

best of luck

maybe vaccines will be given away through game shows, and you land on a space and you either get a shot of COVID vaccine or drain cleaner depending on which space you land on

xp just stay away from me, seriously

kinda pissed to learn i've been a total sucker, avoiding grocery stores, avoiding shit.. just fuck everything, man.

fuck off

"live your life", congratulations

does killfile remove the poster's name and also all the posts responding to them? also, fuck everything!

"kinda pissed to learn i've been a total sucker, avoiding grocery stores, avoiding shit"

I've been doing that too! I was just responding to Aimless's post about things being better next year. I don't want to wait that long

I don't want to wait that long

you won't have to wait that long, unless I'm mistaken and you live in a country that is near the back of the line for vaccines.

fwiw I had a really good talk with my friend that I bumped this about, the one who didn't want me walking into her house, and it turns out that her precautions predate COVID and are based on her auto-immune issues (which are super weird tbh, and rough). so now we understand each other and I will continue to bring her dinner every Friday.

UK govt just announced that under-50s will have to wait until May. it was going to be April. problems with supply apparently.

We spend a couple of hours outside every day walking/playing with the dog but we don’t go indoors anywhere at all. That’s just been the approach we’ve taken the whole time. Testimony about person x going to the grocery store a few times a week and never getting covid is not very persuasive to me; yeah, it’s not a huge risk if you and others are masked and distanced but it’s not a vanishingly small risk either and with my chronic autoimmune shit I choose not to take it (and I pay others to do so for me, which is kind of weird yes).
The conflation of “doesn’t go shopping” with “does not leave one’s home” is annoying to me and feels pejorative.

shopping is fine, I think. to me eating at restaurants/bars are far less excusable
i DO want to shame others for holiday get-togethers though, but ya know... it wouldn't be nice.