Tea With the Flames: A QUEER New Year to Keep You Warm in WINTER 2020

sounds great, big desert fan here

i'm moving into a (really cute and nice) trailer with my bf next month.

donna where did you guys go?

also: I had a really fucking powerful gummy bear for the Lubitsch film

tsk tsk

if you can't get high on Lubitsch alone...

I'm in Boston, enjoying the skyline somehow?

that sounds nice! the skyline in Boston is indeed mesmerizing. donna your vacation sounds p much perfect.

i can't recall any detail of Bos skyline aside from Citgo sign next to Fenway

has anyone here ever gotten a nose job?

is that like a blow job

you know that's not the first time we've made that joke
lol

i think i routinely think about a nose job every 7 years so, makes sense
blowjobs otoh i think about every 7 minutes

i remember your nose surm, it's A+

<3 awwwwwwwwww
wow you really know how to make the boys weak in the knees huh

map: place we stayed was in yucca valley, we went hiking in the park near 29 palms

I've thought about going on a korean plastic surgery trip with a friend. He makes me watch a lot of plastic surgery videos when I am over. I was very interested in the nose thread lift (non-surgical) videos that we recently watched. I could see doing that instead of like, taking my ear cartilage or rib meat to build up my bridge.

I just described getting fucked up the ass as being “driven to hell”

that's how i describe it, never having experienced it

"date" 3 with the newbie. our 2nd sleepover. i like him.

also i've honestly never looked better in my whole life but the boys aren't biting, none of it adds up. really doesn't make any sense. like, i'd do me.

one seems to be biting, hon

right, true

you're like my fairy godmother this week, thank you

lol, just need a tiara

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KzgaqB2hFio

omg you know i was thinking of that when i typed it, i was OBSESSED with that production lol

IMPOSSIBLE! THINGS ARE HAPPENING EEEEEEEVERYYYYYY DAYYYYYY!!!!

i'd prefer to duet on the Stepsisters Song

um
the stepsisters are among my most hilarious characters in all of film history
my mom and i used to die watching them

i'm having a double header horror feature with a coworker tomorrow night. may be my first straight guy friend in years. !

I've been smoking weed with friends on the reg, that's pretty queer I guess, is it? maybe not. We're all gay while we do it though

New thread name.

i have to tell you though, that I can't smoke weed with people anymore
i mean the level of social anxiety and paranoia is just beyond
but when i'm alone it's really a marvelous thing

I like it alone and with friends. I like taking video! So nice to have video of yourself and your friends blasted out of your minds like a That 70s Show moment

so cute!

i have to tell you that this weekend was a travesty for my self-esteem.
i had one of those moments when i looked in the mirror and promptly picked apart everything about physical appearance. at the very least it inspired me to go to the spa. it's amazing what it takes sometimes to make you go to the spa.
also i had an awkward run-in yesterday. an acquaintance of mine is always on my Grindr grid, and one day months and months ago i sent him a message saying it was good to see him recently and just making light of how we're both on the app so much. totally fine and we laughed it off. then the other night i sent him a message like totally in the middle of the night just being like "go to bed! haha" and he didn't respond! like is that just not ok? a 4am Grindr message between friends? and now i have to see him at parties and stuff. i don't want him thinking i'm THAT GUY!

just for a little bit of perspective, the range of weird human behavior is like the size of the solar system compared to that little detour. i try to tell myself that whenever i wake up at 4 am with my mind racing about how weird, embarrassing and not self-aware i am.

ok so true. thx

I bet he doesn't even remember! Remember that Grindr is not the place to ever expect a reply.

for shizzle, tbh i never do
maybe he didn't even see it until later!

I'm so happy I don't use Grindr (or any app). You tell somebody you're not interested in anything tonight thank you, and then they message you again an hour later "IF YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED THEN WHY ARE YOU STILL ONLINE" and it's like... I hate blocking people.

Somebody did build a profile with my face and info, it got back to me that it existed, very scary

Always seems so crazy to

Help.... I am talking to a guy on there who is way out of my league. Like way. What do I do

Keep talking? Go have sex with him? I swear I think Grindr has changed (for the worse) the way gay men interact w each other, feel about their own bodies and the bodies of others, and conditioned its users to be in a constant state of feeling rejected. (Not projecting, this doesn’t apply to all, just many of my observes Grindr-addict faggo friends)

I got in an argument a few months ago because I proposed to one friend that he remember (when feeling bad about his body) all the great sexual experiences he’d had with people who were by-society’s-metrics “undesirable”— another friend got mad at me for suggesting that one can “shrug off the mantle of body capitalism”, which wasn’t what I was suggesting; the implication that “hot =/= good at sex” was offensive to my second friend

well, it's also this weird sort of animalistic thing. you know like, there's only so much self-esteem you can have before the primal laws of attraction kick in. like you can't circumvent attraction. and there do seem to be some dominant characteristics of desirability when it comes to most sexual orientations.

BUT i think you're right that Grindr is an extremely slippery slope. as evolved persons, and can be very toxic. i like to think that these days most people in our culture at least understand the beauty of being human and the differences between humans. loved the usage of the expression "dad bod" that hit it big a few years ago bc dad bod is p much my aesthetic, without the kids. lol.

oh hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

i have met a couple of new people online and they're cute, i'm excited to meet them this week or so, i need to like go to the gym

one guy is excited to teach me how to top . . . . . . . . . . . .

what online service you use most these days, surm?

I've been away from the gym for, now, months. I am a parody of a partnered gay man.

you know, it's usually grindr for me. i find that bc i'm scruffy the opposites attract thing usually works on grindr. on scruff i'm just just one man in a see of scruffy men.

Last weekend, my bf came home around midnight and said he was hungry
I just plopped together fresh homemade pasta and a tuna-tomato sauce with an arugula salad in 25 minutes
He got emotional and said,
"Remember when you said 'it's weird that you fell in love with me without having tasted my cooking yet' well I get what you mean now"

omg
that's so sweet
my ex used to do that for me, midnight pasta
always amazed me and made my heart sing <3

Following a routine has been pretty easier.

I have been waking up at 8/9am, making coffee, blinking and realizing it's 3:30pm. I don't know where my days are going. Ugh!

Omg guys

How are we, do we have a spring thread

I'm a month sex-free!

sex appreciates it

atm i’m so deprived of humans that every person i see on the street is unusually hot

OMG
Same
It’s gotten to the point where literally at the grocery store today I was checking out guys with face masks on

I have been banned from the streets

self-isolating LGBTs of SPRING 2020