Tea With the Flames: A QUEER New Year to Keep You Warm in WINTER 2020

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so i haven't been with a guy in like a month. there's something going on with my body and it's really not fun. i'm going to the doctor for like the sixth time today. i keep preemptively accepting the fact that i will never love again. WHO KNOWS . . . . . . . . .

surm, Tuesday, 3 March 2020 19:40 (four years ago) link

thx donnadear

i had a phone pre-interview for a staff job yesterday; the interviewer was a recent college grad. I felt like Mickey Rooney (if he was still breathing).

brooklyn suicide cult (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 3 March 2020 19:52 (four years ago) link

like how recent? i mean was he over 21?

surm, Tuesday, 3 March 2020 20:08 (four years ago) link

she was 23, acc to l1nked 1n

brooklyn suicide cult (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 3 March 2020 20:09 (four years ago) link

baby

surm, Tuesday, 3 March 2020 20:14 (four years ago) link

I don't really read the thread any more but I did need somewhere to share these somewhat surprising photographs of Oliver Sacks when he was in his twenties. Yr welcome!

https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/2f4ca6ebe07900044895e0c3284af5deb55beaa0/0_17_1570_1503/master/1570.jpg?width=700&quality=85&auto=format&fit=max&s=ec400b103095bff7ffc25736fe67a2f9

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/6c/8d/42/6c8d42755c421513e837534872e38df1.jpg

plain breid (jed_), Tuesday, 3 March 2020 21:26 (four years ago) link

omg

surm, Wednesday, 4 March 2020 15:15 (four years ago) link

The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Bike

brooklyn suicide cult (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 4 March 2020 15:49 (four years ago) link

The absolute wrong thread for this but ... wedding planning suits me (literally).

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Wednesday, 4 March 2020 21:06 (four years ago) link

i'm sorely in need of a double income; my planning would end there

brooklyn suicide cult (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 4 March 2020 21:17 (four years ago) link

Lead with that.

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Wednesday, 4 March 2020 21:20 (four years ago) link

dress as Oliver Nut Sack

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 4 March 2020 21:22 (four years ago) link

Eric do we get to see any pictures??!

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 16:44 (four years ago) link

what color is the suit??

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 16:45 (four years ago) link

Haha, it's still a ways away, but I'll share the cutest engagement pic when we've had them taken

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Thursday, 5 March 2020 16:45 (four years ago) link

Oh this asshole: https://www.instagram.com/p/B9W8bGvjTp-/

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Thursday, 5 March 2020 16:52 (four years ago) link

umm that motorcycle pic of oliver sacks... whewwww

marcos, Thursday, 5 March 2020 16:55 (four years ago) link

sorry they are both motorcycle pics i now realize, sorry i was a little distracted. i guess i meant the one with the leather jacket and jeans

marcos, Thursday, 5 March 2020 16:56 (four years ago) link

really i'm into the other one lol
i love guys who look that ripped but also like a little puppy dog

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 17:09 (four years ago) link

so like rly what if i go celibate

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:30 (four years ago) link

could i still lead a happy life

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:31 (four years ago) link

I did it for basically a decade more or less.

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:42 (four years ago) link

The answer is no.

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:42 (four years ago) link

great

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:46 (four years ago) link

i've been drumming up things i can do with my life moving forward given the sudden realization that i'm a silly grown fey gay man who may not be having sex for a while

i've come up with:
playing the keyboard
wearing more eccentric clothes
walking around my house
watching movies
discovering new ambient music

it's not a terrible list, i dunno

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:51 (four years ago) link

To be fair, playing the keyboard was one of the only things that really got me through the celibacy.

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:52 (four years ago) link

u know what you're practically glowing through the computer screen, i am very happy for your new life!

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:53 (four years ago) link

don't do it, surm, it'd be a deprivation for you and whoever else

brooklyn suicide cult (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 5 March 2020 20:59 (four years ago) link

then again as someone who usu indulges via... parties... i wonder if coronavirus should change that

hmmm, no

brooklyn suicide cult (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 5 March 2020 21:01 (four years ago) link

o right u like the parties

that's very sweet of you, what you said, i'm really juggling the options. it feels weird so far, you know it's only been a month. i look kinda disastrous so i probably need to plan like a salon day.

surm, Thursday, 5 March 2020 21:13 (four years ago) link

oh shit i’ve only just realised these threads are full queer now. hello fellow queers!

karmic blowback for dissing pip and jane baker (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:05 (four years ago) link

oh snap! i didn't know you were queer! weeheeeeeeee!!!

surm, Friday, 6 March 2020 21:08 (four years ago) link

(by that, i mean i didn’t feel right posting in what were nominally gay threads)

karmic blowback for dissing pip and jane baker (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:08 (four years ago) link

yes we're very queer now
i never liked the word gay tbh, i don't even identify as gay even though i'm a man who likes men!

surm, Friday, 6 March 2020 21:09 (four years ago) link

xp yeah, i went through a whole bisexual coming-out process last year, complete with counselling and therapy groups

karmic blowback for dissing pip and jane baker (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:10 (four years ago) link

that's amazing! so proactive and positive.

surm, Friday, 6 March 2020 21:11 (four years ago) link

oh i completely get that, the label thing can be frustrating when attraction/identity are so much more complicated

karmic blowback for dissing pip and jane baker (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:11 (four years ago) link

<3 are you like seeing people now?

surm, Friday, 6 March 2020 21:12 (four years ago) link

no change to my life at all, i just didn’t want to keep hiding who i am (although it’s properly grand to see a staggeringly hot dude at a carnival and grab my mate and say “just don’t talk to me for the next 20 seconds, just don’t”)

karmic blowback for dissing pip and jane baker (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:15 (four years ago) link

:D :D :D love it

surm, Friday, 6 March 2020 21:16 (four years ago) link

<3

karmic blowback for dissing pip and jane baker (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:16 (four years ago) link

It would be presumptive of me to identify as queer tbh. But luckily this thread welcomes all kinds!

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:22 (four years ago) link

Instead of celibacy, I gorge on Muriel Spark novel.s

Welcome, Autumn! We need to expand the membership.

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:31 (four years ago) link

thank you!

karmic blowback for dissing pip and jane baker (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:37 (four years ago) link

and let's talk about Hawt Guys You Have Seen.

have you done the deed yet?

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:39 (four years ago) link

“done the deed” bahahahaha

fwiw i identify as queer because sometimes it’s easier than having to explain things (including the 1990s)

karmic blowback for dissing pip and jane baker (Autumn Almanac), Friday, 6 March 2020 21:42 (four years ago) link

Lately I've been really enjoying mangling Twitter slang irl. "I enjoy to see it." "I hate to see that." "And that's the that on it, question mark."

meaner stinks meat bake it cone (flamboyant goon tie included), Sunday, 8 March 2020 21:43 (four years ago) link

i'm back on twitter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

surm, Monday, 9 March 2020 16:08 (four years ago) link

You picked quite a time to make your return!

crusty but malignant (Eric H.), Monday, 9 March 2020 17:14 (four years ago) link

why, has sumthin been happnin

brooklyn suicide cult (Dr Morbius), Monday, 9 March 2020 17:51 (four years ago) link


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