Tea With the Flames: A QUEER New Year to Keep You Warm in WINTER 2020

I did it for basically a decade more or less.

The answer is no.

great

i've been drumming up things i can do with my life moving forward given the sudden realization that i'm a silly grown fey gay man who may not be having sex for a while

i've come up with:
playing the keyboard
wearing more eccentric clothes
walking around my house
watching movies
discovering new ambient music

it's not a terrible list, i dunno

To be fair, playing the keyboard was one of the only things that really got me through the celibacy.

u know what you're practically glowing through the computer screen, i am very happy for your new life!

don't do it, surm, it'd be a deprivation for you and whoever else

then again as someone who usu indulges via... parties... i wonder if coronavirus should change that

hmmm, no

o right u like the parties

that's very sweet of you, what you said, i'm really juggling the options. it feels weird so far, you know it's only been a month. i look kinda disastrous so i probably need to plan like a salon day.

oh shit i’ve only just realised these threads are full queer now. hello fellow queers!

oh snap! i didn't know you were queer! weeheeeeeeee!!!

(by that, i mean i didn’t feel right posting in what were nominally gay threads)

yes we're very queer now
i never liked the word gay tbh, i don't even identify as gay even though i'm a man who likes men!

xp yeah, i went through a whole bisexual coming-out process last year, complete with counselling and therapy groups

that's amazing! so proactive and positive.

oh i completely get that, the label thing can be frustrating when attraction/identity are so much more complicated

<3 are you like seeing people now?

no change to my life at all, i just didn’t want to keep hiding who i am (although it’s properly grand to see a staggeringly hot dude at a carnival and grab my mate and say “just don’t talk to me for the next 20 seconds, just don’t”)

:D :D :D love it

<3

It would be presumptive of me to identify as queer tbh. But luckily this thread welcomes all kinds!

Instead of celibacy, I gorge on Muriel Spark novel.s

Welcome, Autumn! We need to expand the membership.

thank you!

and let's talk about Hawt Guys You Have Seen.

have you done the deed yet?

“done the deed” bahahahaha

fwiw i identify as queer because sometimes it’s easier than having to explain things (including the 1990s)

Lately I've been really enjoying mangling Twitter slang irl. "I enjoy to see it." "I hate to see that." "And that's the that on it, question mark."

i'm back on twitter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You picked quite a time to make your return!

why, has sumthin been happnin

Same thing, just more of it and infinitely worse.

oh no

the cancelled f1 grand prix is in my neighbourhood, lewis hamilton suddenly has three days off, and so do i

godspeed

do any other singles over the age of 40 think you've had sex for the last time?

Because of COVID? I don't think that's gonna be the case at all, I think once the virus starts to go into remission there'll be a massive sex party

I had funtime with a guy who left Seattle two weeks ago!

End times!

not a good time in my life for there to be a sex strike

captain trips has obliterated my queer connections

SPRING already

worst spring ever

How is everybody holding up?

I'm finally out of my depression and getting some work done! Hooray!

Dunno how I'll survive without a man's arms around my cock for the next six months.

Grindr should start an offshoot app called Sheltr that's specifically for gays looking for a quarantine buddy

(I would prob use Sheltr regardless of quarantine, all I want is somebody for whom I can cook breakfast)

not even thinking about sex much

Work is keeping me occupied roughly 80% of my waking hours these days, which is to say I am holding up.

Following a routine has been pretty easier.

I have been waking up at 8/9am, making coffee, blinking and realizing it's 3:30pm. I don't know where my days are going. Ugh!

Omg guys

How are we, do we have a spring thread

I'm a month sex-free!